I was baptised basically as a baby and growing up always had strong spiritual instincts/experiences.

Recently, I've been feeling super loved up, but mind you I'm single. It's just in the energy field.

So my question is, as it is in the title, did you have a spiritual feeling before you met your spouse?

The energy is such a deep yearning that's making me feel like he is calling out to me, and I can only say in return to him, "I know, but really I don't know what to do babe. Love you" Haha.

Tonight it's especially strong, likely cause it's a Friday. Just came out of nowhere. Overwhelming.

P.S. I'm posting this also for the odd chance that he'll see it. I'm also only seeking to know about other married couples experiences before they met their spouse.

I’ve been told these are unrealistic and to “pick a lane”. To find a girl who is educated. A girl who works and has a career (but wants to be a wife and mother more). Has stayed pure, just like I have. Knows how to cook/bake. Is physical mentally and spiritually healthy. Is modest (but doesn’t need to dress like the women like Islam do just nothing extreme, like how some girls literally wear underwear for Halloween). Is traditional and political conservative. Wants to be a wife and have kids (with normal names). Weekly church goer (in reverent English not Latin). Would be willing to send kids to traditional school (preferably Catholic school) no home schooling.

Did you feel the spark when you met your partner? is it necessary to fill the spark?

The marital act is meant to always lay itself open to the possibility of procreation. Where does a mature couple stand if there’s no possibility of procreation ? But they wish to marry and enjoy the marital act ?

I’ve had a tumultuous love life, to say the least. After my last breakup, I was single for 2.5 years and I feel like I changed and matured a lot. I struggled with being single and wondered if marriage was truly what God intends for me (despite my deep deep desire and longing for it).

Fast forward and I was set up with a good guy. He’s baptized Catholic, a member of my cultural community, and treated me well. He respected my physical boundaries, brought me flowers, we enjoyed the same things and quite honestly had a lot of fun together. Both went into the relationship with the intention of marriage.

However, we had extremely different communication styles and he lacked emotional vulnerability. After 5 months, I barely knew anything about him. I am a devout Catholic and he was less than lukewarm in his faith — attending Mass only sometimes on Christmas (although he did come twice with me and truly did respect my faith). All in all, it was a good and solid relationship and I know we enjoyed each other.

Officially dating/in a committed relationship for 5 months. We saw each other Sunday and made plans the next day to see each other, and dinner plans the following weekend, along with reservations at an exclusive restaurant in December. On Monday, he spent time with his mother for the entire day and then came to hang out with me. As soon as I got in his car, he expressed to me that he was trying to force himself to see a future with me but he couldn’t, that he was 33 years old and it was time to either “s*** or get off the pot,” and that we should breakup. I didn’t ask follow up question. Although I know we were attracted to each other I think neither of us felt a “spark.” I believe I handled this with class and told him I felt the same, and our faith lives were incompatible and that we would raise our children differently. Which is the truth. We left the 5 minute conversation with a hug and haven’t spoken since.

That was the background, here’s the issue. My cultural community is pretty tight and has a large Facebook group. As I’m leaving the scene of the breakup… I SEE THIS POST ON FACEBOOK. His mother has posted this! Which only leads me to believe that she talked to him earlier in the day and this triggered our conversation.

I am okay with the breakup as I know that if I died as a young mother, I know he would NOT raise my children as devout Catholics and they would be less than lukewarm like him. I struggled with his lack of communication, coldness and emotional vulnerability. I’m struggling post-breakup with the loss of companionship, the feelings of insecurity and the thought that I’m going to be alone forever (I’m 27).

Can you guys offer me some words of encouragement, spiritual advice… anything?? I’m mostly at peace trusting in God’s plan being better for me than my desires but it still hurts thinking I will never be married or have children. He seemed like the perfect package on paper. Just bummed.

Matched with a girl on hinge who is 27 and I am 30. We exchanged numbers and set up date. Before the date we both continued the conversation and texted all day and it was great conversation. On our date we talked at the bar for over 2 hours. We ended with simple hug and decided to go out again. She has so many things I want in woman and really enjoy that. A few things I noticed from the date:

1. I didn’t feel that spark or a lot flirting yet. I’m hoping it’s just the first date
2. We are in different stages of our faith. I’m trying to get back into it and she goes daily mass, prayers the rosary, etc. I’m trying to decide if I want to incorporate those things in to my life. I’m afraid if I am not at that level or don’t want to be at that level it’s a red flag or turn off to her

I want to date a girl like her but afraid she will think my faith life isn’t good enough. With that thought it’s making not be myself and little guarded on our date. I tried to be myself but I found myself a little nervous.

I don’t want to force things but I’m open to keep getting to know her. Should I be concerned about where we are in our faith journeys? I wonder if I should ask her about it? I wonder if she enjoyed the date and continue our texting through the week after our date?

My boyfriend a practicing Catholic man who, like me, has never had any physical relationship with opposite gender. He’s been in a relationship before, but I was told they didn’t live together or have physical relationship. When I asked about his stance on physical relationship before marriage and cohabiting, he said he doesn’t have anything against either, though he hasn’t done them himself. When I shared that I’m waiting until marriage, he assured me he respects that and is fine with keeping boundaries—it’s not a dealbreaker for him.

Still, I have a bit of doubt. I wonder if he might have been open to living together before marriage with someone else, and if he’s not against it simply because he doesn’t see it as a sin.

Am I overthinking? Thank you for any advice!

Im thinking about trying it again, but this time waiting for a sale. Since I last been on Catholicmatch, I've become an usher at my local parish, something that I think would fit well on my profile this time. However, my concern is that I've probably messaged a lot of the same people as a lot of them have been on there for years.

Im male, 34 years old, and live in the los angeles area by the way.

I don’t mean to sound over dramatic, but it’s really how I feel.

I’m 20 years old, never been in a relationship, nor do I have hardly any skills or confidence in the realm of relationships. I am fat and ugly, and I honestly think that’s why nobody has wanted to go out with me. And no matter how much weight I lose, I’m still fat and ugly.

On top of this, it feels like most of society is becoming more and more hedonistic and flingy, whereas I want to date to find a wife, not to date just for the sake of dating. I want to find someone who is as on fire with God as I am, who rejects the immorality of our modern age—someone to have a family wish.

This all feels impossible. It feels like the generation before me were the last ones to be able to find someone to love, but now I just feel stranded and without hope.

It just makes me so sad

I’ve been meeting guys over internet simultaneously, but one of them told me that he stopped talking to every other girl for “respect” that he wanted to focus his attention towards me. However, I didn’t tell him that I was going to do the same, I just responded with “I agree” which I think is an ambiguous statement. (I agree that if Im totally interested in someone who checks all my boxes I would let him know as well telling him) BUT now I feel guilty and I feel like a liar for always meeting different guys and talking to many (2-3 guys) I personally think that maybe it’s not completely wrong because there aren’t any agreement of starting a relationship, I call them meets, but most of those guys called them “dates”. Im confused and I feel bad. What do you think of this?

As Catholics, we acknowledge that today's culture of promiscuity is harmful and nothing to be admired. So, I know that most Catholic men would be happy to date a woman who has not had a physically intimate relationship before.

I am curious if any of you have any insight into what secular men think of women who wait until marriage. This is merely anecdotal evidence, but I have seen online interviews/panels/"man on the street" conversations in which men generally have deeper respect for women who have low "body counts." Most of the time, these men do not profess having religious values that influence this opinion. I am curious if there is a cultural shift going on--are young men looking for women who have not slept around, and would they be okay with waiting until marriage?

I guess I am asking because I've had bad luck with dating Catholic men. Yes, we share the same moral values, but I have a hard time connecting to Catholic men in ways that make relationships feel fun. I recently met a man who I am really excited about. From what I have gathered so far, he is Christian and has firm philosophical/theological reasoning behind his faith. Don't think he is a church goer though. He is clearly not a player, and he taken interest in my Catholic faith. Even still, part of me feels nervous about dating someone who might not like the fact that I am a 23 year old who hasn't slept with anyone and will not sleep with him.

I know that if this man is not accepting of my boundaries, it is not God's will that I continue seeing him. And I am okay with that. Obviously, meeting a practicing Catholic with the same POV would be the ideal scenario. But I guess I just feel discouraged by the fact that Catholic men and I don't seem to click. Do you think I have a chance of finding a guy outside of the Catholic Church who would wait for me? Or are "everyday" men not interested in virgins? Not sure how men think nowadays. And ladies, if you have had experience with dating men who would or would not continue dating you because of boundaries you have set, lmk.

Yep. It’s happening. He was the perfect match and we were equally yoked in the faith. Respected my boundaries. Texted me good morning and good night. Just one small problem. He picked me up and he reeked of alcohol. I pushed him on it and he’s completely shut down. I need somewhere to vent about this. I care more about his wellbeing than my feelings, but this still sucks. I’m a 29F and I’m losing all hope in dating. I don’t know where to go from here

Edit: thank you so much for validating my experience

Ok just looking for advice on how to start a long distance relationship over a call or something. I met this Catholic girl while traveling, and unfortunately she's across the country. We've been texting and have video called a few times. She seems interested in me, but I don't know how to try and move forward into a romantic relationship while being long distance. I understand long distance relationships are tough but as you all know it can be difficult to meet other Catholics so I don't want to turn down an opportunity that seems worthwhile. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

I have always felt that I am called for a godly marriage. (Yaaaay, practicing Catholic here!) Deep down I feel that it would eventually unfold for me and so I am not losing hope but….

After failed dating attempts this year, I have come to a conclusion that this is not my dating season, that God is calling me to focus on other stuff (pursuing my passion, cultivating my relationship with the Lord, spending time with family and enjoying the freedom that comes with being single). Whenever I pray, I am at peace. I relish this feeling too. I am getting to know myself more. It’s really cool!!!

I know God is definitely calling me to obey Him and give that trust to Him this season…BUT it doesn’t mean it’s always smooth sailing.

It’s lonely sometimes. It could get boring too!

I am explicitly honest about my feelings when I pray and I know He listens well. But, how do you deal with loneliness? How do I cultivate the virtue of patience when I am lonely and/or bored? Or feeling the FOMO?

Thank you! 😉

So I met a girl in person at Catholic related event. Went well enough that I think I could have gotten her number. I didn’t because by the end of the night we were in a big group and the only opportunity passed.

Added her on social media, thought about slipping in her DMs, but figured I’d wait.

Anyway she came across a dating app, my initial thought is if I already met her and have her added on social media, it be a bad move to match with her. Would y’all agree?

I was with someone for few months and it didn’t end well. Though we both parted ways sweetly but we don’t talk at all. It’s been a few months and I have been seeing a lot of men and talking casually to them. But I don’t see a future with these men. I think about this person a lot and I see he stalks me on social media but we don’t initiate any conversation. It stinks to know that he is not a part of my life anymore. We used to talk to each other day and night. I’m totally convinced that I’m not going to reach out to him because a. He emotionally destroyed me and b. He made no effort to reconcile and kept me on read. I’m now in this weird situation of my life where I wish to move on and take things seriously with other men but something in me is stopping me from doing so and keeps me occupied with thoughts of this guy. What should I do?

A girl I know has been considering Catholicism for a year now. She’s been obviously flirting with me, but knows I only date Catholics. Should I date her and just see where it goes? Should I let her know that I believe in all the Church’s teachings including contraception. I don’t want to waste her time. I also just feel like most non-Catholics would just be really weirded out by Catholics being against birth control.

There's 4 female one's that I've encountered thus far.. anyone else? Some accounts literally have the same photos but use different locations and weird names. They even use AI to write bios. I already filed reports through Catholicluv but they haven't done any investigating.

Would you marry a man that didn't check all your boxes but was extremely physically attractive? I saw a similar poll two months ago and I want to investigate further.

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After getting, so I thought, many hints that the person I was seeing was ready for me to ‘pop the question’ I duly did. Although we have been to see the priest and investigating possible reception venues and pre-marriage preparation, she is now backtracking slightly and saying I should not book anything. I do not know whether I just need a bit more patience or whether this development means that she is not the right one after all.

I'm a 22 y/o male who is 5ft 5 on a good day. I haven't been on any dates since high school and would like to get more serious about dating. The biggest road block preventing me from putting myself out there is probably self esteem issues/lack of confidence surrounding my short stature. I've tried the Catholic dating apps, but I have no luck in getting any matches or messages back when I reach out first. I can't help but think that I'm immediately being filtered out due to being so short especially considering I would say I have an above average face and have worked on making my profile interesting with good pictures, etc. This experience, combined with having received no attention from females irl and having been teased and bullied about being short growing up, have pretty much ruined my confidence. I want to get out and date, but can't seem to work up the courage to get out there in the real world and actually try my hand at finding a date in the first place mostly out of fear of being rejected on the grounds that I'm short. I'm just looking for advice from other short men, women who have dated short men, etc on how to overcome this roadblock. Thanks.

I'm a Catholic girl, fresh out of college with an associates, and I just decided to stay home and work to pay off my debt instead of going back to school because I would love to be married and have a family and don't want to bring that debt into marriage. I'm also just taking this time to grow in holiness and grow my homemaking skills and help my own family. HOWEVER, how do I come to terms with the fact that even if it's all I really truly want, and I'm already giving up so much and working so hard to prepare for it, I might never meet my husband?

I know God doesn't promise marriage, but if we're called to it, He'll make it happen, right?

Sincerely,

a very confused girl who's tired of the talking stage.

Hey guys. So I’m a 23M who has only had one real girlfriend, but that only lasted for a few months. Does anyone have some good advice about either dating sites, young adult programs, or tricks to help in my search for my forever best friend?

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20m I really have no luck when it comes to meeting girls. I work in the military in an all male unit so I don’t get exposed much. I usually go to mass weekly if I’m not at sea, but (please don’t take this the wrong way) most of the people there are usually a lot older like 40s plus and if they are in my age range they are usually Hispanic and don’t speak english. What are good ways to meet Catholic women?

so I have a friend and he is Muslim, we have been friends for 2 years and he was my classmate last year, we both have the fattest crushes on eachother but the problem is that I am catholic. he has never tried to force me out of religion and I’ve never tried to force him out of his religion and we support eachothers religion. I just want to know if it’s okay to date him, I really love him.

hi! i am currently a catechumen, attending ocia, and am deeply in love with the catholic church. i want to marry and have children and receive the sacraments associated with those achievements, once i receive my baptism and confirmation probably coming this spring.

i have gone on three dates with a guy and he was raised protestant, and currently identifies as agnostic… we haven’t talked much about religion or how it affects each other in our daily life. i also do not know if he is currently dating for marriage, so i don’t know if i’m thinking too ahead of myself.

when should i bring up to him how important receiving sacraments is to me, and the process i should/have to follow as a catholic in regards to marriage prep… from my understanding (or at least how my local parish does it) is marriage counseling lasts a year with a priest. i don’t know if that’s something he would be willing to do, in addition i don’t know if i would be allowed to marry a non catholic from a catholic priest?

i live in the rural south of america and catholics are not the majority here, my catholic dating prospects are extremely slim so i am personally open to dating outside my religion, but i personally want to continue attending mass and bringing my children up in a catholic way. would it be best to bring up this information early and let him know my faith is important to me and let that sway him in whatever way, or give it time and see where things go? i fear since hes agnostic he will expect me to do things sexually that im not comfortable doing at this time since i decided to pursue converting.

any tips or feedback is greatly appreciated thanks!