Just curious how many have strong friendships with other men. Men that you can really share how you feel and what you are thinking? Do you feel like other men really know you?

On a Scale of 1 to 10, how meaningful and genuine are your friendships with other men?

1-BS and surface level only 10-I can be really be honest about what I think/fear?

Anything that has helped you to deepen those friendships?

So I 26(M) was raised in a vaguely Christian household. We went to church every other Sunday or so. As a kid, I always found religion unappealing and thought of it as a scam. In the recent few years I’ve begun to take subtle footsteps along my path. I still struggle a lot. Prayer feels like I’m talking to myself, like I’m “performing”; I don’t attend church regularly; and most overwhelmingly: I can not stop watching adult content. I feel as though this particular demon has such a strong grasp. Sometimes I fall victim multiple times a day. The content has delved very far from gods intended purpose of “adult relations”. I have fallen down the rabbit hole to extremely depraving content. And I crave it immensely.

Everytime the urge strikes- every doubt in faith I have surfaces. My subtle footsteps are followed by a hasty race backwards. Sometimes I don’t even feel bad about it afterwards. It’s only in moments of reflection that I see the demon for what it is. It’s killing me. The constant “gratification” recks havoc on my brain. The taboo content creates desires no sane woman would fulfill. The feeling of weakness makes me feel empty, like in a hallowed shell of the man I could and should be. I occasionally make pacts with myself to stop, but then, I’m alone in my bed at night. The desires flood my body and I go backwards again. It’s cyclical and has been for 13 years. I’m at a loss on what to do, so I turn to you. Any advice helps, or mentorship, and well ANYTHING. I desire a relationship with our god and need help.

Hey guys, who are some modern men of God who we can look up to? I'm trying to find a new podcast or book, or Instagram, or anything else that would be for my benefit. I have nice Godly friends in my life but they're all in a different place of faith or a different season.

me? I'm just trying to live my life on mission and know God's heart more. it would be nice to get married (I'm not opposed to marriage and I don't have problems talking to girls) But I think there's so much more to following Christ than just getting married and having kids. I want to be an unashamed Jesus freak. I need some ride-or-die partners in Christ to do life with.. Mentors, friends.. where's the crazy people at?

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Hello !

This is the first time I post something on a forum. I wanted to announce that I will start this nofap journey.

I wish I would never do what I did again.

I tried for a long time to escape, but I indulged every day in the state of sin I was in - neither cold nor hot, but lukewarm. For a period of approximately 8 years, I have sinned constantly, say on average once every 1-2 weeks. There were also 2-3 months when I went on evangelization missions and national tours where I managed to refrain from PMO. There were holidays, moments in this 8-year period when I naturally managed not to make mistakes for a few months.

!! what i noticed

Without serious discipline and a real plan, I always sinned during difficult times.

Steps I took in the last half a year.

I tried for about 4 months to block my access to porn through different blockers. What was I doing ? I was searching on YouTube or using the dark web - or VPN and I still ended up seeing what I shouldn't.

This time, I made a serious plan.

1. The first nofap attempt since I started counting the days was 2 weeks ago. I lasted 14 days.

The day I lost, I felt devoid of any emotion, I was alone at home and I started watching YouTube. Then, I said to look at a nude picture. I looked for 3 seconds. After 1 hour I said that I'm not watching anything, but I want to enter a video chat site with girls. I said that I can't see, but someone will see me and I'll not sin. After I did that, I felt guilty and realized that all this time, all the substances in the brain were already at high altitudes. I didn't bear myself for the mistakes I made and then I allowed myself for 2 hours to look and do what I want.

Then I decided to start over. This happened yesterday.

2. Yesterday I made a plan. I will present it here. I created a new notebook page with the password on my iPhone. I made a table until day 100. I wrote some tips from "Day 0" for myself to read every day. I made a diary-type structure in which I will have to fill in every day.

RULES

• waking up at 7 o'clock for 1h30 of meditation, prayer and reading the Bible. (mostly meditation)
• I have to tick that I got up in the morning.
• I have to write my thoughts every morning in my diary (I have a special place)
• I have to write my thoughts every night.
• Every evening I have to give myself a grade 1-5, how close I feel to God and a grade from 1 to 5 how likely I think I will stay clean tomorrow.

I hope that this time I will succeed. I am 23 years old and I feel that life is passing me by. I told myself that until I pass the first 30 days, I don't want to think about any girl. I will consider myself clean after 100 days.

To be honest, what I think woke me up to reality is the fact that I am surrounded by girls at church and I feel that none of them attract me. The thought that I was content with pornography scares me. I want to change. I want to be good. I want me to see myself like this. I want to learn to lose, to suffer and to love simplicity.

I am aware that I must love Jesus. And I am trying during this period not to read books about relationships, but about faith.

Ah .. if only I wouldn't lose my confidence. I'm afraid, to admit, that I won't succeed. I don't want to reach just 100 days. I wish I would never do what I did again.

Please pray for me. I do not know what to say. I really want something to change. Of...

Also, if someone wants to help. I think I'll need a buddy to check on me. Thank you !

Hi men - new to the sub. Looking for a resource (book, video, commentary, etc) that can help me improve my ability to vision cast for my family. For context, I am much more day-to-day and detail oriented, and my wife sees better in the big picture.

I am looking to develop my skills in this area to better lead our family and our future. Any help would be appreciated!

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Thanks

I was raised in the church from a very young age. In fact I can’t remember a time where we didn’t go to church or weren’t involved in some children’s and now youth activities. I have 2 older sisters by the way, that’s why I said we. Along with my parents as well. Well 2 months ago, my Dad died in a car accident involving a drunk driver. Also, about a month ago, I just started puberty. I feel like I’ve just been thrown in the deep end, and without my Dad, no life raft, flotation device, I now have no lighthouse for guidance as well. How do I stay strong in my Christian walk and stave off the temptations of the world. Even at 13, I knew my Dad was the best guy in the world. In my eyes he was perfect! Everything a father and husband should be! He was everything that I hope and strive to be. And the best example of a Christian man. He was a Dr, and Surgeon, but for him, family came first! He was never absent and if he said he was going to be somewhere or that we were going to do something, he was as good as his word. We were very close. And now I don’t really know where to turn to for guidance, be it life or Christian walk. Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated

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In 1 Timothy 2:12 NIV it states, " I do not permit women to teach or have authority over a man, she must be silent". Also, in 1 Corinthians 14: 34 it states, "Let your women keep silent in the churches: for it is not permitted for them to speak, but they are commanded to be under obedience."

There are many women preachers in our time, some of my favorite preachers are females. How do Christians reconcile what it says in scripture about women preaching?

I want to grow my hair into a wolf cut where it is longer at the back. Is it okay or should I avoid it?

Hello men. Lifelong Christian for the most part - backslid for a few years. If anyone just needs someone to chat with feel free to message me. DM’s are open.

Luke 11:1-13 New International Version

Jesus’ Teaching on Prayer

11 One day Jesus was praying in a certain place. When he finished, one of his disciples said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray, just as John taught his disciples.”

2 He said to them, “When you pray, say:

“‘Father,[a]
hallowed be your name,
your kingdom come.[b]
3 Give us each day our daily bread.
4 Forgive us our sins,
for we also forgive everyone who sins against us.[c]
And lead us not into temptation.[d]’”

5 Then Jesus said to them, “Suppose you have a friend, and you go to him at midnight and say, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves of bread; 6 a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have no food to offer him.’ 7 And suppose the one inside answers, ‘Don’t bother me. The door is already locked, and my children and I are in bed. I can’t get up and give you anything.’ 8 I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity[e] he will surely get up and give you as much as you need.

9 “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 10 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

11 “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for[f] a fish, will give him a snake instead? 12 Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? 13 If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”

Hey brothers

A girl from work showed me her nudes and now I can't stop thinking about her. I am married with a baby girl and it's the most important thing to me. I thought I was going to see this other chicks body and be done with it but the intimacy I felt when she showed me is ruling over me. I didn't ask. I am the only guy she works with that hasn't tried to have sex with her so she trusts me some backwards reason.

I love my wife and am trying to distance myself from my co worker but the real problem is how hard I am having to fight fantasizing about flirting with her. I seriously can't think straight. The enemy has me pinned here.

Need prayer. Trying to do the right thing.

Hello.

I'm very confused at the moment.

I have struggled with urinary incontinence for a many years. I'm current 32M.

After some embarrassing situations where I basically wet myself while driving multiple times, I sought help from a physio who specializes in pelvic floor therapy.

I had to strip naked and he examined my pelvic area externally and internally (through the anus). And he gave me some exercises. It seems to be helping.

I feel terribly guilty and confused - did I do something wrong?

I've been trying out new churches as I move and all of them have been nothing more than simple "feel good seminars." They seem to be "preaching" non-biblical sermons/lessons found in the common self-help sections of the library and the ideas of secular culture for the purposes of virtue signaling. I dont want to forsake the gathering, but I also don't want to waste my time listening to more "feel good" speeches crafted to keep butts in seats and offering plates full every Sunday. Any ideas on how to find a Christ-like church?

Yeah I think the question is self explanatory. I don't think marriage is the solution but I want to see if maybe I'm wrong.

Hey guys! I created discord channel as a tool to connect, fellowship, and defeat porn. I'm still learning how to manage this and working some kinks out but that'll get better. Here's a description, pretty straight forward: A safe, anonymous place for Christian brothers to fight together in the battle against porn. Proverbs 27:17 says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another." This is a place where men can sharpen each other to overcome in their battle against lust so they can fulfill God's purpose for their life.

https://discord.gg/Rgztgu7c

I have a desire to be married one day, and I know God isn’t just going to set my wife on my lap. I have been actively searching, and thus far every girl I have been interested in has friend zoned me. Either because she doesn’t want to do long distance (going away to college a few hours away), or she just doesn’t want to date (at least that’s what she told me). I am 21 for reference, and I know that I’m still young and have plenty of time, and I don’t mean for this to sound like I’m giving up at all. For me it is important that she is christian (I am church of christ if that makes a difference), and there are no available girls at my church, my main church group I hang out with, and I just started a new job where I work on Sundays sometimes so I attend a different church those Sundays. I don’t see any prospects there for me, they either fall into one of the camps listed above, or they are with someone already. Any advice as to what I should do?

I need to get this out of me, so I guess here I am to share my story so others will try to stay away from porn.

My gf (21f)(Brazilian) and I (25m)(Canadian) are Christians and have been waiting to do the deed when we are married. We have been dating for the past year and a half. But for a long time I have struggled with looking at pornography, and on Sunday, she caught me having it on my phone while we were taking pictures on hike, which absolutely destroyed her. She told me that she wanted to go home and to take my things and leave, which I did without make like she was at fault. I then called my family explaining what had done (my family loves her). I feel so disappointing and disgusted with myself, and I haven’t been shy with telling my close guy friends what happened. I know everyone is disappointed in me.

I also contacted her family telling them that I’m sorry for hurting their sister and daughter. Prior to this, I had built up a really good relationship with the family that I was hoping for one day to call my in-laws. They responded to me with disappointment, but also so much grace that I don’t deserve. Instead of them sending me messages to focus on how I betrayed their family member, they are telling me to grow from this experience and to get closer to God because they know I’m not a bad guy, I just stumbled. They also are going to be supporting her.

The worst part was I was planning to propose on Monday, and yet I still looked at those pictures.

My ex gf (I guess) has been planning to go to Brazil to see her family for the past few months where she leaves today and has to endure roughly 30 hours of travel time, knowing that I betrayed her trust.

I am working on getting better, I no longer have my phone as my alarm and my guy's friends forced me to buy an alarm clock.

Please know that I admit to being in the wrong and take full blame. If you are reading this, please make this your sign to get off of that stuff before this happens to you. You DON'T want the shame I have brought to myself.

Thinking to get involved in Men's ministry. Can you suggest me some Christian Men's blog or website to follow. Thank You.

Im struggling with what i see online! its been a battle for me. how have you overcome this addiction? I have subscribed to TheHealthyDudes Podcast they have helped me along that journey! what about you?

Why if you are in a marriage with someone who loves you and wants to have sex with you do some men still look at other women online and withhold sex and intimacy from their wife? Even when you know how much it will hurt your wife if/when she finds out.

I'm not ugly, I have a high sex drive and have given 100% to being a good wife and yet it's still not enough.

Although this is both of our 2nd marriage, we practiced traditional Christian dating and my husband shamed me for even trying to passionately kiss him as he felt it crossed a biblical line however he had scantily clad women on his social media.

He promised it was a mistake and he didnt know how it got there however it's now came up again for the third time and there was too many this time for it to be a mistake or him not realise it was there. After the first 2 times I was super clear how it made me feel and it was a hard line for me and gave him the chance to walk away multiple times before marriage if it was going to be an issue.

We are only married 6 months, he's not been interested in me sexually at all and now seems happy to throw it all away before he will admit anything and repent.

I just don't get it. What is the attraction to living a fantasy over a really good reality? Help me understand, even if I don't want to hear it.