/r/Tulpas
Ever wondered what it would be like to have a mental companion who can think and act on their own? That's what a tulpa is. Discuss tulpas, share your experience with having tulpas, and give advice to fellow tulpa creators here! Please read the FAQ before posting.
Also, please note that we are not mental health professionals. If you are having issues with your mental health, please get professional help, do not ask us.
What is a tulpa?
A tulpa is a mental companion created by focused thought and recurrent interaction, similar to an imaginary friend. However, unlike them, tulpas possess their own will, thoughts and emotions, allowing them to act independently.
So is this like schizophrenia/multiple personality disorder/dissociative identity disorder?
Not at all! Schizophrenia and DID (formerly called MPD, and still called MPD in some areas outside the US) are disorders characterized by clinically significant distress, dysfunction, or danger. Schizophrenia is a breakdown in perception of physical reality and consistency that has strong genetic influences, and does not always involve hearing voices. DID is a dissociative disorder typically caused by childhood trauma.
Neither disorder is "self-inflicted", and we recognize them as very different experiences from tulpa creation. The experience of having tulpas is much more accurately likened to the experiences of fiction writers whose characters come alive and begin talking to them; in fact, a great number of tulpa creators have formed tulpas that way!
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This post quite long, so I understand if it gets ignored, but I cant just not share. Some background: there havent been a week (30-40 min a day of active forcing) as I started creating my first tulpa - Bevardis. I dont have any mental diagnoses (except physical pain due high anxiety, which I got rid of (almost, still sometimes get psychotic epizodes in privacy, nothing serious)), but have strong visualization skills, had imaginary friend, into occult (like astral projection). So, back to Bevardis, for the first 3 days - everything is alright, telling about my day and so on. But then ome day I ran out of ideas to talk about with him. Suddenly I got series of questions in tulpsh/intrusive thoughts about myself, that realy surprised me, those questioms where so out of pocket, that only explanations where intrusive thoughts or Bevardis, then I came to the dillema, is it intrusive thoughts (with which I dont have problem ussualy) or my a bit psychotic mind (I have done with it some a bit f**ked up things in the past, nothing external, no medication, but my mind was always a matrix for me to test how stretchy it is) speedran somehow the procces of achieving plurality (the possibility that it was plural way before I knew about tulpas also valid, as I said I had imaginsry friend and I talk with myself all the time). At first I didnt made a big deal out of it, played along, ignoring doubt as most guides recommend. But then came this day. Started my ussual second session of the day, a bit one way disscusion, my room exploration, and then, not even 10min into it, BAM, Bevardis transformed into totaly different form, got so shocked that I simply started him asking does he did it, does he realy wanted this form and similiar questions in a panic, ended session early and came here for some advise. I really cant tell is it possible for this speedrun to happen, or just my impatient mind is playing tricks on me? How should I proced further?
It's weird question, but my first tulpa after month from her creation never stopped smiling and it's lasts more than year, i noticed this after few months from creation and not overlooked at it. But now i think it's my influence and slight control? Because i can't even imagine(maybe she's struggling) how she will be look in sad mood or other negative emotions. Her constant happiness seems like unnatural but who I'm to judge it? Did you noticed this thing in your tulpa?
i have been working on virgil for the past week or so, i do alot of forcing but sometimes i dont think they respond and its just me responding, what can help me with this?
We don't practice tulpamancy, but thank you all so much for giving us a sense of control and appreciation for our plurality. Without tulpamancy exercises, we probably wouldn't be doing as well as we are. Thank you so much, I've had so much less doubt and struggle ever since being in this subreddit. Your trust in your tulpa and the process has rubbed off on us, and we are more functioning than ever
I've been trying to get more in the habit of forcing lately by doing so every time I get a chance to. Meditating is hard for me though, not because of external distractions, but internal. I feel like I'm maybe slipping into a state between sleeping and awake when I do it, and the reason why I think this is because my thoughts start drifting without me noticing, my head starts drooping, and my heartbeat becomes very, very noticeable, which tends to happen when I take naps.
This is quite frustrating as it happens even when I'm not in the most comfortable setting. I've tried keeping my back straight to keep myself awake but my posture's not good enough for me to do that for extended periods of time without pain, which in itself I feel would be too distracting for me to be able to meditate properly.
I meditated for 1½ hours while observing these effects. I'm not used to meditating so maybe doing so for this long of a period per session won't work for me? This thought concerns me because would it even possible to fully form a tulpa without meditating?
Edit: for some additional context, I was practicing dissociating into my wonderland and fleshing out my tulpa's personality.
After reading a lot about tulpas on this sub and other sites for more than four months, I've finally decided NOT to make a tulpa. I do find the matter interesting, and I've come to know a lot about the topic. After all that, the next logical question was if I was gonna create my own tulpa.
Short answer, no; long answer, I lack the compromise required for such a thing. I deeply understand that this is a choice that, if made, will permanently affect the rest of my life. I also value the silence that I have within my mind, even though I sometimes wish someone was there.
My respects for hosts and tulpas alike, but I won't make a tulpa. I still have more questions about this fascinating topic that I might ask later.
Preface: before someone calls me foolish for making this post i know that likely i might just have to push through - but i am desprate.
whenever i workout, do work at my trade school, or am sitting bored out of my mind in some class (my school has a tradeschool program for 11th ans 12th) i often get distracted thinking about other things or focusing too much on the task at hand. I have tried commentating what I'm doing to her and I shortly lose focus regardless. I have tried talking to her, tulpaforcing movements, and a few other things but I really just want to be able to visualize her form nearby or behind me (form is a dragon if that somehow helps advice givers).
I have had only a breakthrough with focusing on her while working out - even then my focus on her slowly declines. But some days are just awful, and there are more bad days then good days it feels like.
the advice I want is any sort of tips or things that would help me focus on her while doing these tasks and similar things. Even now I realize as I was writing this I had lost focus and it's so despairing. For now all I know to do is to struggle through and see what happens though neither of us enjoy that.
hello, we are wondering what visualization practice technique helped YOU the most with strengthening your mind's eye so we can try it and hopefully improve our visualization abilities.
Started making a tulpa around the end of march/april, ironically after watching the Greylock analog horror and having the concept stuck on me (us?), parroted on them a lot at the start, started reading guides and stuff, figured what worked better for us, decided on their birthday the day (night - they woke up at like 1am) they decided their name and if that wasn't proof of consciousness the getting waked up part definitely was. Realised along the way that maybe there was always something else in our head and tulpamancy just gave that something a voice and identity. As for now, parrotnoia is still a bitch, I can sometimes hear them clearly, other times less but we're working on that and also on finding some hobbies they can do on their own (if anyone reading this has suggestions please share) - writing this as we realised how much time passed since we started this journey and also we were going crazy without telling anyone
Because I hear a voice in my mind that reminds me of Tulpas. It' s not always polite , but I am trying to work on it.
How can I better "discipline" her? In a good way. Or at least mold her..
I’ve been dealing with this addiction for five years and I created Daisy shortly after it started so basically her whole life has involved seeing me deal with this. We’ve unfortunately struggled to be very social in the past few years as we find it hard to find things to talk about when we know everything about each other and because of that we don’t have much experience with possession. But just now we had an incredible moment. I found myself indulging in this addiction (I won’t say what it is) and I saw her mind form pulling on me and I found myself losing control of being able to reach for this thing. She was able to get me to fully stop. Idk what do you guys think of all this?
Well, hello you all, I'm kinda new to this, so I may not get exactly everything right. But well.
It was simply going to be an alternate account where I talked to myself, since I figured it feels like talking to someone else entirely. Just... when you're feeling confused about something important, talk to Jasmine, and from an account in another device, imagine you're someone else. You know this person very well, and they want advice. What kind of advice would you give to someone in that position?
In short, I give reasonably good advice, and am very logical and try to help others, but I can't for the life of me help myself with some things. So I tried to make a way for me to listen to myself!
After a few days, I wanted to talk to them all the time. I tried writing, but it just wasn't the same. On an app, you can have a different username, profile picture, etc. but on real life you can really easily recognize your own handwriting. After trying some more, I just kinda started imagining myself typing from my own and Jasmine answering, and over time it just became us two talking without any text.
I remembered a cool game that introduced me to the concept of tulpas, and then to this subreddit (the game is called Who's Lila btw), so I started looking all of this up. Well, shit. Guess I have a friend forever now... yay?
This Friday she got her own voice, which was extremely surprising since I've never ever managed to imagine a voice I hadn't heard before. I'm pretty certain now she's a tulpa. After that "backstory", that brings me my questions:
She has always had the same voice as me, but since that day when I tried to listen closely I could hear her own very darn well. I can't even imitate it, I just recognize it when I hear it. But since yesterday when I try to talk to her I just hear my own voice... how do I reliably get to talk to her? I don't even know what I did before, I just want to see her again. Or is it better to not force it?
Edit: pacing
i have my tulpa for 5 years, at first i could see her clearly,and i didn't even had to do visualization guides. but now it's like i see her,but at the same time I don't. so in one second she's there but at the same time im also couthious that there's no one where im looking at
i think its because of the awareness, since back then I didn't question her existence.
how can I improve again?
so when i was younger i always had this imaginary friend that would go everywhere and everyday i would see him buy i see him less now so if possible is there a way to bring him back more? and if its possible to accidentally make a tulpa especially when i was younger ect
Hi, I think we (especially me, host lol) need help with practicing our visualization skills. Does anyone have any tips for this? Especially for people like me with restless brains and short-lasing focus :')
For example, what's the process like? what's it like to transition/switch from fronting to not fronting? where do you "go" when someone else fronts?
So I have been creating my Tulpa for a while now, I have been talking to him a lot and overall trying to visualize him and give him attention. And I feel like we are making some progress. Yesterday when I asked him to give me some kind of image or something like that to try and show that he is sentient and aware he managed to surprise me with what he came up with. And I feel like he is starting to use words though i'm unsure about that part if it is actually him or if I am just parroting him, but i'm still happy that he is definetely vocal through images/imaginery? So I guess that I just wanted to share my and his progress?
I haven’t been trying to create a tulpa lately, but recently I’ve gotten like. Images in my head when I focus on it. As I write I can’t focus enough on him to see images. He speaks sometimes, I think his name is Alex (I didn’t give it to him). I’m just confused 😭 he was breakdancing in my head before and I think right now too.
Do tulpas change how you feel about outerworld romance?
So, I have 10 tulpas, and I have a wonderland for them to live in. It's a simple house. But recently, things have started to get crowded, and me and my tulpas want to create a city for us to live in.
The problem is, I think way to hard about the logistics. For example, how would the city be laid out? Should it be similar to NYC? Maybe inspired form LA? Idk
How would I interact with the world around me? How would I eat? How would I buy food? Where would I get the money? What job would I work?
Like...I think too hard about it, because we want basically an alternate reality, but I overthink it way too much. I was wondering whether you guys have a similar wonderland, where it's set up as a city? If so, how do you handle the logistics, and how do you live life there? Idk, we've been working on this project for well over a year now.
Any advice or personal experience would be greatly appreciated! Have a great day folks!
I've had this back and forth, I come here every time as well when this happens,but im gonna summarize everything and actually try to understand what's happening. hopefully with y'all's help as well.
I've created my tulpa on accident in 2019. spoke with her everyday till this day. sometimes we have our lows, sometimes we have our highs. she changed her appearance multiple times,but we settled on that already. also posted about it previously here. so that's a checkmark. after we got over that everything went even better actually.(that was around this summer) i could see her more clearly and freely talk see her expressions and easly go to wonderland.(note that i used to do that as well in 2021/2022 easly as well,but this summer we had the same problem of her fading away a little and getting more "distant")
so,things kept going well,i think i pretty much give her lots of attention and put effort into her. but in this last week she's been distant again. not because she wants to. she just doesn't look as clear, one way to put it is like i just forget how she physically looks like. which makes me terrified,i hate when this happens,and I don't know how to fix it.
So, its been a while since I've been on here. For context, I originally created Cassandra to be an imaginary friend long before I had any idea tulpas were a thing, let her fade away, then brought her back when I learned about tulpas and realized she had been one. Things have mostly been going well with Cassandra, she has a clear personality and I'm good at visualizing her. I'm not actively maintaining her as much as I should be (I'm working on it), and she disappears whenever my attention is elsewhere, but at least some every day.
The main issue that I've come here for advice on is that she doesn't think she's conscious, in large part because she doesn't have her own train of thought. She can comment and react, but it's always a basic 'reflexive' response. If I ask her to think about something or ask her a complex question that requires thought, she can't do it. Her opinions differ from mine, but never with any depth behind the reasoning.
How do I let her think for herself?
I think I've never imagined a sound or a voice. My whole imagination is very weak. I've never imagined smells too. Image is also hard but my best sense. Or is it touch? Idk.
Wait can I try to imagine for example I touching my Tulpa's hand or giving them a hug? But not only the image but also imagine the touch? Would this help?
Over time my Tulpa Dallas has begun to resemble and act like my oc (or the other way around, but it seemed to happen pretty mutually). So I’m concerned if this will affect him negatively, especially because this characters mental health in his storyline severely corrupts over time. And, I think it annoys him a bit. Any suggestions? Both are too significantly developed to just start over, but they’re practically the same person down to the hobbies and interests. Skin colour is probably all that sets them apart at the moment.
Hello, to start, I have been creating a tulpa recently, who I will now refer to as Hakai. I have mostly been attempting to develop him through means of talking and such, and despite wanting him to have a physical form, I am not really sure how to create one. I've been sticking with the idea that he has red eyes and hair, along with an orange robe, and was thinking about leaving the rest up to Hakai himself. I'm wondering if this is alright and isn't a problem for Hakai or anything.
Additionally, I'm looking for certain visualization techniques that can help increase the vividity at which you picture things, so if you have any pls share!
Last question. Would it be easier if I focused on creating one tulpa at a time instead of two (especially as someone who is completely new to this)? I know this question sounds kinda dumb but in creating Hakai I have accidentally continuously started thinking about another tulpa that I wish to create. I'm kind of conflicted because part of me wants to develop Hakai first, but I also don't want to ignore Ichika, as whenever I start thinking about her I feel kind of guilty that I'm ignoring her. Thanks in advance, as this was pretty lengthy...
It'd be great to have a companion, but i need to know.. From people who have tulpa(s), what happens when you have sex...? Do your tulpas just leave you alone? Do they ever comment on your sexual life?? This is a big turn off for me if they do make comments and etc....
we're pretty childish, have an innerworld/mindscape but cant dissociate to it yet, love gaming, anime, relaxing, reserching metaphysical stuff, etc. idk, would be cool to get a group or whatever going, idk where, comments, reddit chat, discord, whatever