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Hi!

Pretty specific introduction question... Sorry for the long post but want to make this succesfull and stress-free for our kitties. All help from multi-cat families much appreciated.

Me and my girlfriend bought a house. She has a 3year old British shorthair, I have 1 2,5yo Persian Cat and 1 1yo Exotic shorthair.

The Persian and the Brit lived together for +-5 months up untill a year ago. They got along after 1 day of introduction even being quite cuddly. We both had an appartment and the Persian moved there with me because for some time we took some time apart and the cats did not seem to mind being apart (more on that below!)

Personalities;

• Brit is a very sweet, bit skittish, smart cat.
• Persian is a very cuddly, no fear, not skittish bossy girl.

Dynamic;

• The Persian always sought out as a kitten the Brit. He would not always be in the mood but he would give up his favourite spots instead of asserting dominance. Never got aggressive towards Persian neither. Persian always sweet and playful with Brit. When we took some time apart and we tested, both didn't show any sadness or awareness of desperation. So we both kept 1.

The Persian and the Exotic shorthair have lived together for now 1 year and get along fine.

Personalities;

• Persian described as above. But with growing older more and more bossy. Sweetest most attention craving cat I ever knew though.
• Exotic. Very vocal kitty, always around but not as cuddly. Never scratched, bit or aggressive played towards human or cat. The sweetest kind of 'simple' kitty.

Dynamic;

• Persian is the boss. She will often initiate dominating play. Which the exotic tolerates and enjoys but gets pushed around.
• If the exotic comes for cuddles with me, persoan will come act jealous and steal attention.
• Food bowls: the one the Persian picks, the Persian gets. No battle here, the exotic backs off.
• But 98% of the time best of friends grooming eachother, sleeping together,... Hierarchy is just a thing.

When we got them, both the Persian and exotic felt at home within 2 hours even with both having other cats around. Only the Brit was a bit skittish and hiding as a kitten. Also when they were introduced (which I do carefull and by the book) only the Brit was a bit imposed by it for a few hours.

Practical; We will move in in march but have our appartments until start of April. So we have 30 days to move freely.

• What cat(s) would you move first and why? The duo? The Solo? The Solo and the one from the duo he lived together with?

Tips about isolating them, feeding around the door, scent swapping,... I know all the wikis on it and saw a lot of YouTube videos and had succes in the past :D. But if some of these would carry specific tips for this 1+2=3 situation please advice too!

Many thanks 😇😇😇

Just wondering if a 6 month old cat should be left alone overnight

Hello! I adopted a cat a few days ago, and despite having a bed she sleeps in one of our bed closet/drawer things.

That’s fine by me till she acclimates - but I noticed she’s been scratching/grooming a lot today and I’m afraid something in her gave her allergies ): not sure what to do, she’s sleeping on top of one of the beds now but I know she’ll find her way down there anyways and closing it off is difficult.

Am I just overthinking this?

When I am home away, they both spend most of their on bed. It appears that since have been depressed and irritable lately, they have staying closer, cat who used to spend downstairs. Even when I chase them away, return.

Howdy everyone! We have an older cat, Maya (F5), and a new kitten, Oliver (M9m), and they just cannot seem to get along.

We use Feliway multicat, did Jackson Galaxy’s method of food under the door, and then bought a screen door for them to meet through. Did play introductions first, and positive reinforcement with treats.

Everything seems to go fine but Oliver absolutely cannot leave Maya alone and wants to play with her ALL THE TIME. Even after I have played with him so much he starts lightly panting.

Oliver will go up to Maya, Maya hisses, Oliver pretends to leave Maya alone, Oliver plays poke the bear with Maya until she ultimately freaks out, Maya runs away screaming, and Oliver chases thinking he’s successfully initiated play time. Maya gets into some safe place be it a chair, table, or cat bed that she then defends herself from and even then Oliver still doesn’t 100% leave her alone.

This seems to have caused a lot of stress and resentment on Maya’s side as I’ve noticed she has been having more aggressive body language towards Oliver when he walks past her at all.

Luckily, neither are exhibiting any food or litter-box territorial behaviors.

Does anyone have any other further tips or advice for us?

We are both at our wits end and are wanting to schedule a vet appointment to put Maya on anxiety meds. We have even started discussions on giving one of the cats up. Any advice, guidance, or even sympathies would be appreciated.

Long time lurker, first time poster!

I have had my cat, Quincy, for nearly 7 years and we have seen many many ups and downs together, specifically around his litter box habits (all resolved with environment changes and vet visits and he’s fine!)

We have a large, uncovered litter box and use Pretty Litter as his litter - yes we have tried covered boxes, boxes with flaps and filters, clay litter, chunky litter, pellets, and more, and he simply will not use his box unless it’s a large, uncovered box with Pretty Litter in it. He also has either destroyed or fully evaded every litter pad we have purchased.

This means my laundry room, where his box is (we have given him multiple boxes, he will only use this one - he’s an odd fellow) is constantly covered in not just litter on the floor but fine, sticky silica dust EVERYWHERE. Ideally, I would like to not develop a long term illness or wear a mask every time I have to exist in my finished basement, so here I am!

Has anyone found an actually useful litter pad and/or an air purifier/filter to cut down on dust?

At this point, I am happy to throw down serious money and regularly rinse or clean the filter to avoid these consequences.

TIA!

My three year old calico has started to fart! I don't know why because her food is the same as it has always been. She doesn't have any other symptoms of any sort of illness. I've never had a cat do this before. What do you think? Vet or wait?

I’ve had my kitten for about two months now and have been trying out different foods to figure out what he likes best (: So far, he’s only eaten wet food. My roommate’s kitten eats both wet and dry food (separately at feeding time), but I haven’t tried dry food with mine yet. I just included that in case it’s relevant—I’m not sure if he’d even prefer dry food since he hasn’t had it. I know kittens sometimes like smaller meals throughout the day, which is how I thought he operated—until the other day. I gave him Weruva’s “Kitty Gone Wild,” and omg, I have never seen him eat anything so fast. A few meals later, I tried it again, and same thing—he LOVED it! He’s also tried other Weruva flavors (only the Cats in the Kitchen line though), Tiki Cat kitten pâté, Tiny Tiger pâté, Royal Canin kitten, and Purina kitten food. He eats all of them, but nothing compares to how much he devoured that Kitty Gone Wild flavor. I’m hoping for some guidance on finding more foods like this that he might love! I haven’t tried Fancy Feast with him yet, but my cats growing up loved Fancy Feast, so that’s definitely on my list to try. I know cats shouldn’t have too much seafood, so any non-seafood options or insights into why he loves this one so much would be super helpful. Thanks in advance! Any other general advice too if it seems like I'm doing anything wrong is welcome! I take no offense, just want to make my kitty happy 🐈🐈🐈

What do to if cats bond

This is about my five month old kitten and and my friends cat who’s around a year old. My friend’s away for around a month so I’m currently taking care of her cat and he’s been at my place for only a couple days. Introduction went great, they eat and play with each other, will even sleep right next to each other. Today while she was making biscuits he came over and started grooming her. I love that they get along so well, but now I’m a bit afraid that they might bond within the next month while he’s here. I don’t really know what to do if that happens, as I do no cohabitate with that friend and the cats most likely don’t have the chance to live together long term. Any thoughts or advice?

Hello, I am curious about some things with my cat. The vet instructed to leave the cone on and leave him in a room for 2 weeks, but my 6month old kitty is very unhappy with this. if it is best for him ill make sure it happens, but im wondering if one week is enough time for him to go back to normal? we have another female cat, 2 years old, who is already spayed. They play all the time, sometimes rough and run around the house (two stories). Christmas is one week after his neuter date (4 days away as of currently) and im wondering if i can let him be free to his normal routine after one week? Please let me know if this is a very bad decision, he seems completely fine now!

My kitten is 10 months old now, and I have been thinking about transitioning him to adult food once he hits 12 months. According to calories calculator, he should be eating 440 kcal for his weight for now. However, the calories requirement drops significantly when he becomes an adult.

Over how many days did it take for you all to completely transition from kitten to adult food? Any tips?

I have one very independent kitty and another velcro one. So, the problem is, whenever I'm being intimate with my partner, the velcro kitty keeps meowing outside the bedroom door. We've tried to do it by keeping the door open, and let just say I raised my head from doing a questionable activity to find him standing right next to us on the bed, nose almost touching with somebody's private parts. Now, we're not looking for kitty threesome so the door stays locked. Which means incessant meowing, banging against the door during the entire time. And then when they're let in, he climbs on top of the bed and meows continuously, sniffs me all over and tries to "guard" me from my partner for the next couple of hours. Am I traumatizing mg cat everytime I have sex?

My cat is getting spayed now ..after seeing vidoes on the Internet and some bitter experience in the comments makes me wonder if it was a right decision..I am a 1st time cat mom I really love her and the pain she was in due to heat was made me take this decision.. will cats able walk properly in next 24 hrs ? Some advice on after care would be appreciated :)

We are slowly introducing one new female to a resident male and female. Everything is fine with the male and the new one but we are keeping the females apart because the resident female is ultra agressive. Sometimes we mess up, like just now when I opened a door and the resident female bolted out and cornered the new one really violently. And sometimes the female resident just attacks the door of the bedroom where the new one is, yowling and hissing all the whole.

Should we just go even more slowly? It’s been a month since we started over after a false start, but the resident female, seems as on edge as in the beginning.

My cat normally sleeps on my bed and under my sheets, but this week, I noticed he suddenly became very demanding. He kept on waiting for me and even meowing on me to go to my room even though this is not normal in our schedule. He usually sleeps on my bed only at night time. I also noticed that he now tucks btw my legs and you know, and just today, when he can't sleep btw my legs near my down there, (bc of my sleep position - side sleeping) I woke up and notice his paw was placed on my down there.

I'm just worried if this is normal and any similar experience like this?

El tema es el siguiente llevo con mi novia casi 1 año y he ido muchas veces a su cas y he visto a sus dos gatos, una es una gata persa que antes de que la adoptara mi novia fue abusada, muchas veces se esconde y pasa de mi, pero también de mi novia, a veces es super cariñosa conmigo así que muy bien con ella.

El problema es el otro gato, el gato fue adoptado por mi novia cuando tenia un mes de una asociación, ahora tendrá 1 año y 4 meses, el gato en su proceso de socialización cuando crecía solo conoció a mi novia, al otra gato y a la madre de mi novia, por eso yo pensaba que se escondía por eso, que no estaría acostumbrado a mi, ya que hacia lo mismo con casi todas las personas, el problema es que he estado con mi novia casi un año y he ido a su casa muchas veces y sigue igual.

No se de gatos pero me parece muy raro el como se asusta, he conocido otros gatos y ellos huyen no se dejan que te acerques, te sisean... Pero el gato de mi novia se esconde en un lugar y se puede quedar en ese lugar sin exagerar 4 o 5 horas sin moverse ni cambiar de posición, y si no se puede esconder y esta en una habitación por ejemplo con mi novia acariciándole, nada mas acercarme y verme se queda paralizado, se queda quieto sin hacer nada, pero con miedo, a veces se pone a temblar muchísimo y se queda ahí quieto a mi lado, sin hacer nada, paralizado, no podemos ni cruzar la mirada porque se asusta y se paraliza, como se paraliza alguna vez he confundido eso con que estaba acostumbrando a mi y lo acariciaba o lo cogía en brazos, y aunque lo haga no se mueve se queda ahí, se deja hacer lo que quiera, y no solo pasa estas cosas estando en la misma habitación, sino que nada mas entrar en el portal ya se va esconder porque me debe oler o algo.

No se que hacer, ya llevo mucho tiempo haciendo los consejos que decían en mucha información en linea, y no cambia, entiendo que al no estar socializado se asuste y que este proceso lleve tiempo, pero es que desde que empezamos a salir mi novia y yo no ha cambiado ni ha mejorado en lo mas mínimo, sigue igual, ni una pizca de confianza a cogido, le he dejado su espacio, he intentado durante meses ir con movimientos lentos, le he dado chucherías de estas liquidas que son como un sobrecito, un día se comió 4 y nada mas hacerlo siguió con su comportamiento, yo ya no se que hacer.

Se que no es por su forma de ser porque por lo que me cuenta mi novia y los videos que me ha enseñado, cuando yo no estoy es super alegre, cariñoso, juguetón, no deja tranquila a mi novia en ningún momento... (No solo cuando yo no estoy, lo mas adecuado de decir es que cuando esta solamente con mi novia, su otro gato o su madre, se comporta de esta manera en cuanto hay un extraño hace lo que digo)

El tema es que me preocupa porque en menos de un año ella y yo nos mudaremos juntos, y no creo que sea muy sano que se siga comportando así de esconderse o quedarse paralizado, el no comer, el no beber, el quedarse en el mismo hueco durante todo el día ... Se que se va comportar así porque a aunque no hayamos vivido juntos, hay semanas en las que la madre de mi novia no esta en casa y me quedaba ahí todos los días, desde las 13:00 hasta casi las 23:00 y lo hemos hecho mucho y el gato hacia lo mismo, me preocupa el estrés que puede tener el gato y es que además yo tengo un par de gatitos de 6 meses, por parte de ellos no creo que haya mucho problema, pero por parte del gato de mi novia no se como actuara, porque a parte del otro gato de mi novia, nunca ha visto otro gato.

¿Qué puedo hacer?¿Es normal este comportamiento tan radical?¿Es normal que en tanto tiempo no haya cambiado nada?

Os agradecería mucho cualquier opinión, consejo o experiencia parecida.

So due to a new animal at home from my mother, for the time being I've decided to keep my cat in my room, he has everything he needs, litter, food and water, and some toys too. But I wanna be able to open my window from time to time, but he has a habit of knocking out the screen on it and jumping outside, and the last time he cracked the plastic frame on it. So I was wondering if anyone here has any ideas on what I could do? Thank you!

there is this cat that randomly came in front of my house and by the front door we have a safe cardboard box for him to stay in. we feed him give him water so he is fine with that. we put blankets and covered the box so it wouldn’t get wet with the snow, but the poor cat is still cold, and we can’t take him in because someone in my house is severely allergic to cats and we also have dogs (which we don’t really trust around the cat). we have been trying to find him a home, but no one is taking him and he is very cold. the weather is supposed to get colder in the next few weeks and we don’t want him to suffer or even freeze to death, so can someone please tell me what we can put inside to keep him warmer? it’s very cold for him.

Idk if he's just an independent cat but he's not really the type to come and ask for pets or anything honestly. I keep calling him to come close to me or sit next to me and pet him but he'll get pets for like a min and then idk get annoyed? But he'll literally just get up, walk two steps and lay again facing away from me signalling that he doesn't want it. I tried showering him with love but then also ignoring him all day incase i was giving him too much attention and he was getting disturbed but nth worked. He won't willingly come and sit w me, snuggle with me or anything and the reason why it's bothering me is that his previous owner said he's very loving and wants loving and pets alot so I'm confused what exactly am I doing wrong. I've had him for almost a month now so it's not like I'm new to him or anything. I don't pet him too harsh, nor am I constantly forcing him to be with me, I give him his space and I do play with him time to time w his toy, I feed him at appropriate times as well. Yet, when it's time to sleep at night I play with him alot so that he's tired and sleeps but then he'd lay down somewhere on the floor or just lay somewhere outside my room, when brought in he just prefers to sleep away on my king sized bed or on the side table never too close to me. It confuses me when he does follow me around the house, everywhere I go, he comes. He just sits down and watches me do what I do. He isn't scared of me or dislikes me but then I'm so confused why he was affectionate with his previous owner but not me?

Idk if he's just an independent cat but he's not really the type to come and ask for pets or anything honestly. I keep calling him to come close to me or sit next to me and pet him but he'll get pets for like a min and then idk get annoyed? But he'll literally just get up, walk two steps and lay again facing away from me signalling that he doesn't want it. I tried showering him with love but then also ignoring him all day incase i was giving him too much attention and he was getting disturbed but nth worked. He won't willingly come and sit w me, snuggle with me or anything and the reason why it's bothering me is that his previous owner said he's very loving and wants loving and pets alot so I'm confused what exactly am I doing wrong. I've had him for almost a month now so it's not like I'm new to him or anything. I don't pet him too harsh, nor am I constantly forcing him to be with me, I give him his space and I do play with him time to time w his toy, I feed him at appropriate times as well. Yet, when it's time to sleep at night I play with him alot so that he's tired and sleeps but then he'd lay down somewhere on the floor or just lay somewhere outside my room, when brought in he just prefers to sleep away on my king sized bed or on the side table never too close to me. It confuses me when he does follow me around the house, everywhere I go, he comes. He just sits down and watches me do what I do. He isn't scared of me or dislikes me but then I'm so confused why he was affectionate with his previous owner but not me?

Hi! I have to leave for a while tonight (5 ish hours) and I wanted to take my kitten with me, as he'd have more fun here than locked in my room. I've been pretty depressed lately I sleep a lot and it easn't like that before. My kitten is affected by it... that's why I'd rather not leave him alone, plus he's a super social kitten and he loved it last time. He's 4 months old. It's his first winter and my vet is closed.

It feels like -15 degree celcius outside right now. It will be colder when I leave at night. I'm in Canada. I don't have kitten clothes or hats to warm him up, but I have a travel backpack and his blanket. My time between bus rides will be about 10 - 15 mins walk max.

Am I putting him in danger? I tried to do a bit of research but according to Google and what I found, my kitten is going to die. Now I'm kind of worried lol. Should I just leave him home (I'd rather not cause I'd also start worrying about him).

What do you think? Anyone has knowledge to share? I'd appreciate it!

Hey I rehomed two kittens on Monday, they are 6/7 months old a boy and a girl, came from a house of multiple children, 21 cats, and 4 dogs. (For reference I live alone) Now the girl cat I don't know what to do with her. The boy is fine they are both timid as to be expected and often hide. So I have two litter trays a huge hooded one and an unhooked one. When I put the litter Matt down the girl cat would be pee/poo on it so got rid of the litter mat. (They was both health checked before I got them and are fine, both sprayed) now I've moved the mat she now poos and wees on the carpet, I've tried putting her poo back in the litter tray didn't work, she has peed when I go near her, I've tried picking her up and putting her in the tray but it juts makes her terrified and makes her run/hide away from me more. I don't know what to do, I've spent the whole day cleaning the carpet because my house smells like cat pee. I clean their litter tray as soon as they poi but still no luck

Hi guys, I’m hoping to get some real-life advice from someone who’s been in a similar situation.

Basically, I have a 12 going on 13 year old cat who’s been spayed this year. We’ve been living alone in a new country for over a year now but prior to this, my cat has always had other pet companions (cats and dogs). When I first got her as a kitten, I had another female cat whom she weirdly turned against after about 1-ish years. When I say turned against I mean OG cat had to stay on the first level of our house because miss fussy pants would chase her down if she ever caught a glimpse of her and sometimes she’d purposely pick a fight, so we had to keep them separated. It got so bad I had no choice but to rehome OG cat (I didn’t want miss fussy pants to possibly terrorize another family). Anyway, 1-2 years later, we’d go on to adopt a male kitten whom she never mothered but befriended and was relatively close with. During the pandemic, we got another male kitten. Same story, she never mothered but this time you could tell she didn’t want to be bothered with the kitten and more or less just tolerated his presence since her “friend” (other male cat) stepped up and acted as the kitten’s older brother. It was the same thing with dogs, apathy and tolerance. If it helps, she’s always been the alpha cat in our household with the other two acting as her minions especially when it came to begging for food and treats.

Fast forward to present, it’s just ol’ granny and I but I’d say she’s adjusted splendidly here. However, I’m looking to get a full time job next year which could mean me being out most of the day and her alone with just the birds outside to watch. Do you guys think now that she’s spayed, she’d be more accepting and friendly to a new cat (i.e., female kitten)? Should I just stick with a male if ever I do decide to adopt again? Or given her age, only child for almost 2 years, and her lazy/sleeps almost all day disposition, she’s better off as she is now as a spoiled only child?

My 2 yo British Shorthair cat was just diagnosed with CHF and I am seeking advice on a safe and effective flea prevention. I should mention that a few months ago we had a problem with bed bugs and I just learned that they can bite cats too. We seem to have solved the bed bugs problem, but I want to make sure my cat is safe in case there any any survivors.

I have a 4 year old kitty that is super skittish and scared. Normally when people come over she avoids the common area and hides out in my room. My best friend is staying with us for the week, (she leaves on Monday) and my cat has not used her litter box at all??? She's had 2 accidents outside of the litter box but is eating and drinking like normal, but her box hasnt been used since my friend got here. I'm concerned because I dont want her to keep having accidents but also the last time I had people over she still used her litter box. I'm unsure of what to do and stressed because I don't want her to be sick.

Hi! My girl Mouse has been spayed since she was 1, she's now 4 and I've noticed that her weight is starting to creep up abit. She's not exactly overweight, but she's certainly chunkier than I'd like.

Her current feeding routine is a bowl of wet in the morning, with a bowl of biscuits to graze on throughout the day. Occasional treats but she's not really a treat type of girl.

Does anyone have any advice for keeping her weight down?

We play every day, and I have a young neutered boy cat, 9 months, that she likes to chase around (his weight is fine but I am definitely keeping my eye on it).

Any advice for my girl would be greatly appreciated, thank you!

I’m a first time cat owner and was adopted by a stray kitten who never left our yard. I’m use to dogs and love how dogs wants cuddle. My cat doesn’t show much affection aside from rubbing my legs while I’m standing. She doesn’t sleep near me, snuggles up with me on the coach and she would only stay on my lap for 1min or less before moving on.

Is this typical of cats? How do cats show that they love you?

Please offer advice, I feel like my obvious only option is to surrender my sweet baby but I'm so heartbroken . My daughter and I adopted a 7 year old sweet boy from the shelter last year after we left my ex husband. We went to the shelter to pet sweet babies and couldn't help but fall in love with him. He had been in the shelter almost 8 months and was NOT handling the shelter life well. The three times we visited, he would paw nonstop at the door like he was trying to dig his way out. The shelter told us his horribly sad story of him being extremely bonded with his old owner, following him everywhere after being rescued as a kitten. Unfortunately the old man passed away and in the shelter Benny went. The shelter wanted us to give him a home so bad they waived the adoption fee and let us pick anything out from their pet room for him. It took him about a month 5o adjust, he was very timid and barely came out or ate. Fast forward a year, he has adapted his life extremely well and was very loving. Still occasionally desperately pawing at doors and floors, but always eating and ALWAYS snuggling.

We literally just had to move from our previous place in such a hurry due to extremely unsafe people being around. A friend of ours let us stay for the year knowing we needed help while i did my divorce process, but there was a house fire and the people he was hiring for dirt cheap were drug users and someone who just got out of prison for doing unimaginable things that he bragged about. I needed to leave ASAP for our safety.

I had no where to go, so my mom is housing us until I can get us back on our feet.

I have a young child and an infant, and I fled as soon as I found out how unsafe these people were. My problem is Benny is an outdoor cat who will occasionally wonder to our loving neighbors who love to feed him for a few days. No one was home and he hadn't come when called, so I had no choice but to leave and to go back and get him just a day later when I had no kids.

Benny has been acting strange since, I've been struggling to pinpoint what is happening but my mom and I chalked it up to him being stressed again like when I had first adopted him. This morning I had been explaining Benny and my concerns for him with my friend who's house I moved from, which is when he told me he saw the guy who just got out of prison just haphazardly feeding his left over turkey to my cat... he believes Benny got a turkey bone and its a possibility he consumed it.

My mom has 3 cats so its hard to tell if Benny has been passing stool, but I know he's drinking like normal but eating very little/ showing little interest in food which is out of his now ordinary behavior.

Life just fucked my world up like no other, a move I couldn't afford, losing my phone because my roommate broke it, having sudden full custody of my oldest because her dad was found doing drugs again.. life is fucking killing me and I have no money to my name right now which is why my mom came to save us.

I know he needs help, but my ex fucked my credit up and I'm 7k in debt bc of him, I know I can't pull any credit cards or anything. My heart says I should surrender him for his own health, but I fear they will just put him down. I fear for his mental health as well knowing how traumatizing the shelter was.

I don't want our baby to die and I feel like I'm watching him slowly die. I don't know what to do, I am at a loss.

Please help me decide, I'd hate to give him up, I usually have a cushion of money saved but this spontaneous move fucked my life up. Please offer advice, we are heartbroken...

I’m a firefighter living in an apartment alone and would really like some company on my off days. My schedule is 24 hours on, 24 hours off, 24 hours on, 24 hours off, 24 hours on and then I get 4 days off. I initially wanted a dog but I know that’s just not possible since they’re not as self dependent as cats. Would there be a specific breed that’s better for apartment life/ being alone a lot? I’ve always wanted a Maine coon but don’t know if they’re suited for apartments or spending a lot of time by themselves. I would love some advice!

Hi

I just adopted 2 kittens and one is very clearly older (we weren't aware of that when adopting and were told they were siblings)

Since she has developed she has started to pick on the smaller one and I'm scared she is going to seriously hurt her and she doesn't listen to the little ones protests

Any advice on how to teach her to be gentle? Or does the younger one have to be the one to teach her?

This stresses me out a lot so any advice would be great