Share your dating pain, the worse the better.

Not mine but a friends… just curious to see what the Reddit world has to say

To what end? 🥲

long story short-i had been in a relationship with him(30M) for about 2y and then he cheated on me so we broke it off a year ago. now he is dating some girl and copying all my new spotify tracks to the playlist he created with her. it’s a bllx and i feel like poo!

Had a third date planned for this evening, he had asked if he could take me to dinner earlier in the week. We agreed on a time and he said he’d pick me up at 6. The day of rolls around and I text him in the morning saying “looking forward to later :)”. Didn’t hear anything from 10 am to 3 pm then sent “here’s my address ___”. By 5:30 I hadn’t heard anything and was beginning to worry he wasn’t gonna show. Finally 10 minutes after 6 he sent a text saying “hey! Just getting off work :/ can we reschedule for another day”. No sorry, no asking if he could have some extra time to get ready. I’ve had this happen a couple times over the past year or so of me being single and I’m getting so tired of being disrespected this way.

I knew he wasn’t a big texter and before the first two dates he communicated a place and time but didn’t follow up just before, so I assumed maybe he would just say “here” when he arrived at my apartment. I shouldn’t have remembered he showed up 30 minutes late to the first date, originally saying he would be “10 minutes late” with no other explanation for the remaining 20 minutes.

We also hooked up on the second date which makes me wonder if he assumed that I don’t have a standard for my time being respected. At the end of the day I know his reasoning doesn’t matter, it’s his actions. Should I respond to him at all? If so, what should I say?

TL;DR: Guy asked to take me out to dinner for a third date, didn’t hear from him all day the day of and finally said “hey! Sorry just getting off work :/ can we reschedule for another day” ten minutes after he was supposed to pick me up. Do I respond? If so, how?

I’m a male and the person going to meet is two years younger than me. She accepted my IG request and followed back. I saw her in my explorer page through a mutual friend in college. She has been looking my stories and likes my reactions to her stories. I feel our personalities match. I have not met her in person yet. What’s the best way to ask her out maybe for a coffee or something which is semi formal first meet up? Most likely she is not in a relationship now. Our mutual friend graduated and is in another city now.

TLDR - The Server had it out for me and was a little weird and I was intimidated by my date.

I used to work for a company that boosted tourism in my town. It was a decent entry level job but the hours were a little weird. I had a concert to help with that night and met a volunteer I really wanted to ask out who also worked at night. I'd heard of this amazing deal at a tiny bar called John's or Jack's or something like that, walking distance from my apartment, where you could get a discount on a fancy pizza (pizza is a big deal in my town) if you were there at a certain time before happy hour on the weekend. So I invited the volunteer to go with me and she said yes. We would have had about three hours to eat and hang out before heading to work. I was nervous and awkward since my date seemed a little out of my league at the time.

As soon as we walked in, I noticed it felt a little weird. It was pretty empty with only 5 older guys, definitely regulars, sitting at one big table by the door. I saw there was only one server and I said, "Hi" to her as we walked in since she was heading right for us. She walked by and didn't respond and I just chalked it up to her being busy and working alone. So we just found a spot and sat down. We waited for a pretty long while and saw a second server showed up, I tried to get the first servers attention again as she walked by but she didn't acknowledge me again and disappeared in the back. I started to worry we'd miss the deal and was running out of small talk skills with my date. Also we were both on a tight timeline because we had to go to work afterwards.

Eventually I was able to get the second server's attention and she promised to send the first server over to us since the second server wasn't on the clock yet. After a few more minutes the first server came out and just stood by our table, looking at me. I asked if we were too late for the deal I heard about and she replied by saying, "IDs". So we gave her our IDs and she gave my date's back to her and walked away with mine. Again, she didn't say anything. A moment later she came back and handed me my ID and started explaining the deal to us and instructed us to order then if we wanted to do it. I ordered the pizza and the drinks and we waited again. A few times I noticed the table of regulars gesturing towards us and commenting. I had resorted to telling jokes to my date. It was not going well.

With about 10 minutes left before we needed to leave to avoid being late the server returned with our drinks and then a few minutes later our food came. I asked for the check while they were dropping it off and that came pretty quickly. We ate our pizza and downed our drinks fast and then I tried to flag down the first server to give her my card to pay... but she just silently walked past me and went to her spot by the bar and the door and just kind of looked out the open door. I waved and only got the attention of the regulars. My date voiced some concern about being late so I had to do something. I remembered I had gotten a $50 bill as a gift and that it was in my wallet. With the extra toppings and drinks the bill came to about $38. So I put the money on the tray with the bill and we left.

We parked in the back of the parking lot, but by the time we got to the car we heard and saw the first server screaming threats, swear words, and very creative insults from the door. It took me a second to wrap my head around what was happening, and when I realized all of the possibilities needed to be addressed before they got worse. I decided to go back in bar and speak with the screaming server. I asked my date to wait at the car but she insisted on coming with me.

When we walked in we saw the first server standing by the bar register angrily jabbing it and not looking up. A couple of the regulars got up and stood near us at the bar. I asked her if she was yelling to us and if something was wrong. and she just said, "No.". I asked if there was a problem with the tip and still without looking up she just spits out, "No, your fine can you just leave?". So we did. There was no second date.

I met this guy, let’s call him Alex, on a dating app, and we hit it off. He was really funny, and we had so much in common. We went on a few dates, and things were going so good until one day, I was just scrolling through his insta, and I see this post about his kids' birthdays…🤨

I was completely shocked. I had no idea he even had kids… When I asked him about it, he admitted he hadn't mentioned them because he was afraid it would freak me out. He said he never meant to keep it a secret, but still, I felt totally blindsided.

I appreciated him coming clean, but the trust was just shattered. I couldn't shake that feeling of being lied to. So, I had to call it quits. It was a tough lesson about the importance of honesty in relationships. I realized I deserved someone who's upfront about their past and their responsibilities

I recently decided I didn’t want to date for a while because I recently had my heart broken by a girl who shot me down. Now I’m getting messages from random women on Facebook on instagram. Some of them I’m friends with, some I don’t know. Is this a sign that I should get back out there or a test of whether or not I’ll stick to my dating break? 😂😅

I have no one to talk to right now, so I’m coming to Reddit…

Trying to get over someone sucks man. Especially if they were a piece of shit and you feel like shit for not getting over them sooner. Like I that would be typical right?

(If you’d like, you can read my other posts about a specific dude I’m talking about cause I had no one else to talk too and still don’t lmao)

Literally the most shittest person I ever met and I still imagine his face, I hear his name and I get triggered. I see a semi truck and I think it’s him (he’s a truck driver). I imagine how awesome he was in the beginning before things went left…

It’s been 3 weeks since I cut him out my life. Wishing but also NOT wishing he would come back and say something and I know it sounds sick of me to even want him to come back but shit man, what can I say, I was attached to this dude for months and being attached fucking sucks cause it’ll take MONTHS to a YEAR to get over that one person.

I know they say, get a hobby, keep your mind busy, but omg is there a hack to instantly getting over it?? I hate thinking about how this dude is doing nowadays when I could care less about it at the same time, I hate the fact that he got away with so much from me, I hate his character but yet I’m attached to how he used to be in the beginning. I wanna get over it, I’m tired of feeling stupid from even imagining it.

I’m tired of it. I can’t believe I even met this dude in the first place. I literally hate him but I can’t stop thinking about him.

I (32M) went back on the dating app Hinge, after being out of a relationship for 4 years. I felt like it was time to put myself back out there. I matched with a someone (30F) who I have known since high school. We dated a little bit my Sophomore year of college and her Senior year of high school. Nothing crazy. We went on a couple of dates and then I transferred to a college away from our hometown and she went to college locally. We drifted apart and both moved on to dating other people. We were still friends and would see each other when I was home, but we eventually lost touch with one another.

I figured that we were both single now and both in different times of our lives, so I decided that I wanted to give it a shot. We exchanged phone numbers rather quickly and we both expressed interest in meeting up. It was hard to find a time/day that worked for both of us. I didn't make anything of it at first because she has a very busy job. Three weeks went by and she wanted to have a quick phone call with the potential of meeting up if she had the time. Right before the phone call she messaged me saying that she would not have time to meet up, but would still call.

During the phone call she told me about all of the guys she has dated on the app and all of the fun she had been having. She then said that she has been seeing a guy exclusively for the past three weeks and that it has been going very well. She asked if I was seeing anyone, which I thought was a weird question because we matched on a dating app. At no point during the time we were texting back and forth did she mention she was seeing someone and at no point did she make her intentions clear before the phone call.

Then something really weird happened. She offered to be my Primary Care Physician. I thought she was joking at first, but the more we spoke about it and the more I think about it, I think that she may have been serious. She also wants to stay in touch and talk about our dating lives together. Is this normal? Does this happen to people?

I'm looking for a bit of advice. Should I stay in touch with this person? Should I inquire if she is serious about being my Primary Care Physician? What should I do?

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TLDR: I matched with someone I knew on a dating app. She is not interested in a date, but may be interested in being my Primary Care Physician. I'm looking for advice. What should I do?

I (32M) went back on the dating app Hinge, after being out of a relationship for 4 years. I felt like it was time to put myself back out there. I matched with a someone (30F) who I have known since high school. We dated a little bit my Sophomore year of college and her Senior year of high school. Nothing crazy. We went on a couple of dates and then I transferred to a college away from our hometown and she went to college locally. We drifted apart and both moved on to dating other people. We were still friends and would see each other when I was home, but we eventually lost touch with one another.

I figured that we were both single now and both in different times of our lives, so I decided that I wanted to give it a shot. We exchanged phone numbers rather quickly and we both expressed interest in meeting up. It was hard to find a time/day that worked for both of us. I didn't make anything of it at first because she has a very busy job. Three weeks went by and she wanted to have a quick phone call with the potential of meeting up if she had the time. Right before the phone call she messaged me saying that she would not have time to meet up, but would still call.

During the phone call she told me about all of the guys she has dated on the app and all of the fun she had been having. She then said that she has been seeing a guy exclusively for the past three weeks and that it has been going very well. She asked if I was seeing anyone, which I thought was a weird question because we matched on a dating app. At no point during the time we were texting back and forth did she mention she was seeing someone and at no point did she make her intentions clear before the phone call.

Then something really weird happened. She offered to be my Primary Care Physician. I thought she was joking at first, but the more we spoke about it and the more I think about it, I think that she may have been serious. She also wants to stay in touch and talk about our dating lives together. Is this normal? Does this happen to people?

I'm looking for a bit of advice. Should I stay in touch with this person? Should I inquire if she is serious about being my Primary Care Physician? What should I do?

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TLDR: I matched with someone I knew on a dating app. She is not interested in a date, but may be interested in being my Primary Care Physician. I'm looking for advice. What should I do?

I work in the oil and gas industry so i tend to make a pretty penny. Due to this influx of money i have in my bank account I tend to spend quite a bit as well at restaurants leaving hefty tips and such. I went to hooters with a friend to celebrate his birthday and we had a gorgeous waitress as per hooters. She tended to us fairly well and let us know that we were the first group of normal customers who werent constantly groping her. At the end of the night the bill came around and i felt generous so i left her a fairly big tip, before we left she stopped me to ask for my number. I gave it to her and we proceeded to text back and forth which led to me taking her out on a date. We went on the date and had a good time in my opinion. The next day i had to drive back up to work and i got a text from this girl who we can call “H”. H had asked me for 300 dollars to do her hair and nails, i of course did not send her that outrageous kind of money. I made up a story about how i had to pay all of my bills that week so 300 dollars was completely out of my budget. In the end she blocked me for what i believe was because i was not her walking atm.

I met this girl on Tinder. We where both 20 We talked for a bit set up a date went to a nice bar. Neither of us were super hungry because we had both already eaten dinner so we just got a small appetizer with a couple drinks. The appetizer we went with was these cheesy ass crabcakes that were honestly really really good but my butt hole disagreed.

The date in and of itself was already kind of awkward. She wasn’t a big talker, so I kind of felt like I had to hold up the conversation the whole time. Somehow she still ended up coming back to my place afterwards.

We sat on my couch and put my arm around her things seem to be going pretty good. until I had to use the washroom. In my house at the time there was two bathrooms there was a full bathroom upstairs and a half bathroom downstairs practically right next to the living room

When I realized I had to shit, I should’ve gone to the upstairs bathroom, but for some reason I went to the closer one

And my God, could this not have been the loudest shit of my entire life pffffft puutttttt fpfpfpfpfpfpfpf just the most atrocious shitting sounds, you could possibly think of

Knowing she can hear this, I’m sitting there thinking about this poor girl who just met this guy on Tinder and now she’s awkwardly sitting on his couch while she listens to him take the loudest shit you can possibly think of. I made sure to make it very clear that I washed my hands and I went and I sat next to her for about five minutes until I turned into her her and I said, “do you wanna go home?” She said “yes please”

I took her home I never saw her again Actually, that’s not true. We did see each other one more time after that because the next day I went on another date to a show for a local band and I saw her there. and just to make things even more worse I was wearing the exact same outfit I was wearing for the date had with her

Fuck me sideways

Regardless, it’s still one of my favourite stories to tell because it’s honestly really funny

Does she want me I’ve been talking to this girl for about month and half, we been on few dates which have seemed to go pretty well from my perspective at least lol. When we first started talking we would text throughout the day, now after the 3rd date which went pretty good I thought, she’ll maybe text me once or twice a day if that. I know she’s in school and work but she had time to text earlier and now I can barely get an exciting response. Am I cooked? should I just start to move on? I asked her on another date last night, no response yet. If she agrees to go out again do I bring this up with her?

What is the craziest thing your ex has done during the relationship?

I (17 female) dated a guy my age and I have to say I regret it terribly. At first it was great like always, but after a while he kept accusing me of cheating. He had experienced a mess relationship. She was very toxic towards him. I have had plenty of messed up relationships experiences to last me a lifetime so I understood in the beginning but he kept accusing me of cheating constantly. One day I was at the doctor’s office with my mom and it was summer in the south so it was 90 degrees outside. I had a gut feeling to check my phone when I did I had serval messages from him telling me he was outside and to go out and see him. I didn’t answer my phone so he walked from his place to doctor’s office completely dressed in black. I go out to see him and find to find out why he walked all the way there. He looks me up and down at my outfit (I was wearing a tight dress) and he said “the only reason I am letting you wear that is because I’m here.” That should have been a good sign for me to run away but I still gave it a chance. The situations kept getting worse and I kept feeling unsafe. After we broke up I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and started talking again (not officially back together) We just kept fighting all the time so HE told me that he thought it would be best if we stopped talking. Which I was fine with that considering all the fights. Someone asked for my crushes initials so I put a friend of mine initials. It wasn’t like I was dating or talking to anyone at the time. Well my ex didn’t like that, he started blowing my phone calling me a whore and a slut. Saying he knew I was no good. Keep in mind I stayed with him when we were dating when I had so so many reasons to leave. So when he told me this I was filled with rage none of the less.

I started seeing this guy (24M) six months ago. I am still somewhat in touch with my ex and having a hard time cutting it off. My friend (24F) who I met three months ago just got broken up with. A mutual friend told me so I reached out to hang out with her. We drank a lot and I ended up telling her everything about my ex and the guy I was seeing. The very next day I called him and he was with her. I was upset and he told me she DMd him to get his number and asked to hang out because all her friends are busy. This turned into her suggesting they hang out every Tuesday night to make dinner, which made me skeptical. She has other friends. But this seems fishy. She has been seeing other guys from apps to get her mind off things but is scheduling weekly dates with him. Should I be upset?

TLDR; Date awkwardly controls the whole date, then cries when I won’t kiss him.

I went on a date with a guy on OkCupid many years ago. His profile picture was him in a leather jacket and I couldn’t really see his face. He seemed decent enough, though. We decided to go downtown to a bar.

I was unaware he would be bringing his brother and his brother would be bringing his gf. It wasn’t a big deal, but it was our first time meeting and I felt it was a little weird. We started with conversation and the guy kept talking over me and trying to one up everything I said. I was beginning to feel the need to leave, but felt uncomfortable that it was so early in the date. They decided we could play pool and I thought if I just stick it out a little longer, I can be on my way.

He really wanted to teach me how to play pool. The problem was I already knew how to play and I told him that. As I took the stick, he grabbed it and continued to try to put my arms the correct way, etc. I asked him to please stop. He eventually stopped and seemed happy about his “work”.

After we played, I decided to leave and his brother and the gf kindly said goodbye and left, leaving my date to walk me to my car. Now, I can be a pretty awkward person so I empathize with awkwardness greatly and I felt a bit bad for him. He obviously didn’t know what to do. But I quickly stopped feeling bad for him after we got to my car.

He leaned in to kiss me and I said, “Oh, no thank you.” I didn’t feel it was right to force myself to do that when I really wasn’t feeling it. That’s when he started crying.

I sat with him on a nearby bench for about 30 minutes comforting him. I didn’t want to leave him on the street crying by himself. I eventually left and decided OkCupid may not be my thing.

TLDR: Hello let's start off things with a banger, Ive only had two girlfriends in my entire life, Now i know that's not exactly as bad as others considering ive actually had a girlfriend, Well the thing is, One only lasted a day, and the other Broke up with me iver the the weekend in text, I won't say my age or name, But I'll tell you this much, i got so desperate that a point i went to hookup places, I even tried men, only to both fail so miserably i regretted it and not only that but i actually lost my only friend i had, ive always been rejected, and not even in a nice "oh yeah sorry your not my type, or no indont like you like that" They would just straight up say just no, Or they would say this absolutely fucking bullshit "im not looking for a relationship" TO ONLY GET A BOYFRIEND TWO EXACT FUCKING WEEKS LATER! im not even joking, I wish i was. I legitimately have the proof.

I think that the worst part is that, I would loose a opportunity for a girlfriend, and a friend as they would disconnect themselves from me, even if we knew each other for months or years, i don't get it, im not ugly i think, cause i get compliments, and im not mean or a bad person because people have told me so, and they ask for my help all the time, oh and in case you were wondering, I've never ever once gone out on a date, like ever.

Am i just a person who is meant to be abused and hurt by others, like what am I doing wrong, and don't say the thing "you must love yourself to love others, or the right one will come up later" I'm tired of that.

Hey Reddit fam,

So, I mustered up the courage to have "the talk" with my boyfriend. I asked him some tough questions like if he feels guilty for cheating, if he's cheated in other relationships, which he had, and if he thinks he'll do it again. It was gut-wrenching, but I needed to know.

His response? When I mentioned we needed to talk, he thought it was breakup time. His whole demeanor changed when I hinted that might be a possibility based on his answers. Suddenly, it was all about why he can't be trusted and questioning if we're even right for each other.

I can't help but feel crushed. I really liked this guy, and he made me feel special, at least for a little while.

I know I'm young (21) and he's a bit older (26), but it still hurts like hell.

Thanks for listening.