That is all I wanted to do the other night. Sometimes complaining makes me feel good.

Fiance and I talked and he's willing to get a new ring. I told him, "nah, don't worry about it. Honestly, I hate jewelry and the more affordable metal option (silver), I'm not sure would look good on me." I do like the black, and the design isn't bad, but I like more plain.

I picked out the wedding band and he's going to get it the next time he gets paid. It's a black ring with zirconia diamonds.

I picked out his wedding band and I showed him, to see if he liked it. I had a few options and he loved the one I first sent him. In December I'll order his band.

I told him, "I know you wanted to surprise me, but you really should have sent me a few of the rings you were thinking about. I have to wear this ring the rest of my life, as do you, we should be picking things out together."

Since I work with my hands a lot, I am going to order a Qalo silicone ring. He understands that totally and just wants me to be happy.

Down for a coffee/walk to chat planning?

What’s everyone thinking?

i need some input and please no judgment. so me and my boyfriend are getting to the point of the next step and we’ve talked about having a wedding before. i stated that i didn’t really care to have one. i just would much rather elope or run down to the courthouse and then start our lives together. i don’t feel a desire for a ceremony. he says that he wants a wedding because he wants his mom to see him get married. the ONLY reason i’d even consider a wedding is because i know my mom/family would really want to see me get married as i am the only girl of 4 boys - and because i know he wants one. we talked about this years ago and i know we both feel the same as we did then. i kinda was just hoping he’d end up deciding on not having one (selfish, i know). i just want us to both have what we want, except we can’t. even if i did, i’d want it extremely small. siblings and parents, and only close, close friends (only 3 for me). no extended family. but idk how he’d feel about that. i think he’d want much more family on his side but i just can’t do that. that’s too many people. and too many that i haven’t met yet (we’ve been long distance for going on 5 years). idk. there’s just no way for us to both have what we want. a wedding just seems like something so silly to think about when the rest of our lives is what’s important. when a union, partnership, commitment, a marriage is what’s really important. (not wedding shaming! most people do want one and i think they are so beautiful. i just don’t want one personally. it isn’t important for me) have any of you dealt with this? did any of you guys have small, non traditional weddings? idk i think i’m overthinking this

I got engaged two months ago and we are currently planning the wedding for fall 2025. After he proposed I told my family and best friend, he posted in his WhatsApp Status but I wanted to wait until the ring was adjusted to my size and tell my friends in person. After the proposal we were quite busy and also traveling. I got my ring back two weeks ago and it fits now. So I wear it all the time except when I sleep, shower, workout or clean. As I didn't post it for all to see, some people don't now but my ring is quite obvious. Now I don't know how to navigate this. For example on Sunday I will be at a friends' birthday lunch. I only see her once or twice year because she has a toddler but I know she will be excited when she knows about the engagement because she knows me and my fiancé since college. I know it's not ok to take away someones birthday but not telling her also seems wrong. Last week I was at theater practice and wanted to tell everyone (we are quite close as a group) but another member announced her pregnancy and I had to hide my ring the whole evening so nobody would notice. Attached a picture from my engagement ring (I know my hands are dry).

Getting married soon and keep getting this anxious feeling that I will some how mess it up. Every time I think about the relationship I always tell my self "God, please don't mess this up." Is this normal? Has anyone else experienced this feeling or thoughts?

Hi all,

Like the title says I will be getting engaged in the next few months. Is there anything you wish you had done or not done before getting proposed to? Anything you’re happy you did? I’d love to hear it all. I’m very excited and nervous so I’m hoping to prepare as much as possible. Love to see outfit photos too!

i’m not engaged, but my bf and i (both 22) just went on a trip and he told me he was planning on proposing to me on the trip, but decided not to bc he wanted to be in a better mental space. i wasn’t mad at all and told him that i fully understand.

obviously if he would have proposed id have said yes. but honestly it made me panic after we talked and i realized that maybe im not as ready for that next step as i thought i was.

basically, i just want advice on what things we should talk about/be on the same page about before we get engaged. obvi we’ve talked about kids, finances, and work. but i still feel like somethings missing and im not ready.

(also we’ve been together 1yr and a half)

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE this ring, but how do you talk about the actual engagement ring without sounding ungrateful? My fiancé told me the jeweler couldn’t get it done by the time he planned to propose, so he bought this one as a “temporary” engagement ring. Thinking about waiting to tell people until it comes in, but that also feels weird/ungrateful? We’ve been together over 8 years so it’s fine with both of us to wait a little longer, but we work at the same place, so people will definitely be asking about it should anyone find out.

Hi all. My boyfriend proposed to me Sunday just gone. Elated of course. But now I’m feeling really anxious. Like panicky anxious. I’m of course so so happy he proposed and I love him with all my heart.

Is this normal to feel this anxious and panicky? I keep feeling sad that my surname is not mine for much longer. I feel sad that I won’t share my name with my family any more.

People are asking when the wedding will be and I’m just drawing up a blank. He’s very excited and said he doesn’t wanna wait ages. I’m slight neurospicy and hate change. I had a plan but now that plan is gone and I don’t know how to feel.

Obviously I’m so so so so happy he has finally asked me and he wants me to be his wife and I want to be his husband. But I can’t stop feeling anxious. Did anyone else feel this way and how do I stop it?

I just want to know if it’s okay to feel sad?

My (M35) partner (now fiancé) and I (F33) have been together for almost 8 years.

Our engagement was planned, we bought a ring together and he proposed on a family trip in September. My family and his family both knew we were getting engaged on this trip.

Our engagement was so special. There was an element of surprise, I didn’t know when he was going to do it. We were on a gondola in Rome and both my sisters were with us to take photos and a video. I’ll treasure that moment for ever.

When we arrived to our destination and got off gondola, my parents (who were in the one ahead of us) congratulated us with a hug and then completely moved on.

My dad was obsessed with getting our luggage and insisted that he and my mother go get it from the car. We offered to help. We offered to eat first and then go. Or go and then eat. He just didn’t seem to want to be with us.

We split up. My sisters and my fiancé and I were all so confused.

So we celebrated on our own. We went out to dinner with my sisters, had a good time. I’ll remember that evening with them forever. I’m so grateful they were there.

My father now has started treating my fiancé badly, like every word he says is a nuisance. Makes remarks that are unnecessary. This has not been the case before. My fiancé has said he has lost all respect for my father.

On the other hand, my fiancés parents have also seemed to not care about our engagement. We visited them shortly after our engagement (they live across the country) and attended a dinner for his sisters engagement, which happened a month earlier. We were surprised that they were celebrating only her engagement and not ours as well, however we went anyway.

His mother criticized my ring, saying “I thought you wanted xyz) and his sister critiqued our “untraditional” engagement (choosing the ring together and planning the engagement). I pointed out that this was very sexiest. My fiancé agreed.

To put this in context, his sister and her fiancé did the same thing. They picked out their rings together and knew they were getting engaged.

I feel like none of our family cares that we got engaged, thus I have no desire to plan a wedding. I know if we elope we will piss everyone off, but tbh that’s what I want at this point.

Thanks for reading.

EDIT: I will admit, my anxiety got the best of me. I didn’t sleep at all last night but we talked about it this morning. I found a good way to bring it up. Once I got the initial part out, it was a very easy conversation(why I love him so much). He was not upset or offended and all is well. So the swap was a combination of factors. 1. The person we spoke to went on vacation and files got passed around. They lost the file and thus the ring I picked was not held. When my now fiancee went back when he had the money to get it months later, they had to create a new file. They looked for the original ring but couldn’t find it. It may have been there and they just didn’t recognize it without the photo of it, or it very well could have been sold. 2. I requested a very very specific color stone. I didn’t care what kind of stone it was, just the color. They had some trouble finding that exact color of stone and some of the ones they did find were extremely expensive(40k) which is way out of the budget and I honestly would have been kind of annoyed if he spent that much money on a ring because for our income, its too much. So even if they had found the ring it’s possible they wouldn’t have been able to find a reasonably priced stone to go in it because it was a setting for a bigger stone. I do think the ring is pretty and they got the color of the stone absolutely perfect. I will learn to love it.

Not posting pics at this time because i have no idea if my now fiancé or his friends have reddit. Im pretty sure he doesn’t but i can’t be certain his friends don’t. So we were very open about the fact that we wanted to get married. Several months ago we went ring shopping together so he could be sure he got a ring i really loved. I found a beautiful ring, nothing crazy but not traditional at all. I loved it. So i picked it, got sized, told them what color stone I wanted and the jeweler wrote everything down. Well turns out he isn’t super good at keeping secrets from me and hinted several times about where everything was at in the process including when he went to order it and they lost the paper so he asked what my ring size was. No biggie, I knew it was coming, but with the paper being lost i had a fear that id get the wrong ring on accident because they didn’t remember which one I picked. I brushed it off as I had so many other anxieties to deal with. Well he finally proposed. While timing could have been slightly better, it was the perfect day, the perfect place, and a stranger just happened to get pictures for us. I was too thrilled with his proposal to really look at the ring. I noticed it wasn’t the one I picked but in the moment I wasn’t worried about it. Now hours later, Im almost panicking because while they got the stone color perfect, the setting is wrong. Its not the one i picked and while its pretty, its not me. Its far too dainty, I’m worried about it getting damaged and overall just sad because i really loved the one i picked. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to make him feel bad about it, i don’t want to cause issues in our relationship, but this is a ring I’m supposed to wear the rest of my life and i don’t really care for it. I feel so disappointed because us going shopping was supposed to be to ensure i loved my ring and I don’t. Do I stay quiet and try to learn to love it? Or do I say something?

We’ve been so busy celebrating, I haven’t even gotten the classic ring pic yet!

When he did it, did it feel just as special? I know my boyfriend has a ring for me and I know he’s probably going to do it next week when we on holiday that’s why I’m asking.

I keep writing my first name with his last name and it just doesn't go. I don't want to change my name, I have an overwhelming pride in my last name. I love my last name, I love that it represents my dad, and my family. Lol cause that shows how much I love my dad but like I feel bad because I've expressed my hesitation of changing my last name to my fiancé & he says that I should hyphenate it, because that's what his mom did. Let me just tell you all that if I do that, my last name will be 15 letters long! FIFTEEN. lol and I just don't like it. I feel bad cause it's so obvious he wants me to have his last name but I don't know if I can do it :(

March 2025 I’m taking my girlfriend on just a “normal” little vacation get away to Charleston. I’m going to be staying at the harbor view inn for a few nights. So I’m wanting to do it in cypress gardens but I’ve never been so I wanted to ask some people who are slightly more familiar with the area if they think it’s a pretty place and if there’s enough cute places on the property to do it. My plan is to bring us out there to have professional pictures taken of us and then walk around and explore after the pictures. But she doesn’t know during the pictures I’ll be getting down on one knee. Thanks in advance for any recommendations on photographers, things to do while we’re in town l, and any opinions if my idea is a good one or not.