Hello,

I am writing to ask for your help as my family and I are in a very difficult situation. Since October, my husband, our two children, and I have been sick. Unfortunately, my husband’s sick leave pay has not been issued, leaving us with very little income. In September and October, we had unexpected car repairs, which drained our finances.

We spent a lot of money on medications, and to make matters worse, our very old refrigerator broke down. We tried to patch it up, but it’s not working properly anymore. We wanted to take out a loan, but I can’t apply because I’m not working (due to taking care of the children), and my husband’s salary is deposited into my account, which makes him ineligible for a loan as well.

Right now, some of our bills remain unpaid, and we only have enough food for about 4 more days. I am desperately asking for any help you can provide. Even the smallest amount would mean the world to us.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read my story and for considering helping us.

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Hello Reddit I’m wondering about my child support if I should be paying it separately or not. What’s happening is I just found out they’ve been garnishing my wages. Also this whole time I’ve been paying 300$ what I thought was the child support agreement by money order. Can someone tell me what’s going on or does this happen even? Is it common? Or am I paying more than I need to?

I was pretty disheartened to learn that my oldest kiddo’s child support case was completely dropped when he was 12.

I filed for child support when he turned 2 and it became clear his dad was calling less and less and essentially disappearing.

There is a federal law that if there is no contact or payments for 10 years straight, the child support is completely dropped clean. If I am able to locate him myself, I’m welcome to try and open a new child support order. My child is now 17.

When the child support order was dropped (Virginia and NH interstate), the arrears were $40,000. Now, everything regarding the case has vanished from records online.

Is the ONLY way to try and recoup some of my child care costs during that time is to try and privately find him and sue him? That will exhaust me of funds I desperately need without any child support. Again, online it shows there is no longer a case nor any arrears due to me.

I do have two other kiddos but their support arrears is over $20k and I am assuming will also be completely dropped without any payments.

Has anyone else been here? We are facing a second eviction, and my state does not enforce child support. So far, no lawyer will help me with a child support case. I do call my state’s CS unit very regularly, but they will not return my calls at all.

My ex husband also rushed to use my kids social security numbers on his own taxes before I filed, which he said left him a $9k refund and myself a $3k payment due to the IRS. I am on a payment plan for it that I can’t afford, and as soon as it is tax time again he will race me to do it again.

Any advice would be so appreciated during this terribly tough holiday season. Thank you!

Has anyone been place in child Support while still leaving together with their partner. Recently, I got a court order form my wife to place me in child support while we live together under the same roof. She works, but she doesn’t contribute in anything I pay the mortgage, I pay all the bills and buy the grocery plus anything that a kid needs like clothes etc, also I have our child in in my medical insurance. I keep record of all my receipts, mortgage and bills. She works full-time and doesn’t help with anything. She’s also seeking spousal support in addiction to the child support.

Has anyone gone through this before and how did it went or what should I expect?

Long story short, my wife applied for food stamps and they tried to put me on child support for it. We received letters and since then we’ve called The child support offices to discontinue all benefits and close the case. they said an agent would reach out within 60 days. Today i received a letter in the mail that says they cannot close the case because we’ve receive or have received Temporary cash assistance in the past..which we have not. Even on the EBT app, the cash balance is 0.00 and always has been.. can anyone make light of this for me, before i call the office again?

Here’s what the letter says- “We cannot close your case because you receive temporary cash assistance or received cash assistance from the State of Florida in the past and money is owed to the State. You will still receive services from us. If you received cash assistance from the State of Florida in the past, once the money owed to the State has been paid, we will close the case. We will still send you all support owed to you”

My ex is in arrears now over totaling 8 months of support, he already agreed to an arrangement with the DMV almost. A year ago but he has failed to pay for almost 1 month and last month didn’t even meet the regular support requirement.

I called the support office and they said his license is suspended as of 11/12 due to defaulting on the dmv payment arrangement. However I called the precinct and they said his license is good….

Does anyone have any info on how long it would usually take for the license to get suspended? Or if he has a certain amount of time to pay back half the arrears and enter into a new dmv arrangement?

From what I understand California does not have a statute of limitations for collecting past-due child support. My mother tried collecting child support from my father in 1989 but couldn't due to him using someone else's SSN and always changing his address. Now with the help of TruePeopleSearch she found his information and wants to finalize child support onto my father. How would she go about doing this? Thanks in advance folks..

This is gonna sound really dumb, my BM signed up for government aid and I pretty much had to pay it back (long story short she committed fraud and OD’d we weren’t even separated but fighting for Custody of 3 young kids). The last 3 months I figured with tax season coming up I’d just let it stack and have them take it from my taxes which they did in full. But not I’m stuck with 699 credit score and dumbly didn’t know it was going to affect me in that way. They returned a large portion of my payments like 4-5 grand since I guess they took out extra but unsure how to dispute this or if I even can? Any advice would help

the co-parent(mother), and I (father) wrapped up our child support case today. we signed a affidavit on stipulation / agreement with our agreement and avoided seeing a judge.

On the agreement, it states that I agree to continue to “maintain private health care, including dental and vision”.

In the case of co-pays/deductible, do I have to cover that as well? it’s a grey area as it’s not very clear. Or isn’t that one of the very reasons why the mother is even receiving child support to begin with?

I filed for child support over a year ago and I’m just now hearing back from them. Court is in the next few months and I’m nervous to say the least. My ex is a former police officer and knows the ins and outs of the court system. We both have full time jobs, but he works a schedule that allows him to choose his hours and pay (like an overtime pay but for every shift) while mine is a set schedule and pay. We have 1 child together, and I have a second older child. I asked for child support because I’m the one paying health insurance, clothing, schooling (especially when they were going to a different school in another state and driving them back and forth to school), dentist, doctors etc. I have my own place and rent is outrageous. I pay for necessities and non necessities, sports, extracurriculars.

Im nervous because I got the question “what if it doesn’t turn out the way you want it to? What if you have to pay?” And I’ve been spiraling since then (I know that sounds assholish of me to say), but I take care of my kids. I would go without to see them happy. There’s nothing I wouldn’t do for them. I struggle pay check to paycheck to pay for the basics. He lives with his parents, he doesn’t have to pay for gas (he drives his parents cars he has a motorcycle instead of a car for her), for rent, for clothing for her, he works on a farm with his parents on top of working full time. I have texts where he says he makes more than me and then complains that he shouldn’t have to pay for school supplies when I owe him back “baby sitting” money for raising my son for years while we were together… I have receipts for everything I’ve bought, because I keep everything just incase. I feel like I’m coming across this the asshole way, but I’ve never dealt with someone like him before. Someone who knows the cops and sheriffs in his state. Someone who knows their way around the court system and knows what to say. Someone who threatens the “you have one of two options,” “I would suggest you not do that or…” I have genuine fear of this man, he has laid hands on me and our child before, and I have a kid with him.

There’s so much involved in this other than just child support and I’m freaking out. I don’t have anyone else I can talk to or ask questions about this because everyone else has been amicable with their partners when they split and came up with some sort of conclusion. I just need some advice.

Isnt a company legally responsible to take out child support from a persons paycheck if they have received an order to do so?? My wife’s ex, has worked at 2 places where she hasn’t received anything and it’s been believed that the company (Marriott and Wyndham) just plain ignored it and didn’t take any money out. Her ex owes in excess of $30k and thinks he doesn’t have to help out with his 3 kids.

my ex-lawyer filed a proposed child support order after parentage was established but the proposal was not signed by a judge. the thing is I was ordered to pay cs through the disbursement unit but upon trying to do that i could not make payment because a court order was not in effect and no account was created for me to pay into

my question is do i have to make payment through expert pay and be hope to be credited for it in the future or would this be considered a gift buy the court?

So I received tanf for a total of. $1000 from June to November . Nc parent just stated Payingn child support . $600 went straight to the state so I cancelled my tanf of 158:month . Well child support and Dcf are saying I owe 2100 to the state before I see any child support and keep running me around saying the other department has the breakdown . I’m starting to believe child support as Dcf is the entity that issues the benefits why wouldn’t they have the breakdown , my issue is that there is a discrepancy. Also Dcf has messed up many many times on me in the past year .

Does anyone know ? Short of going to the office which is hard since I’m car less in a rural area . I also wrote my congress person which helped with my Dcf issue last time when they kept denying me for no reason .

Someone on here said contact the attorney general does anyone know how I go about doing that in Florida ? Thank you for your time .

I close the tanf case effective the end of the month so hopefully I see the $600/month soon . It’s just crazy to me that they would take this whole balance without giving anything to my child . I didn’t plan to end up in a domestic violence situation with nothing with my first child after working for 20 years full time I don’t work the system I just needed a little help to get back on my feet my child is autistic 3 so I also couldn’t work so it’s been really hard .

I (24f) share about 56/44% custody for a three year old. Me and the father were never married, so technically I am the custodial parent. I handle health/insurance, 100% of the childcare, and am the one to take and pay for extra curriculars. I’m also the one to take him to all of his doctors and dentist appointments, as well as picking up his asthma medication. I live at home with family and pay minimal rent.

The issue is that when the father and I split about six months ago he willingly offered to pay $300/month, but in the time we’ve been apart I have received $300 in total. I make about $2200/mo including tips. My child’s dad makes about $4900/mo as far as I know (74k salary), not including monthly bonuses.

He’s been out of town three times in the past 6 months, has said he doesn’t feel he should help with daycare costs because it’s not utilized on his days, and usually brings our kiddo back in clothes too small while keeping the clothes he was sent in that I’ve bought.

I work 30 hours a week, two days when I have my son for 6hours and open-close Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays. Due to the high cost of living, I started looking for second jobs to fill the 10 hour gap so me and little one can eventually have our own space, however that would mean I’d have to take my kiddo to school every day he’s with me since I already work open-close the days he’s with his dad, giving me no availability on those days. If I theoretically got a second job I would take off Sundays to avoid working 7 full days a week. I told him the situation, and suggested I take our kiddo every other Sunday morning instead d of at 6pm so I could have a full day. BD said no, he’s not willing to lose out on that time but said we can map out a different schedule.

My issue is that if I’m working 6 days a week, and in previous conversations he’s refused to make any schedule adjustments because we chose it based on the hours he was working Monday-Thursday (my current days), then that only leaves Sunday for me to spend a full day with our son anyway so there doesn’t seem to be an alt. schedule that would allow me to even remotely have the same time as I do now. He has not given me any alternative schedules that he would be willing to worth with as of yet. . I told him he could either give me every other Sunday, and continue to pay the $300 a month like we agreed (which he doesn’t pay anyway), or he pays me more so I don’t need to get a second source of income. His response to that was: “no, absolutely not to either of those options”.

So at this point I’m not sure if I’m wrong to take him to court. He takes him every week 8pm on Thurs and drops off at 6 pm every Sunday. So he’s not absent in our child’s life, which I’m so grateful for, but I can’t help but feel it’s unfair that I’d have to lose out on a min of 16 hours a WEEK for a second job, and he can’t spare me about 8 hours every other week. The people in my life are encouraging me to take him to court but I’d like more opinions on the matter

Hello, what happens if the non custodial parent filed to put himself on child support and for rights for the children and then he decides that he doesn’t want to go through with it because we have decided to figure it out without the courts involved? What happens if we both don’t don’t show up to the hearing? I did not receive any calls about the court and it’s tomorrow morning at 8 and I have an appointment I can’t miss or reschedule. He said he’d call and I said I could talk to them also.

CS unable to contact ex’s employer in AZ and is now proceeding with state withholding after confirming postal address. What does this mean?? How does this work?

What is federal offset mean? It’s showing a date of July 2, 2024 and I don’t understand it. This happened twice fyi this year (2 different dates)

My ex and I split in 2016 and I moved in with my father for a year. When we went to child support mediation, I was working part time and had no rent or other expenses. He was working both a full time and a part-time job, although they didn't consider his second job as income. He could cover their health insurance through his employer, and then had to pay $236 (for 2 children) every 2 weeks.

Mid-way through 2017, I got my own apartment at about $1000 (it's now $1450) a month, plus utilities and food... but never had children support adjusted.

I remarried 2 years ago and we make combined about 80k a year. I want to go back to child support because we want the kids on our insurance, which is way better than what they have and we're already paying a family plan. He doesn't want to do that because he would have to lay pay more in support... but wouldn't it would be the amount he contributed to the HMO?

I'm wondering if I should have taken him back to child support office after I was living on my own, before marriage, for additional support? Will the amount he owes go up or down if I'm married, expenses have gone up, and we want the kids on our Health insurance.

I should mention I technically have full custody and they visit "at my discretion". We never went to a custody agreement hearing because shortly after we separated my oldest son called 911 when his dad wouldn't wake even if shaken and the EMS and police said he was black out drunk and had also driven with the kids in the car shortly before the call. So he never asked for any parental rights

Mom has the child mostly, I get every other weekend. Div in 2017. Joint Custody. I make $65,000. Moms income unknown but may be more. She drives a Mercedes. Does the court considers Mom income? In this case? Or only at mine? I also have $220,000 K in student debt and $260,000 Home loan. Please advise?

Currently have been trying to get child support from ex husband in the state of Virginia. I have been working with a caseworker for the Virginia department of child services and she just keeps sending the same form over and over after I’ve given her information of new location family members etc this has been over a 3 year process. I would like to know what other options do I have to get this child support order pushed through with out using dept of child support.

So my mom divorced my dad 5 years ago. At the time we were living in Morocco (her country) When my mom tried to serve him divorce papers he packed his bags and fled the country ( he's American) Not a dime from him since. Now my mom did get legally divorced and the judge did decree how much money each child would receive, but my dad hasn't been forced to pay becouse he lives in another country. This has completely destroyed my life Instead of finishing highschool and going to college I had to abandon that plan and work to support my mom and siblings (mom is physically disabled) I work long hours with miserable people and I'm at my wits ends. Is there a way to get my dad to pay child support so I can go back school?

Does anyone know what wage amount is input if a parent is unemployed? I know they do it based on your potential to earn, but I've heard a couple different things from people I know.

Things I've heard:

Minimum wage ($7.25) x hours per week (20) & Minimum wage ($7.25) x hours per week (40)

Me and ncp (non custodial parent) have a scheduled zoom call coming up with the CSO (child support officer) and I honestly don't know what to expect during the call and I'm the type of person who panics if I don't have all the information I need ahead of time and I'm so nervous, my ex is unemployed at the moment but I honestly have no complaints with him he buys almost anything the kids need and when not out of state he spends his days with his kids every single day picks them up from school anyway I need him to pay medical support at least for the kids since they are on Medicaid I'm not seeking monetary support since he already helps me out and hes been giving me for whatever the kids need since we split and I haven't explained the situation to him fully he wasn't really aware of the situation I barely let him know anyway I don't know how to go about explaining that to the CSO and what they will ask me ugh things like this get me nervous pls help!

NCP(me) $71,250 salary. Pays between $1200-1800 a month in support. Has kids, boy and girl, every Wednesday after school to 8pm, and Friday after school through Sunday 8pm.

CP Voluntarily unemployed Married and has 3rd child with husband, roughly 80k gross pay. Kids are on husband's insurance due to better coverage.

To preface, I only have one bio kid with CP. The other is her's from a previous relationship, but I have been involved in the child's life since she was roughly 18mos, she will soon be turning 14. I do plan on adopting her when she either turns 18 or her bio father gives up his rights. He is not involved in any manner, physical or financial.

Since we separated, never married, 7 or 8 years ago, we've been on a verbal agreement about support and visitation. It started with $100 a week and the same visitation/overnights listed about. Over the years, due to cost of living, the amount has increased to $300. Visitation has started becoming an issue with CP since I have entered a relationship. Though I fight to keep it the same.

Lately things have become more intense with me trying to stick to a payment schedule so I can best handle my bills. I chose Friday as it is the day I get paid, bi-weekly, and tried to rationalize that if we went through the courts, Friday would probably be the day of payment regardless. CP argues that she needs it when she needs it.

There has also been increased arguing that I won't help her finance any activities she wants to do with the kids. I claim that because I do not ask for money when I decide to take the kids out, say the movies or to the beach, that I should not be helping her finance these activities because it is something she is choosing to do with them. I could be wrong about this.

Extracurriculars have normally been paid for by me. Son did soccer for a few years, now doing hockey. Daughter does dance. I am not covering dance this year because they, daughter and CP, decided to change schools. I felt the program was inferior to the previous school and the value was not there. Equipment for dance was still provided by me.

I am getting to the point with all the arguing, which has increased since entering a relationship a year ago, and the gaslighting from CP saying I am spiting the kids and only hurting them, that I am considering going through the court over support, visitation, and potentially no contact unless emergency, with CP.

I know I most likely will lose time with the kids and probably will have to pay more. CP is currently in a household of 6, and there is only 1 real income, not including CP's mom's SS benefits. I just don't know what my options really are and whether or not I'll only get hurt more by going through the system.

My ex & I have a set amount that needs revision. I became a student since separating & have to work PRN to accommodate my schedule. He is asking for a reduction in pay as I voluntarily reduced my hours. I won’t even go into my feelings about that. My question is - they are recalculating CS from an income that is expired when I was working full time. I’m being told he won’t go for recalculating based on my new income because it was a voluntary reduction. To be clear! I never asked for more child support. He is asking to pay less, but I make less so I thought he would be shooting himself in the foot. Can someone explain the legality of this to me?

Simple - mortgage is paid from rent. Do I pay CS from the amount left after paying the rent of the property or do they consider the total amount of rent for example. $3000 rent and mortgage $2700. I pay $300 x20% or $3000 x20% ?

Please don't be mean. I'll cry.

My daughter and I moved to Tx( my home state) from Tn in 2013. Her dad and I ended things and we left with his blessing. We broke up shortly after the move. Part of the reason I left was because he was on drugs( I didn't know until after my daughterwas born), couldn't get clean and cheated. He has never given me child support. I've always provided for my girl. I have never gone after it.

I got married in 2015 and have been married ever since. My husband is a wonderful provider and I also work. Thinking of how much college is going to be makes me want to try to get her child support. They have no contact. Except a few texts SHE sends him and he will respond sometimes.

Is that possible to get back child support? What where do I start if I can? Will I have to go to TN for any of it? She isn't interested in going to TN because she doesn't know him and she is scared of being around someone she doesn't know. Would she have to visit him?

Please please be kind. I am not that tough. Thank you very much even if you can't help me.

How do I file a petition for retroactive child support?

My son’s bio dad has been living under the radar for years to avoid his contempt issue and bench warrant. I finally located his current employer (also his significant other who owns the small business). I sent the information out to the child support office a few months ago, and they sent a request to confirm his employment/garnish his wages. I called today and got an update that they reached out to the employer and they stated they are not associated with him and they do not work there.

I have social media screenshots that highlight his work, and I recently had him served for petition to modify custody at that address. The process server wore a body camera which shows him at that location, actively working, when the process server walked in. I called child support services to inform them of the proof I have, and am waiting for a call back.

My question is, what happens when an employer lies to the state about their employee to avoid child support? Have anyone seen something like this before? What can the state/child support do?

I have child visitation and modification trial on Friday and just got ex's financial info. He's trying to make a claim that this year he is going to make $10k less than he did last year. He works OT and has control on the amount of OT he works and can manipulate his OT to show a lower income (he's known all year he was moving so he's had time to plan). He's the type of person to purposefully lower his income to get lower CS. What will the court do? Will they accept his lower income? Will they meet him in the middle? My income has increased, which I reported and filed the correct documents to show my current income. My OT is very limited and I normally have to take credit hours, comp time or travel comp instead of OT.