I separated from my role partner a few years ago and I never shared this experience but I want to get rid of it. I had a friend with whom I shared a wonderful world in the world of darkness, full of adventures and a lot of interesting characters. The issue to make it short is that we began to have differences with the ideas, he was too attached to the manual. Every time I told him an innovative idea he came out with "the manual doesn't say that." etc

This boy was always raised in a strict manner, I am going to refer only to the role but it is so that you can see why he is also very psychorigid. The games were already beginning to not interest him directly, he changed the subject or didn't even want to touch the subject. There came a point where I proposed a very fun game in which we could go outside the box. And the result was the same as always.

And he defended himself assertively by saying that there was no point in having a lot of rules or learning a lore if you're not going to follow them and I got frustrated, that was the breaking point.

I began to feel like I was talking more to an AI than to a role partner. And that happens to me with many people, what the world of darkness also has is that it has everything very chewed up and very constructed.

Every time you want to do something "difficult because baba yaga this" "difficult because clan prohibitions do that." The only game this friend cared about was with predictable characters and underdogs with only one point in disciplines.

And I got bored, I felt like it killed my creative spirit, that lack of predisposition totally put me off the desire to roleplay with him.

And almost no one talks about these types of things generally but they happen. The truth was extremely frustrating.

We parted ways after two-ish days 😔. They were the perfect roleplayer, constantly responding, sharing ideas, being communicative but… our writing styles didn’t match at all. I wrote more than they could match in terms of contents, quality and detail. How could one have guessed that writing too much will be my downfall 😔

For context, I haven’t had a partner in a looong time (around one and a half month) so I was very excited but oh well. At least we parted on good terms!

Like you were doing an rp or erp and they try to call you or cam with you.

I’ve had it happen once but I hung up lol. The person was being crazy ngl. But I’m curious if this has ever happened to anybody else and curious as to how you responded.

https://preview.redd.it/4zg0vhhz2age1.png?width=1327&format=png&auto=webp&s=0d313da53b7d7772816c71187befd2769d5f57a1

That was all that was I could see before the cut off.

https://preview.redd.it/1g3vhorf3age1.png?width=1373&format=png&auto=webp&s=dadfd55a45961b98232f37213768c3864b6ad556

https://preview.redd.it/zf2oo94i3age1.png?width=1366&format=png&auto=webp&s=19447dd95c4d575d3b1af63eb484046e3621e76a

And these were what was under there. I found nothing suspicious in the intro as I just thought that this was an OC introduction. Then as I scrolled down i realized it wasn't.

The place I had posted this to had a rule against straight smut for rps, hence why I posted it to their finding the idea of roleplaying with anyone above the age of 20 with anything like that to be strange as like I said am 19.

I don't mean to kink shame or anything but I have limits for these types of things and this is one of them. I was mainly looking for fandom roleplays and found this waiting for me I don't feel comfortable with things like this. There was no prior waring as to what was coming up just the prompt then a simple intro saying who they were AFTER the idea.

I understand that people are into this type of thing but I would of love a simple warning of NSFW below then I wouldn't of looked. I found it very uncomfortable receiving this message, as I said I was nineteen and he was 22 yes I know its not a big age gap but 3 years for me is larger than I would like in this situation and starting out with this makes me worried that if I continue roleplaying I will get hit with more things like this, is there a way for this to be stopped.

is this an issue on reddit or just the odd one out?

When rping, I have characters made for certain plots. But on others, I fall back of one or both of two specific characters. These two I've had for years and have plonked in various personal projects. Combined with being so attached to them and simply enjoying making variations on a certain thing, I had no qualms in reusing them for different characters. The thing is, outside of fandom rps, I've hardly seen anyone do it for a character that's not a self-insert or a persona. Is there a precedent for this, or is this just seen as lazy?

I don't mean to suggest I think I'm some masterful writer that brings something fresh and new to anyone they come across. In all honesty I cringe at most of my writing, and always feel as if I am the less skilled one of the pair between myself and any roleplay partner I've had. But I do find myself to be more a little more original than your average roleplayer. I care deeply about writing a compelling character.

I don't really know exactly to describe how I feel. I feel like no one seems willing to want to create something completely original (meaning not related to any existing IP) outside of the easily recognizable medieval fantasy genre. Like I get it, it's a comfortable genre, massively popular, there are many IPs to draw inspiration from, but holy fuck, I've been doing it since I was like 12. I've seen it enough.

Not only that, many of the characters that I read about in DMs are the most generic, cookie-cutter lines of text I've ever read. I don't care about an orphan thief that raised themselves on the streets, who has a tough exterior with a sensitive side that hides a tragic past. It's been done a million times over. I also don't care about overly extensive world-building, that makes me feel as if I've just booted up the newest popular MMO. I don't want a cosmic struggle, just something personable, relatable.

I don't know if my advertisements just give a very generic feeling to them, but I once received DMs that described that very same character from four different people in one day. When that happened, I just tossed my phone on my bed and said I wouldn't think about roleplay for a long while.

Now, as I'm coming back to it, and wanting to do new things, I find that my interests have very little presence the RP community, at least the ones on reddit.

"Oh, a Victorian setting with horror elements? I love Bloodborne." That's great, but Bloodborne is not what I had in mind.

"Sci-fi? Like Star Wars, or Cyberpunk?" Like... anything in between that, something different.

"Western? I love Red Dead Redemption." Red Dead was great but it's not the tone I'm going for. It's not the only Western.

This is mostly a me problem, I know. It's probably that I'm bad at making ads for roleplay. I've always struggled with trying to convey the unique feeling I want out of a story, but it's like trying to describe an crazy dream to someone. It's like a cologne ad trying to convey how something smells through a sight and sound. Fuck, dude. Am I just stuck up?

I guess I mean to say I wish more people came to me with something they were passionate about, and just said fuck it lets try to write something different, without relying too much on any other idea of other movie, game or book we've seen.

It seems like every time I find an interesting group rp it dies within 1-3 months. 1×1's are fine but I like groups more. I just wish I could find one that sticks around long enough to really enjoy it and make good storylines. I also understand it's a lot of work running a server, I've done so in the past. The reason I stopped was because I was doing it on my own with little to no help.

I just want to throw myself into a fantasy world with other creative individuals and have fun ya know?

This is just a rant post to get it off my chest and so I can complain to someone other than my irl partner 🤣.

Like I put out calls for partners and no one tries anymore, I just put out news ones and it’s all “Hey” with nothing else or “Hi” with no info, no ideas back or anything. Like bro do you actually EXPECT ME TO REPLY TO THAT?!? Like if you’re gonna put that much effort into a in reply to myself call why would I?!?

I want partners who care and wanna put their all into rp and you’re not showing that. It’s just frustrating every time man!!

Okay, seriously- Is there like some secret thing I don’t know about? Is there something about lewd posts that just… make people think it’s okay to flirt with me, not my character, with ME as a person? I usually always manage to steer it back to ‘Yeah, my pupper loves stuff like that!’ or whatever else- but christ. This is like the tenth time, only counting recent rps, that I’ve had someone start trying to basically sext with me. It started off as just- kinda joking, but before I knew it this guy was all like ‘Man, I wish I had a femboy to bend over like that’. Hit him with the ol’ ‘Well, I have a boyfriend. So…’ and they immediately went quiet on me. So fuuunnnnn. I don’t get it 😭

I believe every roleplayer understands that roleplaying carries a risk of wasting your own time from roleplays not working out. Unfortunately I've noticed some people can really take this to the extreme!

I've seen some posts with well crafted, detailed prompt ideas that I'd imagine any long response roleplayer in the appropriate demographic would be interested in. Then when you look at their profile sometimes it's the same prompt or multiple, equally well crafted prompts posted multiple times a day for weeks on end. Typically what I've seen from interacting with these roleplayers is that they're receptive, participate in solid plotting and then stop the RP after a few posts or by the next day. I assume from their prompt frequency that this is probably their normal way to engage in roleplay. Most people probably can't juggle more than a couple long response long term roleplays at a time, so I imagine based on their post frequency that this is how they normally engage in roleplay. Just seems like a huge waste of their own time to me!

The worst offender I've ever come across: I responded to a decent looking prompt. We did some basic plotting. We started the RP. In the first scene, their character literally just "unalives" my character (not part of the plotting) and then the writer poofs. It was only a few posts each, but with the initial talking and plotting, as well as the post length, this whole process probably took around an hour and a half.

The only thing I could think of after that happened was why this person would waste so much of their own time doing all this when they could've withdrew from the RP at any point? Makes absolutely zero sense to me.

Speculation is welcome and requested. If anyone reading this actually does this kind of thing, I'd actually love to hear from you. What might motivate someone to flush so much of their own time in such a manner? Why would someone waste that much time continuing to engage with someone they already know they're not going to roleplay with?

I want to share an experience of mine... so, long time ago, I joined a creepypasta roleplay group chat, because I love horror stuff, and I wanted to introduce my oc so bad besides wanting to have some friends OOC. well, I joined, and then I had the impression that they were rude with each other, but I brushed it off, maybe they are just roleplaying in character.

well... quite the opposite. I texted in private to one of them, to see if they were up to be friends OOC with me. their reply "//no, because you're different from us creepypasta.", not only that raised my level of cringe, and I replied with "//okay.. I just asked", and their response? "//ok poof, now we're friends. happy now?".

I blocked them and abandoned the gc, and they never searched me for an explanation. this is what I think in general: just because you main a character who's supposed to be mean and cold, it doesn't gives you the permission to be rude OOC.

How long would you say is too long to wait for someone to reply to the RP? For me it's 1 month max. One of my recent partners didn't respond to the RP for about 3 months and when they finally did respond it was at max 5 lines and then went offline again and I was like "ok I'm done waiting this isn't working anymore" and just ended it the RP.

Using a throw away account.

I’ve been in this great RP with someone I met on here for about 2 years or so now (I think it’s been that long anyway). Her and I hit it off from the start and we’ve been having so much fun. We’re a good match for each other in terms of interests, limits, writing styles, etc. We also enjoy some OOC chat once in a while where we send each other links to character refs we want to use of new characters we want to introduce or things we want to do/try in our role play. These links will be either from twitter or IG. The other day when she sent me a link to an IG post I clicked on it and got a notification saying “‘so-and-so’ shared this post with you, follow them now!” I clicked on the profile out of curiosity and found my RP partner’s IG page and learned that she’s actually not a girl, she’s a guy. I felt so betrayed and lied to.

Look, I’m bi, so I don’t have any problem roleplaying with a guy, but he approached me and introduced himself to me as a girl from the very beginning. If he had said that he was a guy wanting to play a female role, fine. If he had said he was trans, fine. But that’s not what happened. He introduced himself to me as a girl from the start and kept that lie going. I can’t look at my role play partner or our role play the same. I feel lied to. It sucks because we really are a good match for each other role play wise. Part of me says “who cares? This is all role play anyway” but another part of me is like “Wtf, why wouldn’t say something from the beginning? Why lie about something like that?”

I haven’t approached my partner about this yet and don’t know how to. Any advice?

Guys, I respect everyones gender identity, sexuality, and preferences, I will always always respect that...BUT IT GOES BOTH FUCKING WAYS

YOU HAVE TO RESPECT MY PREFERENCES TOO, ESPECIALLY IF THERE IS A GOD DAMN DISCLAIMER ON THE FUCKING TITLE OF THE POST, WHAT ELSE SHOULD I DO? DUDE I CHECK EVERYONES PROFILE BEFORE EVEN ANSWERING THE DMS OF PPL, AND IF THEY LIE, OR APPEAR TO NOT HAVE READ, I SCREEN SHOT AND SAY

"Sorry, I dont do femboys, tf´s, or cross dressers" And THANK GOD, lately ive gotten polite responses, but holy shit the times ppl have lied, or tried to push me into rp´ing, or sent di*** pics trying to "show me whats up" WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU.

So yeah, rant over, for the 50th time, I have to clarify my preferences, and now I wont apologize, tbh im just going to ignore them id they are un able to read the title, if people´s feelings are hurt, them too bad, but im done with being nice and polite, respect me, as I respect you, if you cant do that, then fuck off

I'm at the point where I want to look for more roleplay partners because within like 2 months I have kicked/blocked 15 people who ghosted or actively weren't trying to roleplay, but were talking to me in an inappropriate way. Like, I am very detailed in my roleplay partner search ad. I want literate, certain amount of paragraphs, communicate with me, long term, and much more.

How is it that people take it as I'll write bare minimum (not even) draw a scene that doesn't make scene, as if they didn't read my parts thoroughly, come back after 3 months of ghosting just to talk freaky and when I ask them to respond say "oh, I'll be busy for another 2 months" BLOCKED, Leave when I write something that they don't like.

Omg! It's a partnership! If you don't like what I wrote or feel comfortable with how I write them just tell me. I don't mind writing. Like, how dare you let me waste MY time to help YOU create your character, make a server, build a plot, just for you to leave 10 responses in. It pisses me off more than you did tell me and when I said "I'll rewrite it, it's no problem." You leave anyway. It's not my thing to intentionally make people uncomfortable so if there is a problem then tell me and I can make changes, but it erks me of how in my ad and prompt of how descriptive I am about what I am looking for and want to write then you act as if I've never told you.

What do you guys think when someone writes a detailed prompt for enemies to lovers and my character as I wrote (in shorter form) can be aggressive, gets kicks out of making y/c miserable, basically is not nice. Sooooo...why are you shocked? You chose this or asked me to pick and to my understanding you were okay with the prompt that I had chose for us. I can't stand it. Wasting WEEKS of my time, because I'm trying to fit around YOUR schedule while we are talking ooc about your life and how you are here to stay and wouldn't do what you have did because you like talking to me.

Like weeks...and when we finally start to RP I was VERY disappointed, but I didn't say that, instead try to help you create fuller sentences and you declined. I didn't want to give up since the roleplay was something I really wanted to do because 2 other people had bailed on it, we didn't even get to a day after the wedding. Prior to them was one other who I originally did it with, but never finished because the app we used went down.

I know some of y'all might think "Oh, it's the way you are writing." I am very detailed, semi-lit to literate, 3-5 paragraphs mostly. I am not out right vulgar, in my opinion anyway. My ex partner said she was abrassive and harsh, yet, the plot is enemies forced to marry each other and I wrote what kind of person she was. Your character did something that would make her upset, heck, if someone I don't like stuffed a truffle in my mouth without permission, I'd be upset. Was it too much to write for her to spit it out at him then throw a rose at him in anger? Like I really want to know because if it is me then it's something I want to fix.

At the end of the day, one less person I have to roleplay with. The writing did not match my standards, but like someone who actually wanted a partner I tried to help him fix it, I tried to accommodate him, I tried being a friend, I tried being understanding. I have done all I could and I understand it will not be enough in this case because people will do what they want to. I just hate how much time was taken from me just for him to do this, for any of my ex partners to do this.

I am at the point where I don't want to look for more partners because of this and other roleplays that have slowed down drastically. Like I currently have about 15 partners and roleplaying consistently with 2. I understand life, I'm not pestering the other 13, I do a weekly or bi-weekly check up to see if they are alive then go about my business.

Like communication is key, but I'm sure it was my ex partners plan to do that anyway and it's fine because now I don't have to cringe or force myself to open up the chat to see less than desired writing. Thank you for coming to my ted talk and you guys stay safe.

I have been roleplaying for like…. 5 years at this point. I enjoyed writing and I love it. I want to roleplay with people who are not just always horny and are able to write stuff that isn't weird like hardcore bdsm or just want their character to be seduced all the time and reply with just 3 Paras with no life or any effort in their replies. I'm just thinking about leaving this hobby and doing something else. I have spent so much time and effort on this that it just hurts to see all of this going away.

I'm not the best in writing dominant characters but I do have enough calibre to get a lot of dms. But… most just go away after a few exchanges. Generally they want something like feeding pics or doing weird fetishes and stuff. I don't know why but I also feel a lot jealous when my partners are “busy” but they have time to reply to stuff and post new rp ads on discord servers. And when I ask them they reply. “This roleplay is different, it's not just a smutty rp, it takes time to think about a good response.” It took them 7 days. And they replied with 7 lines and a total of 300 words to my 3k word reply. We agreed on being flexible but it just feels pathetic now that I can't find good partners anywhere. And most servers these days are filled with either people with weird fetishes or just paid OF girls. I feel bad to see big servers going dead because of all these and it just hurts me that the thing I'm so interested in just gives me so much pain nowadays. I tried quitting before too… but failed. I don't know what's wrong with me. I just remember how good it was back then when I had great partners and it was more than ever. 2020 may be the worst year for many but it was best for me and my this little hobby.

I know there are amazing people who are best at roleplaying but I don't connect with them or they don't connect with me. I don't know how to go ahead with this hobby but I'm 19 right now and I'm so much passionate about writing and roleplays. But it's rare to find anyone with same interest. I don't know what to do from now but I thought about being a writer somehow because how much I loved roleplaying. But people just going away from me during roleplays make me just question my ability to write. I think I'm the biggest problem here and people on discord are great. Maybe I write actual crap which I think is good but God knows at this point because people say I write good stuff but they don't stick around for longer.

I'm sorry I'm not a regular reddit poster but I wanted to rant somewhere and just be heard maybe by nothing but the darkness. And again I'm not a regular reddit poster so if you find something wrong in this post I'm already sorry. ♥️✌🏻

Ps :- It's a personal rant not a ad or something. If you're reading this thanks for your time.

Genuinely curious about the quality of some of these things and when I try to do a Google search to see what is preferred, a bunch of paid advertisement AI app kind of get pushed to the forefront.

I would be curious to hear if other people have had success and a degree of happiness from dealing with these things? And if so, what did you use?

Thank you

Is there an "appropriate" amount of letting someone control your character, or is it all bad no matter what? I recently had a partner and the roleplay was going great, the replies weren't super long but they weren't super short either. I was happy with the detail etc. But one thing that irked me is that he kept doing the odd thing of saying things my characger did when she in fact did not do it. It wasn't full on making her do an entire action, but mainly her reactions to what his character does. "She hesitates but then relaxes" i never said that, and my character wouldn't hesitate. I brought this up and he seemed genuinely confused about what I meant, so now I'm unsure if I got upset over nothing.

(Edit: Thank you for all the replies and advice!)

Recently I've tried to get back into roleplaying after taking a much needed break. I'm 19, though I've been roleplaying when I was around 11 or 12 on apps like Kik and Roblox and then on Amino when mha became popular.

I signed off all my accounts when I was 17, but now that I'm older and doing well mentally I want to continue. On that same note, I want to find more mature communities, or at the very least make sure other adults don't think I'm a child masquerading as a young adult. Part of this is transitioning from places like Amino (which is just bugs now) and Project Z/Clover.Space to places like here.

Up until a few weeks ago I didn't know that there were communities outside of roleplay based apps. This is where my issues start; I don't know how to use these platforms. I don't know how to set up bios, or even where to start for things like OCs and rules. I don't want my bio to just be some song lyrics or aesthetic short introduction. I want the person who clicks on my bio to get more of a feel about what kind of person/roleplayer I am.

I'm not sure how relevant this is, but I am autistic. I say this because I loved Amino's wikis and Z's collections for my OCs and it felt so nice to have everything so organized, but Reddit, Discord, and other forums I've seen don't have any similar features. Or none that I'm aware of. I make my own art for OCs, and would love to have them posted, but I don't know where to post them or if I'm even supposed to do that. Aside from stalking other rp accounts, I'm not sure what to do.

Are there other popular websites or apps people use to keep everything organized or do they simply keep their (OCs) photos and details in like a Google Docs? Are there just other websites I should use for other things in general?

I don't want to scare away anyone because of how bare my profile is, but I also don't want everything to be super messy or an unorganized nightmare.

I apologize if any of this is obvious or common sense and my question come across as dumb, I am honestly just a little lost and see no sense of fumbling about when I can easily seek out advice from others. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. I'll happily answer any questions

TL;DR: Now that I'm19 and have better mental health I would love to start roleplaying again. I'm only used to platforms like Amino, and don't know how to setup accounts on Reddit/Discord/forums that are informative and appealing. I also don't know how to go about ocs wikis (for a lack of a better term). Any help would be appreciated.