36 Mixed Korean male looking for friendship and possibly more. 🙂

If anyone is interested in any kind of conversation, stop by and say hi. I’ll be looking forward to meeting you.

looking for BW in uk im in Brighton：）

I was wondering if there’s a discord server for the subreddit

https://youtu.be/Sagi-UawbVI?si=2VM3jRIILNu9W1dT

I’m bored and just want mutuals (and maybe some long term 🍆 but that’s besides the point 😂). Doesn’t matter if M or F, I love chatting with everyone. My Discord is Kristophales if anyone has it as well (not really on any other social media). If not, Reddit’s cool ~

Has anyone tried that new dating app called Yuzu, Tantan or even the AMBW Facebook group? Any success or interesting stories?

Do you think i could pull it off?

Hey guys, I've adjusted rule 6. If you would like to let everyone know your social media handles go ahead and post it here, any day of the week! I will make a new one every month!

Feel free to share your social media links! If you have a business/products, I encourage you to let us know so we can support your business (if we can)!

Edit: Since there's low activity in the sub, I'll just make a new thread every month.

Not sure if this can be posted here but please let me know if not..?

Am I really that bad? Wtf does a people pleasing empath do that's sooo awful that we are literally treated like shit while the people who do awful things to others don't get penalized at all!???

What's wrong with this world? What's wrong with people?

I want to be done with making friends or finding a partner and I know these things take time.. but every time I get to know someone. Give up my valuable time that I can't afford to waste and boom. It's wasted tenfold. I'm often told how amazing and sexy and how my heart is so pure etc etc etc but then people go and proceed to act like fucks and treat you with SOOOO much disregard. Why? Who would even want to do that to people?

Do people actually wake up and decide "I'm gonna see what I can get out of this person and then just be tf gone" ? Because if so. That must be a really miserable life.. I can't imagine going out of my way to hurt people for MY personal gain.. yuck

One of the most common struggles in dating is knowing whether or not a woman is actually interested in you. 

Now I- as someone who’s short at 5’5 and been both fat at 201 pounds and Asian thin with a below average face- don’t depend on receiving IOIs. If I did, I’d be spending forever and a day for something that would never happen. That would make me reactive instead of proactively trying to create attraction from nothing.

However, I know a lot of guys do want to know what these signals of a woman’s attraction are, so I’m going to break down some really common ones. It’s easy to overthink things or misread the signals, especially when they’re subtle. 

But there are actual signs, called Indicators of Interest (IOIs), that women give off when they’re into someone. Recognizing these IOIs can make the difference between missing a great opportunity and taking things to the next level.

I’ve broken down 13 IOIs—10 of which apply to most guys, and 3 that are specifically relevant for Asian men. These are the kinds of subtle, often non-verbal, cues women give when they’re attracted to you. 

(Sidenote: There is a cultural context to consider too as many Asian girls or just anyone coming from either a highly culturally or religiously conservative background may not show any public displays of affection whatsoever, but are completely willing to get freaky once you’re in a more discrete location.)

Here’s a breakdown:

1. Smiling at You

This is one of the most basic IOIs. If a woman is smiling at you frequently, especially when you make eye contact, it’s a good sign she’s interested. A genuine smile indicates comfort and attraction.

2. Playing with Her Hair

Women often play with their hair subconsciously when they’re attracted to someone. It’s a way to self-soothe or signal interest. If she’s twirling her hair or running her hands through it while talking to you, take note.

3. Maintaining Eye Contact

Holding your gaze for longer than usual is a strong indicator of attraction. If she’s not shying away from eye contact, it shows confidence and interest in you.

4. Leaning In When Talking

If she’s leaning closer to you during conversation, she’s trying to close the physical gap—both literally and figuratively. It’s a signal that she’s comfortable and wants to be closer.

5. Laughing at Your Jokes

Even if your jokes are kind of cheesy, if she’s laughing, it’s a great sign she’s enjoying your company. Laughter is a strong IOI, especially when it feels genuine and frequent.

6. Asking Questions About You

If she’s asking about your life, interests, or background, it’s because she’s intrigued. She wants to know more, which is a clear signal that she’s interested in getting closer to you.

7. Mirroring Your Body Language

When a woman starts to mirror your body language—whether it’s how you sit, move, or gesture—it’s a subconscious way of building rapport. Mirroring indicates comfort and connection.

8. Touching You

This is one of the stronger IOIs. If she touches your arm, hand, or shoulder lightly during conversation, it’s a way of showing she’s comfortable and possibly interested in escalating things physically.

9. Complimenting You

Whether she’s complimenting your looks, style, or personality, compliments are a positive sign of attraction. It shows that she’s noticing details about you and likes what she sees.

10. Bringing Up Shared Interests

If she starts talking about topics she knows you’ll enjoy, it’s her way of trying to find common ground. It’s a signal that she wants to bond with you over mutual interests, which is always a good thing.

Now, let’s get into the 3 IOIs that are especially relevant for Asian men. These are culturally specific signs that can give you a clearer sense of whether or not she’s into you as an Asian man.

11. Interest in Asian Culture

If she’s asking about or bringing up Asian culture—whether it’s history, language, or pop culture—it’s her way of trying to connect with you on a cultural level. Even if her reference is a little off, like mentioning anime and you’re Chinese, it still shows she’s trying to bridge the cultural gap.

12. Complimenting Your "Exotic" Traits

When she compliments your dark hair, eyes, or other features that are uniquely Asian, it’s more than just a generic compliment. She’s expressing attraction to you as an Asian man, and that’s an IOI that can be especially powerful for breaking through societal narratives.

13. Mentioning an Asian Ex-Boyfriend

If she casually brings up that she’s dated an Asian guy before, it’s a clear signal that she’s open to dating Asian men. This is her way of letting you know that she’s attracted to Asian men specifically, and isn’t influenced by anti-Asian stereotypes or biases.

These 13 IOIs can completely change the way you see interactions with women. By being more aware of these cues, you can respond confidently and escalate when the time is right. For Asian men, recognizing these last three IOIs can be a game-changer, helping you understand when a woman is interested in you not just as a man, but as an Asian man.

Here’s the full video breakdown of these IOIs if you want to dive deeper into how to spot them and what to do next:

Watch the video here

https://discord.gg/TZg3VJNt

What’s this, a wild sneaky link gallivanting across the internet? 😏

Why, it’d be a shame if someone were to come and…

…click on it 👀

https://discord.gg/9JJcfq2X

Hello, everyone. For that that are currently in an AMBW relationship, are you in a traditional relationship or a long distance relationship? Do you live in a culturally diverse area? How did you meet and how often do you see each other? Those that have had an AMBW relationship in the past are free to answer as well. I’m just curious and thought I’d ask. Thanks 😊

Hows yalls experience been with ambw! Ive only been in ambw relationships but wondering how everyone else is doing in their journey!

I feel…like I’m never going to find a partner. Ever. 😕

Like regardless of my partner’s ethnicity or gender, like just in general. And then I’m stuck in an area where I don’t feel like I have ANY compatibility with the locals.

For context, I’m going to be 25(F) this year. I’ve lived in the US South my whole life, but I was blessed enough to be born in a place like Houston so I could experience SOME of the different people and cultures in the world and being near civilization, not just White red necks and forest lines all day long.

This isn’t a bash to anyone who likes living in small towns or rural lifestyles, but for God’s sake, I fucking HATE it. I’ve had the misfortune of ending up in Lake Charles and I’ve been here since 2021 and I want to be ANYWHERE but here.

I hate Country music. I don’t like hunting or fishing. I don’t smoke weed either. And it seems like every guy here is either a redneck who likes hunting and fishing, stoners who smoke all day with nothing “upstairs,” or some 19 to 20 year old McNeese frat bro desperate to get his rocks off. I have NOTHING in common with anybody.

I like gaming and DnD and astronomy. I like talking about human rights and the hypotheticals of extraterrestrial life forms. I like talking about and drawing gay shit. And half the people I mentioned above either have no idea/no interest in what I’m talking about or find it abhorrent because of their conservative backgrounds (God forbid a guy get me pregnant and he gets mad because I’m NOT FUCKING KEEPING IT).

I’m just. Beyond miserable. I miss city life. I miss the people. I miss the spontaneity and variety of experiences. I remember once when I had come back to Houston, I had this Mongolian Uber driver who was like this sweet older woman who talked about her experiences in and leaving her home country and what surprised her about living in the US and it was so cute and wonderful just hearing about something someone such as myself would consider mundane because I’m a U.S. citizen and used to the culture. It was nice to hear something different.

I just…I don’t mesh with the culture here. It feels suffocating at times. And people always say “well just come back to Houston,” but it’s not that fucking simple. Texas is NOWHERE near as cheap as it used to be. And like it or not, I DO have a life here, and I can’t just up and leave because I’m feeling upset. I made my bed and I’m lying in it, but damn if I don’t cry myself to sleep most nights…

Bee wondering if there were any Asian men here in Greensboro. I haven't found any interested in me around here.

Hey!

I'll be in Miami for work next week, would love to find someone to hangout with after work! It's a bit of a long shot, but figured I'd just see what/who's out there :D

About me: Asian (Chinese/Korean) male, fit, 5'8" tall. Into traveling, cooking (and eating), working out, anime, dramas, sports, and a ton of other stuff 🤣

Shoot me a message and maybe we can get something going!

New on here, from Canada but currently lives in Columbus OH

Just letting everyone know I had to change my flair to SFW DM's. I didn't mind the NSFW DM's but now it's gotten to be too much disrespect to the point I almost left this sub. I don't mind NSFW DM's still but I just don't want to start with that. It's starting to make me very uncomfortable from the men that's messaging about certain things and I'm not ok with that leading the conversation now. I'm sorry. 🙇‍♀️