Basically the title lol

Sometimes I find myself in alt Spaces, taking in all the cool people around me, and I just feel like such an outsider. Like Im somehow intruding in their space, and must stick out quite harshly. Then I catch a glimpse of myself in a reflection and remember the overalt dramatic dark makeup I have on, matched with my clothes, piercings, and I fit right in. But when I turn away the feeling of not belonging comes right back.

I dont get it. I know aesthetics is only a small part of it, but I feel like Im somehow lying to everyone there? I know Im not, i love the music, litterature, beliefs, etc, but still. How do I overcome this?

hi there. I personally consider myself a Goth because I listen to the music, and dressing gothic is just self expression to me. i've been into goth music for a few years now, but I never bothered to get into the political views or anything too controversial. anybody know what their values are, or anything like that? i'm open to various answers of course!

Hey everyone, thank you in advance for your time. I'm trying to find the perfect gift for my S/O. I'm having trouble finding good-quality goth jewelry. I'd prefer to find them a nice silver bracelet with a garnet in it. Either a feminine look or androgynous. Any help would be appreciated.

I was wonder whose stance is on voting? It’s my first upcoming election and truly I don’t wanna vote for anyone due to deep personal reasons. I’m wondering what other goths views are when it comes to voting? I’m not trying to start any arguments of any sorts I just know there are deep political values involved within the goth subculture and I’m curious to the see views of other goths. <3

I'm a babybat and I want to start dressing goth (trad goth) but my family is strict.

hii! I'm a babybat of 2 years and I absoloutely love goth music and literature and I'm currently educating myself on the political side of the goth subculture too. I've always adored the fashion too but my parents are quite strict about my apperance and say negative things about it whenever I try to express myself in the way that makes me happy, which is dressing alternative. I'm trying to build my closet currently but I'm afraid of wearing some of the outfits and doing the makeup looks i want to do because I know how my parents will react. I also remember my grandma saying to me that if I ever get piercings, tattoos or dye my hair she's going to cut off all ties with me and that she wouldn't want to have anything to do with me. I don't see her much though since she lives in another country. Did/does anyone else have a similar experience? Some tips on how to subtly change things in my apperance would be appreciated. I'm 14 and I'm not allowed to dye my hair or get piercings btw.

Thank youu!!!!

EDIT: I added that my grandma lives in another country and changed parents into family in the beginning of the post.

EDIT 2: deleted some unnecessary parts to shorten the post lol.

Can I still be goth once I'm a lawyer?? Im in highschool right now and the goth subculture is my life and I really love the community!

As much as I want to go to fashion school I unfortunately have to settle for a "real job" So I just wanted to ask if I can still be goth while being a lawyer?? Like, that wont be a problem right?? Or??

Hello! I don’t much of anything about goth stuff 😭 but it’s my friends birthday soon and she’s goth. So I was wondering if I could get any recommendations on what I should get her clothing wise? Also maybe some good makeup brands? Or anything else that would be a good goth gift!

I’ve seen the listed in loads of goth playlists/other sources, but no one ever seems to really talk about it, is there a reason why?

My grandpa got me into the mission after I recognised the name, I just wanted to see if anyone else had an opinion.

What are some goth songs that remind you of Frankenstein. I want to make a playlist.

I’m going to my first ever show in a few weeks but I don’t have any goth friends so I’m going alone and I’m kind of nervous. Does anyone have any advice?

Any goths (or even punks) who are willing to explain to me the politics embeded to these mouvements ? I have a vague idea of what it is but sadly its really blurry, and I cant seem to find much on the internet. I want to become a goth but i wanna make sure I align with the ideology

My list so far: Dune: Part Two

Alien Romulus

Furiosa: A Mad Max Saga

Beetlejuice Beetlejuice

Poorthings (?)

Late Night With the Devil (?)

Wicked

Olympic pistol shooters

Terrifier 3

Abigail (vampire)

Bridgerton

Maxxxine

Immaculate (?)

Lisa Frankenstein

I know this kinda sounds like a weird question, but why is it a stereotype that goths like vampires?

Personally, I’ve never liked vampires that much. I grew up as the twilight books were released, so I always had this schema instilled in my head that vampires were kind of a “lame girly thing” (Ik that sounds so rude, I don’t judge now).

But they still don’t really interest me that much, I don’t really think I would like the South Park goths as people if I ever met them (they’re hilarious don’t get me wrong, but they are also really rude), but I relate to their general distaste for “vamps”.

I did try seeing what the big deal was a few years ago by watching the lost boys and I read in an analysis that vampires represent “the other” and outcast kids are drawn to that, but I thought that sounded kind of silly and cheesy.

Is there any truth in this fascination though? If so why do you like vampires? What started it for you? And do you view it as going hand in hand with your gothic identity?

I feel rather isolated from the women at my parish because no one is goth/alt. It’s been difficult making female friends since my husband and I moved states and being in your 30s is an added layer of challenge. I’m just literally asking for a friend and I hope you’re out there. 🖤🫶🏼🤍

I like trad goth and romantic goth looks, but I find some instagram accounts that post some goth outfits/makeup straight out of an horror movie.

Also I do not think that I am supposed to like every goth outfit/makeup.

Is this considered a song?

I was born in a typical east Asian family where my parents love me but they’re also the kind of parents that will be unhappy if I put a little bit too much makeup on.

So I’m pretty curious about people growing up in a goth or any kind of subculture family. Will the parents raise their children to another goth? Or the children will end up having no interests in any subculture?

(btw I'm planning to make a documentary of subculture in London for my assignment at uni if you're interested you can message me:)))

It might sound stupid but I don't really know anything about what makes someone a got

Someone said on reddit when I've asked what should I wear if I listen to folk (like grunge for rock), and one of the listings they said folk😔

If so it isn't, can I be gothic? (Or whatever is it called)

I guess I’m still considered a baby bat and I’d love to get more into goth scene. I’ve noticed that a lot of people reference movies I haven’t seen. What are some must see, popular and unpopular films in the goth scene? What would you personally recommend?

Hello, i am a highschooler and for school pictures i was goth. I have been into goth music and fashion for almost a year now, and i did a goth makeup look for my picture. Everyone that has seen it said i look great, i really love my picture but my adoptive mom told me to retake them for pictures to give to family. I dont want to retake because the retake will show up on the yearbook and i like my picture. She said family wont want to see my "Halloween vampire makeup". She also brung up that my grandpa wouldn't like it, which made me very pissed off because hes a horrible person that i hate and made me want to rebel even more.I dont want to retake my picture. Am i being selfish and should i just retake it?

This is my first post on any subreddit sorry if its stupid i just dont know what to do.

I don’t know if this has been asked, but since I’m banned from the goth subreddit I thought I’d ask here. Like severina by mission or cocoon by switchblade symphony.

I'm in healthcare and wear scrubs. We can wear regular clothes. How do I look goth at work when I don't have any band shirts? Most of my clothing is Victorian goth and we can't wear see through shirts. What do I wear?

I have periods of music and fashion. One week I can be super into goth Second week I'm more of a rocker or a metalhead.

It's really interesting because somewhere it takes over my mood. The rocker/metalhead mood is different from my goth mood.

And also different things suddenly change my mood, for example I was at a psychologist for a neuropsychological diagnosis.

We talked a lot about horror movies, my simple but gothic look and he asked me about it so I said I just like dark or melancholic things and that I draw Skulls, crows ans bats.

So it turned out that we only talked about my gothic side and I didn't mention my love for metal at all.

I felt a little weird about it (I have no idea why) maybe because I felt that I didn't show all sides of me? Anyway it suddenly put me in a super gothic mode.

Do you also have these kinda periods?

hi! i am traveling to london in few days and i was wondering, what are the best stores to go as a gothic person?:)

p.s: I'm not sure if I'm allowed to post this here, so let me know if I should go to a different subreddit!

I love the goth community, and the music, but there's no denying it's nearly impossible to stick to only one genre of music. so, what are some songs or music artists you like that aren't really Goth? I'm partial to pop music and a TON of musicals :)

Ok so for context, I haven’t sewed a stitch since I was 5 and have never taken any clothes making classes.

My parents hate it when I cut up my clothes and it always starts an argument (my mum in particular has a HATRED for ripped tights because “it looks trampy” apparently 🙄)

And I’m a really anxious and unconfident person and I’m really scared to wear anything skin bearing.

It would help if anyone has advice 🙏

so im a baby bat and ive recently started dressing more like it and the weird looks from people i dont mind at all, its the sexualisation and catcalling that gets to me. Makes me want to stop dressing the way i feel like expresses me best. Do you have any advice on how to deal with it?