The couple in their early 50’s don’t clean at all because of back pains. I’m into month two and I alone clean the floors of the entire house every weekend. I take out the garbage often (even though I don’t make a lot of trash) and mowed the lawn once. We’re that house in the neighborhood and it’s embarrassing. I’m a 5’0, 90lb lady. I can’t even microwave something without a complaint because the smells bothers someone. Migraines he said. So what, I’m not supposed to eat? Funny, their cats leave poop and vomit in random corners and they let it dry. The retired next to my room rips ass and he shits in a bag in the bathroom because he has diabetes +constipation and his shits might clog the toilet. But why cant you just flush as you go… He tracks cat liter and debris everywhere he goes- barefoot. I found shit on the seat and floor. I’m constantly wiping his pee off everything. I lost my appetite. All for a low price of $800 in California. I moved here for a job but- fuck this.

I moved into this place with a girl who described her dog as “well behaved, trained, and low maintenance”. Instead, she neglects the dog, leaves it unattended for hours (once she left for 36 hours without notifying my other roommate and me so we had to figure out what to do). When she is with the dog, he behaves well, but when she’s gone, he lashes out at my roommate and me. When we have friends over, he will bite them, growl, show teeth, and chase. He has also peed in the house and left stains on the floor and has torn up her bedroom door while whimpering to be let out. We’ve tried to bring up some of these concerns but she brushes it off as “he’s just sad that I’m not around”. My roommate and I are animal lovers so seeing our other roommate neglect to take him on walks, yell at him, and enforce negative behaviors is extremely stressful. It’s embarrassing to have friends over bc we have to apologize for a dog’s behavior that we have no control over. My roommate and I agree that the dog can no longer live in the house. What can we do? The roommate with the dog is very stubborn and strong willed and I don’t want her to walk all over us

I would love some advice for this situation I am in. Here goes. For one I’m in Florida. I have been renting for a little over 4 years’ always paid on time, perfect history! In fact always early besides the point. Into my 2nd year we get hit with hurricaine Ian. I paid out of pocket to board and protect home. Cost about 1800. Lanlord NEVER paid me back. Not even in a deee month or two of rent. Nothing. I fixed the air conditioner. She doesn’t feel she shoould pay bc it was under warranty however in the middle of summer when she doesn’t answer her phone for a whole week I took it upon myself to repair it. Kept my Recipt, she never paid me back, not even in a free rent. After the burricaine Ian the roof needed to be replaced I replaced that, 17K she has NEVER paid me back, not in rent nothing! She even kept the insurance money when she made the claim and never paid me but again kept all her insurance Money for the roof. I have receipts to back up everything!! Again kept paying my rent. Never combined the two or said you owe me money nope I kept paying every month! Now two years passed my lease just renewed in the 7th of this septemeber I’m assuming cause she accepted payment but we never signed a new lease. I just got hit with hurricaine Milton, again boarded up home this time it flooded. It flooded bad! I called her and told her what happened cause she lives in California. After I told her I went a whole week with out her talking to me. I didn’t know what to do. I finally get a hold of her and she says idk what you want me to do… I have no insurance. Now she has insurance made a claim and told me after the house is fixed I. Can move back in. I went back there and she never told me but everything I own is outside. Down to my makeup. And undergarments. Everything!! I lost most of it in flood however what was salvageable was all outside on the side of the road. Ow she said screw it I can get lots of money for it so I’m selling so I am now homeless, this can. It be legal. What can I do?!?

So it’s me again. My roommate finally decided to leave. I am now so relieved that I do not have to deal with her anymore. 🥳🥳🥳🥳

Okay so there’s three roommates in my dorm suite including me. One of us has a trash can in her room and doesn’t really use the trash can in the kitchen. One of us doesn’t cook often and the third one of us cooks everyday. The problem is, with how much cooking we’re doing, the trash can is filling up fairly quickly.

The girl with the trash can in her room thinks that she shouldn’t have to take out the trash in the common area as much. The one who cooks everyday thinks we should all rotate taking the trash out.

What do you guys think? Do you think the roommate who doesn’t use the main trash can should be a part of the rotation because she doesn’t use it? Or do you think all three of us should be a part of the rotation so that everyone is contributing to the amount of chores?

I live with a girl I met on SpareRoom. We had mutual friends & everything seemed to be going well. She turned into a very hard person to be around; extremely selfish, very loud, messy & dirty etc. I was asked by two friends if I could move in with them in a few months to help with their mortgage, & I said yes. When I leave I would have been at my current place for 18 months.

When I told her I was leaving, I gave 2 months notice as it’s coming up to the holiday period etc. however, since then she has been extremely difficult to live with. She is slamming doors, turning heating off & opening windows in the morning when she leaves for work (the only purpose of this is to make me very cold when I wake up), making as much noise as possible in the mornings, & has stopped cleaning & tidying altogether. There are other things that are happening but I won’t list them here. she has also completely ignored me since I told her.

How can I make these next two months less stressful & horrible for me? Just to note, speaking to her about it will be essentially impossible. She’s not someone you can have an adult conversation with :(

We have a boiler (80 L) used for heating the water. I've been living in this apartment for 5 years now with several different roomates and no problems (we're all students). The new roomate came in a month ago and without telling me set the thermostat of it on the maximum (90°C or 194 F). Now i didn't notice it was changed at first since it always just stayed the same for years. What i did notice was really hot water coming out the second you move the tap to the left, almost like there was no lukewarm-warm inbetween, just cold and hot. I only noticed it last few days. I turned it down at first, he turned it back to max, and this just kept happening back and forth. We didn't really see eachother at all during these days so i couldn't tell him to just keep it down (probably should have texted him).

Now we come to this morning. Last night i again set the thermostat on a normal temperature. He was in the bathroom and right before he went out he told me to "not touch the thermostat" since the "boiler is small" and he "needs enough for dishes and showering". Nevermind he washes a few dishes every other day at best and the fact that the boiler is turned on ALL DAY anyway. I explained to him that it's not normal to keep it turned on 24/7 on the highest possible temperature both because the water is scorching and because it can damage the heater (i didn't mention that the utilities will be higher). His response was "at my home we have a bigger one that we keep turned on all day on max" and just left (he comes from an obviously wealthy family which is kind of ironic since this apartment is comparatively dirt cheap but ok).

I honestly don't know what more i can do other than talk to him once more about it and just keep redialing the thermostat. I know i'm in the right about the boiler but still feel bad about confronting him (again never had any quarrels with past roomates).

What can i do?

I’m 26(M), and I live with 3 other boys. One 18, one 19, and one 29. I’ve known the 29 year old for years now, I wouldn’t say we are close though…just living together. The other two younger ones have been here just over the summer time. The 18y/o I bonded with quickly, but in turn of that he got too comfortable with me. Every time I came home from work, he would come and sit in my room and wouldn’t leave. I have since talked to him about this and he hasn’t done it in a while. Then he started to not do dishes, clean up after himself, and would just be overall rude about certain things. We had a house meeting a few months ago to say hey, we all need to clean up after ourselves, which we all agreed. I even put up a calendar for us (which they have since ignored) to keep track and hold everyone responsible for cleaning. I’m a clean freak, I always clean up after myself even my room is spotless 98% of the time. So when my whole household is dirty, I go a little crazy…

It’s been a month since that house meeting, and guess what? Dishes still in the sink. The bathroom we share, disgusting. I clean everything the first two weeks thinking he would hop in and help, but he hasn’t. I even asked him last week to AT LEAST clean our bathroom and he said what he always says when he promises something he won’t actually follow through with…”yeah, yeah I got you I’ll clean it.” Famous last words.

On top of all of that, he went to the older roommate and asked HIM (not me, the person who he shares a bathroom and side of the house with) if he could have his friend and girlfriend stay for 3 days. Older roommate said it was fine. He told me last second as he was giving me a ride home from work. They were already in our house living there. That really hurt my feelings and my trust. They used up our toilet paper, were loud, even walked into my room while I was sleeping. My roommate knew about that and didn’t even say sorry. They ended up leaving a week later, not 3 days like what was promised, a week.

Am I being dramatic? Should I talk to him? Idk. I want to but I know I’ll be mean about it because idk how many times he needs to be talked to. I feel like his goddamn mother.

TLDR.:
I let my longtime friend take the open spot in my shared apartment and turns out she's nightmarish to live with both in regards to habits but also because she has a crush on me and is really making me uncomfortable.

I have been the luckiest flatmate in the world for four years. My old flatie was PERFECT. He was quiet, liked to clean, enjoyed cooking together and was always sensitive to my personal space issues and need for privacy. Not a single fight in all that time. He moved in with his girlfriend recently, very happy for him, but I wanted to stay in our apartment.

A friend of mine told me she was also looking so I was like...sure. Now I'm in hell.

She doesn't clean. Ever. I have to clean her dishes or they stay dirty. HEr dirty laundry accumulates in our shared bathroom instead of her keeping it in her room. Her grandma stayed with us for two fucking weeks recently detrashing her room while she was just sleeping or playing on her phone.

She asks me to cook also for her several times a week because 'you enjoy cooking, right?', which I did with my old roomie but don't want to do on demand, especially because she never reciprocates. She also knows I'm dieting and feel bad about throwing food away but nevertheless always buys chocolate and fast food to 'share', asking me every day why I didn't take any. I asked her to stop but it's not working. I don't cook on demand but being annoyed about this all the time really stops me from enjoying cooking or wanting to be in the common space so I end up having bad eating habits too on days when I don't want to deal with her.

I always have to be the one who cleans the trashbins and we have fruitflies at all times because she throws half-eaten food away in the packaging and just leaves it in the normal trash until I take it out. We have 24/7 easy access to huge trash bins right outside our apartment. I measured the time, it takes 35 seconds to take out the trash.

She shouts through my door whenever she wants to tell me something, most of which is entirely uninteresting. Last time it was 'Do you have sourcream I can borrow?' at fucking 3AM when she knows I don't eat sourcream right now due to diet. She keeps waking me up and it makes me miss sleep.

She also doesn't write any of the things she buys to share into our expenses table, it's driving me mad because I feel it's unfair to her but on the other hand I buy more stuff...

She also always calls her family very, very loudly in our shared kitchen. Every day. For hours. I can't hear shit if she's in her own room but no, she has to stomp around the kitchen and in front of my door.

She talks incredibly loudly in general and tries to talk to me even when I'm taking a shit in the bathroom. She always follows me around the apartment and corners me with 'just one more story'. Then when I tell her I'm tired and want space she looks at me like a kicked puppy.

She tells me way too intimate details and when I ask her to stop she just continues rambling. No, I do not want to know about your fanfiction ideas of a sexual relationship. Please spare me.

I found out she has a crush on me, which would be fine, but she didn't disclose before moving in and always touches my stuff, sniffs me, wants hugs, headscratches and babying and doesn't respect my personal space. She tries to be more my type and fails miserably. I've told her I do not like her and am not looking for a relationship anyway but she's not letting go of her torch. When I offer to help her make a dating profile or to introduce her to someone she just says no and continues to get on my nerves.

She also makes inappropriate jokes about toys of an intimate nature I might or might not own. To be fair I did a uni project on the topic and therefore have weird, custom ones that I made for that made by a glassblower and mechatronics workshop. Everyone I know knows I have those. That doesn't give others license to ask me or make presumptions about my habits though.

She makes fun of the things I like such as a recent game that came out. Instead of playing it she watches joke reviews and then explains to me how shitty it is. Hah hah.

She never listens to what I would like to talk about. She never wants to hear about my thesis process, my uni projects, my personal projects, how my brother is doing...it's always what she wants to talk about. If she shows interest in something it's like in the above, with her making fun of it like a kid pulling pigtails of their crush.

I've told her before that I feel insecure about my weight, my thin hair and my skin issues and since then she's been saying 'I actually like ugly girls, they're more thoughtful and not superficial'. Girl, what? Really?

She's also too lazy to put on clothes while leaving her room occasionaly. I don't want to see her naked! Sauna is okay, we are in Finland, but cover up your tits in the fucking kitchen.

I also have a cute little pet jumping spider...I came home recently and she just let herself and her friends into my room and was taking my lil babygirl out to show to them. She is very fragile and can die if she gets scared and falls too far. She's also very fast and could easiely get lost, never to be seen again. I screamed at her for the first time then.

In general she also goes into my room despite me telling her she is under no circumstances allowed in my room without me being there also and inviting her in. I do not want others in my personal space.

She also forgot to pay the rent for the first three months of living together and it's both our heads rolling if she forgets again so I have to remind her every month.

Okay, I'm done ranting. Fuck, I don't know how to get rid of her. She's proven resistent to any kind of gentle or recently less gentle reminders and requests to be more mindful. I do not want to move out, I was here first and this apartment is half as expensive as all others in the area and I can't afford another one.

We used to be such good friends but the resentment is growing and I don't know what to do...

Edit: This is not an LGBTQ+ hatepost! I'm also part of the community. It's a personality issue!

This is affecting my sleep, I have no issues with him putting alarm, atleast turn it off. I told him, if he isn't hearing then put earphone and sleep, he agrees and again does the same thing over and over again. If this happens again one more time today, I don't know literally what I will do

My bf and his friend just moved into a house in April (about 7 months ago) from an apartment complex that they lived in (two different apartments in the same building).

Things have been going well for them up until recently. My bf’s friend has a girlfriend of about 3 years that moved to SD about a year ago and is planning on moving back, into the house that my bf and his friend currently live in.

My partner doesn’t know what to do bc his job requires him to be able to build a solid routine so that he can regulate his work and not get too emotionally attached. And he doesn’t want to impose on their relationship if they’re trying to make the next “big step” in their relationship.

I’ve offered to let him live with me since I just moved in April as well to my own place, but he’s also unsure of how long I’ll be there since he knows I have aspirations to live in a different state before the end of next year. Tbf my lease is up in May, but that doesn’t mean we couldn’t sign a new lease for 6mo as opposed to another year, right?

I’m just trying to get some insight that may be helpful bc I want to be able to support him in any way that I can.

Also I can clarify in the comments if need be!

I (F24) live with two roommates (F22 & F26), and we have lived together for just under a year. We have differing ideas of what is considered ‘clean’ or ‘tidy’, and I have mentioned repeatedly throughout the year that mess and dirtiness makes me very uncomfortable and unwilling to be in the shared spaces of the house. I have tidied up multiple times after them and it’s beginning to feel pointless, as the kitchen will stay clean for maybe a day or so before it’s back to a dirty, gross state.

We all work jobs with unconventional hours, so I understand they’re not doing their washing up after making dinner late at night, but the dishes sit there for days, and I still manage to make time to clean up, take bins out, hoover etc.

Today was my final straw, I came back after being away for a couple days and the bursting bin bags, dirty congealed plates, bottles and more left there to fester pissed me off more than normal. As a result, I tidied up (mainly out of spite lol) and moved all MY plates, bowls, mugs, glasses and cutlery that I brought with me when I moved in, to my room which I keep locked when not home. I know they’re going to be angry I’ve moved my things, but there is no respect for my feelings or consideration for the time I spend tidying up after them.

I know they’re going to say it’s an overreaction, but I really don’t know what else I could do. Have I overreacted?

So first of all, i (20M) live with two friends (both 21M). We got our apartment 6 months ago.

This was the first time we all moved away from our parents, so i don’t have any experience with setting boundaries with roomies.

So it turns out after 6 months, i am still the only one taking any kind of responsibility in our home.

Apart from not helping with cleaning, taking out the trash, dishes, buying stuff to the house, and all these kind of basic things, they’re just messing everything up all the time.

Leaving hair all over the place in the bathroom when they shave, not cleaning up after themselves in the kitchen, pissing on the toiletfloor, being extremely loud at nighttime to the point i can’t sleep, because they like gaming. Won’t add more to the list as it would seem completely crazy, but it really is. Just all these small disrespectful things that adds up.

Their rooms are full of trash, it stinks and there’s literally bags of trash behind their doors. That doesnt affect me, but it shows that it’s maybe pretty naive to even think they can take care of the rest of the apartment.

Oh, and one of them still owe’s me 500 dollars from the first rent. Since then he bought a car and spend same amount of money in a video game, telling me he doesnt have the money.

I wonder what i can do to fix this. If i can fix this? They won’t listen when i talk to them.

Should i just move out, or maybe i’m just overreacting and should shut up? ;)

to be clear : nobody is forcing anyone to do something but since my roommate refuses to clean up, i’ve been telling them wearing house shoes could ease my burden of cleaning .

i come from a slavic background where taking shoes off at the door is standard for hygienic purposes, i talked to them about it before moving in and even bought them slippers to show im being kind. yet they always wear their shoes getting the floors and rugs dirty. we live in a big city where you can see feces and piss on the streets, especially its winter time and it’s getting rainy and muddy, so i want to be proactive about floor hygiene. i’m the only one who mops the floors and it’s so exhausting cleaning off all the dirt. the don’t care to ease the load of cleaning by cleaning up themselves or being careful to not get the floors dirty. my white rugs in the bathroom are always black after a few days, i don’t feel comfortable in my home anymore, i don’t know what to do because every time i bring it up they act annoyed or act like i didn’t say anything, does anyone have advice?

Anything subtle?

As the subheading says, I moved into a house share in london with a Spanish girl 3 months ago. We had a small fall out over our cats not getting along so I moved my cat out back to my family house in order to avoid further issues with her. I have also been spending less time at the house and more at my family's.

When i first moved in, the housemate was amazing and kind and very clean. But since our fall out shes done a 180. Every time I return to the house I find that it's a mess, unclean dishes everywhere and smells repugnant. My housemate also smells very bad. She is clearly going through something, maybe depression.. she only cares about her two cats and has completely neglected herself.

I'm a really clean person and love to smell good. I have already contacted our agency to bring someone to inspect the toilet plumbing issue. But what else can I do in regards to the smell of the house? How do I ensure that when I leave the house I don't smell of it?

I have tried to find someone to replace me in the tenancy but unfortunately I've been very unsuccessful.

I don’t know if I’ve just been unlucky enough to always live with people who don’t wash their dishes well or if I’m just too anal about it…although I’m pretty sure it’s a combination of both of those things. Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad my roommates are washing their dishes because I know a lot of people have the opposite problem. Thankfully that’s not an issue in our house but I’ve found food left on washed dishes numerous times. I’m already pretty squeamish when it comes to food so the thought of this just grosses me out and makes me not want to use the dishes(which all happen to be mine).

I’ve always been happy to share but I don’t feel like I can trust that the dishes I’m taking out of the cabinet are clean now. I want to suggest that we all use our own dishes and not share but I’d feel bad for changing things up on my roommates and for them having to go out and buy their own suddenly. I’m thinking about giving a week’s notice or so instead of making it so sudden but I’m not sure if I’d be overreacting to suggest that in the first place. Part of me feels like it sounds spoiled and selfish to no longer share my dishes since it’s not like they’ve been damaging them. I also don’t know if this should include just eating dishes or if we shouldn’t share pots either. Ive heard of roommates not sharing dishes before but again it feels weird to go back on what I’ve said and I’m friends with both of my roommates so it’s not like we’re strangers trying to keep everything separate.

What do you all think? Would I be overreacting by asking that we use separate dishes from now on? Should I give them a chance to fix it and clean their dishes better before I go that route? I’ve even considered trying to do all the dishes myself or rewashing the ones that I see are dirty, but I can’t be around to catch every used dish and I’m having a hard time trusting that even the ones with no visible food have been washed properly since it’s clear that the ones with food on them haven’t been. How would you handle this?

I am currently at my AIT, after having finished basic more than a month ago. I have two roommates.

The main thing that gets us into arguments is hair, specifically my hair. We have had arguments over this a couple of times.

They both say that I never clean up my hair after I shower, that I never pick it up off of the floor, when I do. I go into the bathroom and use toilet paper to pick up my hair after I shower, and I literally swept up my hair in the room when they were out yesterday. However, every time I tell them that I, in fact, do pick up my hair, they always contradict what I say and tell me that I never do.

Pisses me off.

This morning, I swept up hair in the room, from the door entrance to the other half of the room, and one of my roommates said that I did not sweep over there at all and did not sweep in the corner in front of our full body mirror, when I did.

It's not the hair that pisses me off, it's them constantly telling me that I don't do something when I do do it. And that one roommate who said that I did not sweep at all in that little corner next to our mirror, she was over there in that general area, so how could she have not noticed at all that I was sweeping when our room is so tiny?

And then those two said that they would tell our drill sergeant. Okay, go tell them.

I think one of them has higher standards for other people than she does for herself. For example, on most days, she doesn't wake up on time, and because of that she is late getting ready, and therefore sometimes doesn't even have time to make her own bed; the other roommate, who she's good friends with, has done it for her a couple of times. And because she is late to get out of bed, late to get ready, that means a lot of the times, in my opinion, she barely cleans the room. We have room inspections every weekend, and need to clean our rooms. IMHO, she barely cleans because of the fact that she wakes up later than the both of us. And the other roommate has had to wake her up before because apparently she can't even wake herself up.

One day, I remember that I cleaned the room for our room inspection, and one roommate started complaining about how I cleaned, when she herself barely cleaned that day, and when that other roommate (late to wake up) also barely cleaned the room that day, but yet she wanted to complain about me???

It doesn't help that they are like good friends, and I'm not friends with them. I feel like they would obviously take each others side first before taking mine.

I just needed to vent and also get people's opinions on the situation.

They're all Indians and I'm (22M) the only SE Asian of the bunch so it's already off to a bad start (nothing against them, but being the only one with a different race makes it hard). Also keep in mind that the owner lives in a separate house so we're the only ones running this place.

I'm the only one who throws out the trash, cleans, and mops the floors. (I tried not throwing out the trash one time and got to a point where there were flies and cockroaches infesting it). They use my dish soap, emptied my laundry detergent, and use my utensils without permission. I've told the others in the groupchat to throw their pizza boxes outside instead of on the kitchen floor but they ignored me and 3 of them are unemployed so they make noise and party all night til 4 AM during weekdays. I bought earplugs so combat this but they blast instagram reels on full volume. I wouldn't mind, but I have to wake up at 5 AM to get to work and I noticed how it affected my performance since I couldn't get enough sleep.

So I told them not to make noise past midnight and still got ignored. However, just now I came back home and their entire group of friends made fun of me as the "house owner" for asking too much of them and I can tell this is the new running joke.

I'm sick of them and I've learned my lesson about being particular with whom I choose to live with. This place is really close to where I work so it sucks I have to find another place by January. Just wanted to get this off my chest since I'm being villainized over here.

I'm currently living with a landlord and someone else rn in a nice house in the suburbs. He smokes meth every day from a pipe. Multiple times a day which I suspect all throughout the house except my room. He leaves the window open when he does though. I do no drugs or drink btw. House is clean, and all that, he has OCD and ADHD and has meth calms it down. He use to just smoke weed but not he moved to that. He works from home and is pretty chill. He started meth around covid time. To live here, it is $500, have my own room. Let's me go in every room and all that. Let me get my own lock for my door and I only have access to it. I have to commute back and forth.

Other option is to live on campus in a suite style apartment and we share 2 bathrooms and 1 kitchen. We all have our own closed rooms. This would be $825 and it's on campus. With my job I think I can barely cover that (car/insurace included in overall price would be $1246). My financial aid and probably my job's school program can hopefully help pay.

Also, I tend to stay in my room all day unless I'm doing something.

My roommate has been spray painting inside several times despite me and other roommates asking to stop. First it was in the bathroom which is in the basement so there is already terrible ventilation. I asked him to stop and got an excuse that it’s “too cold outside”. It happened again and another roommate asked him to stop. Last night, his room REAKED of it. It seeps into my room through the air vents. To be honest, we aren’t on great terms and he seems to have a lot of other issues going on but it’s annoying and he appears to make no effort to change his behavior. Any advice?

My housemates boyfriend seems to always be at the house.

I have two housemates, one has a boyfriend who never seems to leave. My two other housemates have been living here for around 18 months, i moved in during the summer.

One housemate (i'll call them A) always has their boyfriend here (i'll refer to him as D). So D actually has his own place no more than a 10 minute walk away but 9 times out of 10 will sleep here.

H (my other housemate) already knows D quite well as H&A have been friends the entire time A+D have been together - I however do not. He briefly introduced himself to me when i moved in but that's as well as we know each other.

D will come here between 7-10pm most days, stay the night and then leave between 7-10am this is usually 4-6 times a week. Not only is he sleeping here he's also eating and showering here but does not contribute a single penny towards anything. He's here that often his keys are kept with ours and his shoes are a permanent fixture in the living room.

My housemates still expect me to constantly repurchase things like toilet roll and soap as well as the stuff we share in the kitchen (freezer bags, tin foil etc.). I also got a really passive aggressive message because i hadn't taken the recycling out from when a bunch of A+D's friends were here for Halloween. I don't know if i'm overreacting but it really annoyed me when they said that when D is here all the time fills up the recycling boxes but then doesn't do anything about taking them out.

They were also quite passive aggressive about the fact I had put the heating on for a little over an hour a few weeks ago when they house got really cold. They also go around turning off lights in rooms i'm actively using to 'save money'' despite them leaving lights on all the time. I've kind of been made to feel like it's their house and i'm just living it.

It just feels rather hypocritical that they'll get annoyed about me having a lamp on in a room i'm using but will happily have an extra person in the house using the water, electricity etc.

TL;DR housemates boyfriend is constantly here using our stuff but doesn't pay/contribute towards anything.

I've lived in a two bed flat with a live in landlord for ten months now and I've definitely outgrown it. I could write a novel on the ways he annoys me

Since I've lived here he's got a serious girlfriend and she's here all the time. I've been half expecting to get served notice if/when she moves in because he won't need the rental income as much.

I just got home from a weekend with family and gone to use the bathroom that's meant to be just mine (he has an ensuite and room was advertised as having it's own bathroom, he uses it all the time and I let it slide) Found all my towels taken off the radiator and his stuff drying on there again and no toilet paper. So I come out and he happens to he in the hall doing something and without thinking I have a go at him about it being my bathroom and my toilet paper. He gets arsey back and goes "it's not solely YOUR bathroom but if you expect that then that's silly and you should probably move out" and I didn't really have a comeback to that so just went in my room. And heard him back in the living room with his girlfriend going "did you just hear that?!"

I've been looking for other places for a while and a one bed flat came up last week and I sent an enquiry but freaked out at the cost of living alone and didn't reply when they asked about viewing.

Just replied and I guess I wait and see but I rechecked the listing and it's not available til mid December

I messaged someone about a spare room the other day and the guy was a creep over messages

If I get kicked out I'm not sure what I'll do and my heart is pounding

I snapped at him over text a few weeks ago and left him on read when he replied and then we just acted normally to each other in person. I might have dug my own grave this time. I guess I act normal in the morning and see what he does