Hi everyone, I am straight 22f and my whole life I've dated men. Never have I ever thought of women sexually until recently. The thing is, it's all I think about and I don't think this is normal. In uni, at the bus, at home, anytime, most of the day whenever there are other women around me. I've even started checking out women, even my friends, like im some kind of thirsty dude. I feel disgusting. (for being so thirsty) It feels like a switch turned on inside me.

It feels like a desire that i can't fulfil. An itch that I can't scratch.

I have a bf (23m) that I can't share this with him and i feel a bit guilty. What should i do?

TL;DR, Iv started looking at women sexually and cant handle the situation at all.

I (27M) recently joined this dance studio and made a few friends with the other dancers.

One of them, A (25F) asked me to go to this night club event, saying that the whole crew would be going. So I decided to go and have fun catching up with everyone. And it was great, just vibing together and chatting.

During the night, one of my other dancer friend, B (21F) asked me to dance with her, so we danced for a bit (it was nothing physical, just like typical club dancing which we were all doing in a group) then chatted casually after.

However, friend A kept asking if I like friend B which caught me off guard. And it turns out she only asked me to come because friend B wanted me to come. I didn’t answer her, but she kept pestering me about it (even with friend B right next to her…).

How do I tell friend B that I don’t like her that way? She’s a great friend, and I love hanging out with these people, but I’m not attracted to her in that way. I just wanted some friends to hangout and chill with.

Also, this is only the 2nd time I’ve even met up with this group lol, i don’t have a huge history with any of them.

I just want to let her down gently, and preferably amicably so we can keep being friends and attending dance classes without it being awkward.

My girlfriend [F20] sometimes gets easily annoyed and quite mean when she has her period and I [M25] think it’s not okay. It doesn’t happen every time and most of the time I take care of her and make her feel as comfortable as possible. But there are other times when minor inconveniences I cause make her swear at me very quickly. Like today, when I accidentally brought her warm instead of cold tap water. She immediately jumped up and started to swear at me. I have to admit sometimes it’s not only one inconvenience but multiple things that trigger her. Sometimes I don’t understand fast enough that she feels bad and I say or do other things that annoy her and she might annoy me too and so on. But I think it’s still no reason to be mean at me and say things like „go fuck yourself you idiot“ or other things.

I understand that she feels very uncomfortable and pain but i mean it is not my fault. I have never sweared at someone I care about like this because of my own pain. I have told her how I feel about it a few times and she seems to understand it but at one point it happens again. And what’s the worst for me that she she rarely apologizes for swearing at me after those situations.

I would like to deal with this situations and somehow make it better for the sake of both of us. Does anyone here have some advices?

Hello women of Reddit!

I am looking for some advice on how handle some unpleasant feelings/situations I finding myself in by being the only married friend in my group.

For background: my friends and I are a tight knit group of 4 who met in college - we are all in our mid/late 20s now and I have been married to my husband for 2 years. My friends are very supportive of the marriage and alongside being in the wedding party, frequently hang out with my husband and I in group activities.

In our group of 4 I am the only married one and they are all single. Lately, I have been feeling the pang of being left out as they navigate the dating world - and it has happened twice now when we have gone out drinking that my best friend has made drunken comments to me about how I do not understand what it’s like to be single/how it makes me different from them. I try to be as supportive as I can be. I am their biggest cheerleader for dates, I do not flaunt my marriage, and I try to go out of my way to show that I am still “one of them” so to speak.

My main question about this is if this is even worth fretting over - or is there a large difference in lifestyle that we will have to push past? In my eyes we are the same but I worried I am lacking foresight. How can I show them I am still one of the girls?

I saw some women that my boyfriend was following a few months ago that only have provocative pictures all over their instagram. I'm slender, these women all have huge boobs and butts and are on the much thicker side. They have pictures where they are topless. I brought this up to him in December and he said he didn't know how he followed them and that his manager also has access to his instagram and may have followed them back after they followed him. None of them followed him so this made no sense, and he liked a few pictures. I told him it bothered me and made me insecure and he unfollowed. I just saw he followed someone new and the only picture he liked of hers was 3 days ago and is literally just her huge boobs. We were together Friday - Monday and he like her picture on Tuesday. Her face isn't in them, just her boobs. I feel like he goes back to his house and just looks at pictures of women who look nothing like me. He is an artist and has never posted a photo of me on his page bc its all about his music and we have been together over 2 years. He has put me on a story before but it has been a year since. I don't know what to do or if I'm overreacting and it's normal.

tl:dr my boyfriend keeps liking inappropiate pictures of women after i told him it upsets me

I am 30 years old. I had to quit my PhD 8 months ago because my professor was being an absolute hardass. Since then I have looking for job or another PhD. No luck. I had to move back home due to financial reasons. I celebrated my 30th birthday feeling like an unemployed failure.

Before I started my PhD, I was working full time at a job that paid enough for me to take 3-4 holidays a year. I left that job 2 years ago, because my ex worked there, and it was immensely difficult being around his cheating ass. I started my PhD, moved to a different country. I have a history of depression and it doesn't make things easier for me.

Now, I am still unemployed, sending out applications. But there's this nagging feeling at the back of my head that my best days of enjoying financial stability, going on holidays, having a partner and having a job that made me happy is behind me. I have been stuck in this unemployment limbo for the past 8 months and I feeling really really hopeless.

My lovely ladies, how does one deal with this?

Hi, I got married a couple of years ago. It was an Indian wedding. As the title says, I am still disappointed with how I looked and how the photographs turned out.

For starters, everything happened so fast that I could not make sure I looked my very best. My hairstyle was not the most suitable for my face or attire. The photographer captured my attire in a totally different color from what it actually was. My makeup could have been better. Just a few months after the wedding, when I received the photos from our photographer, I guess I was too tired to notice all these small things and found the photos to be okay (Indian weddings are quite hectic and tiring). But some months later, when I looked at those photos without my rose-tinted glasses, I felt hopeless. I had always imagined that I would look my best on my wedding day. It was MY day to shine. But sadly, that wasn’t the case.

Now my problem is that I often feel jealous of other new brides who get to look beautiful on their day and can’t genuinely feel happy for them. Another issue is that I don’t feel like dressing up for any occasions since my mind says, "What's the point of looking beautiful now when you couldn't look beautiful on the day that mattered the most? Even if you look beautiful, there are no cameras or direct attention on you." So, in total, I feel like I lost my chance to be my most beautiful self. I will never get to see HER. There will never be more attention on me than on my wedding day.

I have cried far too often about it to my sweet husband. He has tried everything in his power to make me believe otherwise, but the feeling keeps returning. My mind keeps thinking: What if I had invested in an expensive photographer? What if I had chosen a different-colored outfit? What if someone had told me that the hairstyle did not suit me? What if…

So, wise ladies, is there anyone out there who has also felt the same way about their wedding photos? How did you manage the hopelessness?

Basically the title. She doesn’t smell bad anywhere else but when she lifts her arms it smells like a judo dojo

How do I tell her to wear deodorant without hurting her feelings thanks

I know this subreddit mostly posts man... but i don't have girl friends and I want to know if anyone here can give me advice on this?

I F25 have been unemployed for a long time because I was in school. Since graduating in December 2023 and actively searching for a “big girl job”, I can’t seem to find anything or get an interview anywhere. I have one interview process currently going on that I’m really hopeful for but it’s only one. I’m financially supported by family so that helps but it doesn’t help me from feeling like a failure. I feel so lost. I have nothing going for me. I have a bf M30 who makes a lot of money and is always reminding me that he’s happy keeping things equitable, even if that means I pay nothing and he pays everything. I know that might sound great but it feels awful, it feels like I have nothing to offer back. Logically I know I’m worth a lot more as a person that what I can offer financially to another person but I’m worried my ongoing lack of confidence is affecting my relationship. I miss being able to support myself. What can I do to keep my head up and remind myself that I’m a badass even when I feel poopy about myself?

TLDR: Lack of confidence since being unemployed. Feeling shameful and like a failure.

So ive been talking to this guy for a short period of time (2-3weeks) and the thing is that we seemed so connected and easily drowned to each other. We texted and called each other all the time and we both felt like we've known each other for a long time that he's said it many times and how comfortable he feels talking to me. However, he said that he has a work campaign starting soon and we kept talking normally but the day he started the job he switched his account to professional and jst ghosted me out of nowhere. The thing now i normally don't think of it when shit like this happens cuz whatever, but with him it jst felt different and i miss him so ive been thinking of calling him but m afraid he won't respond. I don't want anything serious i jst wanna talk to him once but m still confused whether i do what i feel like or jst suppress it

hey so, I’m posting again to ask for help.

I was assaulted a couple of months ago by a woman, my body froze during the assault and I couldn’t defend myself. I still blame myself for the event in large part. Regardless, my therapist told me that I should tell my friend who introduced us about the story. However, I don’t know exactly how. She lives abroad now so there’s no way to meeting each other physically to discuss this. I also know that my friend is very close to this person so I’m not sure if they’d believe my story if this is a friend of theirs. This goes double since the days following the assault I tried to be cordial with the person who assaulted me over text before blocking them. I’m not sure why I did this but up until a couple of weeks ago I legitimately forgot that I had even texted this person, the weeks following are a complete blur honestly. My therapist says it’s a defence mechanism. Regardless, I don’t know how to approach the subject especially knowing that this person is close with my friend. I’m at a loss for words and don’t know how to do this. In desperate need for help.

I know that this is an uncommon story so I don’t expect people to understand but either way I’d love to hear your input.

TLDR: I was raped by a friend of a friend and I dont know how to tell her.

I (30f) found out 12 days ago that my husband (30m) has been cheating on me with a colleague.

We’ve spent 12 days in limbo with him saying some very hurtful things including telling me he doesn’t love me and that he feels like we’ve been fizzling out for 6-8 months. I’m totally blindsided by this as I’ve never been more in love with him. Since Christmas we’ve slow danced in the kitchen, had a lot of sex (even some new things), sent each other nudes, been out for a full day date etc so no warning signs as far as I could see.

He’s spent the last 12 days flip flopping between desperately trying to get me back to telling me he doesn’t love me at all and that I bore him. I’ve been holding out hope as long as I possibly could, as I’ve had 8 years of him being my knight in shining armour. I finally made the call that if he doesn’t know by now that there’s his answer.

We finally agreed to separate at about 7pm. I left to stay with my parents and he’s gone to stay with her again.

I am in full blown crisis. I haven’t eaten much in over a week as I just can’t stomach anything, I can’t sleep. Just passed out for a few hours but had night terrors about this and woke up having a panic attack.

Other info:

• We have no mortgage. I quit my degree level job (teaching) and started self employment after a mental breakdown with a massive pay cut as a joint decision to “give the dream a go” while he supported me paying for the house.
• I work from home and did all the cooking etc.
• He has offered to remortgage the house to buy me out so I can leave.
• We have no children but we do have two large dogs that I raised.
• I have a safe space to sleep for now at my parents but it is not my home and I cannot just “be”.
• I have a history of anx/dep and bulimia.
• I’m on Mounjaro and have lost nearly 40lbs since Nov but now can’t eat at all.
• I have an elderly horse who is too young to be written off but too old to sell.

I’ve gone from the happiest I’ve ever been to losing my best friend, my husband, my home, likely my job, my safe space and my dogs all in one go.

ANY advice needed please. I’ve slept for a couple of hours and have just woken from a night terror and am on the verge of having a panic attack. How can I survive this?

I am absurdly in love with my fiancée. She is gorgeous, brilliant and has so much love in her.

She happens to have rolls of fat on her stomach.

She has been getting more confident in her sexuality, and posted sexy pics elsewhere on the Internet. One cowardly incel anonymously commented about how could anybody tell her the difference between her stomach and her breasts. It was a juvenile fat-shaming joke, and she saw the comment an hour ago. This is still fresh in her head.

l am a white, straight cis man. Yeah, I've been bullied before, and I know what it's like to be hurt of course, but I can't pretend that I know what she's going through. Fat shaming women trying to express their sexuality is its own unique recipe of venom, which means it inevitably has different effects than other kinds of social toxins.

So l'm hoping we can brainstorm what I can (and shouldn't) say and or do. She's a grown ass adult and doesn't need platitudes, but platitudes are all I can think of. If anyone out there has any wisdom, I’d be grateful if you would share it.

This guy i find cute dmed me because i liked a story of him..I was following him for awhile now but this time around he complimented my dp, mostly my body cuz i was wearing a tight bodycon dress. The thing is he wanted to see what my face looked like because I don't have any posts up nor does my dp show it, and I'm too insecure, like seriously insecure. Point is the guys hotter than me, I know I'm not ugly...but I just don't know how to own anything for a lot of reasons, like knowing how to pose in front of a camera. I never knew how to girl...if anyone gets me or be sexy...how should I approach this situation?

Please be nice though. I'm 20 btw not a kid.

Hey, I'm new here and unfortunately, I come with an issue. I'm 22 years old, and I'm having some problems doing it myself. The first time I touched myself and saw myself naked was when I was 18. My curiosity about my sexuality and body was suppressed due to my household. I moved out at 18 to a youth welfare institution where a social worker with a degree in sexuality helped me through the first steps. I was able to touch myself, and I had fun. I also had my first sexual experience at 19, which was a good experience, and I learned a lot. Now, I'm 22, and the last time I had sex was over a year ago. I have no interest or desire to touch myself. It's not that I'm not horny-it's more that I feel disgusted by my body. I honestly don't know how or why, but every time I feel like touching myself, there's this side effect of disgust. Unfortunately, I also struggle with seeing myself naked in the mirror. I really don't know where I am or how I got here, but I'm looking for some help, thoughtfulness, and advice.

Edit: There were moments when I masturbated and excrement came out. I think it also contributed to shame and disgust.

I (23F) have just gotten into a long distance relationship with my lover (26M). We have been friends for 4 years before that so we already have a good understanding of each other and we are willing to fulfill each other's needs while we are in the relationship.

One of the things he's mentioned is to ask him questions about his values and views of this world. While I genuinely have this curiosity to get to know him better, I don’t know how to open up the conversations with him.

He also told me he's insecure and finds it difficult to express his feelings. I understand that since we both have gone through similar traumas (parental abuse and family issues). I would like to help him in overcoming these and make him comfortable in sharing his feelings with me.

Any advice?

I'm 16F and this guy is 18M. We do BJJ classes together. I've been going to those classes with him for the past 2 years but it was just recently that we started talking.

So anyways, I just talk to him like any other conversation I have with acquaintances and friends and treat him and the other guys there like how I talk to my girl friends. But one day, I was talking to him and stayed after class a bit (I've done this before with other people, especially with the girls that go to the gym. I just talk too much 😭) to have a conversation. About 30 minutes later, I end it because my dad has to pick up my mom from work. The first thing my dad mentioned in the car was if I liked him. I told him, "No" and my dad was asking about how old is he and details about him and explained to me why he came to that assumption.

At home, I had this whole conversation with my parents about this. I didn't notice this before but I think he likes me. There were so many red flags I didn't notice. The one that stuck out to me the most was the fact that after the class I took was over, instead of doing the other class that took place afterwards, he decided to just talk to me. Honestly, I take this as a compliment but the thought of him liking me gives me the ick... And I just think this just made it awkward for me. I also noticed he stopped texting me about random things when I told him last Thursday that I have a boyfriend and I even talk about other guys with him (because I genuinely thought that he thought of me as a sister or something 😭 ig not...). I know this is long but I just don't know what to do rn.

I have my Associate’s Degree, but I can’t work towards my Bachelor’s until I finish some transfer credits through community. I’ve mostly been in restaurant jobs, aside from a little exploring in sales during COVID. My 6 y/o son has some behavior issues that get him sent home from school at least once a week, which leads us to cut out 2-4 hours a week for therapy as well. I’ve been in the restaurant industry so long because I feel they’ve been most flexible with my chaotic schedule. I’m trying to get a better understanding of how to get us into a position that works for us, as far as spending time & money. What are some things you’ve done as a single mom, that was flexible, (not sales) & helped you take your family to the next level?

Me(30) met this guy who is younger than me(25) on his brother's ( my friend) wedding and for a whole month I was hearing he is constantly asking about me but didn't have the guts to text me or anything. After a month he did and invited me on a date and we went on multiple dates , movies, dinners etc - no kiss or nothing but he also was texting me almost every day, all respectful. We celebrated all together as a friend group NYE and he called me for a chat and said that he likes me , I am amazing etc but doesn't want a relationship at the moment and doesn't want to ruin things between us. Then not even a day after he called me and asked me for another dinner because he said "he made a mistake" and I even heard from my friend he called him and asked him what to do. We went out again and again nothing happened. All this time he texts me daily and all respectful. At one point I realized I really like him and wanted something more and gave him a clue and he took it so after 7weeks we hooked up and all and nothing changed- he is still texting me and everything but he is a bit more flirty towards me afterwards ( sends a kiss, tells me he misses me) But we are not together and we are going to see each other in few days again ( not on a date but his place) . He was before me in a traumatic relationship where his ex literally forced him to cut all communication with people, didn't go anywhere without her and all so I also understand why he is kind of scared. But the question it- what should I do? I don't want to pressure him and lose him as a man but also not sure how long I can be seeing him without wanting a real relationship. What should I do? And we are exclusively seeing each other but officially not together. It's all so new and confusing to me .

I hooked up with my friend who I work with about a month ago, it was very spontaneous and unplanned and I can't stop thinking about her. We come from completely different backgrounds and I see her about once a day at work. I couldn't hold it in anymore and told her that she always brightens my day and that I want to be more than friends.I also told her She's been a huge support for me and I'd probably lose my mind without her, which is true( We work in a stressful environment). She gave me a blank stare and said we'll talk about it later, which we haven't yet. I figured I already said my piece and that if she's interested she'll come around. We still talk and laugh alot, so we're at least still good friends, but it drives me crazy thinking about her and not knowing what's going on in her head. I just want us to be able to talk about things like that at least, because I swore I wouldn't tell anyone else, except reddit of course lol

I already posted this in askmen but I thought it might be good to also get other women's opinions on the situation.

I'm looking for support and advice on dealing with a lack of sex and intimacy in my relationship. How do I balance being understanding of my boyfriend and his feelings while simultaneously dealing with my own frustrations and unmet needs? What is a good way to handle feelings of rejection in favor of porn?

Is it reasonable to ask your partner not to let their porn consumption be more than the two of you are having sex? Would you feel like you're neglecting your partners desire for sex and intimacy because you're choosing to turn to porn more often than you go to them to have sex and connection? Does it signal a lack of empathy or attraction to not care in a situation where youre choosing to watch porn and get off to other women rather than initiate with your partner?

I'm trying to be understanding about our situation and his feelings considering we have had a lot of issues concerning sex and pornography and we just had a separation for a few months but it's difficult to feel neglected and hurt by porn use and have my boyfriend seemingly prioritizing it as self care rather than fixing our intimacy issues. We're going to be starting therapy soon which I'm hoping will help us navigate this but in the meantime I'm incredibly lonely and frustrated not being able to express my sexuality with him.

For context, I went through a bunch of major health issues during and after pregnancies that made me a really unpleasant person to be around, I was hurt by him using porn at this time and hyperfocusing on wanting more sex together and feeling insecure about the porn and I think it made him feel inadequate and as if sex was an unpleasant thing. It's horrible, I know. And it was never my intention. I've gotten my physical and mental health back to normal but there's a lot of damage from the previous issues for both of us.

TL DR Boyfriend (35m) and I (34f) have gotten back together after a few months separation and are working on rebuilding our relationship and sex life. We're due to start couples therapy and are both in individual therapy. I'm looking for advice on how to deal with my feelings of rejection since he is not sleeping with me and using porn instead. How can I remain hopeful to therapy improving things when I feel like he is actively harming the repair process with porn consumption and rejection of me?

So I need genuine life advice from older women, because I don´t know if my friend is perverted or just a guy.

So I should´ve known that sleeping at his place wouldn´t end well, but I genuine didn´t think I´d develope feelings. That was just a one time thing because we dont live in the same city. Now everytime he told me about a girl hitting on him or something I get super jealous and sad. I told him I don´t ever wanna sleep with him and he accepted it but said it is "not a big deal, it´s a mind thing". He can just completly seperate feelings and sex and to me that is just insane. I kinda knew people could do it, but considering how long we have been super close friends I thought it wouldnt be as easy as a one night stand.

Anyway my question now is: Was it wrong to tell him I just need space from him? He seemed quite sad by it. I didn´t break off our friendship because I do really like him, but I am so hurt everytime we talk. Will time resolve this?
I feel like the fact that I only had 2 sex partners in my life has to do something with this, while his was above 20. (I feel like that many people made sex unpersonal to him or something??)

I´d really appreciate someones advice for this considering I am a bit naive and emotional.

I'm M26, and my friend (25F) has been married for a little over a year. We've been friends for more than three years.

I need advice about two issues I’m dealing with in this friendship:

1. She talks a lot, and it’s draining me.

She’s always been a talkative person, which I didn’t mind earlier because she used to listen too. But lately, whenever we talk on the phone, the calls easily go over 1.5 hours, and 90% of the time, it’s just her talking. My role is basically saying "hmm," "yeah," or "no" while she vents about her life.

She doesn’t ask if I’m busy, if I have the energy to listen, or if I’m tired. Even when I try to say no, she still insists on calling. I can’t avoid her every time, and it’s becoming exhausting.

2. Her relationship decisions are a mess, and I’m stuck in the middle.

In the past three years, she’s dated two men and married the second one. Her first relationship was with a married man. She knew he was married but kept dating him because, according to her, “he was attractive, and the sex was good.” I told her not to get involved, but she continued until she met her now-husband.

She married her current husband just three months after they started dating. I told her it was way too soon, but she didn’t listen. Now, they’re constantly fighting and talking about ending the marriage.

Her husband recently showed me a screenshot where she sent a “deep cleavage pic” to one of her male colleagues. She claims it was just a friendly picture, but her husband feels even more insecure than he already was, and this has led to even bigger fights.

I’m frustrated because I feel like I’m always the one trying to help or listen to her, but she doesn’t respect my boundaries or advice. I don’t want to abandon the friendship, but it’s becoming too much. How do I handle this?

I'm a 29 year old transgender male who hasn't worn a sports bra in about 15 years. I was giving myself heat exhaustion trying to move house while wearing my binder so I bought a cheap pull over sports bra so try cope with the Australian summer.

I keep getting stuck trying to take it off, with my binder it's full torso length so I can usually just get a good grip and wiggle out of it. No such luck with the sports bra.

Is there a trick to getting it off? Or do i just accept that it'll be a struggle every time?

TL;DR I'm a 20M and about 10 months ago, I started talking regularly with my only female friend. At first, it felt great-we'd talk for hours, mostly at night. She shared a lot about her life, her struggles, and everything in between. Over time, this pattern started where she'd call me for a couple of nights in a row, then go completely distant for weeks or even a month. I didn't think much of it at first, but the things she shared and the connection we built made me feel emotionally attached to her, maybe even in love. We're college friends, but we don't really interact much in person since I barely go to college. When I do, she's usually busy with her other friends, and all we exchange is a quick "hi" or "hello." It's during those late-night conversations where I felt the closest to her. Recently though, she barely shares anything with me anymore. If l ask, she just says she's focused on her future and doesn't want to take on unnecessary stress. I totally get that, but the way she distances herself for days and then suddenly comes back really messes with me emotionally. What's worse is that when I try to call her, she rarely picks up, and if she does, her replies are often cold or dismissive. One time, she straight-up told me on a call that she'd block me. I felt hurt and said l'd block her too, and her response was, "Block me if you can," like she knows how attached I am to her. Honestly, I'm so mentally broken from all of this, I can't even put it into words. Every time she calls, I tell myself to keep it casual and act like a normal friend without getting emotional, but the moment I hear her voice, it all just comes flooding back. I don't want to block or ghost her because I value our friendship, but I'm exhausted from feeling this way. I want to find a way to talk to her without feeling this emotional attachment, but I don't know how. Cutting her off feels too extreme, but staying in this cycle feels just as bar Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How do y handle this without losing the connection entirely? Any advice would help

Hii everyone. My womanhood began really early in life. I got my period when I was nine years old and I‘ve always felt the need to hide it (obviously because at this age this isn‘t a topic which is talked about). And with that, I got boobs and was always more developed than other Girls my age. At ten years old, a girl older than me grabbed my breast and said: „They are already big.“ I know that this was just an insecurity of her, but since then, I felt the need to hide myself, coverd myself with scarfs and was careful of how to present and (don’t) show myself. I got insecure and still am. The older I get, it didn‘t get better. The other girls grew and embraced themselves and got acknowledged. I was jealous of them because they could and I couldn‘t. I was always a bit shy so I also didn’t know what to do when in sixth grade, a boy who was actually my crush, touched my breast, got back his friends, and then all of them laughed while looking at me. I felt ashamed and felt confirmed that it is better to hide myself. I am now 23 years old and I still struggle with the way I look. I feel insecure when I dress „female“ or my body is shown. I am open for advices of how to feel confident in looking female.

Long story short: about two months ago I noticed that he was following several OF girls and several random pretty girls with no mutual followers. I confronted him about it and we discussed it calmly. I told him how this made me feel insecure and I said that I didnt think it was normal for people in relationships to follow OF creators. He said he didnt realize there was anything wrong with it, but he unfollowed them anyway. I also asked him if he paid for any of these girls’ OF content and he said no. After seeing the women he followed, I cant help but feel insecure about myself and grossed out at the thought of him getting off to that content. Why was be following several girls with like 200-300 followers with zero mutual followers? Are they also stealth OF creators? Ugh. I’m just mainly grossed out.

He’s not the type of person to post on social media (he has zero posts) or use it as a means of communication and neither am I. He’s just always given me the impression that he would never follow other women to gawk at and/or jerk off to, and I feel like my view of him has been tainted. He followed these girls within span of a few months. Our sex life kinda went down during this time because of a change in my birth control and stress at work, but everything is back to normal now.

We’ve been together for over four years and we’ve been living together for over a year. We were both virgins when we met each other and we are very much in love, so this is just so weird and disappointing to me.

I haven’t mentioned this to him since it happened two months ago, and I’m not really sure if it would productive to?? Should I, or am I just letting my insecurities get to me? I feel kinda crazy.

hi everyone

i am struggling with having sex with my partner. it has been a year and i have a had such an odd relationship with sex. i simply don’t want to have it, nothing turns me on. i have tried to use toys and it doesn’t work. i have been with my partner for a year and it is a great relationship. in the beginning of our relationship we were having sex all the time and then it kind of plateaued.

we both had a rough year emotionally so i don’t know if it’s me dealing with the rest of that and it manifests in a different way. i have not been diagnosed with anxiety or depression, but i will say im tired all the time due to being in school and balancing different commitments. im in the last 3 semesters of my bachelors and it’s getting harder. i would like some advice into feeling more comfortable with sex and allowing myself to enjoy it. it does make me feel bad when my partner is very connected to sex and i am not. my mental health has been fluctuating a lot and it has not been the best, and i am struggling with being present most days as well as feeling confident in my body. i dont remember how it looks like sometimes.

How should I ask a friend of a friend to join our friend group?

I(23m) have a friend (also 23m) who has an acquaintance (22F) who is single. My friend showed me a picture of her, told me about her, and asked if I was interested. I said that I was. He said he would try to figure out a way to put us in contact. She says she wants a boyfriend and in a separate conversation wants a new friend group.

My friend doesn’t have her number. He knows her because his parents and her parents are friends. I told my friend that I think he should just befriend her and she could hang out with him and his fiancé and she could hang out with the whole group when there is a chance for that to happen organically.

He wants to introduce us at his wedding in 6 months. I don’t want to wait that long, but also I don’t think that’s a good time for me. I am helping him do a bunch of jobs for his wedding and I think it will be a little weird to meet her with her parents there and stuff.

How do you think we should meet? I think my friend is going to be too pushy with us becoming a couple and make it weird. I would like her to join the friend group and we can just all hang out as a group and if something works out between us we could go out.