I have a dumbass roommate guys. When I first moved in, the first thing that irked me was that when I was at the place and looking at the room, there was some furniture and stuff leftover from the last person who lived there. A desk, a mirror, and some bathroom stuff. He asked me did I want it, I said no, get rid of it before I move in. Fast forward to me moving in and all that shit is still there. I had to make the appointment for the trash people to pick it up myself, and also had to drag everything outside myself. He actually drove by me as I was dragging it to the curb, I ignored him.

He also doesn’t clean and half cleans. There’s been this weird purple soap concoction stuck on the sink since before I moved in. He leaves crumbs and liquids on the counter all day. He has a pan that he cooked meatballs in 4 months ago, he never washed it, and the greasy pan just sits on the stove. The stove just has permanent burnt stuff on it, I couldn’t scrub it off. The inside of the oven definitely has never been cleaned. His toaster and air fryer look dirty as hell, definitely never been cleaned. The fridge has this weird mold looking stuff on the rubber part of the door. I have never seen a fridge do that in my life. His oven mitts have never seen a washer machine. He left dishes in the sink for over a week, and when I finally texted him and told him to wash them, he says “oh sorry, I fell asleep!” You fell asleep for a week? He also left a cup of milk out for a week, and after it rotted, he still didn’t wash it. He just poured out the rotten milk and let it sit on the counter for another week. Evidently he had to call maintenance because he had an ant infestation in his bathroom. I’ve never had any bugs in my room. The jokes write themselves.

He invites guests over to literally sleep over for days or weeks without telling me. He will text me about it literally the day of or when they are already here. wtf is that supposed to do for me?

He does his laundry and will deadass leave his underwear air drying in the kitchen and living room. wtf? Was he too broke to afford the 1.75 for the dryer?

We have a tandem parking spot in the garage. When I first moved in, he had given me his spare key if I needed to move it. I don’t have a spare key, and I’m definitely not buying one because they are expensive. 90% of the time I just do street parking because I really don’t feel like having to move his car anyways. Sometimes I’ll park behind him and I’ll come down and move it if he needs to leave. He keeps trying to get me to leave my keys out so he can just move it himself. But I don’t trust him with my keys. Literally the first and only time I left them out for him to move my car, was because I was tired and didn’t want to be bothered. He still comes back banging on the door because he locked his keys in his car and needed the spare he gave me. I took that as a sign. I only have one key and you are not about to fuck it up and lock them in my car. I will just move my car if he needs it. I also rarely park behind him, I have lived here for 7 months, I’ve only had to move it like 4 times.

There’s nothing homey about the place. I just stay in my room. 90% of the kitchen is filled with his shit, my stuff is in 1 cabinet. The place barely feels half mine. I think come March/April I’m looking for another place because I literally just cannot stand his stupidity.

So I live in what is basically Hell. I hate it here. I'll try to explain as best I can.

I got an apartment with my friend who couldn't stand living with his gf and her son. She's messy, and her son is autistic and very loud. I originally offered to live with him because he's my friend and he's a felon so no place would take him. So I stepped up and offered to get a place with him.

We got a place, and upon my first inspection the place was old as hell. The fridge had its door handle taped on. Blinds dirty as hell, my door doesn't even shut all the way and my closet door was messed up. The pipes moan and hum when the upstairs neighbors use their faucets. The upstairs neighbors make that sound I feel deliberately. At least he feels that and every time they do it while he's in the shower, he curses at them and I can hear it through the wall, and it annoys me and pisses me off (stfu you whiny asshole).

Recently we had bedbugs. This is where I really started hating him. I got everything out of my room and my dad was helping me clean while the roommate was away. I had a mental breakdown in front of my dad because I was so paranoid my roommate would be back. My dad and I argued outside and he changed his clothes (because bedbugs travel). My roommate caught the tail end of this. My roommate asked me if he needs to call the police on my father who "stripped naked and yelled at the neighbors about bedbugs". I told him how fucking dare you even suggest that. I told him he changed his clothes because we have fucking bedbugs, and he was yelling because he was mad, because we have bedbugs. He said "I didn't want our neighbors knowing" well oh well. Why do you care what our neighbors think of us? Later he kept trying to pry an answer out of me as to why my dad did that and I told him it was just an argument, and he said in passing that he should have called the cops on my dad. This is where my hatred for him is cemented. BTW, we're bedbug free now. Inspector came and gave us the all clear.

Oh, and the drinking. He's an alcoholic. Before we even officially moved in, he relapsed. Had to go to the hospital for a couple days. Came back, relapsed again in like two weeks. I hate when he drinks. He's manically happy which is extremely annoying, or he's laid up in bed, screaming drunkenly while unconscious. I work from home alot, and I needed to take a few unscheduled days off work to "help him". He went back to rehab for a week. Then he came back, and seemingly did better, until he didn't. He was unemployed the whole time until only a few weeks ago he got a job. Monday through Friday, afaik. But he's now drinking AGAIN. And worst of all, now he brought his gf and her loud ass kid over, and she hasn't left. He said it'd just be overnight, and now it's day three, they're still here. I work from home and I have to be vigilant my customers don't hear her screeching loud kid.

On the topic of guests: I had to fight tooth and nail to get the "privilege" of having my gf come over. At first I'd have to basically beg him to let her sleep over for one night. And his reason why not? Because he has trauma and people being in his house makes him uncomfortable. Fast forward and I had the idea to ask him to allow her to come over every Friday and Saturday as she needs to sleep next to me. She is clingy and has trauma and I make her feel safe at night. He only let me have two nights a weekend every OTHER week. I said fine, fuck it, it's better than not at all. We were and are quiet as a fucking mouse, he doesn't even know we're here, as he has said a couple times. Eventually he let me have her over "whenever I want", and I think the reason for that is that he is drinking again and manically happy again. Also, I've been avoiding the fuck out of him. My gf says maybe he misses me as a friend, well at this point tough shit, I don't see him as a friend anymore. He's a total annoyance to me now. I do not want to smoke with him or them, I do not want to hang out. I want to go into my room with my gf and be left alone.

Which brings me to now. He has his gf over and it is currently day 3, the same gf he hated living with. He brought her over originally "overnight" as it was dark, and she couldn't see out of her windows and it was icy and snowy out, and driving with her kid is difficult. I don't mind his gf coming over, but her kid too? He's loud as fuck and I work from home talking on the phone. So I'm extremely fucking irritated. I've spoken with my landlord before and he says he's open to other people taking the lease over in my name and getting me off of it (because I told my LL I hate living here and had a severe reaction to the bedbug bites, and he said his door is open and we can have a discussion and if someone else applies and qualifies they can take my place and I won't get sued). My question now becomes, I HATE living here. It's literally the worst experience I've EVER had living anywhere with anyone. Should I ask my roommate if he'd be open to having her replace me on the lease? It'd be a way for me to leave, and I have enough to get another new place, deposit and all.

My dad told me with these types of people to not reveal my hand, essentially gray rocking him. I fear this would reveal my hand to him, but if I can work this out, I can leave this hellish pit of despair and anger. I'm so tired of living here and it's turning me into a negative pessimistic person, and I'm tired of it.

What should I do? Should I ask him if he wants to put her on the lease replacing me? Because I can find a place pronto, and I want to, but im locked into a place with him. Or is that too revealing my hand? Idk if I can keep living here especially if he's gonna keep drinking. I hate being around him at all times and 100 times more when he drinks. But I can't tell him that or even suggest I'm any sort of upset or he'll take away my privilege of letting my gf come over.

TL;DR worst roommate in the world and he brought his gf and her loud as fuck autistic son over "overnight", now it's day three and they're still here, being loud, distracting me from doing my job. Want to suggest letting her take my place on the lease because I want out of here, but not sure I should or if it'd cause more strife and pain and/or guilt tripping (he loves to guilt trip)

Hi!

So I just wanted advice on a situation in my current hmo/share house. There are 5 of us in the house altogether, with two moving in just over a month ago.

It's mostly the kitchen we share as a whole house as there are en-suite rooms. In general we are quite clean. We all wipe the counters/tables after cooking, clean any dishes we use, take the bins out when needed and it is clean.

One of the new people who moved in has been constantly making comments that the kitchen is messy and has now made a complaint to the agency we're under. Apparently in the first conversation she had with one of the housemates she instantly made a comment on the mess, he had just cleaned the kitchen that same day knowing someone new was moving in. We got sent a passive aggressive message from said agency to clean.

It's kind of annoyed me because this house really isn't dirty. I've lived with messy people and this house is nothing like them. It feels as though she has this high level of cleanliness but she hasn't communicated properly with us what is bothering her.

What I was wondering mostly was if it's too soon to ask her what about the cleaning habits specifically is bothering her? I don't want to come across aggressive to her, just mostly so we could see what the issue is. Part of me is thinking to wait and see if another complaint happens, I'm just a bit conflicted on the best steps to take

i have been here before. i am a freshman in college and me and my roommate are constantly having issues but she’s mainly the problem. she speaks on the phone really loudly for long hours and does other things that are inconsiderate. i’ve had to email my RA several times about her behavior and she still won’t change. recently i’ve noticed people she’s friends with that i’m cordial with have been acting weird towards me. we have a mutual friend and she stopped talking to me completely. i texted my “friend” and asked her if i did something wrong. she sent me a whole paragraph saying how ive been disrespectful to my roommate and how my behavior hasn’t changed towards her yada yada yada. i remembered the other day my close friend told me my “friend” approached him and asked if it’s true that i said i was moving in with him. he said no that’s not true at all and we never discussed anything like that. i never said that. this girl is spreading lies about me and talking ish and i don’t know if i should confront her or continue to ignore her. i’m very unproblematic and i hate confrontation because usually it leads to me going to far. should i confront her? or should i just leave it alone and let the RA handle it or do a combo of both?

This morning I was diagnosed with Hand foot and mouth disease I work in a daycare so this wasn’t a surprise I luckily had a drs appointment already this morning and when I woke up with the rash was able to go right away. Of course I let my roommates know and have and will be wearing gloves and a mask when I leave my room and spraying disinfectant wherever I go. Before I developed symptoms (last night) I unloaded the dishwasher which btw I’m the only one in the house who does it and when I went down to grab my delivery order with gloves and a mask I saw the dishes I own in the trash. When I confronted my roommate he said it’s because he didn’t want my infected stuff near his. I took them out and washed them and now will keep them in my room but seriously what the fuck is his problem I now hope he gets it it’s not like I got sick on purpose TLDR Roommate tried to throw away my “infected” dishes

Apparently I am. I have posted about this issue before, and here I am again to vent about it. I'm not a dog-hater, but I've grown to greatly dislike this dog and dogs in general, and it's not even the dog's fault, it's the dumbass owners who I live with.

Being woken up multiple times every night for over a year is taking it's toll on me. I'm literally losing hair over how stressed I am in daily life due to my exhaustion. I'm fucking balding from stress and I'm only in my mid-20s. My performance at work has tanked and my job has been threatened multiple times over by management for this on top of numerous call-offs and coming in late. But it's hard to function off of no sleep, and I feel like I'm going crazy. I can't even regulate my emotions, when I'm usually pretty stoic and "unbothered" by small things.

It's not only at night. During the day, when people are out and about, cars driving by, people going on walks. The dog barks at any and everything. Be it neighbors outside in their own yards, the garbage or mail trucks, another dog in the neighborhood barking, a loud motorcycle a mile away, if it sees or hears it it's barking at it. It's practically nonstop. It's gotten better since the last time I posted, but that doesn't mean it's actually better.

And my roommates do absolutely nothing. I posted about it almost a year ago (see history) but they don't do any training or correcting of the dog, the only thing they sometimes do is literally scream bloody-murder-style at it, louder than it barks, which doesn't help at all. And since then, my roommates have taken to praising it when it barks because "it's just protecting the house!" I know the difference between a dog on duty and a dog that's reactive and untrained, this dog is as deep on the latter spectrum as it can get, and praising only reinforces it.

The dog sits in the dark livingroom all day. No toys, no play, no walks, rare potty breaks outside, barely any attention. It's basically a decoration they got, just to say they have a dog. I've complained about it to them and their reaction isn't to put in more effort, it's to talk shit about me (as if I can't hear them in the next room) and tell me what I should do. They suggest soundproofing which I've already sank over $300 in to and hasn't helped, they even tell me I should just get a new job since mine's being threatened BECAUSE OF THEM.

And my favorite thing they've said; "Stop complaining, you'd be dealing with the same thing or worse if you lived in an apartment." Honey if we were in an apartment you would've been evicted a long time ago because of this animal. But because I'm just a tennant I have to pay to deal with it.

The dog barks worse when they're out there with it. My experience with dogs (which I actually have unlike them) tells me that the dogs barks more when they're with it because they're sitting in the same room as it and ignoring it when they should be giving it attention. The dog will be barking it's damn head off and I can hear them having whole conversations through it. They have this mentality of "ignore it and it'll stop" which has proven untrue every single time, it just makes it worse and, again, reinforces it.

And I know what some of you are thinking. "Just move out" or "call animal control" but both of those are easier said than done. I can't really move out when I can't afford a place to live, can't really save up when missing hours or days of work due to lack of sleep. Can't call animal control on the people that own the house the dog lives and is barking in. I'm really just here to vent because I've already tried multiple solutions that haven't worked and other solutions are out of reach. Really the solution should be for them to either train the dog or get rid of it since they don't act like they want it anyways, they're unwilling to do either and not only do I have to suffer for it but the poor dog does too.

Hey all! I’ve found myself in a unique situation and I can’t seem to find any straight answers online. I could make a whole separate post just diving into my roommate but I’ll give you the highlights. He’s an alcoholic narcissist with little to no respect for me personally after 4 years of me putting up with his nonsense. To be fair I didn’t set any hard boundaries because I love the home we’re in and didn’t want to move because of my roommates behavior. So him feeling comfortable disrespecting me is on me. Now, we’re splitting rent and utilities on a home and he comes to me and lets me know he’s expecting a baby in January. The baby’s mother doesn’t have custody of the three children she already has and my understanding is custody will most likely be forced upon him. Now I’m forced to choose between staying in my home with a frankly unfit parent and their brand new baby or up and move my whole life. Im just so lost 😔 sorry for the rant, any advice would be greatly appreciated

My roommate situation is getting pretty stressful. For the past year and a half I’ve been dealing with late bills and extreme lack of responsibility coming from one of my roommates. 6 of us live in this house. Mostly students working part time. This particular roommate is not a student. Rent is extremely reasonable because we are all living in my uncles home. I spent 5 months getting it into shape with my family (his daughter was a hoarder and moved out leaving us the mess). I am responsible for all bills, as they are in my name, as well as collecting rent. My roommate 22(nb) quits jobs, calls out, has no work ethic and blames it all on OCD/Trauma/ADHD and other mental health disorders. They have received help from other family members and friends financially for a long time and it’s seemingly drying up at this point. They take no initiative to find better job prospects and get bored easily. They are also self admittedly addicted to weed. I’ve known this person since we were 15 and have a lot of empathy for the way they were raised and how that affects daily life. But I have other roommates that come from extremely abusive situations and seem to grow and learn from them rather than staying stagnant. I’ve already set an ultimatum for being late this month and it has passed. Rent is late again, I have to front for them again. They won’t even download FB marketplace to sell old electronics they don’t use. They wont even call into their new job to find out if they are working part time or full. Everyday they take a nap and lay wasting in their room… I have no idea how to help other than what I’ve done. They get very defensive and default to telling me I have no idea what it is like to live in their brain. To add insult to injury, they never stop complaining about every facet in their life to all of us. And they always seem confused and blame karma for their situations.

Am I awful for wanting to kick them out

So I (20f) and my roommate (20f) have lived together for more than a year but we moved out of a dorm into an apartment this September and she also got a cat. I was initially excited to have a cat around because I miss my own cat from home, but there's an issue that has really been getting to me. Also she moved in in July because she had a job during the summer but I came in September when classes started and I sublet my room to one of her friends.

So shortly after I moved in I noticed that it smelled of cat poop. I went around and I couldn't find anything where it wasn't supposed to be so I checked her bathroom and I found that there was cat poop in her bathtub. The litter box is next to the tub. Also, we don't share bathrooms (mine is across the hallway from my room and she has a bathroom that is connected to her room). I didn't want her to know that I had been in her room when she wasn't there so I brought it up that I'd smelled poop and just wanted to know if her cat poops out of the litter box. She said he only does it when she works really late "out of revenge" but that it's okay bc she can clean it up pretty easily. I kinda just left it at that but whenever I smelled poop (which honestly happens at least a few times a week) after that I would check the bathtub, and to me it seems like he uses the tub regularly instead of the litter box. It looks like the poop sits there for days before she cleans it up.

A few weeks ago I came home briefly to drop off some groceries just as she was getting ready for work, and she asked if she could use my bathroom because hers was full of cleaning product and she needed to leave in like 15 mins. I was like yeah sure and I said that if she needs to use it again to just lmk. We shared a bathroom before in a dorm with two other girls and we were really close last year so I wanted to be nice (I now realize this was a huge mistake lol). Since then she's used my shower multiple times without letting me know while she allows her cat to take over her own shower. I'm so mad at myself for giving her so much slack because it's so gross and now I feel like I'm enabling her behavior.

The thing that really got to me is that I just got back to our apartment over thanksgiving break yesterday and immediately when I opened the door I smelled it. She wasn't there and she had taken her cat home, but when I checked the bathtub there was poop. I just actually can't believe she would leave for multiple days without cleaning it up. I've been so conflicted on how to address it because her bathroom isn't a shared space so theoretically it shouldn't be any of my business but it's just so gross and I can't take it. I've brought it up a few times since the first time but she kind of just treats it like a joke and not like it's actually super gross. I also feel so bad for her cat as someone who has a cat at home because that's no way for a pet to live. She has mental health issues so I understand that having her cat is comforting to her and that not cleaning up after him is likely a result of depression, but it gets to a point where it's unacceptable for us to live like this. I'm already planning to move into a place myself when the lease ends but I'm not sure how to handle the remaining 8 months of living together.

So i am more petite and i get cold easily. I have gotten blood test ran and i dont have an issue that is making me cold. I prefer the thermometer at 70, however originally my roommate and I decided we can compromise on 68 in the house, which is cold for me but i have a space heater for which every room im in to compensate.

Now my roommate is trying to convince me to keep the house at 66 and that 66 is warm. When i tried to sleep it was absolutely freezing, so much that it took me a while to fall asleep, even with my space heater because it was taking too long to warm the room up. The windows hold so much cold air which makes my room feel even colder and it gets to high 20’s low 30’s at night outside.

Im getting tired of the heat debate. We don’t have jobs where we have to penny pinch the thermostat at all and we can pay, so i don’t know why they keep trying to lower the temp. They are more heavy set than me so im not sure if thats why the temp effect them differently but its really making me uncomfortable in my own living space to me constantly shivering and im not sure what to do here.

Edit: And let me just add that when it was summer, my roommate always set the AC very cool, which made the bill higher and i was fine with it and paid the higher bill, but now i have to suffer because of the bill? Its always their comfort over mine lmao idc about downvotes the person always hot doesn’t win. 🖕

So my (19f) university dorms have a layout of two people sharing a room and a connected bathroom. I have been with my roommate since freshman year and now I’m a sophomore and didn’t have this issue before but now I have noticed that my roommate doesn’t flush the toilet after peeing and I confronted her about it and she keeps saying that it’s the color of the water because it’s only a little yellow and that she did do it and the water just looks like but I’m like 100% sure it’s not that color because it changes to completely white after flushing and you can see a clear difference but she keeps denying and blaming it on the color of the water like it smells too bro. I have confronted her twice about it and have had the same convo of denial idk what else to do.

Edit: this is not a growing up habit we are both Asians in a good rainfall country we don’t have any water conservation practices here Also there’s nothing wrong with the toiled I have tried myself for a few days until I was completely sure she was doing it on purpose Also I don’t wanna hear the yellow let it mellow it literally stinks like crazy

So long story short, a year ago I moved to the 2 bedroom glat with a guy I knew, I took over the lease from his cousin since she was leaving that room and i took it and was added to the contract.

When they moved in 2y ago apartment was almost empty and they bought together couch, washing machine, table chairs and she bought basic stuff for her room, before I moved in she asked me what do i want to keep from furniture from the room and i said i only need a desk and chair where she told me that I need to buy everything because she doesnt have time to sell it around and doesnt want to, whatever i agreed.

So i bought things for room + common things, the deal was when i leave the flat the next flatmate will buy it off from me. The issue now is, i paid for washing machine lets say 100eur before i moved in and the washing machine broke before i moved in so i never even used it, the landlord bought us brand new machine.

I basically gave 100eur for something i never used and i dont see it as fair, but what can i do now?

So I live with quite an inconsiderate roommate. I can not get away from the constant noise. During the night he plays video games and yells constantly, and once it gets past 10pm he decides its time to do the dishes, put the washing and drying on, sometimes cook and also shower. The apartment I live in has criminally thin walls and his bathroom is right next to one of my walls, I can actually here him use the towel it is that thin.

I have spoken to him a couple of times now requesting that he keep the noise down after 10pm. The first time I spoke with him he did do exactly as I asked for about a week. The three times after that its only been for a night. I once even told him I needed to get up at 4am and to seriously please keep the noise down. He still decided to do his personal chores at 1030pm.

I generally go to bed around 10pm as I need to be up by 6am for work and his habits are destroying my sleep and my ability to stick to my schedule.

On top of this not once this year has he taken the trash out, cleaned the kitchen or any other communal living space. He treats communal areas as his own dumping ground. I clean the kitchen and not to days later has he cooked a meal and left a mess in the kitchen. He has made the balcony to the apartment his own workshop with mopeds pulled apart, dirty parts laying around while not doing any work on them for months. He installed industrial shelving in the entry way and filled it with his own stuff. Every small nook has a shelf in it with his belongings in it.

Over the past couple of months it has gotten worse and my resentment for him has been building. I no longer view him as a friend and dread every night he isn't spending at his girlfriend's.

What do I do? Is there anything I can do apart from getting a new roommate as the lease does not expire for a few more months.

Any suggestions or help is greatly appreciated.

So I’m in college and I live in a dorm suite with my own room. The guy in the room directly next to me smokes 4-5 times a day and idk what type of weed he smokes but the smell is horrendous and extremely strong. He (sometimes) opens the window to smoke but it doesn’t really help since the walls are so thin and our vents are connected, so my room also perpetually smells like weed because he smokes so much. My issue is not with the fact that he smokes, but that he does it in a way that stinks up my room and the entire suite. I bought an air purifier/diffuser and have plug in scents constantly going along with air fresheners and they still don’t manage to mask the scent. I am not sure how to proceed because:

1. I have never spoken to him before, but we share mutual friends and he has a crazy infamous reputation and I have heard enough about him to know that speaking to him directly about the issue won’t solve anything.

2. I also don’t want to go straight to reporting him without giving him warning because I feel like that’s unfair. But ultimately if I do talk to him before, and I later report him to the RA, he will know that it was me, which will create unnecessary drama. I don’t want the person who literally lives 1 foot away from me to hate me. He would definitely be the type to retaliate in a petty way.

How should I proceed?

I just need to come here and bitch for a minute about my creepy neckbeard roommate.

I’m trans and I caught him staring at my chest, I pass hella well but haven’t had top surgery yet so that made me really uncomfortable.

On top of that, he has adhd and chooses to go unmedicated with zero coping skills (I’m autistic and adhd, and extremely self-aware, considerate of others and medicated so his behaviors are especially triggering.)

A few weeks ago he asked me if I was able to get into my room, and I asked him why….. he said bc it seemed like the door handle was locked. Um, why the fuck was he trying to go into my room when I wasn’t home?!

The other things that really bother me is what a huge slob he is. I literally clean up after him every day bc he doesn’t care if he sees a bug or something nasty, he’s that used to it. So I end up doing all the housework which would be fine except for the fact that when he’s home, he monopolizes the kitchen/living room area from 7pm to 3am.

He’s super inconsiderate and can’t handle anything without overreacting in a major way, he’s given me rides to work a few times and the ride there is SO HOSTILE. He’ll offer and be a dick the whole way there.

He has a gun he concealed carries, this man child should not have a fucking gun. He’s extremely impulsive, paces around the living room, flaps his hands, by far the most impatient person I’ve ever met and he has no fucking clue how absolutely insufferable he truly is. I feel unsafe saying anything to him bc 1. I’m not on the lease and 2 he has a gun and zero impulse control

My roommate is constantly working from home which alone isn’t an issue but it’s the fact they are always in the communal area and expecting everyone to be quiet whilst on calls etc. the apartment is pretty big so surely just go in your room to take the calls? For the most part this isn’t an issue as we’re all at work. But on a day off it goes without saying that I’d want to watch the tv or play music whilst I cook. Today they asked to turn the music off because they’re on a two hour call. So I have returned to my bedroom

Thoughts on this?

I’ll start by saying my roommate has an odd smell to him at all times when he comes back from being out and about. To give some context we are in the military and share a dorm room(a small one at that) and share a bathroom with our next door neighbors. So we are very much in each others proximity at all times. We are told by our study guide to shower daily no matter what but he argues “I don’t do anything all day” but he’s out for 12+ hours a day on weekends and we work during the weekdays, he still has a smell and argues when I ask him to shower since he stinks. He thinks I’m just germaphobic. To mention also this man does not help me clean at all and only does his area (poorly). I clean,mop, and sweep this place up and down so that we pass room inspections. Also he pissed in the damm sink while I was sleeping because he couldn’t make it to the bathroom WTF. He also wears his work clothes to bed and I’ve rarely seen him do hygiene at all. Am I wrong for asking him to atleast shower? He has also left wet stuff like his loofa and toothbrushes in his backpack with a plastic liner and it has started growing mold and a stench. Am I cooked?

I think my roommate is delusional, she’s only been renting from my for a month but I’ve noticed the things she says and does are outright crazy. She’s a 59 yo yt woman who is just well I think she’s just used to using people around her. I can tell by her rhetoric. She is not outright or direct in anything she says she always trying to find ways around things so she can spin something to say oh well I didn’t say that or something, you know? I am in my mid 30s and I feel like I have a child here it’s kind of weird. We have nothing in common in fact I think we are polar opposites which is fine I’m not looking for a friendship I just needed a tenant but man the things that come out of this lady’s mouth I just ignore but can be so very weird.

We, a house of four, all signed a lease agreement together until the end of the year. One of the roommates has been horrible, doing all kinds of shit from stealing from us to tampering with our laundry and food. The court system has not helped us. Now we’re trying to keep the house we’re renting because it’s a good location for us, but we’ve gotten the landlords to write a new lease with us to exclude the terrible fourth. That said, I’m really concerned that they might just squat here since they’ve had their name on the lease already and apparently squatting is pretty easy to get away with in Washington. What recourse would we have? Should we just jump ship instead of taking the risk? If they do squat, is our best bet gonna be pestering them constantly, after we get court paperwork and police activity going?

I have two roommates.

One old lady who has those thick sharpie eyebrows

The other doesn't do her hair and always left a mess when she first moved in. Refuses to believe her bf pissed me off trying to talk to me and checking me out ONLY when she's not around. Even when she walked in she brushed it off

These girls look an absolute mess. I don't, I get compliments daily. And I believe that's why they leave me out.

They have convos, cook together, laugh and joke together and then when I come in, they stop and stare at me quietly while I'm turned around

One of them, idk which, left period blood and tissue on the floor and on top of the washing machine

I left a note and ever since, they both grouped up against me

I've been in situations that insinuated the older lady had been making accusations about me to the younger roommate. (Accusing me of not telling the ll about a repair when I did, worrying about where I keep my spare key and if I lost it again, I mix my weed with herbs like lavender and she insinuated that she believes I'm smoking drugs. Believe me, if you saw this lady, you'd think she smokes drugs)

The older lady brought her coworker to the house and when I was there, she started talking about how I "rub" the stray cat.... that's right... she's calling "petting" "rubbing" at her convenience to tarnish my reputation

She talked to me with an attitude and made back handed comments like that. I have a jealous mom who would invite people over for the same reason--to have someone to make negative comments (usually accuse me of sleeping around) with

I'm just so tired and frustrated of having to live with them. The boyfriend was moving my food around in the fridge to confront me about not keeping much. They're cultural qnd judge me for what I have to eat but I literally don't keep much because they don't like me AND are concerned about my food to the point of touching it. When they first moved in and it was only 3 of us, the older lady hadn't come, the couple took up majority of the fridge. And there were 2 more rooms 2 other people would move into shortly after

I saved up for a mini fridge and to move out and then blew it all on drinking to cope with having the world's most inconsiderate, drama mongering roommates

I have a roommate situation I've been in for years. Two other guys who work day shift. One of them works from home (hardly ever leaves) the other is part-time. Both of them have trouble with the concept of an indoor voice and very excited talking to each other during (which causes a loud feedback loop where they get louder) the day when I'm trying to sleep (I'm back to night shift, they work days). I've tried talking to them about it only to get blown off. I've tried noise canceling headphones and ear plugs and I still hear them.

Something needs to change, the disruption to my sleep is causing health issues. We have a lease renewal coming up, I'm considering using the opportunity to raise the issue with them, that we may need to go to a 9-month lease instead of a year because I may have to look for somewhere else.

I don't want to move because right now I can't afford to, and another friend of mine won't need another roommate for 2 years (which is a whole other issue).

I don't want to be the asshole constantly yelling at them to shut up. What do bros?