r/askmenadvice was suddenly banned about 3 months ago for being "unmoderated," which struck me as odd because the subreddit didn't have any spam, and the community was generally engaged in a healthy discussion without taking things personally. The admins have refused to grant moderator privileges to anyone from the community^(1 2 3), including me.

Are any of you interested in requesting moderator privileges for this subreddit? I don't know what the admins are looking for, because I thought I ticked all their boxes.

Just so we're clear, I don't expect to be made a moderator of this subreddit by the new moderator. I just want r/askmenadvice back.

What are your thoughts on a having one in response to what has been going on lately?

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Is it just me or…? Lately I’ve been realizing that all the big indie playlists I can find (Alexrainbird, Indie Nation, Indieair) includes way more men than women! This made me so frustrated cause I think it’s so important to have equality everywhere and we have to do something. So I started my own all-women playlist with some really cool upcoming female acts just to inspire a small change. The most importaint thing today is to get heard and get seen and thats you, by listening to smaller upcoming acts like those included on this playlist, we can really make a change!

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4LOnfp9ZD1hteo0xAKJymz?si=gvFpSHFkSdSIX9Fbru444g

If anyone here knows any good female acts that would fit the playlist please share. I think this post could potentially make a good discussion so please bring out your opinions :)

These also be the same person and the links to their sources are the links.

https://www.reddit.com/r/WhitePeopleTwitter/comments/fj3n9e/comment/fkl439n

You are absolutely correct. So let's move past our fixation on physical and sexual violence and take a look at emotional violence and the internalization of gender roles. As I've noted elsewhere, it is curious how when men internalize their assigned gender to the point where it becomes harmful to themselves and those around them, it's "toxic masculinity", but when women internalize their assigned gender to the point where it becomes harmful to themselves and those around them, it's "internalized misogyny". Doubly curious considering that...

TORONTO -- The age-old bias that suggests “boys don’t cry” is unconsciously perpetuated by mothers more than fathers, according to new research from the University of Guelph.

The study, published in the Canadian Journal of Behavioral Science, found that moms tend to favour girls expressing emotions of sadness and anger over boys. Fathers, on the other hand, lacked a bias towards emotions of anger and sadness in their children.

The researchers say they were surprised by this finding, which is odd because this meta-analysis of several different studies on the topic found the exact same thing, and it was published in 1998.

Beauty standards specifically are not as widely studied, but eating disorders are, and we find that the attitudes of mothers are better predictors than the attitudes of fathers. At no point in Wasted: A Diary of Anorexia and Bulimia does Marya mention being shamed for her weight by men or wanting to be thin in order to please men the way she describes being shamed for her weight by women and wanting to be thin in order to make other women jealous.

Oh, and we've also known for decades that men are just as or slightly more likely to be victims of intimate partner violence than women. It's past time for women to step up and stop framing themselves as hapless, agency-less victims of the system.

https://www.reddit.com/r/WhitePeopleTwitter/comments/fj3n9e/comment/fkl79oo

Most child abusers are women, based on CPS estimates that are primarily concerned with physical and sexual abuse. Female abusers are far more likely to use emotional violence, which is far less likely to be reported, taken seriously, or even perceived as abuse by the victim. I didn't realize my mother was emotionally abusive until I was 26 and had been hospitalized multiple times for symptoms none of the doctors recognized as being consistent with CPTSD and a history of emotional abuse and neglect. Tellingly, I realized it after reading a book that was written by and for female victims of male abusers.

All of your citations could just as easily be used to argue my perspective, that women are the abusers and aggressors who (re-)create and perpetuate the bullshit gender roles that form the basis of "patriarchy", but they are given a free pass because we "feel a sense of gratitude to the dominant group for their [abusive] actions". After all, they're our mothers. We're supposed to love them unconditionally for everything they did for us and look past their faults and abuses. Our fathers who slaved away at a job they hated for twenty years in order to give us a better life are somehow not owed the same understanding and gratitude.

https://www.reddit.com/r/WhitePeopleTwitter/comments/fj3n9e/comment/fkle73o

You're backtracking from your original claim that emotional violence is just as or more potent a weapon than physical violence. To the extent that men are more physically violent, I would note that "boys will be boys" - a sentiment I have only ever heard expressed by women - cuts both ways. Boys are allowed (by their predominately female caretakers) to get away with things girls are not allowed to get away with, but they are also expected to fend and stand up for themselves in a way that girls are not. When authority won't help, boys on the playground learn that violence is sometimes the only way to ensure their safety and emotional well-being. That doesn't justify their violence as adults - especially violence in intimate relationships - but that brings us back to the original question of agency in the internalization of gender roles.

It is also worth pointing out that the overwhelming majority of violence (including and especially war and crime) is economically motivated, and men are expected to provide for themselves in a way that women are not.

https://www.reddit.com/r/WhitePeopleTwitter/comments/fj3n9e/comment/fklefg3

I lack the expertise to put all this data in context and I have no desire to get into a tit-for-tat "who has more studies" argument so I'll limit myself to claiming that "men are more violent" is very far from the settled, established fact it is often portrayed as.

The DHHS data shows that of children abused by one parent between 2001 and 2006, 70.6% were abused by their mothers, whereas only 29.4% were abused by their fathers.

And of children who died at the hands of one parent between 2001 and 2006, 70.8% were killed by their mothers, whereas only 29.2% were killed by their fathers.

Furthermore, contrary to media portrayals that leave the viewer with the impression that only girls are ever harmed, boys constituted fully 60% of child fatalities. (Table 4-3, p. 71, Child Maltreatment 2006, http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/pubs/cm06/cm06.pdf, reports that 675 boys died in 2006 as compared to 454 girls).

http://www.breakingthescience.org/SimplifiedDataFromDHHS.php

How is it that our general legal understanding of domestic vio-lence as defined by the male abuse of women is so squarely contra-dicted by the empirical reality? Honestly answering this question re-quires tracing the history of both the theory and practice of domestic violence law. Undertaking such an exploration, one quickly finds that the “discovery” of domestic violence is rooted in the essential feminist tenet that society is controlled by an all-encompassing patriarchal structure.8 This fundamental feminist understanding of domestic violence has far-reaching implications. By dismissing the possibility of female violence, the framework of legal programs and social norms is narrowly shaped to respond only to the male abuse of women. Fe-male batterers cannot be recognized. Male victims cannot be treated. If we are to truly address the phenomenon of domestic violence, the legal response to domestic violence and the biases which underlie it must be challenged.

https://ir.law.fsu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1595&context=lr

The social sciences are female-dominated and gender studies and women's studies in particular are 72% and 92% female respectively. I have no data on men's studies because it's usually considered a sub-discipline of women's studies, which is revealing in and of itself. If you really believe that representation matters and that a diversity of perspective is required in order to arrive at the truth, you should take findings that validate patriarchal/feminist assumptions about men with more than just a single grain of salt.

I keep seeing in GC that libfems or third wave feminism is all about pleasing men when vast majority of people hate third wave feminism because it isn't pleasing men and complaining that it only cares about women's issues. Are TERFs that disconnected from reality?

There is lot of sexism in movie and gaming comnunity. Anime community is the only entertainment community where there is lack of sexism in my experience.

Why the hell are they nice to them?

weelllll I found this

https://equalitycanada.com/first-mens-centre-ottawa-will-celebrate-grand-opening-saturday-september-9th/

https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/comments/69mlh6/cafeottawa_is_raising_funds_to_open_a_mens_centre/

https://menandfamilies.org/ottawa-about/

And the reviews

[However I have my doubts about this because it's CAFE.] (https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/ottawa/ottawa-canadian-centre-for-men-and-families-1.4279125)

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Canadian_Association_for_Equality

Not mention that one of the head honchos, David Shackleton, made this

What is your opinion on this?

What is your honest opinion on this You think that this mother is doing lowkey ableism? https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/587948273889837056/618924885640478721/Screenshot_20190904-164452_Chrome.jpg https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/587948273889837056/618924893819633684/Screenshot_20190904-164505_Chrome.jpg

Also something that is interesting

https://adayinourshoes.com/ableist-ableism/

http://thespectacularspider-girl.tumblr.com/post/113010314274/female-portrayals-in-video-games

I'm not going to link the post or name names. I genuinely curious about you thoughts on this post.

kuz

I used to be a feminist

Then I came out as a trans man, started living as a man, and realized just how bad men have it. Honestly, it makes me want to go back in the closet sometimes

clo

I can’t rmemeber if it was a post or an article or whatever but I saw this thing where trans men say what they just weren’t prepared for as living as a man. The biggest hit has got to be the bias in terms of crime and police etc… and in courts especially.

tru

The cops have 1000% gone harder on me since I started passing and got my documents changed. But also like, I feel like there are more expectations on how I should act and present myself now that I live as a man. I still believe in feminism, because the glass ceiling is real, but I definitely understand it differently now. Men have it easier in terms of pay and safety and opportunity, but there is also a different social expectation that goes beyond toxic masculinity into just having an Expectation that is hard to fill, and honestly on the day to day, people are nicer to women than men (save for all the horrible sexual harassment, I mean like, normal, decent humans)

loc

Bruh I didnt yall were feeling this too i thought i was just being a little bitch

Teachers are more likely to yell at boys more than girls too from what I’ve experienced as well.

Theres a lot more expectations to withhold and it’s hard to keep up with them when you’re trans cause you didnt grow up with them and if you didnt have a dad much either, it’s hard too cause you dont have the figure to observe.

I’ve experienced sexual harassment but because I was trans, not because I was a guy, it was by a girl who fetishized me oop.

Having been on both sides, I understand more.

Guys cant speak about problems or issues they face because some girl will say hers are worse and shame you.

It’s not a competition man, people suck and society eats everyones ass.

spi

one of the main reasons why i stopped being a feminist.

Men have hardships too but they are in different areas. so while women tend to look at womens issues, they often forget that men have issues too.

And when men try to speak up about those issues they are shot down because “they have it better” Its ridiculous.

bee

It’s because men get more shit and are expected to never ask for help.

We teach young men to respect women, which they should, but they should be taught to respect everyone, including other boys.

They’re expected to be strong, wealthy, good-looking, and muscular.

If a girl gets harassed, assaulted, raped, friendzoned, or even killed, it’s a tragedy (which it is)

If a man has those things happen to him? It’s either swept under the rug or laughed at.

There are basically no men-only abuse shelters.

Men who call the police on their abusive female partners are more likely to be arrested because society sees men as the abuser and women as the victim in every scenario.

Male victims of pedophilia are downplayed and the rapists are all too often let off with a slap on the wrist. Just look at any case of female teachers raping male students and you’ll see a pattern- the reluctance to call the women what they are-rapists.

Men make up most workplace deaths.

Men are more likely to commit suicide.

When men speak up about their mental health, it’s often belittled, while women are more often taken seriously (or infantilized, which is a problem for another day)

Men get royally screwed in regards to custody or reproductive rights.

Many countries have laws that make it out so that men can’t be victims of rape.

Teenage boys are routinely targeted in highschool and pressured into the military.

Men are expected to bottle up their emotions, and are demonized when those unchecked feelings come back to bite.

Men who are falsely accused of sexual assault are basically screwed right then and there. You don’t even need evidence to ruin some man’s life. People will blindly believe you.

Women can dress like a boy and nobody besides old grandma Genevieve complains. Men dress feminine and get called all kinds of slurs and beat up.

So what are you're opinion on this post?

https://m.imgur.com/a/NMd42QP

The human rights violations people are facing as they come to our southern border are atrocious, and women are subjected to some of the worst of those abuses. [TW: miscarriage, sexual abuse, death.] For example, pregnant women are facing unbelieveable pain, suffering, and loss due to the horrendous neglect and abuse they experience while in ICE and CBP detention centers, as shown in this article: OB-GYN Says U.S. Marshals Service Is Shackling Detained Pregnant Migrant. Predictably, this is leading to many miscarriages, as detailed here: Nearly 30 Women Have Miscarried While Detained by ICE Since 2017. Also, while we are trying to make progress with #metoo, sexual abuse towards migrant children is running rampant while also being ignored in what are finally being openly referred to as concentration camps. Source: Thousands of Immigrant Children Said They Were Sexually Abused in U.S. Detention Centers, Report Says. Trans women are also dying at alarming rates while detained due in part to complete lack of medical care. You can read more about why that is happening here: Why Are Trans Women Dying in ICE Detention?

We at r/WhereAreTheChildren are finding ways to help people organize and fight against the corporations, agencies and administrations who are committing these atrocities. Please join us and take action.

Thank you!

God these MRAs... https://twitter.com/Anwynn3/status/1127490885384491008?s=20 https://twitter.com/Anwynn3/status/1127650294123442178?s=20 https://twitter.com/BlackBeard20096/status/1127509784301854720?s=20

Because I feel like there's people like these that really don't get the idea of internal misogyny.

What do you think?

http://passingthroughstranger.tumblr.com/post/170379213513/gangster-computer-kebab-dangerbooze

princess-of-misandry

i can’t stand anti feminist women

seriously

they’re so grossly uneducated about feminism

i don’t know if they’ve been raised by their misogynistic fathers

or if they just choose not to stand with feminism and with their own sisters, mothers, aunts because they want to appeal to men or just be not like the other girls

but it’s so ridiculous and upsetting

i just want to know who hurt you tbh

Just to note that Princess here is a TERF and was kinda being an ass....

But this....

ravenamore

I have a minor in Women’s Studies. It was getting that minor that led me to leaving the feminist movement.

Can’t really be sure which part made me leave but I had a lot to choose from:

-massive victimization complex and culture

-condescending bullshit (much like OPs)and elitism, usually coming from someone from Western, middle-to-upper class privileged backgrounds

-pretending that inconvenient parts of their history didn’t exist (rampant racism, homophobia, eugenics, ableism, transphobia).

-promotion of history by “scholars” who wanted to provide either scary horror sound-bites (”The Burning Times” “rule of thumb”) or feel-good fake history (the idea of a giant overarching ancient feminist matriarchy where everything was perfect until PATRIARCHY).

-pushinging of the “right” literature and the “right” authors

-rampant anti-Christianity, especially against the Catholic Church. All others got a free pass.

-idealization of lesbianism as the epitome of feminism, while simultaneously ignoring actual lesbian issues

-aggressively promoting limitless free sex, even if it meant supporting birth control methods known to be harmful, pretending STDs are minor issues, making up statistics and using figureheads to promote abortion, which is always perfect

• condenscending feminist pseudo-colonialist behavior towards non-Western countries. They are either overly idealized and ignore anything bad coming from them, or passive-aggressively lecture them on “women’s health”, making sure village health centers have plenty of MVAs for abortions and Depo-Provera kits but no mosquito nets to prevent malaria

• Want to have kids? If the anti-child rhetoric doesn’t sway you, Here’s some heavy-handed anti-medical propaganda and promotion of birthing like you’re in the third world, regardless of you or the baby’s ultimate health.

Well, I will take some of that back, there were two classes I took for the minor that were worthwhile.

Women and Minorities in the Media, which focused on actual real-time strategies that people could do to move things forward, encouraging action instead of passive complaining and protesting. Like challenging feminist rhetoric

Medieval Women’s History, where I learned that, for a supposed backwards oh-so-evil Catholic Church that hated all those strong women, they sure produced and revered a lot of strong women that did fantastic things. That class was also a major factor in me leaving Wicca and becoming a Catholic, but that’s another story.

Why do so many feminists, who agree Freud was a sexist psycho, always default to “sorry your daddy oppressed you.”

Fucking really?

My dad, whose mom was a WAC in WWII and came from a family of tough Italian women, taught me how to fish and camp, helped me with my Girl Scout projects, and volunteered for awhile at a domestic abuse shelter helping battered women.

What’s your dad done? Shit, honey, what have YOU done?

it’s people like you why I left the feminist movement. Look in the mirror - there’s the problem. Lies, misdirection, gaslighting, victim-blaming, willful ignorance and absolute refusal to even CONSIDER AND LISTEN to constructive criticism.

siryouarebeingmocked

I’ve seens lots of people say things like that. It sure seems what usually turns feminists off from feminism is learning more about feminism.

arduousangel

that’s exactly why I’m not a feminist anymore!

dangerbooze

“because they want to appeal to men or just not be like other girls”

That attitude is the exact reason I quit being a feminist. Because bitches like OP hate on women more than anyone else–we’re not women to them unless we’re the “right kind”.

gangster-computer-kebab

No misogyny like Feminist Misogyny!

https://idealisticshoujohearts.tumblr.com/post/148451650744/thewoodsattheworldsend

angryinkeddrunk

“Sexualized women are just for the male gaze!! Men are pigs!! Men objectify women!! Take down sexy billboards! No more sexy women in games! No more sexy anything!”

HI. LGBT+ WOMEN EXIST. I DONT KNOW WHY YOU THINK YOU CAN JUST FORGET US TO PUSH YOUR “MEN ARE EVIL” NARRATIVE.

AS A FEMALE, I WANNA SEE ASS AND TITTIES.

ESPECIALLY TITTIES.

GO AWAY.

This has been a psa.

dardanbaratheon

it’s funny because they shame men for something they naturally like and it’s not like they can stop that feeling .

Also sexualization is different than objectification, just because a women is sexualized it doesn’t mean she is less worth it or is less of a person.

angryinkeddrunk

^^^^

egalitarian-gamer

THANK YOU

problematicparrot

Male sexuality is evil, dirty, predatory and needs to die…

…but female sexuality is precious, pure and beautiful…

so gimme more of that good Magic Mike shit, NOW!

(But fuck those lesbians/bi women though, they don’t get to look at tiddies either. Too risky. Men might also end up looking at them and we can’t have that)

uteropolis

Bi woman here. The sexy billboards aren’t marketed for us. They’re marketed for men.

I’ve seen some of the advertisements regarding models for this stuff & the statement is always “this is being marketed towards high testosterone men” or some shit

angryinkeddrunk

It doesn’t really matter who the advertisement is “intended for”. The point still stands.

Blaming only men for sexualizing women is ridiculous when all genders sexualize each other.

Attractive people appeal to everyone depending on their sexuality. Gay men can have “high testosterone” and they aren’t interested. I just don’t think it’s that relevant to the point.

realvivianjames

I can only imagine what it feels like as a woman loving woman to sit there and watch things you love be taken from you under the justification “because men like it.”

throw-away-opinions

I feel sorry for women who eat up this “Male sexuality is evil” bullshit, because it only harms them and other women. By convincing them that they need to repress and hate themselves for having natural urges, they impose an impossible standard on women and demonize men for refusing to accept their assbackwards beliefs.

We’re human beings and we love looking at sexy people. It’s not oppression. It’s not hateful. It’s not wrong.

thespectacularspider-girl

Christ, I’m gay and I don’t think male sexuality is evil.

herskyofdiamonds

Christ, I’m a feminist AND a bi girl and this “EW, SEXY WOMEN” crap makes me so angry. Plus I’ve lgbt+ female friends who LIKE to see sexy women and they’ve told me how terrible this stuff makes them feel… because it implies that they, lgbt+ girls/women with sexual drives and desires, are either bad people (“only men would look at women that way, and men are evil horny beasts”) or don’t exist (”true lgbt+ women would never look at other women that way”).

Sooooo progressive, right. Right?

Plus, I realized I was bi when noticed that I liked looking at guys and girls I considered pretty. I can imagine how damaging it is for other lgbt+ girls to find out their sexualities in a similar way, only to be bombarded with the harmful crap.

idealisticshoujohearts

As another bi girl who enjoys boobielicious character designs AND delicious pecs? This. All of this. We need to kill the idea that women are inherently more “pure” than men. I’ve been around dudes who were pretty pure in their admiration of the opposite sex, and I’ve known women who were dirty perverts who made no secret of their love for titties and dicks. Can we like, stop with this crap about how one gender is more pure than the other? Anyone can be chaste, anyone can be a pervert. For fuck’s sake, it’s 2016, slutshaming and gender stereotypes are so 100 years ago.

thewoodsattheworldsend

If it’s made by a man, written by a man, designed by a man then it’s fictional women made for the straight male gaze and it’s evil because men and men’s sexuality is evil.

But if it’s made by a woman, written by a woman, designed by a woman then it’s internalised misogyny and it’s still made for the male gaze against her will, she’s controlled by the patriarchy because women have no agency of their own.

If a women makes it, welp she made it for men and that’s bad but it’s not something she can control because internalised misogyny but they still can’t let her make her own choices because she makes bad choices.

If a women finds other women sexualised in that fashion to be attractive, she’s doing sexual attraction wrong, she’s attracted to women like a straight man is, but it’s not something she can control because internalised misogyny but they still can’t let her make her own choices because she makes bad choices.

If a women finds that sort of sexualisation to be a power fantasy, she’s doing being a women wrong, but it’s not something she can control because internalised misogyny but they still can’t let her make her own choices because she makes bad choices.

Bloody fucking hell! flips table (ノಠ益ಠ)ノ彡┻━┻

WHY DOES THIS BLOODY BRANCH OF MODERN FEMINISM HATE WOMEN (AND MEN) SO FUCKING MUCH?!

“I believe in the agency of women”

No, you fucking don’t. You believe in the agency of women WHO AGREE WITH YOU. You think everyone who disagrees with you, or is sexually attract to that, or makes those characters, or who finds that to be a power fantasy for themselves is controlled by the patriarchy like a bloody puppet. You have the fundamentalist puritan right’s morals for sex.

I miss the feminism I was taught, come back to me women’s agency, I believe in you.

What is your opinion Idealisticshoujohearts' idea of feminism? https://idealisticshoujohearts.tumblr.com/tagged/fauxminism/

https://idealisticshoujohearts.tumblr.com/tagged/fauxminism/page/2

https://idealisticshoujohearts.tumblr.com/tagged/fauxminism/page/3

https://idealisticshoujohearts.tumblr.com/tagged/fauxminism/page/4

https://idealisticshoujohearts.tumblr.com/tagged/fauxminism/page/5

What is your opinion on this?

And just to be clear OP is an MRA that had said this to a woman being assaulted.

http://archive.li/eifyv

Okay what is your opinion on this https://whitediamondfairy.tumblr.com/post/180757993000/westerns-japanese-drawings-are-child-porn-the

lastsonlost

It’s time to because Japan had a similar response to the UN.

Now, Kumiko Yamada, representative of the Japanese wing of the Women’s Institute Of Contemporary Media Culture, has responded to this, and she had quite a bit to say regarding the subject.

Her response (Editor’s Note: first translated by reddit user RyanoftheStars; we’ve verified the translation’s accuracy) can be found below:

We are absolutely in agreement that the protection of the rights of women in Japan is important. On the other hand, we think it should be carefully and seriously evaluated whether the measures taken to ensure those protections are valid ones or not. If we are asked to consider whether “Protecting Women’s Rights in Japan” requires us to “Ban the Sale of Manga and Video Games Depicting Sexual Violence,” then we must reply that that is an absolute “no.”

Reasons for Our Opinion:

Reason #1 – The so-called sexual violence in manga and video games is a made-up thing and as such does not threaten the rights of actual people; therefore, it is meaningless in protecting the rights of women.

Reason #2 – In Japan, and especially when it comes to manga, these are creative fields that women themselves cultivated and worked hard by their own hand to create careers for themselves. If we were to “ban the sale of manga that includes sexual violence,” it would do the opposite and instead create a new avenue of sexism toward women.

Detailed Explanation of Reasons:

About Reason #1 – It goes without saying that the rape and other crimes of actual real people who experience sexual acts from partners without consent is an actual violation of their rights concerning sexual violence and should obviously be forbidden by law, and that it’s necessary to protect and support victims. However, the figures in manga and video games are creative fictions that do not actually exist, and thus this is not a violation of any real person’s human rights. We should focus on attacking the problems that affect real women’s human rights as quickly as possible.

About Reason #2 – In Japan, and especially when it comes to manga, these are creative fields that women themselves cultivated and worked hard by their own hand to create careers for themselves.Already in the 70s there were women-focused manga magazines and many talented women manga writers came from them.In this way, before the Equal Opportunity Employment Act for Men and Women passed in 1986, there was already a space where women flourished and had established the “shoujo manga” genre. And of course, within women’s manga, sometimes the topic was of romance and sex […] In this way, it can be predicted that if we were to ban the sale of “manga that depicts sexual violence,” a great deal of publishers would cease publication of a huge amount of works. In the creative field of manga, the effect would be that women who have worked so hard to create a place for vibrant careers would have that place shrink right in front of them, as well as have their efforts negated. In addition, if we were to put ourselves in the places of manga readers the chance to know about the history of the sexual exploitation of women would be lost and method for them to come to know about it. If the creative fields of manga were attacked, trampled on and destroyed with such prejudice, it would damage not only the women manga writers, but also spread to other women creators in the field, as well as the female readers. This would be a sexist punishment that only narrows the career possibilities of Japan’s women

[…]

Conclusion:

As stated above, we cannot say that banning the sale of manga and video games that “depict sexual violence” is valid, even if we were to agree that the goal of protecting the rights of women is correct.

There is nothing to be gained from regulating fictional sexual violence. However, while you’re trying to fix the rights of fictional characters, you’re leaving the human rights of real women in the real world left to rot. As well, in Japan, the entire reason we have a media genre such as manga that developed to take on themes such as the sexual exploitation of women came from an attitude to tolerate “drinking the pure and the dirty without prejudice.” It’s because we had the freedom to express our views and with that to express the view of a world of humans that live and die, that there are pure and wonderful things and dirty and nasty things mixed with each other.

Manga is a field where women have put in their hard work and effort to cut forward paths and cultivate a place of their own. We believe that in order to protect this place from being trampled on, it will need our continued hard work to pass it on to the next generation, and it is this effort that will link to the greater freedom and rights of women.

For the full response, you can read the original Japanese blog here, and the translated response here.

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http://wmc-jpn.blogspot.com/2016/02/blog-post.html?spref=tw&m=1

https://www.reddit.com/r/KotakuInAction/comments/48ed9t/opinion_japan_womens_institute_of_contemporary/d0iypiz

https://www.aggressivelegalservices.com/false-allegations-of-domestic-violence/

https://mobile.twitter.com/MichaelGLFlood/status/1062305556180824064

I found it here and some one was being a dick and flash this before giving this post https://mobile.twitter.com/FaceFingers/status/1062351406173167623

First of all this is a throwaway account because I want to minimize any risk that the friend could be identified. I'm not a member of this subreddit but I read /r/femmethoughts and I have a lot of respect for that community.

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To contextualize the kind of relationship we have---I first met her, when she was a teenager through a volunteer position. Years later, shortly after she started college (in a city about 2 hours away where she lives now) we reconnected. We definitely consider each other friends, but we live in different worlds, I don't really know any of her friends and she doesn't know mine. We usually get together for coffee or a meal when she's around here visiting family &c, and I make a point to see her if I'm there. On the other hand, she calls me sometimes when she upset or struggling with something and I'm (almost) always there to listen to her. I don't think I'm usually at the top of her list of people to reach out to, but I know I've been there consistently when she had trouble finding other people who were willing to listen. So we are very close even though we often don't talk to each other for months at a time. We've talked openly about relationships and sex many times, and I've comforted her when she's been vulnerable. I know she has a lot of trust in me, and I care a lot for her.

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I had last talked to her sometime in august when she called a couple days ago. I could tell right away that she had been crying. The last time I had talked to her, she had broken up with her boyfriend (or he broke up with her, I think). I guess that didn't quite go to plan and during this semester they were having sex again (I'm not really sure if they were dating at that time or just hooking up). She found out last week that he has been having having sex with someone else (relationship or not, he had lied to her about that). So she ended things there. But then she had sex with him again, and was feeling really shitty about that.

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So I listened to her and comforted her. Something didn't feel quite... right, but I wasn't going to push her for details about the encounter. Then she told me that he didn't use a condom, even though that was an established boundary they had. I didn't ask her about why he didn't/why she would "let him", it seemed very obvious to me that she was coerced. She was also left with some bruises.

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What really got to me though is that she never described any of this as rape, or assault, or even coercive, when it seemed incredibly obvious to me that it was. I'm going to try to make plans to see her this weekend. I have the means and the time to make the trip, so that's not an issue.

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I'm just not sure how to talk to her about it. I don't think she thinks she was raped, or even assaulted, and I don't know if it would be helpful to tell her she was. She seems to have been doing better in the days since she called, but I know this shit isn't just going to go away. On the one hand, if she knows that what happened was rape I think she would be in a better position to understand that it's not some petty young-adult relationship problem that's not going to matter down the line. On the other hand, I think she might just not be ready to acknowledge it for what it is and maybe right now I just need to be there for her and help her understand how serious it is without attaching any lexical baggage to it.

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I've been reading whatever I can find on how to support friends who have been assaulted, but I can't find anything about how to support someone who might not know, or might not be ready to admit, that they've been assaulted.

I notices that a lot of people that are against non-binary genders or that gender is a social construct tend to use this post as proof of that.

http://jewishmagpie.tumblr.com/post/149376170930/exploring-third-gender

Preview of the post

Exploring “Third” Genders

A common argument for “non-binary genders” is that before Western colonisation, there were (and still are) genders that fall outside of the binary “male” and “female.” Therefore, it is nothing but Westernised arrogance to deny the idea of a “third gender.” But is that true? Are there completely separate and “third genders” that exist, or did exist, in the world before Western civilisations forced “male” and “female” into the only ones that we know?

How accurate do you think Jewishmagpie is this post?

r/askfeminists is writing a new FAQ, and I stepped on a landmine when male circumcision came up.

What do you think of male circumcision?

Https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=JacF14OLmQo

This YouTuber thinks that Horror movies are not misogynistic towards women.

What do you think of her opinions on this matter?

https://mobile.twitter.com/PunishedLeaf/status/1012960466983845888 what do you think of this and the sources that they used?

Why is this a problem?