I'm 26, and last night I had sex with three different people in one night. It was all consensual and safe, but now I'm feeling kind of conflicted about it. For context, I was in a long-term relationship from the ages of 18 to 25, and during that time, I was only with one person. Now that I'm single, l've been exploring more and trying to figure out what I want in terms of relationships, attraction, and connection. Part of me wonders if I'm just experimenting and getting to know myself better after being in such a serious relationship for so long. But another part of me feels kind of guilty or like maybe I'm making choices that don't align with who I am-or who I want to be. I don't know if this is normal, if I'm overthinking it, or if I should take a step back and reflect. i guess my question is: Is it bad that I had sex with three different people in one night? Am I just figuring things out, or does this reflect something deeper that I need to address? I'd really appreciate hearing your thoughts, advice, or experiences. Thanks for taking the time to read!

❤︎❤︎❤︎Hi everyone, I'm 21 years old male still on curiosity phase, I’m new to understanding my gender identity, and I’m reaching out for advice and guidance from those who have gone through their own journey. I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflection recently and am starting to explore my feelings about gender, but I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed and unsure about how to navigate this process in a healthy way. I heard that here there are many people who help and support each other.

For those of you who have been on this path, what were some of the most important things you learned when you first started? What are some of the things you wish you had known or understood better about gender identity, especially in the beginning stages?

I’m also curious about the emotional side of things—did you experience any challenges with doubts, confusion, or fear, and if so, how did you deal with those feelings? I’ve heard a lot about how it’s a very personal journey, but I’m still trying to figure out what steps are best for me and how to avoid feeling lost along the way.

Additionally, I’d love to hear about how you built a support system—whether through friends, family, online communities, or professional help. What kinds of resources, books, or practices helped you? And were there any red flags or things to avoid during the early stages of self-discovery?

I know every experience is different, but I’d be really grateful for any advice, stories, or tips that might help me better understand myself and the process of exploring my gender identity. Thanks so much for taking the time to share your wisdom—I really appreciate it! ❤︎❤︎❤︎

Hey everyone, I just wanted to share something that’s been on my mind for a while. I’m a gay guy, and I’m not exactly what you’d call good-looking, honestly, I’m pretty damn ugly. My experience in life and dating has been rough, and it’s taught me a lot about how much looks matter. My face is like 2 out of 10 and that's on a good day. I used to be straight, but let’s be real: women weren’t interested. So I figured maybe things would be different with men, but they weren’t, at least not in the way I hoped. Sure, I had some hookups eventually, but nothing meaningful. And honestly, every time, I couldn’t shake the feeling that the other guy was doing it out of pity.

I was still a virgin at 21 and I thought I was approaching the wizard territory so I needed to change something quick. When I lost my virginity, I thought it would change something inside me. I don’t know what I expected, maybe some kind of magical switch to flip, where suddenly I’d feel confident or worthy or like less of a loser. But nope. The next day, I was the same ugly loser staring back in the mirror, still feeling just as unattractive and out of place as before. It was like it didn’t even happen, at least not in any way that mattered.

Now, I’ve kind of reached the point where I’m tired of chasing something that always feels out of reach. I’ve started leaning into Buddhism, trying to let go of my desire for relationships, for affection, for any kind of validation from other people. I’m working on clearing out those thoughts from my mind, and honestly, I’m just trying to figure out how to be okay with being alone forever.

I don’t know if this is inspiring, depressing, or just something in between, but it’s where I’m at. If anyone else feels like they’re stuck in a similar place, you’re not alone. Life doesn’t always turn out how we want, but I guess we just keep moving forward anyway.

I'm closeted, and I don't have anyone that I could come out to. I have no idea what I'm doing with my life, and I don't know how to deal with my sexuality. I want to talk to someone, but I don't think I'm ready, and I go to a Christian college. My college's town is also very small and doesn't have any LGBT centers. Should I just go to my college's life coaching services and talk about it there? I don't know what to do.

I like sucking dick but unfortunately I don’t create enough saliva to make it truly sloppy. I know I like it like that so I assume most guys do too. I usually supplement with flavoured lube but that needs replenishment if my partner doesn’t cum right away. I know alcohol causes dehydration and I do try to avoid it but even without alcohol, my mouth is dry. Is there any thing I should change or add to my diet to help? Any positive experiences out there?

To be more specific, was your first date with someone successful? If so, where did it lead and are you guys still together? If you’re no longer together, how long did you guys last?

I’m (27) checking back in after having my first date ever with a guy (32), and I couldn’t have asked for a better time with a better person. He said he also had a great time and is looking for something serious, and I told him the same. But now I’m just getting those post-date jitters where I’m simply anxious because I really want things to work out between us. 😂❤️

I know you are proud of your dick and you feel like EVERYONE should see it, even if they dont want to (trust me, i dont really want to but whatever).

for the love of all things holy, please check your fucking background and surroundings.

this guy sends me a dick pic of him in the mirror. The first thing i noticed wasn't the dick pic, it was the amount of dirty clothes he had in his background and what appeared to be whitey tighties with a brown stain and some dirty socks lmao.

Or the guys who send dick pics with the remote....stop doing that. it actually makes your dick look smaller.

Hello, I recently moved japan and discovrr my bi part.

I was using grinde and start talking with someone. We exchanged instagram then moved to telegram(fucking why I done that).

After a long talk we made a video call. Im masturbated on sceeen for 10 sec and less (ım ashamed now)

He suddenly closed and send me the record and my fallower list screen shoot. And ask me money.

I talked with to take a time to close instagram. I asked what him to do etc to have a time to close instagram do reddit search. Then I called my father( he was lawyer) and explain the situation. He said np, you should think with ypur mind. Share sth to inform relatives etc.

I made quick reddit search, everyone said block them etc.

Then I said them I talked with my family and consulted embassy.

Then blocked him.

Im still embarresed, what happens if they share the video containing my face and body masturbating? Do they really share?Peoples in other post says block, they will not.

Are there anyone had similar situation and can calm me down? What if they send picturesrto people?

Edit: I will edit this post in future to let people know if they send or not.

Title says it all...and I feel dirty,like my body needs to be cleanse or something

How do I get rid of these feelings?

I need some advice. There’s this guy I’ve been talking to every day for months. We work together, hang out together, like the same things, and we’ve even gone out a few times. Honestly, I feel like we’re pretty perfect for each other in a lot of ways. However, I’m feeling confused about what he actually thinks of us.

Recently, he mentioned that he’s giving someone else a shot right now. So, I’m left wondering – are we just friends, or is there something more between us? I know I shouldn’t keep pursuing someone who isn’t as invested as I am, especially when I’m clearly not his first choice. But part of me feels like we have something special, and I’m not ready to let go just yet.

Am I being naive to keep hoping something will develop, or should I move on and accept that he’s not interested in a relationship with me?

Could be under the influence or not. Expand on it a bit. Let's see if we can't reveal a little somethin' somethin' to this here community (to be continued).

Geniunine question. I'm 22 and I'm really struggling to meet guys. I never cared about having a boyfriend, i enjoy being a single (never had a bf) but lately I've been feeling a little pressured to find myself a boyfriend which doesn't make ANY sense since I don't want one. It's been a struggle for me mostly because of my looks, I've tried grind and tinder and even meeting people IRL but nothing seems to be working out for me. I'm being ghosted all the time after i show how i look and it's really getting into me. I deleted wvery single picture of myself and I hate when people even look at me. It's really getting to me and I'm starting to struggle with self image. I just wish gays weren't so judgemental. Any tips on how can i meet someone? Not even a boyfriend but just a regular friendship. Thanks in advance!

add me or lmk if theres one

I haven’t had the most “free-time” in my life to care about dating or appearances. Very sick as a child, basically declining from 8 years of age to cardiac arrest at 14. I am and have been “healthy” (read: stable) for the last eight years and finally was allowed to come off of steroids two years ago by my medical team. I have lost basically all the fat around my neck; it has been a dramatic change like holy shit, but I still have a very poorly defined jaw. My chin isn’t recessed at all to my knowledge, my father has the same neck/jawline and is in great physical shape, my mother has a sharp neck/jawline and is in good shape.

I know that this is a “me” problem, and I know that it’s rare for people to look in the mirror thinking “Damn! I am totally my type”; however, I can’t grow a beard (neither can my father or brother). I’ve never been treated poorly due to my appearance, due to my knowledge. The scars from my trauma don’t bother me anymore.

Meeting my partner has been almost like a waking dream. I was hit on (over reddit of all places) and I do not get hit on historically. We hit it off extremely well, and he recently visited (I’m in Eastern Canada, he’s in Kentucky). It has been strange to meet a self described femboy who wants to be the breadwinner for his “male-wife”; we joke about this of course and it’s not like he or I feel objectified. I just love cooking and cleaning, and he is a workaholic.

We share many of the same interests, and we have brought out the best in each other. He gets me to exercise more, with him, I have exposed him to the world of being a foodie (this guy can’t even boil an egg). In our time together he has become an enjoyer of Italian flavours and a bit of a wine snob hahaha. We watch movies together, and we’re even in the works of developing a GameboyColour project together.

He has said that, he has always been deeply physically attracted to me. I know this has to be true, because I can’t get him to leave me alone when he was visiting. December 26th will mark our first full year. Still, knowing this, I can’t help but feel ugly. He really really likes me, I don’t hate me but I don’t like me either.

I don’t really want this to be about his looks but, I feel like he’s much more attractive than me. We have communicated these insecurities, he asserting that I am the cute one and he looks ugly. I’m not sure what the point of this post is, but he keeps telling me I have a “chad” chin and that I look “extremely balanced, not too masc not too fem” and all the other things. He likes my chubby belly and kisses my scars, and it makes me want to cry thinking about it, he’s so great. We both have a thing for men who look a little “disheveled” like “pseudo-intellectual who slams monster energy drinks and hasn’t slept in two days” type beat. He likes that he is my “little vampire”’ we’re so cringe but we don’t care; being cringe is what makes funny stories and memories.

I’ve been rambling for a while now, and sometimes I try to tell myself that (broadly speaking) it doesn’t matter what I look like in photos or at all really (as long as I stay active and eat proper) because I don’t have to look at me, I get to look at him, and he is cute.

I have social anxiety, yet everywhere I go people seem to love me. My family loves me, aunts dote on me, cousins looks up to me, but in my mind it makes very little sense. I have been through a lot, and it has left me with a nursing diploma, scarred skin and a limp in my right leg. I am currently on disability and working through PTSD in therapy, covid is very likely to kill me, and I have never been financially independent.

I have had friends and family consistently refer to me as the “smartest” person they know, even my partner who finished high-school at 16 and taught himself C, C+, and C# tells me I am probably the “smart” one. I have done nothing to earn these compliments, and I usually deflect them with variations of “you haven’t meet enough people” or “being smart or being dumb is not binary”.

I feel like people just placate me because I have been through so much. So I guess I’m afraid my partner is with me out of pity; I should know that that isn’t the case, and all evidence points to that not being true.

I’m a loud cummer and enjoy partners who are loud too. I love letting go. I don’t know how some guys keep quiet when they cum.

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I’ve been single for a good while and haven’t done anything sexual since mid January. Thing is, I’d like to but the thought of hook ups really turn me off, but ik nothing can really happen if IT doesn’t happen, ya know? I do get horny, but just take care of it myself but it’s been getting a lot more frequent lately and would prefer the real deal. Any advice to get over this hurdle?

So, I am a hypersexual kind of gay. So I get to know many new random people all the time. It's really interesting the broad spectrum of people one gets to know, however, I do notice some of them would just rather come and go.

TLDR Just wondering if you speak while you search your boxers to leave the man's place.

Yesterday I was talking with my boyfrien because sometimes there are things he does or says that annoy me. We got to the conclusion that he has some internalized homophobia which makes him fell doubtful sometimes about us. He said that he wanted to work on it and I said that watching gay series made me accept myself better and get rid of it. He says that he will try that but he doesn't really like watching series so if someone has a suggestion to help it would be great. Btw I thought of him going to therapy but I think because of his situation right now it would be hard.

Is that gay?

My boyfriend loves cumming in my ass and leaving his dick inside. Until it softens. We've even gone so far as to sleep with spoons like this. The "problem" is that his dick is very very thick. Sometimes it's good, sometimes it's not. Has anyone gone through this? Does the ass get used to it?

Hi guys: I've been a top for most of my life, but I have always wanted to feel the pleasure that a bottom feels when they get boned. I've bottomed for a few guys in any number of sex positions and never got much out of it. I've also played with various toys and definitely got nothing out of that either. I ejaculate, so I know my prostate is working and I have no other urinary/reproductive problems. A friend of mine said "maybe you're just a total top." The thing is I really want to love what a bottom feels. Any advice?

I've been dating my current boyfriend since the spring. It took me a while to 'fall in love' with him -- and I'm not even sure I'm all the way there yet. Lately -- and for some months, too -- I've had thoughts of ending the relationship.

Recently, I've been having urges to sleep around; I haven't acted on these, and I've never really been promiscuous anyway. I graduated from university in the summer and I am still looking for a professional job in this seemingly dire market. Truthfully, I am finding it hard to afford to do things with him. However, I feel awful about the idea of abandoning him because he is so attached to me. He's been considering ways of moving in together and forming a life together too.

Perhaps I want excitement from elsewhere because I am jobless and bored all the time; maybe it's a psychological outlet or distraction. Anyway, I'd be grateful for some advice on my situation.

If your penis could make a sound with each ejaculation, what sound would you choose?

I feel like most gays in their mid adult years are already used to wearing their hearts on their sleeves, to the point that it immediately becomes a "you problem" if you look even a little closed off or if there's the slightest hint that you're adding boundaries/obstacles over time.

Would it turn you on to feel your time with someone was "earned"? Or do you want the chemistry to happen its own even though the guy is very sex positive and experiments with a new person every night (with the slight possibility that said person might develop deeper emotional connection with you anyway)?

I feel like a fucking potato when it comes to sex. I'm 23 and I practically don't know how to satisfy my partner. Almost always everything comes down to me cumming, I want him to enjoy sex too. So, yes, how can I improve at fellatio? What can I do to satisfy him and make sure he cums too? Obviously I have already discussed this with him and he says that he doesn't care about cumming, but I do care

Hey guys I am 23 M

I didn't think I would have to write this but here I am.

Well, life is an unexpected ride.

I am here to ask people out here how is dating in general for HIV positive people and how would you receive anyone who would come out as positive to you..

I’m a tall guy (6’3) but far prefer bottom. Obviously there aren’t many gay guys out there taller than me, so I probably will opt for some short.

How can tall bottoms be attractive? In the gay community, it seems like a majority of tops prefer shorter guys, so what are some steps to take for tall bottoms to be at least marginally more attractive (and not assumed to be top by others because of height)

It’s been 5 minutes since I (19m) was left on seen. Im so devastated, we’ve fucked multiple times and he’s so cute but he probably hates me. I know it’s currently midnight and maybe he’s tired but I think he’s probably cheating on me. I know we’re not dating but we should be and I hate it so much

Short and sweet, I live next to someone who I've always thought was gay, cus he aint pullin no woman in his lifetime, and he also acts kinda gay and could be the type to be gay.

I'm closeted and I think he is too, and I know he's probably had sexual thoughts about me before, but of course I have no proof. I just need someone who I can give backshots and someone who will do the same to me, I have no interest in a romantic relationship.

Should I ask him over or nottt????