Overall I’m an anxious girl. I (24f) have been wi my boyfriend (26m) for 5 years. I’m open to insightful conversation in the comments so ask away! But I’d like to preface, as a child I experienced a lot of loss and grief, so I hahe a lot of anticipatory grief. I work on it in therapy. I don’t know fully what it is but I’m so excited to be engaged/married that’s all I’ve been wanting but now that I know Forsure it’s happening. I’m just getting SO nervous, and I feel like that isn’t normal. I love my man, I knew I was going to be with him for the rest of my life, but just knowing how officially permanent it is, is what scares me lol.

I don’t think I will be able to sleep tonight 🙈🥰

Obsessed with all things abt my ring! The small blue stones being my birthstone (aquamarine) and a small engraving on the inside. He drives a lot for work and I always say 'Drive safe' and his response is always 'Sit safe' and of course he got 'Sit safe' engraved on the inside

Sharing a picture of my engagement at Neuschwanstein Castle over the summer. Cinderella’s castle is based on this castle.

So my boyfriend and I have been together for nearly three years (March 10th is our anniversary) we love eachother so much and I think I have basically planned everything for our engagement by verbally telling him what I want. I’m not good at letting others plan things for me and I know I have micro managed things a little too much. I have told him what weekend, the town(pre planned trip for an event that happens once a year), the ring, that I want it to be just the two of us, and that I want there to be pictures of it, I have also already made a nail appt before we leave that weekend which I never do but I cannot risk not having them done(plus it’s an event I’d like to have them done for). I hate that I have set myself up for this but at the same time I know it’s my fault. My boyfriend isn’t super creative and I just want everything to be perfect for him and me. I just also want to be surprised. He hasn’t told me for sure that he is going to do anything or has the ring but I know it’s going to happen that weekend because I’ve pushed it so hard. I need a way to talk myself out of everything so that I’m still surprised! I need help! Has anyone else gone through this? If so, how were you able to still surprise yourself?

So, one thing we hear a LOT is couples saying there’s a part of wedding planning they wish they didn’t have to stress about.
Things like back and forth vendor messaging, who’s coordinating setup, or making sure nothing falls through the cracks on the day of. It’s a lot to manage! I should know, I just planned my best friend’s 30th, and I was nearly bawling by the end of it. Imagine a wedding.

If you could wave a magic wand and have one part of wedding planning handled completely, what would it be?

Hello there ! Looking for advice.

I am technically already married (we signed the paperwork early because of immigration deadlines), it was a very small but beautiful courthouse ceremony with only our 4 witnesses (unfortunately our families are in different countries).

It was beautiful and intimate and holds a special place in my heart. However the focus was paperwork, it was very low budget, no vows, no rings.

We are now planning for a bigger ceremony with all our extended families and friends, where we will exchange vows and rings. Im so excited to take on his surname, been waiting for it for months if not years, and we had decided that I shall only do so after the bigger public ceremony !

I’ve read a ton of stories of couples who did the same, small courthouse wedding early on because of whatever paperwork issue they had (insurance, tax, pick your own) and then later on a bigger ceremony.

However no one seems to explain really clearly how they do the second one. Like what do they sign ? Another marriage license ? I think it’s illegal to apply for another one if you’re already married. Just a custom personalized contract ? I don’t know why but it feels fake to me, like I’m playing a part in a play, like this is a toy wedding. I want it to feel as real as the first one felt.

I hate the typical “we did a thing” caption lol.

I am still reeling even though I suspected it was forthcoming pretty soon. It feels so wonderful to have stepped up our commitment to each other. We have been together for 3 years, known each other for 4.5. It’s a really beautiful diamond ring, he truly killed it. It was very lowkey and private in our apartment. I didn’t know what to expect at all but I have suspected for awhile he had one stashed ❤️ I have told him in the past I wouldn’t mind a non traditional or colored gemstone but he really went all the way with it. I am shooting for fall 2026 and have already contacted my first choice venue. I have work in 2 hours but I haven’t been able to sleep I am so happy and excited! It was just so lovely! Thank you for reading!

Hello.

My partner and I didn't plan to get married for two years or engaged for another, but now we find ourselves with a medium chance of getting married in the next 6 months. For context: we are an LGBTQ couple in the US. We aren't actively planning to get married but what passive steps/important planning should I have at the back of my mind? We have been together for many years so I have no doubts relationship wise, it's more what does one do for a courthouse wedding at the last minute? Has anyone else gone through something similar? What things would you regret not having if you looked back and had a similar moment?

All advice is heavily appreciated. I'm out of my depth and worried about... well, everything currently happening. If I get married due to a tragedy I want to be able to smile because I loved it/had the most important moments at the courthouse with the person I love most.

i can finally say “my fiancé” instead of “my boyfriend”

also update on my last post (here: https://www.reddit.com/r/engaged/s/rCw5It7dFS ) i love the ring and he was nervous for no reason

Because that’s me every day 😆

ring on the top left is one of my bffs e-ring who’s getting married in a few weeks! ✨

Do we buy them for each other or do we buy a set?!?! I’m so confused. I’m doing this wedding planning alone because my family doesn’t support my relationship since I’ll be going from working for everything to being a SAHM/SAHW. (Military spouse) and I could really use any advice possible for this. I’m sorry if it seems like a ridiculous question

My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years. We’ve lived with each other for the majority of it, and I can truthfully say he is my best friend. We are both entirely confident in our relationship, but I don’t want to get married until after I finish my school so that we can afford a nice wedding, and also not jump into something prematurely. This entire process will take 5 years. I would like to get engaged after I finish my bachelors in 2 years, but after that I will still have 3 years of law school, plus however long it will take to plan our wedding after. Would a 3-4 year engagement be too long?

I am planning a surprise proposal for my girlfriend at a hotel where we met. I want to decorate the room with balloons, petals and photos but i am worried she will catch on when we walk in . Any ideas on how to ask her to be dressed and ready beforehand without giving it away?

I am looking for a wedding band to complement my engagement ring, which is a 1.5- carat solitaire round diamond in a white gold band. I can't post a photo, but i would love suggestion on whether to go with a thin platinum band or something with diamond.

Before I say anything else, I’m (27M) hopelessly in love with this woman (27F) and she saved my life when I left the military, if it wasn’t for her, I’d have probably killed myself or drowned myself so far in booze, it would kill me anyway.

We are getting married in 3 months. Our sex life is dead. I try to get her to try new things, she never wants too. She even offers to have a couple of drinks to loosen up, but we both tend to not be the best drunks. I am also a firefighter so I am gone at least 3 nights a week. Sex is really the only place I feel truly comfortable in, I have PTSD, depression, anxiety. But sex was the one place I felt like I was always wanted and could be myself. I don’t get that with her anymore. When we do have it, it seems like she just wants me to go down on her until she orgasms and then loses all enthusiasm because she just wants the rest over with.

On top of this, I just started TRT trying to get healthy again so my sex drive is absolutely through the roof. I’m losing my mind, we don’t have to have sex every day but holy shit more than once every 3 weeks would be nice. I do everything I can to make her find me attractive. I’ve lost almost 15lbs, I look and feel better, I do stuff around the house, take her on dates, buy her gifts. I’ve brought her to a store so we can look at toys, I sent her pics of me at the gym with a pump etc. None of it works.

It’s gotten to a point where I’m watching porn constantly and I hate it because it drove me to buying cam girls, which I deeply regret, I know they were just making money, but fuck it felt nice to want to be wanted for once, and that guilt is eating away at me now too.

Just as the title says. My (23f) partner (28m) and I got engaged a little over a month ago (been together 3.5 years) and I have been feeling really down and depressed ever since.

I didn’t really like the proposal, I had taken a work trip and he tagged along and proposed during the trip, so I was pretty much working all around it and couldn’t celebrate. He knows I didn’t really like it but can’t do anything to change that now.

We had been talking about being engaged for a while but now that it’s here I feel… not good. I don’t feel magical or bridal or giddy. I feel dread and anxiety about planning a wedding. He says he wants 100-150person wedding and beyond that he’ll just do whatever I want. I feel 🙃 about that.

I love him, but all this has just put me on edge. I want to marry him but now I’m afraid I’m too young or immature about all this.

i didnt know there was a subreddit it for this. just wanted to show my ring :) i loveeeeee it

I got engaged on our 2 year anniversary ❤️😭🥰