So recently I was a bit drunk and ordered a bunch of sissy stuff online(hell i am alredy drunk as I am typinhg this), like my first cage, stockings, and a bunch of other stuff, it is already on the way so cannot cancel it (not like I would have wanted to anyways), I am very excited and waiting till the package arrives and have decided to edge myself till it comes, it should arrive in about 4 days, (the longest I have gone without an orgasm is about 7 days and it was because I was in a summer camp that too almost 5 years ago), but this time I have my own room and am alone for 80% of the day, I dont know how I am going to get through this.
I have seen many girls having a sissy gasm with a cage on here, and it turned the hell out of me, so my main aim is to edge till my spiked cage arrives and then have a sissygasm while wearing it, I konw it is going to be basically impossibe to have one on my first try, but I have vowed to not jerkoff and only orgasm via anal stimulation from now on.

Feel free to dm for any advice you might have.

I think the idea of being caged makes me dumber. My wife mentioned last week that we would have some alone time this Friday. I asked if she wanted me to lock up and she said "Yes, we should have some playtime then". I went and lock on my cage and was fine. Yesterday, several days after, I mention how it will be great to have sex with her Friday. She told me that she never agreed to sex only that there would be playtime. I'm an idiot. She slapped me on the ass and sent me to work.

It's not like it's the first time she fooled me either. She takes advantage of me being stupid when imagining chastity all the time. Anyone else get dumber when dealing with being locked?

I’m 26 gay, and super interested in being locked up by someone. I’m really into the idea of having an older bro or daddy type to cage me and make me take glory hole cock and go crusing whenever I can to take dick and loads. Only thing is what are the rule usually between a caged and the key holder? Is it a serious relationship or more just a sex thing? Im just confused on how exactly this usually plays out and what the dynamic is like.

Hi Everyone,

Just wanted to reach out and ask whether anyone else has a similar mindset as myself.

I am locked 24/7 unlocked only once a week for hygiene and a ruined orgasm for prostate health. My partner and keyholder Cucks me so she does not miss out on Dick.

But I am afraid of full orgasms... the subdrop/PNC actually makes me feel quite depressed, I am not ashamed of things it's like after a full orgasm I just sink into a sadness that only goes away after an hour or so... but the hour or so is bad enough that I genuinely, honestly am okay with ruined orgasms for the rest of my life... while I may only get 10% of the in-the-moment satisfaction I get zero subdrop/PNC.

Not only that but I think due to this as a double whammy I have fetishized the idea of never cumming again (and honestly really really love the few times my Goddess jokes about me not allowed to cum) - so I have validated my aversion I guess.

My questions are; is this unhealthy? Should it be something I need to face? Is it selfish? Does anyone else have similar outlooks?

A few weeks ago, I gave a friend my keys. In this case, I was having caged orgasms nearly daily for about a month, and I wanted someone to help me get back into longer stretches of denial. He’d held them for a few weeks at a time in the past (always “Sir” when he’s got them), so we already had an established routine. He was more than happy to help. :)

My task yesterday was to put the lockbox with his key on my desk in my home office, so that I could look at it all day and reflect on the fact that I’m owned by him and I won’t be orgasming for a long time. He encouraged me to write about it, which was the genesis of this post.

Even as [insert first name], he’s an amazing guy, and we get along really well. Similar lifestyles, similar jobs, similar kinks… I’ve offered to be his sub more than once 🤤. At least once I told him, “If you asked me for my keys permanently and to wear your collar, I’d say yes,” and his response was, “I know. 😈”. He really knows how to push my buttons…

In the past, we’d always had a fairly established routine. I would give my keys to Sir via video by locking them in a combination lockbox. Only he’d know the combination, and I would delete the video as soon as he confirmed receipt. Sometimes he’d give me tasks to do, sometimes not.

There was always a natural end point to our lockup time. I won’t go into detail about it here - but I’d always need my keys back within 1-2 weeks of giving them to him, and he’d always provide me with the code. This time, I didn’t need the code back for that natural end point, and I won’t for the foreseeable future.

I asked Sir what that means, and he said, “You should proudly tell people that you have a keyholder. You gave me your keys willingly, and I have no definitive plans to give them back. I think that pretty much solidifies what I am and what you are 😉” (pause here while I melt into a gooey puddle of dopamine and precum 🫠).

So here I am - a self-locking evangelist who never thought he’d have a keyholder, locked and kept by a caring and creative Sir. I’ve experienced one off or ongoing sessions with Doms before, and vetted a few for long-term ownership, but none of those worked and there’s a part of me that’s always assumed I’d never find the unicorn I need, my Master Right.

Sir and I are both charting new waters for ourselves, which makes it fun to explore (and sometimes a little maddening/scary).

For Sir, he’s used to locking up guys who really want to unlock and cum - so teasing and extended lockup times are easy forms of torture, and unlocked edging and orgasms are easy rewards. He says I’m “a tough nut to crack,” because I don’t want to unlock ever - unlocking is a form of punishment for me, unlocked orgasms are a punishment (albeit a fun one) for me, and edging is a little scary (because I don’t have great control and worry that I’ll cum immediately and ruin the play). So he’s got to be creative in how he uses, teases, rewards, and punishes me.

He’s also told me that he’s newer to Master/slave and ownership dynamics, and for me having a Keyholder is equivalent to being owned. So we’re navigating that together.

For me, there are a lot of new feelings I’m navigating that I didn’t expect. I’ll preface this part by saying that Sir had me jerk off and orgasm last week, so I’ve been “reset” and I’m going through that Week 1-2 horniness ramp up - some of this could be due to that.

• I am surprised by the neediness I’m feeling. It’s intense and constant. I want the “good boy”s and attention of my keyholder. I message him probably way too much (sorry, Sir 🤣) and nearly beg for validation…
  • Upon reflection, this makes sense to me: I’m wearing a physical reminder of him and my submission to him 24/7. I want to know that he’s thinking of me too. I’m optimistic that this will dissipate over time, or at least I’ll find a healthy outlet for it. In the meantime, Sir will have to live with an inbox full of cage checks or tell me to stop lol.
• The uncertainty is real, and uncomfortable for me sometimes. As a self-locked guy, I’ve always been in charge of my body and what happens to it. Want to clean? Uncage and clean. Ready to fuck? Uncage and fuck. Decide to orgasm in two weeks? Orgasm in two weeks. Now Sir is making these decisions for me, and I don’t always know what the plan is (and sometimes I know there isn’t a plan, which is just as maddening). I’m even parsing language and reading into small choices - like, you said “no definitive plans to give them back” but not that you’re keeping them, does that mean like a month or something? Should I not get so invested in this?! (Neurotic, I know…)
  • This is something that I need to learn to be more comfortable with. Especially because Sir has been very upfront that he’s also exploring dominance and ownership. I’m doing my best to share my anxieties (little “a” ie not a huge deal) in a healthy way and ask questions when I feel like I need more information to stay sane. I’m also reminding myself that he’s human and not some perfect Master that I’ve fantasized about while reading nifty stories - we’re learning together and I love that.
• The constant desire to please. In my sub play to date, I’ve always identified more as a “slave” on the submission grid - so I’m no stranger to pleasing a master. But I wasn’t prepared for how constant. Every time I see my phone ping, I’m hoping its instructions. Every time we chat, I want to ask what I can do, or offer to do something for him. 5-10x a day I tell him how grateful I am to be owned by him, and each time, I mean it sincerely. Thinking of him makes me smile and brings me joy, and I want to repay that to him over and over again.
  • For this last one, well… I hope this feeling never goes away. :)

So, if you’ve made it this far…

• For other guys who started out self-locked and later found a keyholder, what was it like for you? Was your experience similar to mine, how so or how different?
• For KHs with locked boys who never want to unlock (like I described above), any tips for my Sir on how to crack my tough nuts? 😈

In two days I get unlocked after 45 days of confinement. While I am looking forward to release I am dreading it because after a while it feels so comfortable. Would love to hear from others who might feel the same way and would especialoly love to hear from the ladies who keep us locked about how you feel unlocking him. Is there a let down for you too! or is it exciting to finally have him free? or a mixed blessing?

The psychology behind it isn't hard to figure out, I obviously want to be a cis man so the idea of proving my superiority over them by locking up their cocks and fucking their girls with my vibrating strap on turns me on massively because it would affirm my gender and such.

I am a Keyholder, have had my bf in chastity for about 3 years on and off. Mostly on... I started this Reddit a while ago to post stuff and have fun together. Now I get a lot of DMs from other "chastity subs" asking If I want pics of their cage or other things. I have a question for Keyholders and subs, is this something you'd consider crossing a line? If you had a chaste sub and realised they were essentially sexting other Keyholders would this upset you? Chastity subs, is the idea of talking to a different Keyholder just hot or free porn to you, or is it maybe you don't get the attention you're craving from your Keyholder? I'm not judging I'm just curious as I'm unsure how comfortable I should be responding to these subs. Often, I feel odd because I'm unsure if I'm helping them cross a boundary in their own dynamic.

Advice is appreciated.

I have very slowly worked up to 7 days self locked with no orgasm, and I'm struggling to go for longer than that. I've been looking for ways to punish myself If I fail to reach both my short term goal (10 days) and my long term goal of completing locktober this year. I now think that forcing myself to trim/shave my pubes might be a good way to encourage myself to stay locked, even though I am not at all interested in feminization. I've always been proud of both my full bush and other body hair all around, and haven't shaved in years, despite the fact that having shaved pubes is the norm for dudes in chastity. I also think that it would look hella ugly (considering I have fur all on literally every other part of my body, and I am very attracted to other hairy dudes.) So, what do you guys think? Should I shave or trim as potential punishment just because its the norm, or should I keep my bush that I'm so proud of?

My mistress has brought a new cage for me, because I have been naughty. I am a scared to be honest!

Not gay, never tried and never been interested until now. Been locked for over 2 weeks with 1 ruined orgasm in that time. Now all my fantasies are about cocks and cum. Like I want to be ruined by a group of men, I want to suck dick which has never been an impulse before. Is this normal or fairly common in chastity? Does this indicate subconscious Bi tendencies? I don't consider myself gay because I could never be in love with a man, but I could always appreciate beauty regardless of gender.

Hey I’m 18m newly into chastity, I’ve figured myself out when it come to all this, sizing, being safe and overall getting my chastity experience to feel the best it can. I’ve got the popular HTV5 with the smallest tube, 46mm ring and an elastic strap. So with it feeling so comfortable and at home I only uncage myself for a day or two before putting it back on. Often after wearing for long periods of time, I take it off and “release” then put it back on. Should I be taking longer breaks or is putting it back on immediately ok?

What do you call a situation where a woman is having sex with other men but not her partner? I thought that was a cuckold, but people seem to be using cuck to describe situations where a woman is having sex with her primary partner AND with other partners

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to post about my new situation with my Goddess u/justakeyholder.

After years of on and off (mostly on) chastity and me occasionally bringing up cuckoldry to multiple "No's" my Goddess has entered her most powerful and downright sexiest phase of her life... for a few months now I have been officially a Cuckold, my penis was not not the last penis to enter my Goddess and mine likely won't be so lucky any time soon...

As we stand now, as the title mentions I am currently permanently Denied and in chastity 24/7 (unlocked once a week for thorough cleaning and my absolute favourite - the scheduled and almost business-like ruined orgasm milking) i couldn't be happier.

My Goddess knows I dislike PNC quite alot and find the feelings brought by it to be detrimental and harmful my mental well-being, explaining this thoroughly and truthfully to my Goddess allowed her to understand fully and now feels zero remorse and infact I believe actually enjoys denying me now.

This is the happiest I have ever been... these things I have given up I do not miss, I entirely live vicariously through my Goddess, when she cums I feel elation, joy, frustration and love..

I Love my Goddess more than words can describe - I'd do anything for her I cannot wait to spend the rest of my days with her as we experience this life of cuckoldry and love together.

Hi all,

My wife and I started our kink journey in July of 2023 and I have definitely learned some things about myself. When we first started, I had a hotwife fantasy and wanted to see her with another person.

I have ED and PE and that’s what had me interested in the first place. I had never really felt like a cuck or anything like that, I just wanted my wife to experience something that I knew that I couldn’t give her.

We met up with one person and I bought a cage for the meetup so I could make sure that I didn’t prematurely bust while they were playing and I was watching. I had no idea that it would awaken the inner cuck in me.

After that night, I bought a more comfortable cage and my wife had me wear it for a week with no release. After she let me out, we kind of got busy with life and the lifestyle fell to the back burner.

Friday morning she locked me up and let me eat her pussy and I’ve been caged since then and I don’t know how to describe it, it just feels so comfortable and like it’s something that I belong in. Every movement reminds me that my cock is locked and puts me back in that night.

I see a lot of posts on here where people want to know when they stop getting hard with the cage on, but I hope it never stops. The pressure that I feel when I try and get hard is just a constant mental reminder that my wife controls my orgasms now and I find myself enjoying the times I wake up in the middle of the night struggling against my cage, and trying to stay as hard as the cage will let me get.

My wife has indicated that if we can find a regular bull close by that I will be spending a lot more time locked up and one can hope that that happens sooner than later.

I gave the keys to my cage to my fiance and I am not quite sure what the next step for us will be. I am very grateful she agreed to hold the keys, she was even happy about it! Admittedly she is rather vanilla and rarely initiates sex. I worry if I explain exactly what I want her to do then that will ruin the experience for me or if it does happen how I invision it in my head then I'll be disappointed.

Looking for advice or other people's experiences

I would love to tell my sister about self locking. We got way closer when I told her I’m bi. You think this could work similarly? Chat me up.

I’m torn between desperately wanting an orgasm but want to keep the constant state of arousal. I’ve been here before, I always get sub drop for a few days after she gives me an orgasm. I have a feeling it’s “coming” soon lol. Anyone else feel this way?

I have recently swapped to a smaller cage, the smallest cobra cage as the one up was a bit too big. It's not like I don't need it either as I am only 1.5in soft. So the sizing seems right from what I have read.

My partner likes to lock me anywhere from a week to a month, only getting out for showers.

I find that through the night sometimes, the cages pulls on my balls when I get hard.

Has anyone ever experienced permanent stretched balls because of chastity? If so, is there any way to combat it?

I’m at home doing laundry, dick locked,cooking for the kids. She’s out, wearing her key around her neck, with the girls, and a pair of hotwife themed panties. Anyone else been there?

• everything is set. the cage is good. the only reason i'd ever stop chastity would be psychological. i plan to go perma if i can.
• my depression is way down. im able to actually do things more often. im happier with myself.
• i am not *always* horny, but i *am* hair trigger on going super deep into subspace. i feel like i could get to the point where just playing with my balls could get me to cum. it already gets me so close.
• even with the cage off, i dont want to touch. ever. its like my brain is rewired to find throbbing and leaking better than touching. i never wanna get rid of the bliss of not cumming.
• its actually helping me work through mental stuff. idk how else to say it but i think me feeling better is helping me work on myself more. its pretty great! its not sexual its like, idk. makes me feel small and vulnerable and thats helping me mentally ig.
• its making me want to get pleasure in other ways. i was never too into ball stuff. but now i desperately need cock in my mouth and might even try anal soon.
• before i was down the middle bi and only interested in fem presenting, now im all about cocks and men. i still like girls, but i'd rather be cucked and suck off my bull than anything. which, i was never really too into cucking either. that has seriously changed
• i get hit with the cockdrunk subbrain buzz just by looking at a picture of cock now. call me a good girl and whine audibly. i am a subby cat now. i *can* dom but subbing is just so much better

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CONCLUSION:

• improvements mentally and emotionally.
• fun changes in sexuality and prefrences

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i never want this off

So I was talking with my KH and she said that she likes that I am horny and I’m nicer now. I was masterbateing a lot before being caged 1-2 times everyday so I tend to not be super horny or interested around her at night or some mornings. We also have a 18 month old so it makes it a bit harder. She didn’t like that I wasn't initiating sex before I was caged. Now I think she’s upset because all I want to do now is pleaser her since I can’t masterbate or have sex since I have been caged for going on 5 days. So obviously, I’ve been trying to initiate things more for the past five days and that’s not normal for us. Does anyone have any advice? I think she’s ok to keep moving forward with me being caged but I also want to reassure her I’m still very attracted to her. I was just touching myself a bit too much before. I did let her know I thought masterbating too much.

I would like the GF to be more dominant and I was thinking maybe she could be ok holding a key at least. To a big ask. But she isn’t interested. So I’ll guess it will be a solo thing for now. And on that note. I’ve always found doing chores is easier if I’m making my self submit at the same time. So now it’s cage on while doing laundry.

The chores I do isn’t specially sexy but if I do them plugged for instance it’s a thrill.

Why is that?

I’ll preface this by saying sports betting can lead to addiction and is not legal in many countries and locations so make sure you take proper precautions and avoid it if you have an addictive personality. This type of sports “betting” should be legal everywhere though…

I have found immense fun in applying sports betting in my sex life. How you may ask?

Say you have a favorite team, maybe they’re not the best this year, you can bet on them winning in exchange for days taken off your lockup. If they win you could get 2 days off, but if they lose you get three days added.

You could do this off spreads so that theirs a roughly 50/50 odds or do it off the money line or just make up odds yourself. However you do it I encourage you to add some “juice” to the days added side aka losing. Make it so that over time you will lose more than you win.

It can make for a very fun and sexy experience. Especially when your partner is watching the game and starts pulling against you.

There’s something about betting on your favorite team that’s not so good and seeing them get destroyed while your partner teases you about being locked up for another week.

Let me know if you’ve ever done this or like the idea.

We are all individuals and lock up for different reasons. So i would like to know what are some rules/regulations set (either by yourself or your kh) that you must follow?

For me chastity is less about actually wearing the cage all the time and more about not being able to orgasm. Because of this, i unlock in the following circumstances:

1. When i go to bed
2. When i shower
3. When i need to spend time with close friends or family
4. For practical reasons( medical, flights, etc.)

As long as i do not orgasm while either unlocked or locked i consider my chastity streak intact.

Basically the title, our relationship is struggling and the dynamic is not good for either of us (can speak for myself at least) for her to be my keyholder.

That said, chastity has been really helpful for me in a lot of dimensions and I really don’t want to stop. I tried, but fell back into some bad habits both mentally and physically…. Long story short, I want to keep wearing it, but not have her be the keyholder for the time being.

Not sure how to navigate and looking for community support.

Transparency? She both judges and uses it against me, even when things were good. So can only imagine now…

Secrecy? Seems stupid to sneak around locking my dick behind my wife’s back.

Solo? Don’t hide it, but don’t talk about it. It’s just part of my personal journey right now.

Avoid? Put it on the shelf?

Thanks to anyone who has some input. Particularly any ladies who might have experience or feedback on what they would want / expect from their partner…

I have been self locking ever since my wife’s libido dropped after our son was born. I talk to her about locking and key holding, but she is not into it. I started doing all the other things without talking about the cage like rubbing her feet, her legs, talking care of her chores, cooking her nice dinners, etc. She still says she isn’t into the cage but she now will wake me up if she is up by putting her foot on my chest or back. I wake up and message her. She never says anything. I usually end up leaking and it feels so good. I always teller her about it and she laughs and says she doesn’t remember. I kind of believe her, but I’m starting to wonder if she is the best key holder by completely ignoring me and letting me suffer quietly enjoying my steady state of horniness. About twice a month she will tell me, “you better not have that cage on because I’m going to play with you later.” Drives me crazy with anticipation. You think she is fucking with me or just working around my kink?