Hello, I am on the hunt for some dish gloves that would work for my sister. She is disabled and gripping wet dishes already proves challenging but more so when you don’t have much flexibility or strength in your hands. I don’t want to get typical dish gloves because I think they would be difficult to get on/off. Maybe more of a mit? My searches have yielded no real alternatives so far. If anyone has suggestions it would be greatly appreciated.

Is there an alternative to fetlife? I'm physically disabled and just looking for a partner/fwb. Not into most of what's on fetlife.

My world turned upside down the day my C3-T2 instrument fusion surgery went horribly wrong. I had suffered a life-altering spinal cord injury when post-surgery swelling of my cervical spinal cord caused severe damage.

Gone was my active life of skiing and scuba diving, and travelling abroad with my wife Valerie was no longer possible. My family farms days had ended, and not being able to climb onto the tractor or use my chainsaw is a punishment.

It was a gut-wrenching sense of loss, not just for me, but for my wife Valerie as well.

I knew from the very beginning of my ordeal that if I wanted to have a good life I had to face my situation head-on and make a choice that would define the remainder of my life.

I could choose to either whine and cry and feel sorry for myself, or I could choose to harness the Law of Attraction and the Power of Positive Thinking and use them to help me heal and move forward in my life with optimism and enthusiasm.

The ‘Law of Attraction’ is a philosophy suggesting that positive thoughts bring positive results into a person's life, while negative thoughts bring negative outcomes. It is based on the belief that thoughts are a form of energy and that positive energy attracts success in all areas of life, including health, finances, and relationships.

The ‘Power of Positive Thinking’, (or an optimistic attitude) is the practice of focusing on the good in any given situation. It can have a big impact on your physical and mental health. It simply means you approach the good and the bad in life with the expectation that things will go well.

I also believe that laughter helps to heal. It enhances your intake of oxygen, stimulates your heart, lungs, and muscles, and releases the hormones called Endorphins.

Endorphins are chemicals your body releases during pleasurable activities such as exercise, massage, eating, and sex. Endorphins help relieve pain, reduce stress, and improve your sense of well-being.

I think that self deprecating humour is especially useful, because when we laugh at ourselves we can help others laugh at themselves. As a volunteer with Spinal Cord Injury Ontario, when I go to the hospital to visit patients, one of the first things I do is go to the room that I lived in for five months and introduce myself to the person who was occupying my bed. I would joke about how I wanted my bed back, and, more often than not, I would see their mood lift and a smile come to their faces.

But I also know that harnessing them is easier said than done, and that some of you are living with circumstances that make it much more difficult to fight off anxiety and depression.

And when the people around you don't understand how difficult things are for you and consider you a lazy malingerer and chronic complainer, not worthy of sympathy or empathy, it makes things so much harder.

I want to secure my rough terrain mobility scooter in it's shed more. As been some break ins in sheds and need more than padlocks on bolts.

Also, I leave my electric wheelchair outside the hairdresser, using crutches for the few steps. I would like to make it more secure.

Has anyone used the wheel clamps available for an electric wheelchair wheel and/or for a mobility scooter wheel? What was your experience like and what make and brand did you use, please?

I am based in the UK. But, any experience anywhere, would be helpful.

Many thanks in advance.

Disabled man that has Multiple Sclerosis looking to meet and get to know women

Being disabled in this world is a sad and lonely life. I feel invisible all the time. It's almost like I have some kind of plague.

I have submitted a Section 504 Special Accommodation form to my apartment complex office since two individuals are disabled are currently living in the apartment and it was approved to change the flooring room by room.*** I requested 4 appointments to complete the work as the apartment is big.

The flooring vendor that the apartment complex works with (which is a separate entity from my apartment building) came back to say they can only arrange TWO appointments total.

Does the Section 504 Special Accommodation form apply to private vendors as well OR not?

Please help!!!!

State of CA

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Hi, I am looking for headband style noise cancelling headphones and need recommendations. My loops aren't working very well, I can hear everything and also the noises I make but amplified. I'm autistic and struggle with the little noises and the complex ones. I'd really like to find a pair that I can hear people at a lower volume but greater noises are blocked. I have a pair of Samsung buds that I love for home, but CPTSD makes it hard to have no sound at all in public. I am not sure if what I'm looking for exists but any recommendations are appreciated.

hi y’all, i just recently installed a shower bench, and i’m wondering if anyone has a suggestion on if there’s maybe curtain liners made specifically for this purpose? i have a regular plastic liner right now from before i got the chair, but since it extends over the edge of the tub, i’m not able to pull the liner back far enough to prevent puddles on the floor outside of the tub. i have a handheld showerhead, and even with being careful i’m having this problem, and having puddles like that outside of the shower is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. if anyone has any recommendations i’d be super appreciative 🙏🏻🙏🏻

I’m looking into the idea of a nonprofit that would provide free rentals of mobility aids to disabled travelers at their point of destination.

Ideally we’d be able to provide any equipment needed but to start I was hoping to gather some data from the community on what devices would be most needed/desired to be able to NOT have to travel with but have waiting for you at your destination?

Starting out I’d love to have all the basics available (wheelchairs, canes, walkers, toilet & shower chairs) but also some specialty equipment like beach wheelchairs for coastal areas or snow chairs for winter trips.

THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP!!

I have severe bunion pain on my right foot and collapsed arches. I have had orthotic inserts for my shoes for years that have worn out and I can't get into see a podiatrist until the end of January. Is it worth trying a cane to take some of the weight and pressure off of my foot?

I recently t became disabled due to sepsis. I'm a (36 m) I'm just curious how do you meet people. Friends/ dating?

I see a lot of posts about this topic, and I want to share with you the reason why I feel like we are actually better off than everyone else for being disabled. Ya, it sucks. Life is harder, and most of us have had to learn how to cope with life being in constant pain and discomfort. Many aspects of life are harder, and we have to put more effort into fighting the tendency to further alienate ourselves from society in socially interactive ways. BUT…the reality is that nobody gets out of life alive. Eventually, everyone’s body breaks down. People get old. People have accidents, and get medical conditions that change their lives for the rest of it. Some people are thrown into dramatic changes that force them to suddenly have to adapt to needing the empathy and support of others to be ok. A high number of old people get extremely depressed when they find themselves unable to accept the ways their bodies restrict them, or they’re not used to living with pain and can’t handle it well. For those of us who have lived with disabilities for a long time, we are way ahead on the game of life. Not only have we already been ahead on learning the lessons of empathy and support for the suffering, but we are mentally stronger than those who don’t know the same kind of suffering, and far beyond them in years when it comes to emotional intelligence, and survival. We are mentally stronger for experiencing the suffering earlier than those who have bodies that are fine now, but are still breaking down as we speak. What is superior? How strong is your mind, and how much or how little will life throw at them before they crack and crumble? Stay solid. Love you guys. 💗🎄

I’m kinda dating/seeing this guy who uses arm crutches to help with walking. He’s super sweet and I have fun with hanging out with him but I have no clue where to go for date ideas. We usually do a combination of dinner, coffee shops, or a movie. I am fully able bodied want to be mindful of his disability, but I also have no idea what else we can do. I want to do other things just to keep things interesting so I figured I could come here and ask? I hope this isn’t rude or condescending I’m just not sure where else I could get info.

First, some context: I've been with my wife for 25 years, married for 15 years. She received her first wheelchair at age 3. Her disability, cerebral palsy, means she can't walk but speaks normally and she is very sharp. She could have skipped a grade in school, and should have been a lawyer.

When we are out in public, even when we are with our kids, some wayward christian with a total lack of self awareness says to her "god has a plan for you". When asked to explain what this means they mumble something about being a christian and wander off. This has happened at least annually for 25 years and no christian can explain why this happens or why christians find this an acceptable thing to say.

Has any other disabled person experienced this, or something similar?

Does anyone have any experience with the Tri-lift Scooter Lift or another scooter lift for a sedan? I'm looking for a mobility scooter lift for my Ford 500. I've looked online and used online compatibility tools but I haven't found anything that will work. My local mobility scooter store says there is nothing that will work for my vehicle. Online I found the Tri-lift Scooter Lift. It says it will work with my car but my local guy says he doesn't sell those anymore because they've had bad experiences. Does anyone have any experience with this?

I've been disabled all my life but, for some reason I've always had the mentality that you might expect from someone who is newly disabled. I've costed society copious amounts of money that I will never be able to pay back. I always feel like I'm in a position where I have to beg for everything I get. I use to have a caregiver that would frequently tell me that I wasn't her equal. I've never had a job. I've known people who are far more disabled than me that seem to be way happier than I am. I promise I won't try to refute anyone's argument. I just hope to be presented with an argument that may change my thinking

Hello, I have a friend of mine who is disabled. About a year ago, he decided to tell people about his life and wrote an autobiography. I'm helping him with the translation. It may be of interest to this community, so I decided to share the link to the book. https://atarkhat.gitbook.io/

The translation is still ongoing, so the book is being published chapter by chapter as soon as it is ready. I hope you find it interesting.

I'm so so pissed about this. I have hEDS, and in my case I need an active wheelchair (most times I can wheel myself around, it's my back/legs that stop me from walking freely since it causes unbearable, stinging pain after a while), but my arms work just fine -when my shoulders aren't dislocated-. I live in Costa Rica, and I haven't been able to find a SINGLE place that sells active wheelchairs, only the standard ones or the automatic/engine(? type, and I find it very frustrating and also unfair.

this is not encouraging violence or threatening anyone. Just hypothetical in my opinion stuff.

Does anyone think the work and threat of the adjuster aka robin hoodie might mean universal healthcare and rights for us disableds?

Maybe that disturbs some ppl (and i am strictly speaking in theory in my opinion) but i dont care how many kings have to go before we get human rights.

Yet i fear we’ll fall back on apathy and memes. Thoughts?

Hi! My name's L, I'm 23, and I made a discord server for 18+ people who want to chill and make some friends. There's multiple channels including:

• general convo • bitch bar (vent channel) • pets (animal pictures!) • more!

This channel is meant to be for fun. I hope y'all check it out 🫶

https://discord.gg/X8xeSRSJ

I’m wondering if there’s a place where people can list and trade handicap equipment.

My uncle relies on a wheelchair, and we’re searching for a durable, off-road motorized scooter. Since losing the use of his legs, he has gained significant weight, so the scooter needs to be sturdy enough to support him. He’s an adventurous person who enjoys fishing and hunting, so we hope to find a model capable of handling rough terrain and allowing him to navigate our property comfortably. Additionally, we’re considering a trip to the beach, so it’s essential to find something that can traverse sand with ease.

I’d appreciate any suggestions on what type of vehicle to look for and where to purchase one.

So I am now kind of disabled I guess ,, I use a cane / walker to get around these days and It’s hard for me to do any type of work and just debilitating and so I was trying to figure out if maybe only fans would be relaxed way to make some supplemental income? Do we have any thoughts on this? I

Hi, it might seem like I rant a bit too often here; for that, I apologize, but I have very few people who understand my situation. Let's begin...

I am a 34f spastic quad CP full-time WC user who currently has 2 HHAs who are nursing students who assist me with ADLs 5 days a week. Their duties include getting me out of bed, toileting, dressing, setting up meals and workstation (I am a remote psychotherapist). For the most part, things are fine, but in the last few weeks, they have both been stressed about finals and studying. This is completely understandable; however, they have been calling out 2-4 times each week to study for finals, which has resulted in me missing work myself as I can't get out of bed without their help. I have discussed this with them and clarified that they are more than welcome to study while I am in sessions. They have declined, stating that studying in my living space is too difficult. I live with my parents and twin brother, who is also disabled. One of them asked me why my parents couldn't just take care of me. They are both in their mid-60s and do help when needed, but my point to the students was that I want to operate as if I live alone so that I can prepare for when my parents are no longer around. Due to this confrontation, the relationships soured. I'm afraid they will quit. It bothers me because it's not like they work in a CCU. Out of the 8-10 hours they work, they sit on their phones for at least 6 of them. Thoughts?

Hi, I want to write a character using crutches. There is no particular reason why exactly, I just see him this way. I ask here because I'm disabled myself and I know how bad is misrepresentation (I do not use mobility aids because my parents think "i'm too young" and should just live with the pain)

What disability can make him use life-long crutches? Thank you!

I have a hard time with school lunch slipping off of my lap, I use a manual wheelchair and it's really rough to get a perfect balance.. is there a tool of any kind I could use to help that?

So I've had my fair share of being spread rumors about and generally people being not so cool when it comes to my disability. I have a type of rare periodic paralysis that effects my left leg, I cannot feel or move it for as long as 8 months at a time and when I regain mobility, I have to relearn how to walk through intense physical therapy. There is no way of telling when this will start or end and I am going through immense testing almost weekly now. This, I am a wheelchair user a majority of the time.

However... I haven't quite dealt with this one yet:

I have a person at my school very much obsessed with my wheelchair or the idea of me being disabled. What started as friendly has now just turned into creepy, approaching my friends to get background insight, saying he's my best friend even though I've talked to him maybe 4 times throughout 3 years, he only approaches and talks to me when I am in my wheelchair and when I am in the chair, he only talks about disability and how he'd like to get a wheelchair despite not having any physical disabilities. He goes so much as to watch me from behind walls. It's really not a comfortable situation lol

He keeps approaching my friends for extremely sensitive information about me and I'm very uncomfortable. I'm not really sure what to do, as I've kind of made it clear that his obsessive behavior makes me uncomfortable. My friends have done so as well.

Any advice??? What do I do??

Tw slurs?

Hi everyone, fanfic writer here. I'm writing a fanfic about a disabled character (kudos to you if you can figure out who he is - he's pretty popular now) and i just want to find out what the general consensus is regarding describing disabled people with certain terms that can be seen as ableist. I don't mean writing a bigoted character who's meant to say ableist stuff, but rather in the narrative itself describing a character using terms like 'cripple'. I don't know if this sort of thing matters to other people, but i don't want to purposefully use a term that would intentionally hurt others. Please tell me your thoughts about this! Thank you

the doc is tell them you love me. do not read further if you don't want spoilers

this doc is absolutely crazy to me. she is saying he's capable of communication but 20 years of different doctors disagree. for a woman to say he started a relationship with her blows my mind completely. what are your thoughts?

Please delete if this isn’t allowed, but I’m needing some advice (for a work thing) - my current job is to engage and empower young Disabled people - however our TikTok, and e-newsletter seems to be attracting an older age bracket.

If you were receiving info about support, your rights and funding available in education and employment etc - how would I reach a younger audience? What would get you to engage? I’m just wanting feedback from my actual age demographic as it doesn’t seem to be reaching the right people - thanks everyone!