I'm about a month post surgery and even though I'm not really bleeding enough to wear pads everytime I wipe it's still pink/reddish.... Wondering if this is normal just because of timeline I don't think this counts as spotting?

(I have a follow up on the 19th)

This is an uncommon but not impossible situation that I wanted to share, as I wish I had known about this before getting my hysterectomy. Please do not share this information to other sites or email lists without my permission. Feel free to comment or DM if you have any questions. I prefer to use anatomically/medically correct language, meaning I won’t be censoring any terms here.

Background: I had very painful, heavy, irregular periods from age 11. I tried many forms of treatment to manage them, and not only did birth control not help with the symptoms, it didn’t even make them more regular (pill form birth control is supposed to schedule your period, having you take a sugar pill for a week every month to induce menstruation. My period came whenever it felt like it, artificial hormones or no.) I heard the term “endometriosis” once or twice, but this was 20 years ago and endo wasn’t studied as much as it is now. However, untreatable menstrual issues not explained by PCOS or other issues are now considered a potential indicator for endometriosis.

More general info on endometriosis here (this post is about my own experience, not a full explanation of the condition) https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/endometriosis

It was also accepted knowledge at the time (mid-2000s) that only estrogen-based birth control would help with menstrual issues. Doctors believed that any form of birth control that was copper- or solely progesterone-based would make period symptoms worse, so that combined with dysphoria and the fact I was a minor is why I never tried an IUD or progesterone-based birth control. It seems like everyone on r/ftm is on the depo shot now, but back when I still had a uterus, that was assumed to make symptoms worse.

It now seems that the accepted knowledge has shifted–progesterone-based birth control is encouraged for endometriosis since estrogen makes the tissue grow larger. (Many forms of bc have both P and E, but there are forms that are P-only.) More info here: https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/mirena-endometriosis

When I started testosterone at age 18, the bleeding mostly stopped, but came back lightly every few months. I had pain that resembled menstrual cramps at least every few weeks from when I started testosterone onwards. Lupron (hormone blocker) helped, but my insurance wouldn’t cover it long-term even when I was taking testosterone. Looking back, the Lupron helping and estrogen not helping might have indicated this was endometriosis and/or best treated with a non-estrogen-based form of treatment, but this was a long time ago, and hindsight is 20/20.

At age 19/20, my GP assumed that the pain was due to the uterus atrophying despite me not having any vaginal atrophy. (Such a combination is possible, but given my menstrual symptoms, it would have been unusual for them to only think of atrophy and not to think of endometriosis if this happened today.) My GP/health clinic also didn’t focus much on my reproductive health generally, never once bringing up pregnancy prevention (T alone is not birth control) and refusing me PreP the multiple times I asked despite me being sexually active with men.

Sidebar: I’m of two minds about the care I received because while it neglected my health in hindsight, it was very gender-affirming. Maybe it’s a low bar, but my name and pronouns were respected at all times even if the doctors knew comparatively little about trans healthcare.

It was advised that I have a hysterectomy due to the bleeding and pain, and I was 100% in favor of this as I never wanted to carry a pregnancy. However, my insurance at the time required this surgery be “gender affirming” rather than for treating pain, so there’s comparatively little in my medical record about the real reason I had this surgery (pain and bleeding). I had a hysterectomy which removed the uterus, cervix, and fallopian tubes (“bilateral hysterectomy and saplingectomy.”) My surgeon briefly mentioned that I thought I might have endometriosis, but she was sure that removing the uterus and staying on HRT would deal with that. Recovery was ok, some bleeding from the vaginal cuff during healing. I also had recurrent UTIs for a year or two post-op despite not being sexually active for long periods–the jury seems to be out as to whether endometriosis can cause UTIs, but according to many articles online, I am far from the only person to deal with both.

I started having some digestive issues about 4 years after the hysterectomy. I assumed this was genetic as several family members have digestive issues. I changed my diet and started taking stool softeners, fiber, anything I could get over the counter. No real fix, though. Doctors determined I didn’t have Crohn’s or Celiac and assumed it was IBS. 7 years post-hysterectomy the pain became so bad I could not walk and could only ingest liquids. I was taking huge doses of laxatives, but nothing helped. I waited longer than I should have to get care (seriously guys, advocate for yourselves.) New GP thought it was diverticulitis (inflamed large intestine) based on my symptoms and sent me for a CT scan.

I got a series of CT scans revealing a mass attached to my bowel and an ovary. Unclear if it was a cyst or something else. It didn’t get reabsorbed like a normal cyst might be, so it was determined to be “something else.” This scared me quite a bit as you can imagine. My ovaries also weren’t small and shrunken like other healthcare providers had assumed they would be with no uterus and a consistent normal male range of testosterone.

Finally I saw a gynecologist for the first time since my hysterectomy. (No cervix = no need for pap smears.) She sent me for an ultrasound to confirm the findings. I didn’t need a transvaginal ultrasound because of how my organs moved around post-hysto, but YMMV. I was so worried about my health that I would have gotten one if I’d needed to, though.

If you are in my situation and you are able, I highly recommend seeing a gynecologist who has experience with endometriosis, even if they’re not known for seeing trans patients. If you’ve had issues for 10+ years, the education re:endometriosis is a lot better now than it was in 2004 or 2014. Anyway, this doc was sure it was endometriosis, and gave me the following information:

• Many people live with endometriosis and consider it manageable without surgery. (While BC didn’t help me, it has helped many with this condition.)

• What I had was an endometrioma (endometriosis cyst, not a typical ovarian cyst) and likely endometrial tissue elsewhere in my abdomen (info on endometriomas here: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22004-ovarian-endometrioma)

• Endometriosis can grow anywhere in the abdomen

• Endometriosis requires estrogen to grow, so even leaving one ovary in as an “insurance policy” against loss of HRT leaves the possibility of it returning (about 50%)

• Endometrial tissue can be microscopic (so the first surgeon not seeing anything didn’t mean it wasn’t there)

• Endometriosis can generate its own estrogen if it grows big enough, so even if I chose to remove both ovaries, any visible endometrial tissue should also be removed. (Thus severe endometriosis can persist past menopause, with the endometrial tissue generating its own estrogen.)

• My endometriosis was making it almost impossible to eat or walk, so this surgeon recommended surgery, see below:

This surgeon told me I had the following options if I wanted relief from my symptoms:

• Ablation (partial removal of endometrial tissue, heat-based rather than surgical) would not be enough for endometriosis as severe as mine, and it often requires re-doing. More info on the differences here: https://maidenlanemedical.com/endometriosis/excision-vs-ablation/

• Surgery (excision) to remove the endometrial tissue, leaving in both ovaries (what young cis woman with my level of endo usually opt for.) 50% chance of the endometriosis coming back, but still should help with my symptoms.

• Surgery to remove the endometrial tissue and the ovary it was attached to, leaving the other ovary in. Still a 50% likelihood of the endometriosis coming back to some degree.

• Surgery to remove the endometrial tissue and both ovaries (would need to stay on HRT forever, which I planned on doing). With my level of endometriosis, my surgeon said she would also have recommended a cis woman who was approaching/over 40 get this option due to the severity of the endometriosis and approaching menopause.

This surgeon was very cautious about option 4 lest I lose access to hormones as I’m not yet pushing 40. If I went without hormones (T or E) I would develop severe osteoporosis. Not immediately (so missing 1 week wouldn’t matter) but absolutely important to maintain hormones in my system.

I thought about it for a long time because my financial situation isn’t great and TERFs have gotten into all our heads about “what about the bone density” and doomers convince us that the fall of civilization is imminent. Both groups forget that cis women can and do have hysterectomies and oophorectomies. If I left even one ovary in, there would have been a 50% chance that the endometriosis comes back, and with my history it could get really bad. I decided to get both ovaries out along with all the endometrial tissue. I’m going to keep taking testosterone permanently anyway. I also had to confirm in writing that I would take oral estrogen if testosterone became unavailable. I don’t think that’s likely, but I’m including this in case any of you are told this.

I had the opposite issue with my new insurance–they require a pile of paperwork for anything “gender affirming” (yes, I know I’m lucky to have it at all) but quickly approved the procedure for pain and endometriosis. Context that I’m legally male but live in a liberal state and have good insurance through my employer.

Since the vaginal cuff had already been sewn shut during the hysterectomy, the surgeons had to go in through my abdomen. It was still a laparoscopic surgery with 3 incisions (belly button and 2 on the lower abdomen) but one of the lower abdomen incisions was deeper and wider because that’s where they took the ovaries/endometriosis out, rather than via the vagina. That incision took a while longer to heal, but it’s fine now over a year later. I had my first hysterectomy done in college and healed over the summer and worked remotely while healing from my oophorectomy, so no advice re: leaves of absence except that I probably should have taken one.

My oophorectomy surgery recovery was slightly easier than my hysto recovery (about 3 weeks of limited movement/pain management as opposed to 4-6 weeks) but neither was easy. I see people on here saying “I’ll just get an oophorectomy later” and I want to be clear it’s still painful and limits your mobility during recovery. You’ll also heal better at age 25 than at age 45. Additionally, there’s not a lot of ways to screen for ovarian cancer–there’s no equivalent of a pap smear like there is for cervical cancer. If you have a family history of ovarian cancer, keep that in mind (your surgeon should ask you about this, but not all do.)

After surgery, my surgeon described my endometriosis as Stage IV because of the endometrioma and endometrial tissue spread throughout my abdomen. This tissue was throttling my intestines, goodness knows what would have happened if I hadn’t gotten this treated. Could have turned malignant, or could have given me a complete intestinal blockage.

Even with the election results (I live in the USA), I’m glad with the decision I made. Right-wingers like restricting reproductive care just as much as they like restricting transition-related care, and it’s easier to DIY HRT than it is to DIY an oophorectomy. I also really don’t want more surgeries than I need. I got a dexascan of my pelvis shortly after the surgery to establish a baseline bone density and I’ll keep getting scans every 2-5 years (around $250, not cheap but not CT-scan level expensive either.) My T levels are fine, my E levels are a bit lower than pre-oophorectomy but still healthy (thanks, bones), and I didn’t even need to adjust my dose.

A note on bones and estrogen: It’s important to remember that your bones metabolise hormones even if you don’t have ovaries. That’s how cis men keep bone-density-appropriate levels of estrogen in their bodies–their bones convert some of their naturally-occurring testosterone into estrogen.

Getting rid of your ovaries is also not an insurance policy: Your health system does not care if you get osteoporosis. The healthcare industry does not care if you die of a preventable disease, period. People die because they can’t get insulin or basic necessities every day. I say this because sometimes trans people say “if I get my gonads removed, someone will have to prescribe me hormones because I need hormones to protect my bones!” and that’s absolutely not true. If there’s a shortage or you can’t get an appointment in time or you forget to get your labs done, osteoporosis is not some trump card that will get you your medication. The system does not care. I’ve experienced shortages before, and the only solution is to go to a compounding pharmacy, stockpile in advance, or DIY, and I live in a liberal state. It sucks, but there it is.

I don’t recommend this route for everyone, especially if you have no or mild symptoms or don’t want to take testosterone long-term. Plenty of people live just fine with non-treated or minimally-treated endometriosis, and most people don’t have endometriosis at all. The vast majority of cases don’t get as bad as mine did. But if you think you have endometriosis, it’s worth seeing a doctor who has a background in that area and assessing your options if it’s impacting your quality of life. I know there are long waiting lists, but get on one or several if you can.

Keeping one or both ovaries is marketed as an “insurance policy” for FTMs, but it doesn’t always work that way. Bodies are complex, and medicine is constantly evolving. What happened to me is very unlikely to happen to you, but it’s also not impossible, which is what I was initially told. Knowledge is power.

Feel free to ask questions. Again, please don't share beyond the sub without asking. Thanks!

I am 13 days post hysterectomy. I had fibroids on my uterus. possibly endo haven'tbeen able to get an answer on that. Uterus, cervix and overine tube's taken out via lapriscopic.

Surgery went ok had 2 nights in hospital. After alot of invalidating of my pain from my gyno afterwards.On Friday my pain had been bad even with pain medication. So they have sent me to the gyno unit (called the womens unit, which I was frustrated at the name) at the hospital to get checked out, and I have an internal infection which is not good and am on antibiotics.

Constipation has been a real issue for me, even being on two laxatives and drinking kiwifruit drink. They changed me to another laxative which seems better. I am on lithium which I have to keep mentioning because it interacts with many pain killers. Talked to my doctors clinic because I am worried about interaction with lithium and my antibiotics. They can't tell me till tomorrow when their pharmacist will ring me.

Also I am on study break but need to receive financial help because I can't work at the moment, social welfare wouldn't accept my medical certificate from my surgeon and wants one from my GP. So another appointment on Friday for that.

I am losing my appetite and having to push myself to eat. Not sleeping well. Anxious. I have friends offering help but I don't know what to ask for and struggle asking for help. I need laundry done, vacuuming would be nice, and a general tidy up in my room. I do need more groceries, and maybe someone to eat with? I feel low, a burden, failing at recovery, tired of pushing n advocating for myself. Thoughts? Suggestions? Thank you for reading. (Picture of Molly the kitty to add some lightness to the post)

I just hit 3 weeks post op and am experiencing painful raw skin around the bottom opening of my vagina. I think the moisture from spotting is really irritating the skin there, and wearing a pad is contributing. Any advice to relieve the irritation?

I don’t have any signs of an infection and recovery has been smooth so far besides this.

Just wondering if anyone has dealt with phantom cramps or ovarian pain post-hysto?
(I removed everything but my ovaries back in march)

I only just learned about something called Ovarian Remnant Syndrome/Risidual Ovarain Syndrome and didn't know this was a thing pre-hysto. But it seems that this is usually when they are removed.

I don't know if this is what I'm having or if it's even muscular, but I'm having pain in my lower abdomen. Not a stabbing pain, but just an ache. Sometimes it wraps around my back. So I don't know what's going on.
It's really mild, but it's all across my lower stomach,, below belly button, like, pelvic area, and not just located on one side (which makes me think it's not ovary)

I don't know if it's phantom cramps, ovaries, scar tissue...
But I've had this little ache and pressure for 4 days now.

I may contact a doctor soon. I don't know if I should contact the surgeon or my primary care.

I’m so stressed out. I originally just wanted everything taken out. My appointment is this Friday and I’ll be talking to the doctor about my options for hysto…. But now I’m like should I keep an ovary? Other than the “back up / just in case”, then what is the point I guess. I’m just stressed haha

Please see edit below.

Exactly the title. I’m strongly leaning towards keeping my cervix—my current plan is to request a supracervical hysterectomy with bilateral oophorectomy and endometriosis excision (already got a salpingectomy during my last excision), but I want to understand more about cancer risk. I am specifically asking if supracervical procedures increase the risk of cancer vs patients who do not get a hysterectomy at all.

I don’t mind Pap smears that much, and my existing risk factors for cervical cancer are very low. I only have any history of cancer on one side of my family (and they all got mesothelioma due to my grandfather’s work with asbestos, so I don’t think that’s particularly heritable anyway).

Does the removal of the cervix from the rest of the uterus increase the likelihood of cervical cancer? I don’t really understand why, in an era where most people under 35 have received Gardasil, everyone is so intense about “why keep the cervix; it just breeds cancer”.

Edited to add: my primary reason for wanting to keep my cervix is due to faster recovery time and reduced risk of short-term postoperative complications/pain. Below are links to peer-reviewed studies showing reduced incidence of complications during recovery from laparascopic supracervical hysterectomy (LSH) vs total laparascopic hysterectomy (TLH). There are other studies suggesting that there is no difference in short-term postoperative complications between the two procedures, however there are no studies showing reduced risk of postoperative complications from TLH vs LSH. Given that I have a full-time job involving physical labor and limited paid leave, I am more interested in reducing my risk of post-op issues that would extend my healing time/time to return to work than eliminating a 0.006% chance of cervical cancer, assuming the procedure doesn’t increase cancer risk.

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00404-014-3420-4

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0002937804007197

https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jmig.2005.01.019

https://scholar.google.com/scholar?start=10&q=supracervical+hysterectomy+recovery&hl=en&as_sdt=0,47#d=gs_qabs&t=1733286585403&u=%23p%3Dccn4cAuMnFQJ

So I have my hysto scheduled for 12/12 … how long after your hysto could/did you orgasm? I don’t do anything internal, so strictly external stimulation …

I got surgery (full hysto minus one ovary) I’m early June and have hooked up with a few guys since- one in late August, one in October, and one a couple nights ago. This last guy was a lot…bigger…than the other two, if you get what I’m saying

It didn’t hurt during the act but I’ve noticed some soreness ever since- especially when I’m peeing. The sensation feels very similar to the soreness I was feeling during initial recovery which makes me worried that it’s my cuff

Should I be worried about cuff damage here? Or is 6 months enough time that it doesn’t matter?

my surgery is currently scheduled for the 16th. i am keeping my ovaries, and getting it done outpatient. I wanted to know when I could expect to be able to comfortably drive the 3 or so hours from my parents house back to my apartment. how soon were y’all able to drive?

thank you so much!

I just needed to vent somewhere, especially where maybe others will understand. I just had my consulation/evaluations 2 weeks ago. Without getting into detail, it was a lot for me to go through mentally and physically with the evaluation aspect. Tell me why I get a call today that I have to DO IT AGAIN. They said the results were unsatisfactory. Like bro….im so over this.

I plan on having a total hysto due to endometriosis (unsure about keeping cervix but that’s a different issue). I was recently sent a study on decrease in sexual function in post-hysto cis women, although after reading this study I’m no longer worried. However, I looked for a similar study on this for us FTM boys and couldn’t find one. Does anyone know what sexual function is like for a trans man after total hysto (both ovaries removed)? My main concerns are any increase in atrophy or decrease in libido and ability to reach orgasm.

I hope this makes sense, sorry if it’s confusing - my thoughts are all over the place today!

I had a complete hysterectomy in mid September. Everything is great now but these dang hot flashes are ruining my sleep! Also very annoying during the day. I would say I get anywhere between 10-30 of them a day. It feels like every 20 minutes or so I'm having to strip and then I start to get cold with chills as it eases up. (I'm typically a cold running person. Always under a blanket at home) The cold feeling always starts before the hot flash is fully over. So I'll want to put the blanket back on but I'm still radiating heat! I'm going to see my Endo in January so hopefully there is something that can be done to help. Anyone else have this struggle? How did you manage it?

Having my hysto in a week! This has probably been asked a lot already but what are some items and OTC medications that are a must for surgery recovery? Trying to stock up so I have everything I need to made recovery a breeze

Hey, so in a couple weeks I’m having a hysterectomy and upper vaginectomy. (My hysterectomy surgeon works with my phallo surgeon and he said and upper vaginectomy is fine and will actually save time during stage one.) Anyways, I was wondering if anyone had this done and what was the healing like? Was there any bleeding post op? If so how long did it last? I feel like there shouldn’t be bleeding if they are closing the upper part and taking everything out right?!? I honestly don’t know much about this surgery because it makes me dysphoric, but I have my pre op this coming week so I’m sure I’ll get more details and can ask questions then if no one knows. Thanks in advance.

Has anyone had positive experiences with a surgeon in my area? I’m willing to travel to surrounding states for particularly great surgeons if they’re out there. Thank you for any suggestions!

Hey y’all! My laparoscopic hysto is scheduled for 12/5. I’m getting everything taken out but the ovaries. The issue is that my partner and I have been planning to elope on 12/12. Should I be okay to wear something besides sweatpants and stand for ~15 minutes to take some pictures? For reference, I’m in my early 20s and quite healthy.

I haven't been able to find many posts on here about trans folks who have had a vaginal (and not lapro assisted) hysto. If you had one, how was your recovery experience? If you had any atrophy (and a traditional vaginal hysto OR lapro assisted hysto), how did that impact recovery?

My surgeon typically recommends a vaginal hysterectomy over a laproscopic because the recovery is supposed to be easier. I'm going in for an exam in 2 weeks to see which procedure I'm a better candidate for and to discuss it further with my surgeon, but theoretically I'd like to go with the easier recovery.

I am 5dpo and today is shot day. About two months before surgery I switched to doing subq in my thighs instead of my stomach, because I can't imagine doing an abdominal subq injection right now and probably not allowed to. I'm just now "turning the corner" on being able to walk around, bend my body carefully etc. And I was afraid I wouldn't be here given how the past few days have felt.

Happy to say that I was able to do my shot without any help, which I was worried about. I started with subq because I have shot anxiety, and honestly moving to my thighs helps, so I'm glad to have the extra push from surgery. It feels even more "right" and less scary now that I know my uterus/tubes/cervix/ovary and endometriosis are all gone 💪🏻idk if other folks have post op shot anxiety but I hope this helps a bit.

10 days post-op, off pain meds since day 5, everything is so good that it makes me suspicious ahah. Bowel movements are really fine, the first few days it was making me slightly spotting but since around day 4 I have zero blood. Incisions are super nice for now, had the steristrips taken off today as it was irritating my skin too much. The itchiness has been driving me crazy for the past few days, only ice packing is improving it. Since having them off the itching is a bit less intense. I began to apply medihoney on the incision today after the steristrips were removed, it’s the first time trying it. I feel like I am back to normal for almost everything, I can move around, drive, walk, sit, … as much as before surgery. On another note, I have been suffering from AOB since a little bit more than 12 years, and due to medications I had to push to pee. Since surgery, I don’t have to do it anymore, it feels like my pelvic floor is way less tense and more « normal ». I can’t say for now if it improved my other symptoms because I haven’t changed yet my medication dosage, but the overall feeling is better and « softer » ? I waited day 7 post-op to go back to masturbation (no penetration), and the orgasm sensation was incredible. Before I had severe cramps when orgasming, now there is an emptiness plenitude in my body, it’s the only moment where I can truly feel my uterus is gone. It’s like everything in my body is quiet and calm, with only a little bit of ovarian pain remaining (kept them both).

Well I'm 12 days post op and have had a mild cough ever since but the past 24 hours it's been worse and now I think I'm in more pain than day 1-2. My abdomen hurts like hell, I've been using cough drops and wearing my abdominal binder but im so worried all my coughing is going to tear my cuff. My lower abdomen where my uterus used to be now feels like a constant terrible cramp but I've not had any usual bleeding or swelling, in fact my swelling is really minimal for less than 2 weeks post op. Did anyone else deal with this or have any suggestions?

I had my surgery on Sept 9th and things have been slightly up and down but overall well.

Saturday, Nov 23 I decided that I felt comfortable having penetration. Well as soon as that was done there was a lot of blood but figured it was because it had been so long. I continued to keep feeling these gushes and realized oh fuck. I’m like bleeding out.

Rushed myself to the er, trying not to pass out on the way. I get into the ER and tell them right away I am losing a lot of blood and need to be seen NOW.

Got me to a room, had me sit on the bed, asked me a question and I leaned forward in panic and I guess they saw the blood stained sheets underneath and all the team went into hyper mode.

Anyways, come to find out I had one spot that had not healed completely. It was a superficial tear. They tried everything to get the bleeding to stop without having to go to surgery.

So…just a heads up. Even be careful after that “6-8 week” mark.

hii sorry for asking so many questions but i'm sooo confused about recovery time lol. i'm a college student who lives by myself and i'll likely be staying with my boyfriend after surgery so he can help me, but I was wondering like how long you guys think I would need that much help? after top surgery i stayed w him for like a week but i feel like that was a lot more mobility restricting idk. also, how long would you say i should let my professors know that I'm going to be missing class or attending classes online? i do have to like walk to class and carry my backpack and such.

thank you!!

So i want to start this out by saying im 16 now and if my post is not allowed here just let me know and I’ll remove it I don’t want to get anyone in trouble

Idk if its relevant but I live in South Africa and over here no medical aid or insurance company’s will cover any part of medical transition and people who rely on public health services for any type of transition related surgery can wait about 5-25 YEARS for this so my only option is to go private.

So when i turn 18 like the second I turn 18 i need to get bottom surgery and to reach my goals i need to get a hysterectomy. Long story short I don’t have a lot of money and im trying to save up but im probably gonna need to take out a loan to pay for all this.

The thing is I’ve tried to look for surgeons in my country (even on r/childfree ) who will give me a hysterectomy but surgeons over here tend to be very conservative and having children is a big part of the culture here, I’ve also only found one surgeon who has experience with trans people and some people speak negatively of his post op results for bottom surgery so idk if I should go with him

Another thing is I don’t want a pre op exam, it would cause me too much mental distress and would be detrimental to my overall wellbeing, which lowers my options even more 🥲 and I know you can ask for anaesthesia but that’s really expensive and my medical aid won’t pay for it so I have to take out a loan but I also need a loan for bottom surgery and I don’t want to be in debt for the rest of my life

TLDR: Since I have to take out a loan for hysto+bottom surgery I need someone who takes international patients or is in South Africa, will do it cheap and without a pre op exam but I don’t know where to find someone like that and I would really appreciate it if someone could point me in the right direction, like is there a list of people like this or something??? Or did you have similar needs and find someone? If you don’t want to share in public then you can DM me, any help is appreciated I’m feeling very overwhelmed rn

Edit: thank you guys so much for the replies, I really appreciate it I’ve already managed to narrow down my search a lot :D

I'm getting ready for my hysterectomy on 12/18. I'm excited! But I'm scared about having to deal with the blood. Bleeding from thw Chasm has always been pretty distressing to me. How much bleeding should I expect while recovering? And do you have any advice for getting through it?

Kinda need to vent.

Yesterday I had my hysterectomy partly due to transition, partly due to cervical cancer risk. I have had 0 zero issue with every medical professional using my preferred name at various appointments for the last few years. But for some reason everywhere I went yesterday they kept using my dead name and I constantly corrected them. Two women in the hospital business center had a conversation about how “pretty” my dead name was and relatives they know with it while preparing my paperwork. In labs they insisted I had to use my legal name verbally to identify myself and refused to acknowledge a preferred name (which I know from my social worker that is helping me with transitioning that this is not true). Even my mom made comments asking why they’re doing that. Check in wasn’t better. The first nurse again used my dead name even after I corrected her. The second nurse that came in to help me with prep finally listened to me, looked at my chart, said my chart confirms my preferred name and she’s sorry if it caused any stress. She updated my white board to my preferred name. I thanked her with a big sigh of relief. Every other doctor and nurse it was no issue from there on. No more corrections needed to be made as they all got name and pronouns right the first time.

I understand needing what the system shows as my legal name on official documents, but to refuse my preferred name in conversation for a large chunk of the morning felt really disheartening and exhausting to keep correcting. I was stressed enough as it is about having surgery.

Hi, I know there's a master list of surgeons, but I figured this would be quicker. I'm a binary trans dude and need hysto, badly. I also under NO circumstances can have a physical exam or a vaginal/vaginally assisted hysterectomy. The problem is, that my family has a history of gynecological issues, and I have really bad bleeding. I would completely consent to the risks involved if there is a surgeon willing to help. I can't live like this anymore. Therapy doesn't help and getting periods despite being 6 months on t + having monthly depo-shots. I've been suffering for too long and I can't do this. There are trauma and medical reasons why I can't have anything touch me vaginally, that I do not wish to expand upon.

If all else fails, I'll contact a bunch of the surgeons on the master list to ask questions myself.

Thanks y'all

I have the opportunity to get a top revision and hysto scheduled 9 days apart- is this a realistic amount of time in between these two surgeries? My other option is to do the revision in late Dec. and hysto in Feb. I would prefer to get it over with but 9 days apart sounds intense. Has anyone else had a similar experience?