i grew up very close with my grandpa, i lived with him for several years and he lived with my family for several years and i always dreamt of having him at my wedding. the problem is he is extremely conservative. he didnt always talk like this to me but i think because im an adult now he feels more comfortable expressing his gross views. when i was 18 and dated a nonbinary person he called me to tell me to "stay away from those dysphorics". now i am in a very committed relationship with a latina trans woman and i already know i cant invite several family members because i dont want her to be harassed, (a few of them have dementia but others are just plain racist, homophobic, transphobic etc.) i want to invite my grandpa and i know he would be disappointed if he didnt come but i don't know how he will treat my girlfriend

There are so many options for waterproof blankets online and I have no idea where to start and what's actually quality 😵‍💫

Curious about other peoples boundaries surrounding this. I'm never sleeping with like 10 women at the same time but sometimes I'll be seeing a couple women casually at the same time.

Recently, right before we had sex, the girl I was hooking up with informs me that she also has sex with another girl sometimes. She said she thinks it's important for everyone to know about eachother.

I was kind of like.. fuck.. am I being an asshole by not telling the girls im hooking up with that im hooking up with other people? Because for me, I just kind of assume this is happening, but don't necessarily want to know about it.

I feel like my relationships tend to have intimate components to them even when they are casual, but I feel like that's kind of standard for lesbians. Idk, do y'all expect this kind of disclosure with people you're casually seeing, like, is this the norm? Or is this not necessary and usually assumed?

I grow hair in weird places like us all but why am I so hairy 😭 On my lower back I have alot of blonde hair that's I can feel same as in my butt. But on the back in my thighs (I shave this) I grow like actual hair and it's horrible... But it's this normal and should I be concerned that a future partner would be like Ew wtf 😂

My girlfriend (18f) and I (18f) have been dating for a good 2 1/2 years and started having sex 6 months in because we were young and horny teens but it also felt right for us in that timeframe. When we first started having sex i was always the bottom as she’s a masc and she would say she didn’t want to be a masc bottom, which over time we talked about it and she said it was because she was insecure and didn’t feel comfortable to be on the receiving end. I understood all her worries and we just kept on going as me being on the receiving end until about 1 year into our relationship we started to get intimate and instead of me being on the receiving end, she ended up being on the receiving end and really enjoyed it and said she was happy because i made her feel special and loved, but ever since then it’s like she never wants to initiate anything or just let me not be top for once which kinda makes me sad because i still want to be given the same treatment that i give her when it comes to our sex life. I do enjoy making her happy during the deed but it’s like before she would initiate and be more dominant but now she expects me to always initiate and be dominant and whenever i’ve tried asking her if i could receive sex or anything of the sort she automatically shuts me down and it makes me feel undesirable and like she doesn’t want to touch me. We talked a little bit about it recently and she just said she doesn’t like doing the work and even stated “i’m a stone cold bottom i don’t know how old me did it before” which i understand she doesn’t want to do the work sometimes and that’s okay but idk it’s just tough because now i feel like she just doesn’t ever want to touch me in that way and i don’t feel desired like i did before. I don’t know how to bring this up to her because it’s just awkward and i feel dumb saying it bc idk if she can change that, which also makes me feel bad because i don’t want her to change for me or bc i told her to change that just seems wrong to me and i don’t want to be a shitty gf. I don’t want to breakup with her because i can see a future with her and i love her tremendously but i feel like our sexual desires just don’t match up and it’s getting to a point where i have like a lot of pent up stuff because if i do ask her she shuts me down so i have to either ignore the feeling or handle it on my own which is so embarrassing. Please give me advice on how to address this with her without it seeming like im asking for too much/ asking her to change her ways for me.

also sorry for bad formatted im on iphone and there might be some rambling since it kinda just became too much on me right now.

I’ve identified as bisexual for 20 years and haven’t really questioned it until recently. All of my serious relationships (only 3 total) have been with men, until 5 years ago. I’ve been mostly single since then, just casually dating people of all genders.

For most of my life I was very attracted to men but in my 30s I find myself less and less interested in them. I’ve always been a bit of a tomboy with more “traditionally male” interests, so I wonder if I was just craving male validation, and entry into those male spaces I never felt fully welcome in?

I’ve started wondering about this lately because for the past few years, whenever I see a lesbian couple or hang out with my queer female friends in relationships, I feel so, so sad. I get filled with a deep feeling of envy, and longing, because I want it so bad but it feels out of reach.

I’m helping my good friend plan her wedding to her amazing female partner and while I am so happy for her, I often find myself crying after planning sessions because I want romantic love and partnership with a woman so badly.

I know it’s possible that I’m bisexual with a preference for women, but I thought I’d ask if anyone could relate to these feelings and later realized they were gay?

She’s going on a uni trip for 3 days and going to be staying in an air bnb. She told me she will be sleeping next to her friend / classmate . How do I not get jealous about this

specifically I'm looking to get some demon girls tattooed on me as an afab nonbinary person who likes women - should I be wary to do this? the designs are mostly conventionally attractive women - I don't want to make a partner self conscious or promote outdated ideals of attractiveness

if you have similar tattoos let me know your thoughts - or if you'd have some kind of reaction let me know - I'm 23 and very into tattoos right now and just trying to be mindful

What’s are some of your favorite songs to listen to during sex?

What was the defining moment for you? I'm 21 cis female, and i have considered myself to be straight up until now. Never been in a relationship, but straight was just what I thought i was. More and more recently I've been noticing the beauty of women. I still find some men attractive, but when I think about aactually BEING with one... I'm just not so sure ananymore. I guess women seem to be more loving? They don't look at you like an object like men sosometimes do. What really made me start questioning was when my favorite youtuber came out as gay, and i found that I was kinda excited about that? When women are flirty with me, i like it. But when men do it i get creeped out. lI don't even know if this is something that I'm ready to think about. I know that my family would be so ddisappointed in me. And it could even be a phase, idk. I just wanted to hear how it was for you all when you first started questioning, or if you always knew?

Like the title says. I am 25F and had my gay awakening a couple years ago. I would really like to date a woman. However, I feel held back because unfortunately I have never had an orgasm, either with someone else or by myself, even with toys. I feel very deficient that I can’t orgasm (I think partially due to antidepressants, which really help otherwise and I don’t want to go off of) but as much as I try to reach it it does not happen. I’m almost embarrassed to try to date a lesbian because I feel like when they see this deficiency it won’t be as satisfying for them and it will just implode because I’m not able to show my pleasure in the way I want to. I think part of me thinks if I was in a straight relationship it would be better because so many women have orgasmic deficiencies in them anyway so it’s not uncommon, but for lesbians who have a lower orgasm gap I just feel like it would be really disappointing for my partner to really put in the work and nothing happens on my end, not for want of trying. It’s really frustrating, but would lesbians still date me even if I’m anorgasmic and it can’t be fixed?

How does anyone actually date when you live in places where’s there’s not exactly a huge queer community, ex: places further south, places where religion is a big part of the culture, etc.

I live in a decently big city but I am pretty far in the south and in the Bible Belt, so sometimes I feel like I’ll never date again (I moved here 6 months ago). I’ve tried looking into Facebook or Meetup groups even just to make some queer friends, but they mostly consist of people who 10 years+ older than me (I’m 24).

Are dating apps the only option at this point? I’ve given them a shot but haven’t really made any substantial connections. The only advice I’ve seen online is to volunteer or join a rec sports team, but not sure if this is a common thing but I really fear potential negative reactions that could come from assuming a girl is gay when she’s not. I guess it should also be noted that I’m more on the fem side and I’m mainly attracted to other more fem-presenting people. Any advice would be great friends :)

I’ve realized I’m never angry that I’m not in a relationship till I’m wanting sex. That’s when I get pissed and start getting whiny about things to the point where my friend called me out of it. How do I stop this or make it decrease for the better?

I (20F) have recently entered my first ever relationship . Things are going well however I am constantly paranoid when I’m away from my gf she will meet someone ‘better ‘ or more ‘interesting ‘ than me . I am a pretty insecure person and I’m used to people abandoning me so I nvr feel like I am good enough .

My girlfriend is at uni whereas I am an unemployed NEET (receive disability welfare from the gov) she goes to lots of uni events so ofc she has lots of opportunities to meet people . I on the other hand , don’t have any friends. I have tried going to places back in my hometown however I always fail because nobody talks to me .

Tomorrow she is doing bouldering with her new friend and I will be going back to my hometown. I will see her again on Thursday (we see each other every week and I stay at her student accom for 4x a week) I’m kind of paranoid she ends up liking someone else and they become really close or something .

I was looking at this girls instagram account and she has her shit way more together than me and she also looks like a way more fun person than me (she has photos of herself going places and doing cool activities ) what if my gf develops feelings for her . She has way more life prospects than me after all

In doggy style position specifically . What strap ons can give pleasure ?

This is gonna be long so plz bear with me,

I've been friends with a girl for like 3 years,

I had and still has a huge crush on her, She knows that I'm a lesbian btw

She says that she's a lesbian for me only, and always flirt with me, sweet talk, hugs, (we're in a strict community, so it super hard to do that) we hang out every day at school, go out to the cinema, shopping, to the restaurant,

But we've been flirting for more than 3 years

Any way, she always talks abt how she wants a husband, 5 kids, and always talks abt her future plan,

We'd say like oh we should like leave the country and we plan for it but we're broke Lol , but it's never more than that,

We say I luv u more than 100 time a day, like all the time,

But IDK,

I still feel like she's not into me, or at least she's not serious, and I really want a serious relationship, like a real adult one,

I don't wanna confess first cuz I don't think that I'd be able to destroy our relationship.

Also a few days ago we were talking to another lesbian friend and she said a similar shitty moment that happened with her straight crush and I said to my crush that 2 years ago I was almost worshipping her and the same exact moment happend to me and she said that she was stupid back then.

I said it in the past tense so I wouldn't make it awkward and we laughed it out.

What do u guys think?

And I'm really sorry for this long reddit.

I met this girl a couple months ago with full intentions of making more lesbian friends, however we got close really fast due to hanging out almost every day since we’ve met and I’ve developed feelings for her. People always ask if we’re dating because we’re so close and always together, and we always laugh it off even though it kinda hurts but I’ve usually been able to ignore my feelings. However we went out partying last night and she started talking to another girl and I was extremely drunk and upset and left the party but she noticed and questioned me about it so I came back. I kept trying to keep my distance after that but every time I’d leave she’d find me. Ive been told to distance myself from her by other people before this even happened but I didn’t want to but I really think I need to now so I can get over her, its just hard to do that when I’m with her everyday without her noticing I’m hanging out with her less but I need space and I don’t know what to do.

My girlfriend and I bought a strap on. I never loved penetration before her but something about her (trust and actually being in a healthy relationship maybe?) is different. Because of the previous dislike, I’m nervous. I tried to use the dildo to see how it would feel to ease my nerves and it hurt like it was too big. I did start small. Anything I should be doing to prepare/ train?

Shes nervous about being on the giving side of things as well. We’ve communicated immensely and I feel no pressure or anything like that and we plan on continuing our communication during the act. This is something we’ve both thought about and been excited about for months. Any other ideas or advice?

I’m a baby butch, and i more than anything want to meet older queer folk. i’m on a trip in North Carolina, are there any lesbian hotspots that aren’t 21+? i turned 17 earlier this week and like, im struggling to find my people :[ SAVE ME LESBIANS SAVE MEEEE

I have a friend sky he's trans masc he/they pronouns but identifies as a lesbian. It doesn't affect me in anyway and only asking for perspective. He's mentioned multiple times he's gay/lesbian and is with a woman and been with woman in the past I just have a weird time understanding how you can both be a man and be a lesbian. Is the gender expression different than sexual expression ? Or is it something else. Like I said it effects me in no way at all on a personal level he's a dope friend love hanging with him. I don't want to be offending anyone I just would love perspective on this.

Everyone always talks about the masc shortage but I feel like I mainly just see other mascs when I go out. But ig that makes sense, cause of course I gravitate towards the spaces that mascs gravitate towards. I'm wondering where femmes go out to meet people and be social?

i’ve been in a lesbian relationship with my ¿cis? girlfriend for a year now (for this post i’m gonna refer to her as she) a few months ago she told she was worried about her gender identity but didn’t want to talk further abt it. around a month ago she told me she wanted me to slowly start using she/he on her, which is completely fine for me and i’m actually very supportive. the thing is, i’ve been noticing some changes in her gender expression, sometimes she be taking photos where she looks like a cis-passing guy, since the beginning of our relationship she has been a masc lesbian, but now i sometimes feel like i’m dating a man. if she decides to transition as a man, i don’t think i’d feel comfortable with it because well, i’d be dating a man, and i only like women. idk what to do, i don’t know if i should talk about this with her because she looks like this has been a very stressful topic and i don’t really want to put a pressure on her, or be the cause of her dysphoria. any opinions?

so basically me (f22) and my gf (f24) have been living together since 3 months into our relationship and we’ve been together for a little over 2 years. we live in a one bedroom apartment. we both have some mental health issues and im going to therapy at the moment for depression and anxiety. recently she has had a huge career shift and is stressed out all of the time and im dealing with my grandpa dying and ive been with him these past couple of days. i don’t want to lose my girlfriend but im unhappy. our relationship has been a little rocky this past month and i am tired of going in circles with her. i feel like the loyalty is there which has kept us together but the connection is only there sometimes. i don’t have many friends and im close with my family but i don’t want to intrude them during this hard time. i will go do stuff alone sometimes but wondering if anyone has any recommendations of what to do or where to go when needing alone time and space from my partner that i live with

I run a book club on my workplace and I would love to add a wlw book in the suggestions for our next book. However, because it’s work, I don’t want it to be spicy at all, while also not being about teenagers anymore (it’s fine being about teenagers though, if it’s well written).

In the past we only did murder mysteries, so I never had to worry about that lol

Stuck in the most frustrating cycle with my best friend. I’ve been in love with her for over two years, and I feel like it’s mutual at this point. Everyday I am thinking about her and our situation, all day until I see her. Creating the worst scenarios, until we spend time together and I realize it’s all in my head. I feel like we’re both hinting around liking each other constantly but neither of us will ever get to the point. It’s so painful and confusing, and I’m terrified to confess in case I’m delusional and making it all up. Every night we sit together to watch TV and I think something is going to happen but I’m too scared to make a move and I know she wouldn’t, even if it is mutual. It feels like the tension gets as high as it possibly can through long intense eye contact, play fighting, random touching, and she waits for me to do something, but I freeze and she gets frustrated and goes to bed. I know if I were watching from an outside perspective I would tell myself to stop being such an idiot and just confess already, but when the moment comes I get so flustered and can’t do it. It’s like I shut down, heart races, I get quiet and can’t look at her. I feel like something is wrong with me and I don’t know how to change it.

For reference we’re both queer, and neither of us have ever made the first move with anyone. Previously I would kind of freak out with any kind of intimacy, but I didn’t like them so I figured that was the reason. I feel like we’re crashing because this cycle has been going on for so long and I can’t see myself breaking it. Any advice/words of wisdom?

I’m sorry if this has been asked before, but I’m so curious. I’m bi, but I’ve never done anything with a woman before (yet), but I’m dying to know what’s attractive to other women. Like, I sometimes wonder if I’d be considered attractive to other women, but I don’t know what speaks to them, in a sense.

Does it get better?

Are there any queer Africans that can give me a definite answer? Does being queer in an african country ever get better? Or am I doomed to marry a man and live in an unhappy marriage. I'm a girl, I go by She/her and I just finished high school. Navigating life without the complete support of my parents has been very difficult. It's become even more difficult because of my queer identity. I'm beginning to fear for my safety more and more by the day. Maybe I'm paranoid, maybe I simply suffer from terrible Comphet. But I need a definite answer, does it get better? Being queer in a country that hates you, frequently has cases of abuse against gay people and has desensitised itself to violence against queer folk.

Hi everyone, I ask that when you read this, you don’t judge me but try to understand how trapped I am. I really need some advise.

I am 23F who has been in a straight relationship for the past 5 years. I am very much sure that I am a lesbian. This started to slowly creep up on me during my relationship and to cut a long story short, I thought if I tired it once, it would be out of my system and everything would be fine. Turns out I’m 100% gay and have been seeing girls behind my partners back for the past year. I know, the guilt is killing me.

The thing is, I’ve met someone, and I think I love her. I have a lot of love for my current male partner however it feels like we are roommates, we’ve not been intimate for over a year obviously but I adore him. With my whole entire heart. Leaving him would kill me.

I’m so scared of my life changing as I’m very much in the closet. The feeling of being so trapped is eating me up. I’m lying to everyone and I feel sick to my stomach every single day. The thing is, I just don’t think I can come out. I’m so ashamed as this is never what I expected for myself but I want to be with her. I need to be.

If I leave him, life as I know it will crumble in seconds. My home, my best friend, everything will be gone. This is a very selfish perspective and I’m aware of that but my life is perfect from the outside. Expect, I’m suffering so deeply.

Do I take this to the grave? How have people coped with this before? I’m not ready for my life to do a 360. I’m really scared but I really need advice.

Thank you in advance x

Hey y’all, I identify currently as pansexual but lately I have been thinking I may be a lesbian. I had a boyfriend and when we kissed I didn’t feel anything, no butterflies nothing. After me and him broke up I had a girlfriend for a short time and I’ve never been so attracted to someone before. When we kissed I was exited and had butterflies. I like fictional men and celebrities and I find men attractive but the idea of sleeping with a man is unappealing and scary. If anyone has any advice that would be great! Thank you for reading.