Hey everyone!

You may have noticed our subreddit looks a little different-that’s because we’re making some exciting updates! I’m u/PlainPrecision, and I’ll be helping out u/Dolannsquisky and u/shahriarhaque build this subreddit and our Bideshi Discord server.

Our mission is to make a safe place where those of us that are foreign born and raised with Bangladeshi heritage can discuss our diaspora experiences, culture or just a place to connect with others. Over the next few weeks, we'll be working on improving the look and feel of our subreddit, building out our Discord server and anything else to help our global community thrive. Stay tuned!

If you have any ideas, suggestions, or just want to say hi, drop a comment below! Looking forward to building this with you all.

Let me know what you'd like to see here!

Those who grew up in west, especially USA because it is soooooo far away from BD, and have immediate family near you but also wealthy enough to afford international trip a year. Would you give you seeing different parts of the world to visit Bangladesh often to keep in touch with relatives and stay connected to your roots

Every year I have this internal debate and have not found the correct frequency of visit

I was added ironically to the group by a friend who moved to Canada. I haven't been active on fb for years until recently so I've been seeing more of BCCB posts. I'm concerned by the type of content hosted in this group. Some posts are extremely misogynistic, homophobic and hinduphobic, some ask leading questions that are meant to make you think a certain way by multiple profiles with obvious AI generated photos. These don't seem like real people. What is going on? Is the Canadian bengali community really so extreme and hateful? Is anyone concerned about these groups running misinformation campaigns unchecked? Anyone here noticing the same things? I know that all meta products are essentially garbage but considering how active many Bangladeshi people are on these platforms, I feel that it is something to be worried about.

Hey Y’all,

I’m heading back to the motherland after an eternity. Wanted to setup a local bank account that I could use for local transactions and payments in Bangladesh. I would like to have the option of an app that I can use from overseas or online based banking system that’s easy to use. Do you have any recommendations. TIA.

Hi guys, I've written Bangla stories as a child but haven't written in the language since, when we've moved abroad and I did my schooling/uni in the West. Recently I've been watching a lot of Bangla content with my family so decided to have a go at writing in Bangla again. After many rounds of checking spelling on Google, finished my "golpo"! I was wondering if there are any places, like Facebook pages, where you can post Bangla content.

For info, the story has contemporary language and in terms of genre has supernatural and mystery elements. Someone recommended the Pencil Foundation FB group. But it's a private group (so I can't check out the readership). And I have a feeling they publish more "shahittik"/literary works!

I have uploaded it on my Wattpad for now. Feel free to check it out, by the way if you read Bangla. : ) Might need to open in Incognito window if you don't have a Wattpad account.

https://www.wattpad.com/1507537185-ভালোবাসা-ভীতুদের-জন্য-নয়

Hi! I hope no one finds this offensive.

I am writing on behalf of a friend who is currently in a reelationship (that's not a typo and I'll elaborate on that later) with a guy that we are having a hard time figuring out.

My friend, 32F, has matched with a guy, 38M on a dating app. They matched when both of them were in Dhaka, but she lives in Austria and he lives in Canada.

She had one of the greatest conversations ever with this person, he seemed like a kind and nerdy guy and both of them had so many topics to discuss that everything just seemed so sync, except for the fact that he mentioned that he is normally very weird and he communicates only when in Bangladesh, but when he goes back to Canada, he has a hard time talking to people (to the point that everyone has to force him to go outdoor). She didn't pay much attention to this detail as they were just getting to know each other.

Fast forward to when both of them go back to Austria and Canada respectively and he stops talking to her. He only sends her reels on Instagram. When she asked him if everything was alright, he mentioned that if he didn't like her, he would not send her reels everyday. Hence, they are in a reelationship (Guess I've seen it all at this point).

My friend went back to Bangladesh very recently, and she insisted they met. This was their first date. The guy could not actually talk because he was extremely shy. But that was alright. My friend asked him whether he could talk a little more so that they can get to know each other. He now sends her a message everyday asking how she is. When she replies, he instantly moves to a horny mode (wow, for being a shy guy he seems quite outgoing?). For instance, he would actively try to find double meanings, or he would tell her that if she wants, he can send dick pictures(????????????).

Anyways, my friend clearly said that she needs to know him a little more before they can actually move forward from here. SO he said he loves her and wants to marry her...

The thing is, at this point we are not understanding this guy who seems very conflicted between many different personalities. For example, (1) we don't seem to understand how the person who matched her on the dating app is the same person she met in person in Dhaka. (2) We don't understand how sending reels can mean that you are in a relationship (with a person with whom you don't want to have a conversation to get to know each other better). (3)We don't understand how this guy went from super shy to take every conversation and look for double meanings. And finally (4) why he thought it was okay to propose her without actually knowing her.

Don't get us wrong, my friend also wants to settle down, but she wants to know the person before taking such an important decision. He really seemed charming and promising in the beginning, but at this point we have started to doubt whether the guy who talked to her is the same guy that came to meet her.

We want to ask guys whether they could enlighten us with their perspectives and what they think is happening over here.

Thank you in advance!

With a couple of exceptions most bengalis of my age that I know personally are in interracial relationships. Im from western Canada. Is this the norm in your neck of the woods?

Hi! I'm planning to visit my relatives on the upcoming month and I just booked my ticket with Air Arabia because it was the cheapest ticket of all the others. Since it seemed like quite a small plane, I was wondering if anyone has had any experience flying with them. If you did, is there anything in particular that you recommend me doing? Thank you!

Hi!

I'm writing this on behalf of a friend. My friend (Bangladeshi, 32 F) is currently living in Germany. She has been going out with a Bangladeshi guy (36), with whom she went out on a couple of dates. They met on a dating app.

The first date was great, both of them had an amazing time, except for the fact that the guy was a little touchy, which seemed a little weird to her, considering that was the first time they were going out.

In the meantime they kept texting, and one thing she found a little odd is that he kept telling her whether she wanted to go to his place, as he would love to prepare a meal for her. While that seemed like a nice gesture, my friend wasn't quite sure about his intentions, so she said she would much rather prefer that they met outside. To which the guy replied that: "oh yeah, don't take it otherwise, I didn't mean it that way (or did he?!🫠)".

They went out on a second date, the date went well but he was more touchy this time. When he wanted to kiss her, she said that she wasn't ready yet.

We really want a guy's perspective on the matter, and we want to know what his intentions are (obviously according to you). My friend actually had an amazing time with him, the conversation had flown really well and he seemed like a nice nerdy guy. But it seems like all he wants to do is take her to his apartment(!).

Are we overthinking this? Is he a nice guy and we are two over-thinkers? Thank you in advance for your (hopefully kind) perspectives!

Please don't recommend Korai Kitchen. They are very good but not the vibe I'm looking for. Ittadi and Bornali Cafe are better imo but looking for more opinions.

Hello, I'm 22(M), Director of Engineering, and got visa sponsorship from the company. I will move to Victoria, I have no one in that region, I want to make some friends to chill on weekends. Any deshis here?

so i came across a post on bangladesh reddit post https://www.reddit.com/r/bangladesh/comments/1gcsxc0/prof_dr_ali_riaz_an_american_citizen_given_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

and i would like to warn y'all that our history is most likely going to be rewritten and it isnt going to be the one we know. my suspicions is that the newer generations of kids in bangladesh will see american supporting pakistan as a good thing etc to protect us from Indians or whatever and downplay the attempted genocide. we should pay attention to what unfolds.

for those that do not know the protest that took place to create a regime change was US's doing.

I'm planning to just come to America (or an overseas country) for 2-3 weeks. Just need to recharge and get out of Australia for a bit. This is kind of during the Christmas Holidays. December 17th or such until the first week of January. Is there anyone interested in having me around at their place for two and a half weeks or so? Like I just want to get out of Australia for a but I want to explore my horizons and be around someone. And just hang out.

For context I'm a 28M single Bangladeshi guy

I'm planning to buy such a book for myself. But does anyone have any good books I can buy which are standalone? Just a single book? See here: https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ByronicHero

Just wanted share somewhere where I might be heard.

I feel like I did everything right growing up, mostly. Went to university, got the six figure job, bought and half paid off my own house, travelled a bit, and in the past year or so got reasonably fit. I have hobbies that I enjoy in playing in a band and making music, tinkering on my project car, swimming. Although I'm not necessarily killing it at any one thing (not working at the most prestigious company, or making the most money, etc) I think things are pretty comfortable and I'm grateful for what I have.

I always pictured myself with a Bengali girl who grew up here, but it's felt pretty bleak trying to meet someone. I didn't have many female friends growing up or in uni so that's made it hard to meet anyone through friends, though admittedly, I always just assumed I would meet someone through arranged, so I never really went out of my way to chase girls.

I've met (in person, arranged) several different girls over the course of the last couple years, none worked out, all for slightly different reasons, but they all kind of fit a certain pattern. They were all nice and we got along okay, but we never get past the small talk phase. The effort in texting always felt very one sided, very much like pulling teeth trying to get them to engage. In the end it would either fizzle out or they would give an excuse of some kind as a gentle rejection (some flavour of "I'm not feeling ready for marriage after all"). I can tell the vibe they get from me is safe and boring.

I don't really blame them honestly. Talking to these girl, I felt pretty boring. But at the same time, I feel like the average guy out there doesn't need to be some charismatic billionaire adventurer to find a relationship, so obviously I'm doing something wrong.

I feel like the answer is simply that these girls didn't find me physically attractive. I think I am decent enough facially, but I do have a glaring "flaw": height. I've never been that insecure about it or anything, but yeah, obviously will be a thing for some girls. I see shorter guys walking around with attractive partners out and about though, so idk.

There was one girl I spoke to who grew up back home and came here after high school, but was fairly "fobby". I had reservations about this at first, but they quickly fell to the side. This was the one instance where things went amazingly. For once the interest didn't feel one-sided, she actually seemed curious about me. She was sweet, caring, endearingly thoughtful. She was musical and artsy in a way other girls I'd met were not, that really felt relatable. We would text late into the night, we went on dates, with our chemistry improving with each one. Two months, I already felt ready to marry this girl, but we had to cut things off due to an entirely external reason. Man, did that suck. I took a break after this -- it was my first real breakup and took me a while to be able to move on.

I think when a girl likes you, they make it easy for you. This is what I see with friends who have fell into relationships and the one good experience I've had. When they don't, it'll be like pulling teeth, which is what it was like with every other girl I met.

It hasn't been lost on me that the girl things went well was basically a "FOB" (although they were a Canadian citizen, they had a strong accent, would listen to music in our language primarily, travel back home at least once a year). I hate to be cynical about this, but I felt I was immediately more interesting of a prospect being someone who grew up in Canada. Maybe I've been too judgemental. With girls who grew up here, I feel very taken for granted and like they were holding out for someone better.

The experience seems like it's been pretty much the same among my brown guy friends: all did things "right" (decent uni, good jobs and salaries, well travelled, etc.) but just unable to get anything going romantically.

Like I said, I was pretty set on meeting someone in Canada/the US. But I'm starting to see the grey hairs start pop up, so lately I've been thinking that maybe the right thing to do is to swallow my pride about this requirement I've set. I'm disappointed that it's been so hard finding someone here and giving up the future I always pictured, having someone that "just gets it".

To complicate matters further, my mom got diagnosed with cancer earlier this year. It's been a lot on her and the family. She requires a full time caretaker, which we've been balancing between me and my dad. It's going to be an ongoing thing, and will just be a fact of life from now on. She was always the one doing the networking with matchmakers and stuff, obviously not doing it anymore. I tried taking the reign on this but it's tough talking to families, they all do seem to back off when we mention my mom's condition.

There's no point complaining, I know thing could be worse, but sometimes I wish my parents never left the homeland. As a brown guy, you really do feel like a second class citizen romantically in Toronto and the loneliness has definitely been getting to me lately. I'm not giving up, I'll keep persevering and doing my best. After all, what else can you do? Thanks for reading if you did.

We also need new mods. Come help out.

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleExMuslimsofBD/

I'm kind of curious to know what are your thoughts on https://www.youtube.com/@HealthyGamerGG/videos who's videos I watch. Does he give good advice in your opinion? Or thoughts on him as a desi content creator?

I'm a 28M year old guy and currently living in australia. Got a civil engineering degree and 5 years experience (albeit in the public sector). I've lived in Australia for 17 years now and have never felt welcomed here. What's the best place for me to move to?

Hello fellow Bideshi_Deshi 's!

I’m Zahia, Founder and CEO of Strides Co (www.stridesco.com)., a fast-growing fashion brand based in Bangladesh. We specialize in blending contemporary fashion with our cultural heritage, creating stylish, modest clothing that resonates with modern Bangladeshis.

I’m excited to announce that we are now shipping to the USA! 🎉 Whether you’re looking for trendy outfits or something that connects you to your roots, we’ve got a variety of high-quality options.

We’re also exploring partnerships with clothing boutiques here in the USA! If you own or know of any boutiques that might be interested, we’d love to collaborate. We can supply clothing directly and even produce custom designs from scratch in small quantities for your brand!

Feel free to reach out or drop any suggestions in the comments!

Website: https://www.stridesco.com/
Instagram: [@stridesco]
Contact: [info@stridesco.com or reach out to me personally at zahia@stridesco.com ]

Looking forward to connecting! ✨

Thanks to the Bangladeshi gentleman on bus 60 who handed me my debit card near Aprile bus stop at around 11 PM. It had fallen out of my pocket while I was getting off the bus near Aprile. Many thanks, stranger. Appreciate your kind and considerate gesture.

What is going on in Bangladesh? because I go from seeing Muslims protecting Hindu temples and standing guard in BD to a Hindu teacher being beat up and forced to resign on the spot. This is so fucked up and backwards and is going to lead to a straight up civil war which is scary given I still have family there.

EDIT: Adding a source link because I don’t want people to think that this is some rage-bait post heres the link

Hi , I’m 22(M) . Been here for almost 3 years . Couldn’t make any friends to hangout or in general. Had 2 friends, they moved to Adelaide couple of months ago . Now I’m left alone . Would love to make some new friends to hang out with . If anyone wants a new ambivert friend in their group , please respond 😉

hello. i have an older sister, the age of 30 who's been divorced for the last 4.5 years and has not found a husband or even a good boyfriend yet. she's from bangladesh and lives in australia but prefers bengali men. she's so driven and smart and beautiful, but recently for the last 6 months she's been feeling distraught. she wants someone to comfort her when she comes back from work. all her friends are moving to other parts of australia or getting married, for whom she's very happy, but i can understand that she feels lonely and upset about it inside. i dont know how to help her feel better nor do i know anyone good for her.

please help me with any advice (would be better if it matched with bengali culture not western culture)

also it is a request to avoid texting or asking anything unnecessary or unrelated. thank you

i'm 16 year old looking for some friends in melb to connect with

Duke Fakir, from the famous Motown group Four Tops, has passed away today. I don't know if any of you listened to his music, but I wanted to share since he was half-Bangladeshi.

His real name is Abdul "Duke" Fakir. He was born in Detroit to a Bangladeshi dad and an African-American mom.

He was part of the legendary vocal quartet group "Four Tops". They were inducted into the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame, and was listed by Rolling Stones as one of the top 100 musicians ever.

One of the few Bangladeshi-Americans/South Asian with massive success in music.

https://www.cnn.com/2024/07/22/entertainment/abdul-duke-fakir-death/index.html

Visiting NYC with a few non-Bangladeshi friends next month. We're from Miami and there aren't any Bangladeshi restaurants here, let alone good ones. Would love to take my friends on a little food tour to introduce them to the best Bangladeshi foods out there in NYC! So please suggest your top spots and lmk which places to avoid too.

I once made Fuchka for everyone and they went crazy, so definitely suggest your fav Fuchka spot too.

I’ve been looking for some Bangladeshi people to talk and make friends with….. I’ve been here for the past year for my bachelor degree…. Staying over in Clayton as of now

Hey im an international student im fiji, keu eikhane thakle dm. ♡