Mom has full custody of two kids and dad either quit or got fired and now the child support stopped for over 6 months. What should mom do. She makes more than the dad but she has sole custody. Dad got another job 6 months later but now makes less than before. Does he file petition. Does he go to court to ask for modification. Dad threatened to take kids from mom so he doesn’t have to pay.

It's been about three months since the last time I logged into my account. Tonight I decide to only to find out that for some reason I am no longer eligible for E-services. Does anyone have any information regarding this? I emailed customer service, but of course it will be sometime next week before I hear back. The other parent was served in June and that's all I know. I was mailed some documents showing how much I could be owed and that's it. Did my case get closed out before a hearing even happened? I'm so new to this and it's all frustrating.

Cashapp towards child support? I’ve been dating a guy for about 3 months he owes quite a bit in child support because he has 4 kids with his ex. My question is, can you pay on cash app and also is it normal to pay in increments? 700 here 100 here 50 here 1000 here? If that makes sense?

Hello, does anyone have any experience/advice regarding receiving inconsistent child support payments? Money is very tight at the moment, so I’m trying to gather as much informinformation as possible to see if I’m able to handle the situation on my own before/if I need to involve my attorney.

Some background on the situation. There’s already an established order where payments are to be garnished from the other parents paycheck. The other party gets paid biweekly. It alternates a lot. One month I may get 2 payments, another month I won’t receive anything, or on a different month I’ll receive 1 payment. I never know if or when I will be receiving anything and the past due amount keeps increasing.

Last year his tax return was intercepted due the past due amount. This year, even tho the past due amount was significantly higher than the previous year, nothing was intercepted. At the moment, a little over $12k is owed.

He never attempted to help financially before support was ordered so I assumed with the amount owed being deducted directly from his paycheck I would no longer have to deal with the other parent not fulfilling his financial responsibility to our child.

He has held the same well paying job working for his friends family business. A lot of scenarios come to mind, but I’m pretty confused as to the lack of consistency since support is supposed to be deducted directly from his paycheck.

As i mentioned before money is pretty tight & Child Support Dept. let me know that they could not answer any questions since I have an attorney. I’m trying to explore if there is anything I am able to do on my own or if I just go thru my attorney when I am able to.

Any advice or experiences welcomed

Hi, I wondered if anyone can help. My fiance and I were due to get married this month. However, we are now no longer together. I am currently pregnant and moved back to the UK where I am a citizen. My problem is, the father of this child (my ex fiance) is a US citizen living in the USA. He has said he wants nothing to do with us and left me blocked and isolated and unable to contact him for help.

Is there a way to request child support still? I am worried how I will be able to afford this alone. I am now without a home and living with one of my parents until I can get back on my feet.

Is international child support a thing or is it just tough and I have to do this completely alone now?

Many thanks

I was in a situation when I couldn't pay child support I'm getting my arrears paid off as of now . I'm about 1600 in the hole and trying to catch up now that I can work again .which been cutting into time with my two kids. I always hear oh you need to do this and that but I literally live at work and can't do anything about it . I just hope my kids forgive me and really upset about it . I can barely pay for my living expenses as it is and I have two other kids in my custody I Pay for as well and I don't know what to do . I wanted to see if there was anyway to get the court to drop the back pay any since the situation I was in was terrible and I couldn't work cause I had no child care for my other two atm . I think I'm more upset my other two kids will hate me for not being there more and the other parent won't even consider dropping it at all . They live in low income and all that and I don't. So I pay a ton .

I need some advice on how I should proceed with my child support case. My baby’s dad has been absent seen I was freshly pregnant. He has denied paternity to our baby and threatened to kill himself if I kept the baby. So I decided to avoid contact with him until the baby was born to file for child support and he has failed to attend mediations therefore it’s gone to court. Before I filed, our conversations consisted of him wanting a dna test but he always just argues and never schedules any appointments to get it done. Now that I am going through with child support he threatened that once dna test comes back and “if it’s his” ( still in denial) that he’ll take the baby from me. I am wondering if I need a lawyer or if the judge will look at him and laugh if he tried to take custody. Any thoughts?

Hi.

So I divorced couple years ago and my ex has never paid me child support or any expenses that was on divorce decree. I just gave up because I didn’t want to deal with him anymore and just let it sit.

Now my ex wants to pay me child support but I do not trust him so asked him if he can pay through the child support enforcement agency. I guess he made initial payment but I have never ever get any notice from agency. So I tried to reach out with various methods like phone, email or any but did not get response. Finally, I got call from them and saying that “we will send letter to the address on file.”but I have moved right after divorce decree was signed. Without the documentation, I cannot do anything: change address, link the bank or totally any. I told them I moved and cannot receive any mail to the old one but they only say “we will send letter to the address on file.”

What can I do at this point. Can I just be like receive payment directly from ex which I even dont want to contact him and I don’t trust him so.

My ex husband and I got married in Santa Clara County, CA, had two children during the marriage in the same county, got divorced in this county, and I have custody of the children in the same county. After I filed for divorce, he immediately moved to Arizona (Maricopa County) and abandoned the kids in every way. It's been 11 years, and he doesn't visit them, pays no child support, doesn't pay his ordered portion of healthcare, etc. There has been a child support order since 2017, when I got tired of asking him to help out. He will do anything to dodge process servers. Child Support Services here has been trying to track him down for enforcement but it has been a cycle with no end. I'm recently disabled, and it's no longer easy for me to take care of the kids myself. He is a 2 strike felon, and his lack of support is felonious at this point. He owes my children almost $100k. How can I get Maricopa County to help bring him to justice? I'm pretty tenacious, but he is a professional con man.

I recently had child support modified from $120 to $800 a month. I receive $379 every two weeks. I see that it says overall balance is -$137 but then it says still due this month is $61. Just not sure how this works. I never fully get the whole $800. On my paper it says $800 monthly and $80 for arrears.

Hi. I was told to post here by the mods at r/coparenting (apparently this question is OT in that sub). My ex and I have 50/50 legal and physical custody. She pays for his insurance and handles most medical issues. Both of us handle extracurriculars. We split extracurriculars 50/50. For uncovered medical, we split 64/36 for all expenses over $450 in a calendar year.

I want to set up a simple system where both of us can enter expenses, have them categorized, and send the other a monthly invoice. For the medical, I was thinking I could set up a retainer of $450. By doing so, I'll get invoices showing how much is charged against the $450, and once it is exhausted, it will show me the amount due.

Most importantly, I don't want this to be an added burden for her because I know when something is cumbersome, she is less likely to use the system. I just want to make sure there is a proper accounting of all of the expenses, and I want to avoid the repeated requests for small payments.

Best I can come up with is the Harvest App for $24/mo. I used this at a previous employer, so I know I can set it up properly. Still, it isn't cheap, and that app has a lot of features that we will never use as it is primarily used for time tracking.

Does anyone have a suggestion for an app? We currently use a shared Gmail calendar for coordinating schedules. That works fine, but something with a calendar could also be helpful, especially if it syncs with G-calendar.

Thanks.

My finance 34(m) is looking for a child support lawyer to assist him in his current case. He hasn’t been in and out of work in the last few years and is really behind on child support payments. Against everyone’s judgment he’s still provided for his son outside of support payments by buying back to school clothes, paying doctor co pays, buying all of his Christmas gifts, paying for birthday parties, and sending money for the miscellaneous things he needs or his child’s mother asks for. Now they are currently at odds and she is pressing for child support to arrest him for all of his outstanding support payments. He is willing to make the payments and get on track with repaying the arrears. He’s got two pending job offers and is doing his best he has two other children he also has to provide for who are not on child support he deals with their parents directly. All that being said legal aid does not assist in child support cases and as unfortunate as it is to pay a lawyer when that money could be going to his son it’s what needs to happen to ensure he can continue to provide and be present for his kids.

I know this is a thing in few states, but I was wondering if I can try for putting my child’s father murderer on child support. He was killed back in April of this year, they caught the guy about 2 months. I don’t know when his trial his, I don’t really care for nothing about this dude, I’m just presented with an unfair situation where I’m now a struggling single mom of 1 who suddenly doesn’t have the help of my better half. If he’s in prison, what more can I do? How would that work if he’s locked away for life and I need help keeping a roof over my daughter?

My ex and I have recently separated and we are awaiting a support hearing but I was told that the parents who have the most overnights may determine support. I have my child all day and she sleeps with her father over night before I pick her up in the morning since I work from home. Does that make a difference, is the overnight thing even true?

My step daughters father is about $4k behind in child support. He usually makes small payments here and there of about $100 but hasn't paid anything for more then 3 months. My wife went to the child support office and basically told her there's not much they can do about it, I guess since he's a truck driver and uses a W-9 it's harder to track his pay or garnish. She's now 10 and is in sports, we asked him to help with her sign up fees and small things to do with her sports and he agrees to but never comes through with the money. We're out of ideas on what to do, does anyone have any advice ? Thank you!

My sons father wants nothing to do with our son and I filled out my CS app but my sons father doesn’t work. He has 4 other kids. Will they grant me child support? Is it worth it to even go through with it ?

Apologies, this is a long one.

My ex husband has been court ordered to pay child support on our three children since 2020. In September of 2023, he got fired from his job after they found his previous domestic violence charge on his background check. He has since found a new job working at a gun range (I know, that's exactly where he needs to be) but he has not resumed payments. He is now almost $15,000 in arrears. I've been talking to the OAG every week or so, for several months.

At first, it was "We need to send a delinquency letter, and he has 30 days to respond." They did this three times. He never responded. Then it was "We need to send a verification of employment letter, and they have 30 days to respond." Again, three times. No response, so they can't take it out of his paycheck. He is supposed to update his address with the OAG within 30 days of moving. He moved into an apartment with his girlfriend and her children. I do not have the updated address that he's supposed to give me, per court order. OAG does not have his updated address.

I am saving all conversations with OAG about my case. Now when I ask for an update, which is supposed to be getting signed off by an attorney for enforcement court date, all they can say is "We haven't received an update, we can send a referral for an update for them to update you."

I've been going on and on and on with OAG for months now about this problem. He's still over 1 year behind, hasn't paid since September of 2023. He did not file his taxes for the year 2023. (He's told me this, in a text message, which I have saved.) He's actively doing what he can to avoid the OAG getting hold of him.

What can I do, legally, and how can I get these payment to start again? I'm trying to be patient with OAG, I understand it's a lot of cases and not enough people with not enough paychecks. I get it. But I'd be lying if I said I wasn't at my wits end. I had to ask my family for money to pay my rent this month because he's fallen so far behind and my son eats everything in sight.

TL;DR - He's behind on payments and OAG is dragging ass. What do?

I filed for child support last year in which i was granted a temporary order. Now we are coming up to do a final order and the non custodial parent has been fired (i believe he quit) from his job in which he was making 30k more than me. He has since fractured his leg at the gym and now says he can’t work until that’s fixed and it may require surgery. I am now worried that since he is unemployed i will have to ordered to pay him CS even though i really cannot afford it and i have our son more. Has anyone experienced this and can offer advice on how this might work out??

I’m not looking for validation but honest feedback. I see both sides of the coin when it comes to child support.

DCS estimates, based on our incomes alone, that my ex should pay $850/mo child support. He makes $120k and I make $80k. We’ve always split daycare and medical bills evenly and I pay for medical insurance. While ex does make significantly more, he also has a $1000 truck payment and the camper we purchased is in his name. (I don’t have debt.) We both own the home, though he is the only one on the mortgage. I paid the whole down payment and he has been paying the mortgage for 3 years (while I pay all other bills and half the groceries).

We’ve done counseling and I fought for our relationship for a long time, but frankly I find him insufferable anymore. He’s emotionally abusive and I just want out. He’s been saying I’m taking everything from him and making ridiculous threats out of anger. I don’t want to fight with him anymore. For this reason, I am giving up the house and am going to be moving with our toddler in to a 1 bedroom apartment because it is all I can afford (and that is budgeting with $600/mo child support, which I plan to ask for because it is the bare minimum I can get by on). I am also not asking for anything from the house at this time, though I am hoping he will at least give me what I invested at some point as we have already built significant equity. (This factors in to my decision to give some leniency with child support so he doesn’t screw me over.)

He’s already been paying the mortgage but will now have to do start paying utilities and the camper payment of $250. We keep finances separate so I don’t know what all he has or spends but I know he loves to shop and drops money like it’s going out of style. He’s going to say he can’t afford support. Maybe it will leave him strapped or without the disposable income he is used to, but he’s at least keeping our 3bdrm home which is a huge financial gain in the long run. I’m going to have our child most of the time. Should I be gracious and live paycheck to paycheck so my son and I can live peacefully in a 1 bedroom apartment and not feel like guilty for making life hard for my ex? I can see both sides and I don’t want to take advantage, but I also think I should be able to provide at least a modest 2 bedroom apartment for our son or put a small amount aside for unexpected expenses.

*Where we live, a modest 1 bedroom apartment is $2k minimum and even that is hard to find in safe areas.

Thanks for reading my long post and appreciate your thoughts!

Just got a job overseas contracting for another country's government. I will still be a US citizen working under a work visa getting paid in their currency. I was curious if those wages are accounted for if my ex-wife puts me on child support. I already planned on giving her more then what I make a month now once I started the position. I do plan on getting this on paper before I leave. Thanks for any advice.

During my fiancés divorce, no child support was ordered. He has full custody, mom gets every other weekend, he used to make around 100k and she probably made min wage. He lost his job two years ago and took a job making much less money (about 76k) and wants to file for child support now, as it has been difficult for us to provide for them. Can he do that or does he have to go back thru the courts?

My husband and I are separating. The child I had during our marriage is not biologically his. However, because we are married, the state will hold him responsible for child support since he is the legal father. What are the steps (without a lawyer) to show the courts that he is not biologically the father? Its not fair to have him pay for child support.

Single never married to mom. But I was getting things together to take mom to court to put myself on child support. I pay the kids child care, medical and personal expenses. And I send her money for the kids bi weekly. And They are with be half of the week every week. She refuse to pay a dime. We got into a shouting match because she paid $10 for the kids field trip because she wanted her $30 back. I was feed up.🙄 So late September I get blindsided by a message from her she’s getting put out her place and the kids can stay with me permanently till she get a new place by December- Jan. They haven’t seen her since September. Come today she call me saying she want them back when she get a new place.

Honestly this has been the best peace I’ve had having my kids full time. Kids are doing much better in school! Having less issues at daycare.

She don’t call and check in with them. And she don’t keep them any since she got put out. Her situation has been so unstable. She has issues keeping her household bills paid. Its points when she gets the water and power cut off due to failed payments. And the kids have to stay with me. It’s always something!

I really wanted my kids custodian guardianship changed. I know it’s very complicated for dad to get full custody. Would this be a challenge?

Hi all, I’m wondering if anyone can help me determine an accurate calculation for CS. This is new to me, like probably everyone else who posts.

Basically we have verbal agreement on 50/50 custody which I appreciate. I don’t know if I’m giving her too much or too little atm but I feel like I’m on the high side. We’re at a point where she’s saying she doesn’t want anything and she won’t come after me for it. For one, I have a moral compass and I should support my child and I’m going to. So I’m going to send her the cash via etransfer every month. If it comes back unaccepted, I’m going to put it in a dedicated account and probably invest it for him or until she decides she wants it. I don’t trust her and I want to have it put aside. I make good money but this mess has made my life twice as expensive. I don’t want to put away too much or too little and be as accurate as I can. I have both of our gross incomes and I have a few questions. Anyone willing to help and DM me?

Hi!

To be clear, I have been unemployed since Nov 2023, the job hunt has been cruel and I have no village. Dad works a FT job at 32 an hour and only has the kiddo on the weekends.. Since my job hunt, I am extremely limited, esp over the summer vacation months.

I am now just learning from a close friend that there is talk he is "going out on his own" via business, coincidently 3 months after I filed for Child Support.

I am so anxious, this is what has happened since i filed. I sent messages through the portal and was told to keep waiting on updates and it can take 7-8 months.

Randomly, I get a phone call from CS offices, the woman asked me to verify some basic information, explained I would receive forms to fill out and the hearing would be done over zoom. She stated she would be contacting the father to confirm his address and do the same.

This was a month or so ago, and the job change with my childs father I am being told is current (today). I also see his business page with him advertising.

Can anyone give me insight on what this means for the courts? Ways I can cover my ass in the case he tries to fudge his current income or past income?

Anything I may have left out, feel free to ask.

Asking for a friend. After many years of not really using secondary physical custody, 16 year old wants to be 50/50 with dad and dad claims he will get child support dropped without usage of lawyers. Parents income are not too far apart. If it were me I would just ignore the comments about support this late in the game and focus on the best visitation schedule for the child. Is dad right or is he just being a bully?

My significant other had been notified by the wvbcse that he paid all his child support to his kid since paying through paycheck withdrawals until his son graduated high school. The bcse in West Virginia sent him a letter after his son's graduation that they were closing the case and sent that to his work to stop income withholding. Then his son's mother wasn't happy about losing child support payments and requested an audit. The office sent out a notification that an audit was requested but his child support balance is still Zero. Should he be concerned or is she just trying too hard?

My biological father has never once paid child support....I'm 17....what would I be able to do about this

I am the custodial parent. Non custodial parent is in arrears significantly. They started a new job in another state and Texas garnished. Non custodial parent claims money was taken out of check 10/20. It is 10/28 and I have not received the money. This order has been in place since 2018 and it has not taken this long in the past. Is this abnormal or have I just been lucky previously?

I filed for child support a couple of months ago and waiting for a court hearing. My kids dad has consistently made between 80k-100k a year for the past 5 or 6 years. Since I filed he’s conveniently been “fired” and plans to draw unemployment and take a few months off work. How will this affect child support?