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A community made for the question of "Am I the asshole?", TTRPG edition.

/r/AmITheAssholeTTRPG

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META - Can we please add "Must be about tabletop RPGs" to the list of rules?

We're getting about as many karma farmers as actual tabletop game disputes. I want to be able to report them for something but their offense doesn't fit neatly into any of the existing categories.

2 Comments
2023/12/28
11:53 UTC

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WIBTA If I didn't want to share my laptop?

Help me with my dilemma please

How do I politely tell my Friend/DM I don't want to switch laptops???

Background: I play ttrpgs with a group of friends. We play in person but with laptops. Every now and then we all take turns dming. Lately every session My friend DMs he always asks to switch laptops bc "His is trash and can't run properly" (his words). The issue is that I'm tired of using his laptop bc I flat out just dont like his laptop and on top of that I have to re-sign in to everything after im already set up. I keep telling myself it's for the good of the table but he's the only one who does this and no one else does. Please what do I do??? Or am I just being selfish???

3 Comments
2023/12/27
20:13 UTC

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Am I the Asshole for not railroad ing?

Hello new to the chat and I want to make this short. I started a new group and I love to improv and be flexible with rules. I studied the lore of the forgotten realms and monster lore trying to keep close to it but still use my characters backstories as well. I informed the players that I wanted to play a hex crawl and they were fine with that. So I make a setting in a gold rush type of setting where higher leveled heroes killed a dragon at its lair and a small town is building itself around the area of the lair to take resources from the cave. We played two sessions and I found some of the players confused about what to do? I understand it could be a lot for level one characters so I showed them the different guild's and jobs they could do, but still some players are waiting for me to give their character a purpose in life or something. My whole goal was to build a town around the actions of the players i.e Fable but I just lost one of the players because he said it's not his "vibe." Am I the asshole for not putting the game on rails?

Adding on: The players don't talk to each other in character either which is weird for me I never been in a group that doesn't talk to each other.

9 Comments
2023/12/14
14:36 UTC

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Am I the asshole for ending a campaign.

So for context I have been a player for about 3 years, and not to long ago I had an opportunity to dm for the first time in one of DM's custom worlds.

After some brief story boarding and creating a custom item that would be important for the main quest line I start up the session with about 3 players. For the first while everything goes fine, but session 5 or 6, one of my players (who we'll call Charlie for this story) let's me know that someone he knows will be able to fill in a spot. For context I already knew about this player who we'll call Derrick, what Derrick is, is your typical incell (ik surprising.) Derrick joined about halfway through our session, the party was supposed to meet him in a zombie riddled city that they were traveling to however the party decided to chase a "squirl" so instead I summon him in through the "squirls" campfire. After combat I encourage the party to talk with one another in character, and after a while Derrick decides to castrate one of the enemies, a little weird but I let it slide. Incident #2 The next session they arrive in the city, watch towers are on fire, and there's obvious dead guards laying around the gate, not 5 minutes after clearing the gate Derrick begins to castrate the guards. At this point its been 2 sessions in a row, and for a character with a neutral good alignment I found it strange but I keep my mouth shut and just let the players voice their concerns. After this Derrick decides that when the turn timer is on he's going to derail the session and talk about anything else other then dnd, I timed it because I was curious about weather or not he'd be able to get back on topic on his own. It took 15 minutes, and me having to step in because it was getting ridiculous. This happened 3 more times, all on his turn. After this I impliment a strict 3 minute turn policy, and on more then one occasion I had to end Derricks turn because he just didn't use it.

Intermission: this post Is getting longer then I thought, make sure to reup on whatever drink you have.

After this the part cohesion completely fails. Charlie, decides that hes going to abandon the party to "drunkenly" wander, Derrick is off castrating whatever isn't moving, and my other two players who I've known since HS, are forced to continue at half capacity.

THE LAST SESSION: At this point I had already talked about my concerns with Derrick and he'd offered to kill the character (completely unnecessary) I instead offer him to just stop castrating everyone he can see and limit it to only his enemies given his alignment was neutral good (a position that if the campaign continued I would've changed forcibly since at this point the charlie and Derrick had racked up enough bad deeds for the party to almost make me turn it into an on the run one shot instead of a campaign.) But he's insistent that I either kill or capture him. Then shortly before the session starts Charlie let's me know that he made a change to his custom class character, essentially he saw what one of our barbarians was doing and thought it would be cool to have a table of random effects, one such effect was apparently the ability to Teleport anyone from anywhere, I let him know I'm uncomfortable with it and he agrees to not play it... or so I thought because the first time he pulls a card, guess which one it is. That's right and he wants to pull one of the evil characters that sent them into the campaign. I lose my shit and out right tell him no, and nearly end the session there.

Anyways idk why but my final straw was when Derrick asked when the next level up would be. (All they had to do to get it was go up a mountain that they had refused to go up for about 3 sessions, or fir those who want more specifics, 9 hours of play time.) At this point I just break and ask if any of them actually wrote down why they were coming. Charlie who had issues with digital note taking informs me he hasn't been taking physical notes even though it was well established his digital notes weren't saving. Charlie joined mid way through the adventure so he has a pass, and the rest of my party just either wasn't there when the quest was given, or are so new to dnd they didn't know they were supposed to.

At this point I'm so pissed off at both Derrick and Charlie that I skip out on next week's session and ask the other two players (my close friends) whether they even want to keep going given what the other two have done. They decide no and not to long after I send a message letting everyone know, the icing on the cake for me was when Derrick replied to the announcement with "there goes the majority of my ability to be social".

Was I the asshole?

5 Comments
2023/12/02
20:09 UTC

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A new player...

0 Comments
2023/11/27
15:13 UTC

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AITA for not saying one of my party member's preferred pronunciation of their race, because I already knew their name?

I'm a 39-year-old Changeling disguised as an Eladrin travelling with a group up towards the city of Aglarion for a festival known as "The King's Games". One of my companions is quite an oddity if I must say. They have the lower half and the ears of a cat much like the Tabaxi, but a human-like face and torso. During our introductions they said their name was "Summer-Breeze. One night around the campfire during a watch that me and Summer had taken together, I decided to ask about their odd appearance and whether they held any relation to the Tabaxi. Summer then proudly exclaimed that they were a "Taboshi" something completely separate from "those cat-people". Here is where I might have been the A-hole. I then said, "Just so you know, I am never going to call you that....." and I was going to continue but a yawn came over me at the worst moment, stopping me from continuing what I was saying. Then Summer got angry at me, calling me rude, disrespectful, and ungrateful for what they had done for me. I then said, "Please let me finish what I was saying. I was going to say that I'm not going to call you that, because I already knew your name. Calling you by your race and not your name just seems redundant and an act of disrespect itself. Please refrain from jumping to conclusions so fast." Summer then hmphed and sat back down, this time facing away from me. They haven't talked to me since and it's been multiple days. But no one else in the party has said anything, so I don't think they've told anyone yet.

So, Reddit: Am I The Asshole?

Edit: This post is being made from the POV of my character, not me the player. My character is asking if he's the A-hole, not me.

6 Comments
2023/09/03
02:49 UTC

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AITA For how my character changed with the story?

So here is the context, my friend group has been playing dnd together for about 10 years or so and last year my DM started up what was supposed to be a short campaign (~10 sessions) where a lot of characters would die. The start was pretty rough but with how short it was supposed to be it was manageable, however the DM decided to surprise us and turn the short campaign into a full fledged campaign where the characters who lived were going to be our characters for the full campaign. This could have gone better however we wanted to see where the DM was going with this. Additionally its important to note that the DM told us that none of us were allowed to switch characters so we have to play who survived, and that was after we made them.

Only thing was this is where the problem started. I am playing a war veteran who has done some terrible things in the past, this will come up later. As the campaign goes on we are shunted through a portal and have to go on a man hunt, and after a while half of the party wants to continue the man hunt while the other half wants to help the people here. Then an invasion from a neighboring country occurs and we are recruited to help with the promise that afterwards we would receive help in our man hunt. Well during this time my character starts to pick up some of their old war personalities which is something they tried to bury deep inside themselves. They don’t do anything too extreme but are willing to put themselves in more and more dangerous situations as they believe they are doing the right thing. Well after the invasion it turns out the government is being mind controlled and we are labeled as enemies, effectively meaning we have very few allies and are forced to flee while not receiving anything and more specifically the help in the man hunt that we wanted.

After this incident my character feels betrayed and no longer cares about the people here. They are willing to go as far as sacrificing anything to complete the man hunt and leave. This causes my character to butt heads with the part of the party who wanted to stop the man hunt and help the people here. The DM saw this and decided to try and run some sessions to get the half of the party who wants the man hunt to care about the people here but does it in a backwards way. For example there was a session where we were going to infiltrate a prison and rescue someone, my character didn’t want to go but after some RP decided to go specifically for the person giving us the mission. I asked in character if we should save others and was told that the mission was to rescue this one person and get out without being noticed. So we go through the mission and when we find the person we get them out of their cell and are about to leave when someone asks if we are going to rescue the other people here. I remind them that we were told to rescue only this one. Well this apparently wasn’t what the DM or this player wanted to hear and it caused them both to get quite angry at me.

I understand that my character is causing some rifts in the party and isn’t being the most cooperative, but this is the character that came out of the short campaign and I wasn’t allowed to switch characters for one that would work better with this campaign.

So with all that said, AITA for how my character changed with the story?

4 Comments
2023/07/26
18:07 UTC

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AITA for preventing an almost certain TPK?

A friend of mine learned I watched Critical Role (don’t be judging) and asked if I wanted to join a one shot with her and her friends. No one had experience except my friend and the DM. The game started and we began a quest, go to a small kingdom and ask for aid to kill a dragon. We were all level 1 so a head on attack against a dragon was certain death. So we went to the kingdom and waited for the king to enter the throne room. While we waited 2 of the 4 of us decided 1 wanted to attack the guards and 1 wanted to rip up the thrones built into the floor. My friend was kind of letting us do our own thing so we could experience the game. So 1 player ran at the guards but I asked the DM if I could stop her. I rolled higher so she was stopped. (I figured if we started a fight with the guards, then the entire kingdom would attack.) The king entered and asked to speak with us as a group but we had to pass a quick test. Me and my friend agreed but the others declined so they had to stay in the throne room while my friend and I met with the king. Ultimately the other 2 lost interest in the game because they weren’t included in the meeting but they tried meta gaming because they’re at the table while the DM was explaining the situation. My friend says she understands why I stopped my teammates from destroying the place, but I’ve told other people and was told “just let people play however they want.” AITA?

2 Comments
2023/06/14
16:42 UTC

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AITA for not interacting with content, therefore being disruptive to the DND session?

I just want to get some other people's opinions on this. For context, myself and my friends usually play DND with a group with about 5 of us in total, including myself, and I usually DM for this. We have a friend/not friend (complicated) who we will call 'D' who has been hanging out with us more these past couple months who also plays DND but in a separate group. D offered to DM for us for a one shot with possibility of turning it into a mini campaign which we all made characters for. D has ran one shots for us before and they went fine but the issue is that this time it apparently did not go fine.

I won't explain too much about the premise of the game for fear of it being very obvious who we are, but it was essentially that the whole world was tasked with making their way to one specific point or end goal before a certain amount of time had passed or the world would be destroyed by an angry god.

Myself and my friends who were players met up in a city in game and were tasked with making our way to that point which we set about doing. We met various NPCs and began to follow the path towards the goal and at the start we ended up in combat with some monsters. We then had to follow the path through a forest and encountered some guys in a wagon who had a map of the surrounding area which the party was unfamiliar with. My character sent their familiar to go to try and look at the map which failed, then they tried to steal the map from them which also failed, so when the party caught up to them we tried again to get the map and figure out our way forward, I know, we are stubborn. One of the other party members disguised themselves as one of the guys in the wagon and we all tried to convince the other guys in the wagon that they had the wrong person with them, which worked with a bit of help from a charm person spell. We tied the real wagon guy up and put them in the back of the wagon and our party member got to look at the map. Obviously the charm person spell wore off eventually and we were kicked out of the wagon but we had seen the map and knew where we needed to go to move forward. We then came to a fork in the path, my character sent their familiar off to look for any trouble up ahead and found that one of the paths had a scary guy who had chains and cages and the other way was clear and had also been the way the wagon guys were going from their map, so we decided to go the other way because of this and as we had all just been in combat and were low on spell slots/health etc and wanted to keep progressing forward the right way. We were asked for a survival check for us to be able to follow the correct path through the forest which we failed. We ended up getting lost and had to retrace our steps and start over, following the right way this time. We got to the end of the path and that was where the session ended. We all seemingly had a good time, apart from one or two issues where D clapped at us to get us to be quiet and one of the other players felt a bit targeted during the combat. D expressed some disgruntlement about how we handled the wagon guys but it was left at that and we all thought it was lighthearted and the standard 'ahh crap that didn't go how I expected it to' type thing (when does it ever?). However, the next day we all got a message in our group chat from D roughly saying they were frustrated with the way we interacted with the session and they thought we were disrespectful to the time and effort they put in and while they appreciated that we are generally pretty chaotic, we were actively disruptive to the content planned.

We were all pretty dumbfounded by this as we all felt we played the exact same way as we usually do (which when I DM I see no issue with but then again I am used to this) and used tricks and things that we had done before when playing our other one shot with D as DM, such as disguising ourselves and turning into one of the NPCs. Part of me gets it because I understand feeling frustrated when you aren't able to use content that you have spent time creating preparing and that you are excited about, but I also know that DND (especially with this group) never goes the way you expect it to. In these cases what I normally try to do is just take the bits and pieces that I have prepared that didn't get used or fully explored and move them elsewhere in the game, or try to find a work around to loop back to it and provide good incentive to go there. Sometimes you also need to make it very obvious that that's where the party should go because it's very easy to sit behind the DM screen and think 'why aren't they following the clues?!' when you have all the information in front of you.

We responded to D trying to explain our point of view which was along the lines of that we were just trying to play our characters true and in a way that felt fun and productive for us and trying to do the best with the information we were given to move forward and reach our goal - it wasn't necessarily that we were trying to be disrespectful to the effort they put in and appreciate that DMing is a lot of work. This however devolved into more of an argument as D dug their heels in and became defensive, insisting that the issue is that we deliberately chose not to engage and stating that we did things that our characters probably wouldn't have done that were evil (a lot of us were chaotic neutral and one lawful evil) and we should have recognised the content and stepped outside of our characters to find a reason to go there. We tried to get our point of view across to get them to understand that we weren't purposefully not engaging with malicious intent or to make D feel that way, it just seemed like the right thing to do for our characters at the time, and due to frustrations at the conversation we, certainly I, probably said some things that were a bit harsh. D pointed out that while there were some things that they did that weren't great (clapping at us) we hadn't apologized for making them feel frustrated, and I don't know if I was wrong for this but I refused to apologize because I didn't feel it was an us problem and we hadn't done anything but (unintendedly) play the game in a way they hadn't expected? It ended with D saying that they wouldn't be DMing for us for a while as they think our ideas of the way we play DND is too different to theirs.

I don't know, I don't think we did anything particularly disruptive or disrespectful, at least that intention wasn't there, and feel like it's more a personal issue with D, but would appreciate some other points of view because I know our group are all very similar and have very similar ideas so it's very easy to get caught up in our own little bubble. I want to state that I don't want to demonise D for this, it more I'm struggling to see what we did that was so wrong. I've tried to put what details I can in here but it is likely bias as its just my perspective on it, AITA?

5 Comments
2023/06/05
22:10 UTC

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AITA: For playing atheist characters in settings with active deities?

So this is something that people have gotten upset with me for in the past. My go to characters are usually unaligned or neutral characters with no religious affiliation and actively atheistic.

Key points:

  • Often as Adventurers we are killing cultists who worship a dragon (or other powerful creature) as if it's a god.
  • Demons, Devils, Angels, etc... are killable.
  • Often times the deities are killable albeit requiring magic artifacts to do so.

So what's the difference between an Deity having an Angel versus a King having a Royal Guard?

Pushback I've gotten for this line of thinking is:

  • Deities exist.
  • Deities can kill you.
  • They can give you boons if I worship them, like magic abilities and good fortune.
  • If something looks like a deity, sounds like a deity, and acts like a deity its probably a deity.

But in this regard, a dragon or lich could kill me. And if I wanted magic abilities I don't need a deity to grant them and for good fortune there are ways to do that on your own proactively (i.e. a farmer could pray to a deity for good weather or they could work with a local druid to help with the farming or work with a blacksmith/engineer to build better tools).

Additional Background: My favorite DnD setting is Dark Sun which doesn't have deities. In fact a couple Sorcerer-Kings that rule the City-States in setting claim to be Deities though this is a lie to keep their people complacent. One Sorcerer-King has figured out how to ascend to become a deity, but there are modules that are about actively stopping him from doing that.

TLDR: Am I being unreasonable for playing atheist characters?

7 Comments
2023/05/18
18:50 UTC

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AITA for lying about my age?

throwaway bc reasons.

I(17m) have been wanting to play a ttrpg called monsterhearts for a while but I wasn't able to find any people who would do it irl. I turned to looking for an online game but every group was only looking for player that were 18+. I gave my age as 18 to one person who was trying to get a group together and we eventually got enough people to play. we have been playing for a while, but my decision has been weighing on me. I like everyone i'm playing with but feel bad that i lied and am lying to them.

Am I the Asshole? and if I am, what do i do?

6 Comments
2023/05/17
01:24 UTC

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AITA for claryfing we haven't had a long rest?

I am playing on a Gritty Survival style campaing in D&D 5e, where we are a large caravan (our little town of roughly 30 people) traveling the continent escaping from an army in a low magic setting. Of course, since we are on the run, a good night's sleep are few and far between, and so are Long Rests.

While we are speaking and preparing to resume travel after our third night without propper rest, and he makes a comment of working on a project I haven't heard him talk about "during the long rests" and wanted to roll. I say yo him that we didn't have a long rest, and we haven't had one in a while, and another player (playing a wizard) and I (artificer) would have known since we have spell slots. He replies back that I shouldn't complain so much since I choose that class (he choose a Monk, so his ki points recharge on Short Rests).

My artificer uses a homebrew subclass that creates a magical caravan and bases around it, and I had until level 4 to get that feature, and I always joke-complained in the groupchat, saying stuff like "my pc is homeless" and the like, never as something that really bother me since the campaign and the character worked really well already, and nobody said anything, some even joked as well.

I don't believe I did anything wrong and won't apologize for correcting a known fact at the table, but if you find anything that I did wrong, I'll take any advice into account for the future.

TL;DR Monk talks about working on Long Rests we haven't got in a while, and I (caster) corrects them, Monk shoots back "should have picked different class"

2 Comments
2023/05/12
16:07 UTC

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AITA for being work up and upset over my character's BG story?

This is my first time writing this in a public reddit post so I apologize in advance if there's any grammar mistake. To be honest I'm still contemplating if this is a good idea but I just need a third party POV for this matter.

I (30F) am an active player for all form of TTRPG especially D&D (and just recently Cyberpunk RED), my GM (49M) had been my long time GM for as long as I first started knowing TTRPG and had been his faithful player. (When I mean faithful I really mean I only ever played at his table and never any other GM but at this point I just want to jump ship) What ever game he run, be it D&D, COC, SW5E etc. I will always be there to sign up for it cause that's how much I love playing TTRPG game. That's of cause until sour poop happen recently.

A little bit about myself and context before I continue (as I hope this might help make more sense in my reasoning). So ever since I first knew about TTRPG, I've been very enthusiastically write stories and BG stories for my character (even when there's no game or that there is no ones else to read about them). I must admit that I'm not the best writer out there, but I always knows how to envision the stories in my head and write them down in Words. Even our GM encourages us to write our BG stories as detailed as possible just so he can rewards us EXP for our effort and use the material we wrote as a story hook or plot for his campaign. (I once wrote a 28pages of BG stories for my first ever D&D character, fun times). We also used to play TTRPG face to face in real life until the pandemic hits and we were all stuck at home, that's where we were introduce to ROLL20 instead and since then it had been our go to site for any form of VTTRPG.

So anyway, early this year we finally ended our four year long D&D campaign and we immediately start Cyberpunk RED (CBPR) right after, and as usual when ever we start our session 0 or session 1, our GM will have us write our PC's BG story, again just so he knows what is our goal in the game and how we will RP our character as per how we write the character. He even specifically said that he will be more strict about how we RP our character in CBPR as that's how the game rules work in order to reward us of Improvement Points (Basically EXP in D&D). So me being me I wasted no time and begin to write about Three + One Extra Page (cause I add in more characteristic info for RP purposes) long BG stories just so I can RP her the way I had already envision her to be. Bare in mind that cause this is in the world setting of CBPR and our GM allows us to go chaotic as we create our PC as long is within limits and not over board with r18 stuff.

What I end up making is that I made my PC as an Exec that used to be a Solo Edgerunner, who eventually got betrayed by her former team mates during one of her gigs. Her entire agenda in the game is to climb up the corporate ladder and assert revenges against those who had wronged her (Cliché I know but I never got the chance to RP that kind of character before so it was supposed to be a challenge RP for me). She had an extreme trust issue with men due to her past experience hence she is always on fence against any men that tried to get closed to her. (All this info will be important later so please bear with me for now)

Now, to be completely honest here, I never played Cyberpunk games ever (Not even CP77, sorry) But that didn't discourage me for trying to learn the lore, the story timeline or even the important characters in Cyberpunk world to insert them into my BG stories just so it doesn't screw up the setting in the GM's world. Here's where shit started to happen.

When I first submitted my BG story to my GM via discord DM, I genuinely don't know what goes into his mind when he first read my BG story but he somehow just chooses to scrap my entire BG stories (that I obviously took the time and effort to wrote) and pretend that version of my character never exist. There was a lot of time left between me submitted the BG story to him and before the actual game start but nope, he never once mentioned anything to me about wanting me to adjust my story or change the way how I will be RP my character and when the game finally started he begin wanting me to RP in a total opposite direction of what I initially wrote in my story. He never ever discuss this with me at all and I'm obviously beginning to feel uncomfortable about him wanting to change how I want to RP my character to suit his 'version' of my character instead.

I eventually confronted him about this unexpected changes to my PC and what was his reasoning? "Oh you did not give enough info of your character there for I am now giving you my own input instead". Like BRUH? Is four page not enough? And what beginning to pissed me off was that he decided to throw me under the bus for saying I never gave him any BG story to begin with aside for the ones he wrote it himself in the my ROLL20 Character Sheet Bio Info section as he pulls out a screen shot to show everyone in our discord channel.

I was obviously taken aback by his action and very annoyed but I choose to swallow up my anger cause I just don't want to ruin this for everyone just cause of my PC BG story. But what end up broke the camels back was that later that day he decided to DM me in discord asking me make multiple changes to my BG story cause is too cliché and it wouldn't fits into his 'ideal' vision and narrative instead. (So he did got my BG story yet chooses to throw me under the bus, that SoB) And this is his word, not mine "Because a scriptwriter (as in me) stuff can be changed by the director (him) to make the story better. If you want to make the story more interesting you should included one of the guys from our game to be your love interest, who is it is up to me. And you shouldn't get angry when I change you PC story, If it was another GM they won't even bother with you BG story."

The lion, the witch and the audacity of this bitch I swear to god.

In respond to that last paragraph he sent me, what I end up doing was that I wrote a long ass essay explaining why I'm not comfortable with how things are going in game and that I'm generally do not want this "romance" being throw into the mix (not especially when I give my PC a specific characteristic of having a huge issue with men in general). He somehow got offended by my explanation and proceed to be pissed off at the most ridiculous shit saying how he can't believe I got so work up and upset over a stupid PC BG Story.

I felt so hurt when he wrote that text in the DM and we end up having (probably the most stupidest) argument over DM in discord and we are currently not in talking terms.

Its been few days now and he continues to pretend like nothing happen and occasionally tag me in discord chat seemingly wanted to prompt me to chat in public with him but I just refused to give any form of respond to him especially after all those hurtful things he said in the DM. Does other players know about what's going on? Maybe, but they aren't too concern with the situation since is not their problem and as long they gets to play the game instead.

At this point I just no longer feel safe being in an environment that a GM would choose to berate a player for wanting to explain themselves. But it also been a few days now and I give myself some time to process the situation in a more level headed mind and I feel like to the matter was rather petty that could be resolve if I choose to compromise my PC story or something and be done with. But if I were to be honest myself, I genuinely just don't like being put in a situation where I don't feel comfortable even if is just for RP in game only.

My ultimate beef about this entire situation was that if you wanted me to RP a total different personality he should have told me in the first place and not wait till the game start and only tries to change everything last minute just because it doesn't fit his story narrative. I just feel that my effort was wasted when I took the time and effort to write up the whole story in my head while still trying to blend in together only to be thrown down in drain just cause he thinks its too cliché and me being stupid for overreacted the entire situation.

When he mentioned the "If it was another GM they won't even bother with you BG story." I don't know how other GM does it cause again, I only ever played at his table so I will never know if that's true or not, but at least from how I met other GM during convention that runs their game that isn't true at all.

So AITA?

3 Comments
2023/05/10
07:11 UTC

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Am I the Asshole for... Oh gods how do I even say it in a tile without sounding like I already made up my own mind?...

So this guy wanted to play at my table. Cool, ya, why not... I asked him what he wanted to do, and he said he didn't know... No big deal I thought, I'll help him figure it out...

Turns out it's a huge deal for him as he couldn't understand anything. I'm not making a joke when I say he was like Patches in that one seen we know with the wrench.

I tried for about an hour and a half to get him to snap out of it and give real replies to what I said and did, but he kept being like "Hu? I don't get it..."

The screen shot below shows one of the last bits. I don't care if people know how to reach me on Discord but his name is blacked out.

https://preview.redd.it/666fhhcuiuua1.png?width=710&format=png&auto=webp&s=1d95742fee96bde8914063a4257aebcbccd6c5f7

2 Comments
2023/04/19
13:54 UTC

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AITA for not making the stats of an item passive?

This event happened a couple of months ago but it still kind of bugs me. I'm a 19-year-old male who ran a D&D campaign that recently fizzled out. The player that this post is surrounding was playing a barbarian that in his backstory, his family was very close to bears, and after some discussion. I allowed that the ring his character possessed could be able to briefly turn him into a Werebear but implemented a charge system and it would consume a bonus action to activate it, to try and balance it out. After the session where it had activated, I went back to Roll20 to look back through everybody's sheets. I noticed that the barbarian had not reverted back to his normal human form despite the time limit having long expired when the session ended. I messaged him about it and at he didn't understand what I was talking about, since it was getting late, I decided to lay it out as simply and understandable as possible. That the ring worked on time limit and a charge system, and the buffs would not be permanent. When I woke up, I opened my messages and saw that this player had adopted a "My way, or no way" mindset when it came to this ring and if the ring was going to work like this, he didn't want it because he was convinced it "nerfed" his character since it did not give any passive boons. I tried to talk it out with him, but the attempt failed, and I was forced into giving in; and thus, the Werebear proceeded to tear through the last few sessions before the campaign fizzled out.

So reddit, AITIA?

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2023/04/15
23:53 UTC

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AITA for asking my gf to stop deadlifting my family members?

I asked my (23M, human) orc gf (25F, orc) to stop deadlifting my family members when she comes over for the holidays because it makes me looks small and weak, and now she and the rest of her clan keep forcing me to run laps and lift whole roasted hogs when I visit for orc holidays. AITA?

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2023/02/12
22:42 UTC

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AITA for not accepting major change to my backstory?

A little bit of context.

I am a DM who wanted to play as a player in a one-shot or short short-term campaign.

I received an offer from admin of one Westmarch server on Discord. I joined the server and rolled for stats there. I then used the stats rolled for my previously created character. It was Chaotic Neutral Wood Elf Warlock. In her backstory, she was wandering around the woods when she met tiefling woman, who turned out to be Glasya, The Archdevil. My character kissed her and became her Warlock and "romantic" partner. Admin of the server immediately said that she can't be my lover. Also, my character wouldn't have found her in the woods, but rather those who work for her. I tried to compromise and suggested Glasya's mortal form, then some illusion or projection, admin said no. I asked why they were so strict about this. They answered that I don't encounter "high-level gods" on material plane. Then I proceed to suggest a trinket from a ritual to Glasya, e.g. locket with mirror as a communication tool. They refused, stating that my character couldn't talk to Glasya and she would need to work to notice her in a game at later levels. I asked: "How would I strike a pact with her, if I haven't spoken to her?". The admin is strict and they mention that my character could only encounter Glasya from 3rd parties. As further compromise, I stated the idea of my character founding the arcane focus and gaining the powers from that, while Glasya would just sense the arcane focus falling into someone hands. Admin said that my character didn't have a contact with Glasya (even though, I didn't mention any contact) and Glasya (mind you, my Warlock Patron) would only notice my character after she works her way up (then why would I even need a pact?)

Am I the asshole for wanting to maintain a pact with my Warlock Patron?

Edit: Thanks guys. I really appreciate your answers. I left the campaign and my Warlock backstory has been accepted in a different campaign and by a different DM.

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2022/11/01
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AITA for making a character lose stat points for disrupting the table?

I wasn’t either of the involved people but I think it’s hilarious. My cousins, my brother and I were playing D&D. My oldest cousin was DMing and my brother was playing as a Goliath paladin. His backstory was that he technically wasn’t a paladin, because everyone he tried to pledge himself to didn’t want him representing them. It was a really interesting character idea with just the right amount of silly. As the game progressed, my brother abandoned any actual depth of his character and made his sole purpose to get taller (already 12 feed of stature be damned). Every time we interacted with an npc my brother asked them for potions that would make him taller. The DM refused him the first few times, but eventually told him that every time he increases in height, he loses a point in his intelligence stat. That settled him down relatively well. I think it was warranted, because my brother was far from the youngest at the table. He knows better than that and was disrupting everyone who we’re actually trying to roleplay and progress in the campaign. But my grandma who was watching thinks the dm was overreaching his authority. So who was the asshole?

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2022/08/18
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Welcome to r/AmITheAssholeTTRPG!

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2022/08/14
02:14 UTC

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