Anyone (muslim man) who married a Christian woman. How did the parents react? Did you have to break up when thinking about marriage?

so i came across a post on bangladesh reddit post https://www.reddit.com/r/bangladesh/comments/1gcsxc0/prof_dr_ali_riaz_an_american_citizen_given_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

and i would like to warn y'all that our history is most likely going to be rewritten and it isnt going to be the one we know. my suspicions is that the newer generations of kids in bangladesh will see american supporting pakistan as a good thing etc to protect us from Indians or whatever and downplay the attempted genocide. we should pay attention to what unfolds.

for those that do not know the protest that took place to create a regime change was US's doing.

I'm planning to just come to America (or an overseas country) for 2-3 weeks. Just need to recharge and get out of Australia for a bit. This is kind of during the Christmas Holidays. December 17th or such until the first week of January. Is there anyone interested in having me around at their place for two and a half weeks or so? Like I just want to get out of Australia for a but I want to explore my horizons and be around someone. And just hang out.

For context I'm a 28M single Bangladeshi guy

I'm planning to buy such a book for myself. But does anyone have any good books I can buy which are standalone? Just a single book? See here: https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ByronicHero

Just wanted share somewhere where I might be heard.

I feel like I did everything right growing up, mostly. Went to university, got the six figure job, bought and half paid off my own house, travelled a bit, and in the past year or so got reasonably fit. I have hobbies that I enjoy in playing in a band and making music, tinkering on my project car, swimming. Although I'm not necessarily killing it at any one thing (not working at the most prestigious company, or making the most money, etc) I think things are pretty comfortable and I'm grateful for what I have.

I always pictured myself with a Bengali girl who grew up here, but it's felt pretty bleak trying to meet someone. I didn't have many female friends growing up or in uni so that's made it hard to meet anyone through friends, though admittedly, I always just assumed I would meet someone through arranged, so I never really went out of my way to chase girls.

I've met (in person, arranged) several different girls over the course of the last couple years, none worked out, all for slightly different reasons, but they all kind of fit a certain pattern. They were all nice and we got along okay, but we never get past the small talk phase. The effort in texting always felt very one sided, very much like pulling teeth trying to get them to engage. In the end it would either fizzle out or they would give an excuse of some kind as a gentle rejection (some flavour of "I'm not feeling ready for marriage after all"). I can tell the vibe they get from me is safe and boring.

I don't really blame them honestly. Talking to these girl, I felt pretty boring. But at the same time, I feel like the average guy out there doesn't need to be some charismatic billionaire adventurer to find a relationship, so obviously I'm doing something wrong.

I feel like the answer is simply that these girls didn't find me physically attractive. I think I am decent enough facially, but I do have a glaring "flaw": height. I've never been that insecure about it or anything, but yeah, obviously will be a thing for some girls. I see shorter guys walking around with attractive partners out and about though, so idk.

There was one girl I spoke to who grew up back home and came here after high school, but was fairly "fobby". I had reservations about this at first, but they quickly fell to the side. This was the one instance where things went amazingly. For once the interest didn't feel one-sided, she actually seemed curious about me. She was sweet, caring, endearingly thoughtful. She was musical and artsy in a way other girls I'd met were not, that really felt relatable. We would text late into the night, we went on dates, with our chemistry improving with each one. Two months, I already felt ready to marry this girl, but we had to cut things off due to an entirely external reason. Man, did that suck. I took a break after this -- it was my first real breakup and took me a while to be able to move on.

I think when a girl likes you, they make it easy for you. This is what I see with friends who have fell into relationships and the one good experience I've had. When they don't, it'll be like pulling teeth, which is what it was like with every other girl I met.

It hasn't been lost on me that the girl things went well was basically a "FOB" (although they were a Canadian citizen, they had a strong accent, would listen to music in our language primarily, travel back home at least once a year). I hate to be cynical about this, but I felt I was immediately more interesting of a prospect being someone who grew up in Canada. Maybe I've been too judgemental. With girls who grew up here, I feel very taken for granted and like they were holding out for someone better.

The experience seems like it's been pretty much the same among my brown guy friends: all did things "right" (decent uni, good jobs and salaries, well travelled, etc.) but just unable to get anything going romantically.

Like I said, I was pretty set on meeting someone in Canada/the US. But I'm starting to see the grey hairs start pop up, so lately I've been thinking that maybe the right thing to do is to swallow my pride about this requirement I've set. I'm disappointed that it's been so hard finding someone here and giving up the future I always pictured, having someone that "just gets it".

To complicate matters further, my mom got diagnosed with cancer earlier this year. It's been a lot on her and the family. She requires a full time caretaker, which we've been balancing between me and my dad. It's going to be an ongoing thing, and will just be a fact of life from now on. She was always the one doing the networking with matchmakers and stuff, obviously not doing it anymore. I tried taking the reign on this but it's tough talking to families, they all do seem to back off when we mention my mom's condition.

There's no point complaining, I know thing could be worse, but sometimes I wish my parents never left the homeland. As a brown guy, you really do feel like a second class citizen romantically in Toronto and the loneliness has definitely been getting to me lately. I'm not giving up, I'll keep persevering and doing my best. After all, what else can you do? Thanks for reading if you did.

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I'm kind of curious to know what are your thoughts on https://www.youtube.com/@HealthyGamerGG/videos who's videos I watch. Does he give good advice in your opinion? Or thoughts on him as a desi content creator?

I'm a 28M year old guy and currently living in australia. Got a civil engineering degree and 5 years experience (albeit in the public sector). I've lived in Australia for 17 years now and have never felt welcomed here. What's the best place for me to move to?

Hello fellow Bideshi_Deshi 's!

I’m Zahia, Founder and CEO of Strides Co (www.stridesco.com)., a fast-growing fashion brand based in Bangladesh. We specialize in blending contemporary fashion with our cultural heritage, creating stylish, modest clothing that resonates with modern Bangladeshis.

I’m excited to announce that we are now shipping to the USA! 🎉 Whether you’re looking for trendy outfits or something that connects you to your roots, we’ve got a variety of high-quality options.

We’re also exploring partnerships with clothing boutiques here in the USA! If you own or know of any boutiques that might be interested, we’d love to collaborate. We can supply clothing directly and even produce custom designs from scratch in small quantities for your brand!

Feel free to reach out or drop any suggestions in the comments!

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Looking forward to connecting! ✨

Thanks to the Bangladeshi gentleman on bus 60 who handed me my debit card near Aprile bus stop at around 11 PM. It had fallen out of my pocket while I was getting off the bus near Aprile. Many thanks, stranger. Appreciate your kind and considerate gesture.

What is going on in Bangladesh? because I go from seeing Muslims protecting Hindu temples and standing guard in BD to a Hindu teacher being beat up and forced to resign on the spot. This is so fucked up and backwards and is going to lead to a straight up civil war which is scary given I still have family there.

EDIT: Adding a source link because I don’t want people to think that this is some rage-bait post heres the link

Hi , I’m 22(M) . Been here for almost 3 years . Couldn’t make any friends to hangout or in general. Had 2 friends, they moved to Adelaide couple of months ago . Now I’m left alone . Would love to make some new friends to hang out with . If anyone wants a new ambivert friend in their group , please respond 😉

hello. i have an older sister, the age of 30 who's been divorced for the last 4.5 years and has not found a husband or even a good boyfriend yet. she's from bangladesh and lives in australia but prefers bengali men. she's so driven and smart and beautiful, but recently for the last 6 months she's been feeling distraught. she wants someone to comfort her when she comes back from work. all her friends are moving to other parts of australia or getting married, for whom she's very happy, but i can understand that she feels lonely and upset about it inside. i dont know how to help her feel better nor do i know anyone good for her.

please help me with any advice (would be better if it matched with bengali culture not western culture)

also it is a request to avoid texting or asking anything unnecessary or unrelated. thank you

i'm 16 year old looking for some friends in melb to connect with

Duke Fakir, from the famous Motown group Four Tops, has passed away today. I don't know if any of you listened to his music, but I wanted to share since he was half-Bangladeshi.

His real name is Abdul "Duke" Fakir. He was born in Detroit to a Bangladeshi dad and an African-American mom.

He was part of the legendary vocal quartet group "Four Tops". They were inducted into the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame, and was listed by Rolling Stones as one of the top 100 musicians ever.

One of the few Bangladeshi-Americans/South Asian with massive success in music.

https://www.cnn.com/2024/07/22/entertainment/abdul-duke-fakir-death/index.html

Visiting NYC with a few non-Bangladeshi friends next month. We're from Miami and there aren't any Bangladeshi restaurants here, let alone good ones. Would love to take my friends on a little food tour to introduce them to the best Bangladeshi foods out there in NYC! So please suggest your top spots and lmk which places to avoid too.

I once made Fuchka for everyone and they went crazy, so definitely suggest your fav Fuchka spot too.

I’ve been looking for some Bangladeshi people to talk and make friends with….. I’ve been here for the past year for my bachelor degree…. Staying over in Clayton as of now

Hey im an international student im fiji, keu eikhane thakle dm. ♡

Niagara, ON I mean

It has been very frustrating last 8 months. I have probably applied to over 2000 jobs but no luck at all. I studied in Canada. Right after my undergrad I landed a management position at a popular Pizza conglomerate in Vancouver. Life jumped from 0 to 100 real quick. But due to some rookie contractual mistake the company got to take full advantage of me. I made the company more money in the first 6 months of my employment than they made in the last 6 years. Probably even more. But they didn’t pay me what they promised. They promised a good amount in commission for every new franchise sold, I was motivated after, and went hard on the hustle. I was so proud of myself that I could pull that off. But later it just dawned on me that I am not getting what is owed to me, as the commission part was not a written agreement, I couldn’t do anything. Sigh. HAD TO GET THIS OFF MY CHEST

Anyway, since that job, in the last 8 months I applied to over 2000 jobs. All I get is “Unfortunately, we will not be moving forward with your application, but we appreciate your time and interest in……”.

I used to be so ambitious, I had the drive completely incomparable to anyone I ever met. Now, I don’t know why, but I have never felt this incompetent ever in my life. I understand the Canadian job market is totally screwed. But I don’t see any difference here in the States as well. I recently moved to NYC permanently through family. I have been applying to jobs and I can only see the same result.

I am currently doing my MBA, but I really need to find a job. I tried everything. Applied almost to any and every industry. Nothing seems to work. But right after my undergrad, I could compete easily with MBA graduates, NO PROBLEM.

I feel devastated, beaten and tired.

I am looking for something in Marketing. Anything. Doesn’t have to be a management role. Also considering getting into Management Consulting, but I have no idea how that really works. And given that I am not from a target school, I really don’t know what to do.

My parents also just moved here too. They are old and retired. I gotta take responsibility now. But I feel so lost.

Any Advice? Pointers? Directions? Anything is appreciated.

I will really wash dishes at this point.

Apologies for the rant. But I will be immensely grateful if I could find a way to get out of this mess.

Thank you.

Does anyone know how long does it take to get a no visa required (NVR) approval at Bangladesh High Commission in London?

Anyone with recent personal experience?

What are some English words your Bangali parents ponounce differently or should I say with a Bangladeshi accent? Both my parents pronounce Doordash as Dur desh. The literal Bangla/Bengali translation for that is far away country… 💀

I know people say get therapy or help. But that's not an option in australia without the government tracking you and notifying your employer. I was just wondering if anyone had any good books (for a desi australian guy in his late 20s) to read to help overcome depression? I'm really open to actually looking for some books to read.

My depression's been re-occuring. It peaks and valleys but the valleys tend to be bottom and long with the peaks short but good. I want to stop this altogether.

So does anyone have any books for me to read?

I'm seriously thinking about this. I'm turned 28 in a few weeks. And a Civil Engineer. But I just want to leave this country and go to another western country with an equal or better salary and life. I'm just really tired of the racism here. At the moment I make $112K (AUS) and have a Civil engineering degree from RMIT. But I want to leave.
Does anyone have any advice for me on this?

Anyone from Sydney Australia want to be friends?