I, (16m) got shot in the face by my friend Ozzy (16m). Ozzy and my other friend Stephven (16m) attended a romantic party with me when someone gave Ozzy a gun.

I thought it was fake and asked Ozzy to shoot me. He said okay and that he would find a nerf gun to shoot me.

He came back with a multicolored gun he got from a friend and shot me in the face. I said “WHAT THE FUCK DUDE YOU JUST SHOT ME IN THE FACE!” he said he meant to hit me in the chest but I was not okay. the bullet ricocheted and hit Stephven in the face. He yelped.

I heard Ozzy cock the gun back and I thought this was the end for me. He was about to finish me off.

The pool of blood collected onto the couch along with my jaw shot off my face. Im in the ambulance.

A few months ago I ordered for the first time from Shein. I looked for a small product that I needed (wireless microphones) and a coat because the cold months were approaching. Delivery was supposedly scheduled for October. After ordering that I made other purchases in the app and received packages that I ordered long after the first one. The delivery deadline for the microphones and the coat passed and finally one day the Shein app notified me that my things were on their way, ready for delivery. The delivery man never called and since I had forgotten twice (with other packages, not this one) and I had seen the messages and calls from the delivery people, I stayed with the phone in my hand all day. It didn't ring. Then I checked the app and there were photos of a house and a supposed delivery. Nothing to do with my neighborhood, nothing to do with my firm. Shein doesn't want to refund me. IMile accepted that he lost my package and asks me to arrange the refund with Shein. Nothing, they kept my money and my things. Has the same thing happened to anyone else? AITB for asking for a refund?

Incendiary title. I wouldn't really consider myself to be racist, but as I have ocd and the term is used differently by different people, I can entertain the possibility. I try to treat most people with kindness, empathy, and respect (unless if they are like directly thretening me or something extreme), and hold that people should not be judged according to their race/surface level physical characteristics and rather by their personality, beliefs, and more significant elements of their identity. Indeed, I think race is mostly a social construct, and their is not really much biologically separating humans from different ethnic groups.

However, although I don't recall using ethnic slurs directed towards others or really doing anything racist, that doesn't change the fact that I sometimes find myself thinking racist thought towards members of other groups, and although I try to correct it, I probably have a bias against certain groups. Usually its a stereotypical thought that enters my head, but sometimes worse. However, Does this make me a buttface, when there is no straightforward way to correct this? I am aware of my biases and try to treat everyone equally (maybe overcompensating at times as well, to give myself a margin of error), but am aware of the possibility I may be falling short.

AITB for being left out from an instagram and snapchat story?

So I (23F) was Donald Trump for halloween. My friends (both 23F) were my secret service agents and another friend came along but did an unrelated costume. We went out to bars, had fun, the costumes were a hit. Now this morning we all were posting pictures from the night online. I posted mine but cropped out my MAGA hat because I didn’t want people to get mad at me and so my costume wasn’t confirmed to be Trump. One of my friends posted a photo with everyone but me on both stories. She posted the photo because she looked good in it and wanted a man’s attention. I was like “why arent you posting me” and she thinks that posting me is going to affect her future job (her long term goal is a very prestigious govt job). I think its unfair to leave me out. I think she should either post nothing, only herself or all of us. I think it isn’t fair to leave only me out, especially because she loved the costume when it was getting us attention in the bar. We also all decided on the costumes together, if it was going to be a problem she shouldn’t have went along with the costume. I had always been left out of things when I was younger, so it hurts that she would leave me out because she has been a close friend my entire life and I never thought it would be her to leave me out. I get she is nervous about the job, but I really don’t think it would be a problem especially because it was me as Trump and not her. She said that cropping out the hat is worse than just posting me in the MAGA hat because it’s like she is hiding something.

(f24) my husband (m26) we were talking about the election. Seems as though husband does not know who is even running with Harris or Trump. (This story doesn’t matter what your political view is, IMO) I got a little frustrated because, well as we all know they have made our rights pertain to politics. So I said a few things regarding the Roe v. Wade overturning and so on. He clearly is uninformed and it’s frustrating and hurting me further. (i have had to use the right to choose for a medical reason. To save my life, while married to him) he is just up on a high horse it seems and is now saying I am acting like he’s the reason for all this happening, telling me to calm down and that I’m just in a fighting mood today because of my bi polar disorder. I’m now only frustrated and have told him I don’t want to hear from him until he can understand my side without telling me I’m angry and emotional because I’m wanting to argue, due to a mental disorder. AITBH? I just wanted him to hear my side and understand honestly.

It's my birthday today (I don't like celebrating it). And I don't like going anywhere for my birthday.

My mother, insisted that we at least have a small low-key family dinner at home and invite my siblings over for dinner and a home movie.

I'm at a loss here and feel like this may be divisive, but I only agreed to this because of how low key it was supposed to be...

My sister just randomly texted me though (deliberately bypassing my mother who invited her) asking if her boyfriend is invited. What frustrates me is that she already knows my feelings in regard to this and lashed out at me past year when I didn't want him at the house during my birthday. This was after she had failed to strong-arm me into having my party at a restaurant (and bring her boyfriend).

''Mum said there's a birthday dinner on Sunday?? Is my boyfriend invited??? I ask because I'm not sure and I feel awkward bringing it up if not since I' m automatically invited to all of his family's events?''

The issue to me isn't her boyfriend. He's a perfectly decent person. But it annoys me for a few reasons:

1. Is that my sister keeps misrepresenting what this is. This isn't a formal gathering at a restaurant or even Christmas lunch/dinner (otherwise I'd have no issue with him coming). This is me in my pajamas and trackies not wanting to entertain guests and be a hospitable host. It's not a formal thing, and I'd rather not invite my sister if she has to try and dress it up into a bigger occasion than it is (but then she'd get offended for not being considered).

It's my birthday... I want to relax and stay at home. And I don't want to feel like I have to cater to someone else's guest in order to be a cordial host.

2. My sister knows how I feel on these things, hence why her text message reads as someone trying to justify and appeal to my merciful side (she knows what she's doing). And I don't appreciate being cornered into feeling like the ''bad'' person.

3. I don't like how my sister is making a false equivalence. Her family is not our family — just because her boyfriend or family does things certain ways doesn't mean I do them those same exact ways. This seems like common sense to me. Why would you try to compare the two?

I personally think this is a reasonable position. But maybe I am being unreasonable?...

AITB?... How do I tell her no.

My boyfriend and I moved in together 2 months ago. We have been dating for 3 years. Ever since moving in together I’ve started to actually hate him. I know couples tend to fight when they move in together but god experiencing it is so much harder than hearing about it.

My boyfriend is constantly angry at me because he feels like he’s the parent in the relationship and I’m starting to just feel like if I’m not reading his mind or not working at his pace he dislikes it. Also it just feels likes he’s constantly angry at me.

Some examples:

Our landlord came to install light bulbs in the apartment. The light bulbs were different colors and I didn’t realize, it was a slight tint off and he said that I never pay attention and should be more attentive.

He called the movers two months before we were moving and he mentioned that he did everything in the relationship. When I mentioned I would have done it 2 weeks before moving he called me a liar and said I would have gotten a bad rate.

We are getting a new ceiling fan for the apartment and I said I would prefer having it in the bedroom but I don’t want to move the bed so the living room is just as good. He said let’s do the bedroom and that I was avoiding making decision. He’s now in our bedroom angry that he’s the adult in the relationship.

I was listening to his story and he said he was coming at 440 so I said I would get dinner ready at 5. And he said I wasn’t listening and thinking and asked me when I said he was coming, I said 4 and he was like see you weren’t listening it was 440 and I need to shower and unwind so let’s do 530. His response to this was that he has too do all the mental math in relationship and that i was putting all the emotional labor on him.

When we were moving he kept on commenting that was I too slow. And said he was carrying the team. I was moving at my pace, and prioritizing putting things I correctly rather than just taking them out of a box.

I’m just tired, am in the wrong, i just feel crazy. How do i speak about this to him without getting angry? Everytime i bring it up to him he just throws this things back in my face and say I don’t things through, I don’t listen, and I put everything on him. I’m even scared to do things without telling him first because I feel like if I do it without telling him and I do it my way he gets upset, if I do tell him he tells me I’m putting all the emotional labor on him.

I (F29) am married to my husband (29M) and have two kids (12M and 6F). For Halloween, we decided to celebrate at home and invited my parents over to give away candy, have snacks, and watch a movie at 6 PM.

At 4:30 PM, I started getting the kids' costumes ready. My husband said, "I'm letting you know I'll be gaming at 5 PM." I asked, "Can you help me with the costume?" He replied he would help after gaming. He tried to assist for 10 minutes and then said, "I told you I was going to game. When I'm done with that, I'll help." He went on Discord while I was trying to make our son's costume, which involved a complicated box design. Meanwhile, our daughter told me she lost her costume, which she had saved yesterday.

After almost an hour of gaming, he noticed the costume wasn’t working and that our daughter’s costume was missing. I was mad. Usually calm, I lost it, feeling frustrated and overwhelmed. My parents were arriving in 10 minutes, and I hadn’t even had a chance to shower. I yelled at the kids and hated myself for it.

I went to our bedroom, and my husband followed, saying I shouldn’t talk like that to the kids and that I looked like a bad parent. When I tried to explain, he said, "No, no excuses. You should take accountability for your actions." I replied, "Accountability? I was going insane trying to do everything alone while you decided to game when you knew I had things to do. Take accountability for that; I lost my temper because you left me to deal with it all." He said, "Okay, I get it."

When my parents arrived, we were setting up. In the kitchen, my mom asked why I looked unhappy. I replied it had nothing to do with them. A few minutes later, she called me an AH for my expression. My husband said, "Can you try to put on a smile?" I said, "You know what? I have this attitude because of you gaming." My mom responded, "So what? I don’t have fault in that." My husband sided with her, saying, "That’s right, be mad with me but treat your mother well."

I felt awful. I told the kids to have fun trick-or-treating and went to our bedroom. I only came down to frost cupcakes and give them to my husband. My parents, brother, husband, and kids were outside having fun while I stayed in my room, telling the kids I had work to do.

My husband and my mom said I’m being an AH for not smiling and sharing with them. I feel terrible about how I acted with my kids and don’t want to go down and join them.

Last weekend I was hanging out with my friend and we got belligerently drunk. I stuck my hand in some guys open passenger window cuz he pulled up onto the crosswalk like a douche.

Like 30 seconds later we’re walking down the street and I get sucker punched by the guy, now trying to hide his appearance with a hood.

Idk if he expected to knock me out with his first punch or what, but he then tries to scold me. Before he can even finish his sentence I just start pummeling him, basically leads to me beating him to the brink of tears while calling his girlfriend (who was apparently in the car the whole time) fat and ugly.

Been feeling kind of mixed about it, what do you all think?

Throwaway and intentionally vague so apologies. I'll answer any info request as best as I can. English is not my first language.

Boss wants me (younger adult) to take a promotion in a different city. However, based on some feedback from people I know who live in area, I'm left with the impression that I have higher risk being victim of a violent crime if I transferred to the new work place.

For work I have to travel the area late nights and early mornings by myself, and so if area is truly bad, I could possibly be robbed or assaulted, which makes me nervous as I am short and mildly disabled physically, so I struggle to defend myself if attacked physically. According to people I have spoken to, other businesses and homes have been broken into, people have been robed with weapons, there are high incidents of drug-related crime, and other things. There is evidence through police reports that this area has higher crime rates than surrounding areas, including those I mentioned in the last sentence.

However, I'm also concerned that my contacts in the area have formed these impressions from prejudice (they are mostly older, white, and politically conservative, and this area is mostly immigrants of color), and so I am blowing things out of proportion, becoming prejudiced myself, and simply worrying over what may be white lies and exaggerations. Some of my coworkers have said it isn't such a bad area. But they also have not worked or lived in that area very much as far as I know.

I'm the money maker of the family, so I'm afraid that if I deny this promotion, I would put my job at risk. For what it is worth, family (some in my household, some extended family) has all said do not take to promotion. But if I lost my job my household (spouse, children) would become homeless if I didn't find a new job very quick, and I don't know if extended family would help us.

More context is other job opportunities don't seem very good here or new city from my searches, and I cannot pay for school to change job field right now.

I want some more different opinions than the older white conservative version and I can accept if I am looking at this through a judgy or prejudiced view, but please tell me if I am.

WIBTBF?

My gf (21yo) and I (20F, we’re both women) have been together officially 4 months.

At first everything was chill we both have some anxiety surrounding sex which I thought was performance based for both of us. We both got sick for a bit and then busy so no sex for 3 weeks. Then one night I initiated and while we were having sex her eyes started watering slightly and she stopped me. It seems we got to a point where it was comfortable and the pause made it harder to jump back in. Of course I asked her what was up and if I could’ve done anything for her and she said it was just anxiety / she was in her head and that it had nothing to do with me, there was no cause etc.

She’s never told me she has sexual trauma other than the fact that in a previous relationship she was told that was the only way the person would feel connected with her.

She’s told me she needs some time before we have sex again. And I did express that if the pause caused things to be weird then avoiding it more might do that again. I guess I was already feeling a bit low before because genuinely for me sex does help me connect with my partner on a more intimate level. Of course I’m not gonna pressure her but I guess I’m just wondering if it’s bad that I don’t immediately understand this, i.e. I’m wondering why the sudden change.

I shared this on a different sub and well people thought I was overthinking. I wear normal women clothes, so no hijab or anything that would indicate religion, and yet, when I go to a restaurant sometimes and order pork product, I get asked "This has pork in it, that ok?". Like I can read the menu well, why are you still asking me that? I am Turkish btw and the person I went together with was from a sharia ruled country. Turkey is not a muslim country, yes filled with muslims who arent actually muslims. Yet, only I was asked. My friend is from a place where it is the norm to be religious. We ordered the same thing, only I got asked if I mind pork in the dish. My point is that how good a method is this to ask just a muslim looking person if they can eat pork?

Another time, I was in an italian restaurant with my translucent white boyfriend. I asked for a pork salame or sth filled pasta. Again the same shit happened. This one was even worse because pork was in the name of the dish like why do you even have to ask me that?

Isn't it also too hard to just ask "any dietary restrictions or allergies?" so I don't feel like I am being racially profiled. Am I overthinking or being a butt face?

My boyfriend and I are moving this week. There’s a lot that’s been stressful. He has packed only one box. He won’t help pack the kitchen, bathroom, closets, or anything beyond what is on his desk. He also has no PTO left and can’t take additional time off. This is because he took multiple vacations.

His birthday was this past weekend. He mixed up dates and told her we were moving that weekend. He wants her to come visit for the birthday.

I’ve offered several compromises. She could come a different weekend. She could come without her 2 friends. She could get a hotel that I offered to pay for. None of these seem to work for anyone.

He basically told me last night that she and her 2 friends are coming this weekend and I need to get over it. Am I insane or have I tried enough that this is no longer a me problem?

Throwaway but not the OP, posting for someone i know, first time poster. Basically, am i the asshole for wanting my boyfriend to take my side when his mom tries to break us up, talk bad about me and lie to him about me. I met my bf through his mom at work, and she even tried to get us together. But after we started dating she has gotten jealous when we spend time together. she will spam calls to him to try to interrupt our time together and texting him that 'he better answer cause she will call until he does and she's not going to talk about his b**', then continue to call and hang up until he finally blocked her.

She will demand random trips last minute so that we can not make plans, and even made plans for a visitation with his brother in prison the same day we had plans out of town for my dad's bday. She has made last minute plans like that so that we cannot do other things or plan properly and than has others (bf/his dad) pay for it even if we do not have the money for it. I never minded them spending time together but all she does is talk bad about me and try to lie about cheating to get us broken up. I tell him that we cannot go on a date or even have lunch together without her there, he just says i know and doesn't do anything about it.

I try to get him to defend me or say something when she starts cussing me out but he then doesn't say anything and stays out of it. Then later tries to decide how i should feel. She has made fake fb accounts to harass me also. She came to pick him up for something and told him that if i went out there she would have fought me, he didn't tell me until after she left. AITA for wanting my bf to take my side or let us have time for just us and for his mom to give us space and not try to interfere in our relationship. info, we are about 30 and his mom is 50 if that is relevant to anyone..

So I'm at an impasse here...

I'm a young adult who lives at home with my mother (we both love fragrance). FYI I pay my share of the bills and the rent my mom charges me. However, her boyfriend who often drops by cannot stand fragrance whatsoever (he doesn't live with us). On top of this he has BPD so he goes into these vitriolic outbursts that just stress everyone out.

He seems to think there's nothing wrong with this (but it objectively adds unnecessary tension and just puts everyone on edge). Otherwise, he's a mostly a half decent guy?... But very opinionated and expects everything his way. He's also 100% the type to start muttering angrily in a hardware store if another customer pisses him off ''F&*king idiot, why doesn't he watch where he's going?!?!?'' which has led to majority of people giving him rude looks, but even led to some people even trying to pick fights with him passive-aggressively.

Most of the time, his behavior is to understandable and relatable gripes. But it's his over reaction to these events which is problematic... He just literally over reacts to literally everything.

If he hears children having fun or screaming next door, he'll go ''Ahh, f&*king kids are out there making noise again. I f^&cking hate it when they're outside.''

He's just so easily wound up over the most trivial of matters I guess is my point. Whereas most people in similar outcomes would just shrug and be like ''You win some, you lose some''

Anyway, I recently purchased a new perfume this week and have already received a lot of compliments over it. I sprayed it on at about midday and then he dropped by at about 6 PM to see my mom and immediately goes into this hostile rant (which I could hear from my bedroom).

''AHHH WHAT IS THAT FU%^KING SHIT. SOMEBODY'S SPRAYED F&^%KING PERFUME SHIT IN HERE''

Then he storms out like a baby and hangs out in the yard for 10 minutes before coming back in for round 2.

''WHY THE F&^CK DID SOMEBODY THINK IT WAS A GOOD IDEA TO SPRAY PERFUME IN HERE. YOU KNOW I CAN'T STAND THAT STUFF. IT WAS PROBABLY YOUR F&&^KING DAUGHTER''

It's been 6 hours... And while I'm sympathetic to people who are sensitive to fragrance, this is my own home. If not here then where?

It also put me in a bad mood due to how needlessly irate he was being.

Am I the butt head for wearing perfume in my own home despite a house guest not liking it?

P.s. No I'm not doing it on purpose.

In the end of July I had a falling out with a guy I really liked. We weren't together but I really liked him so it broke my heart to realize he didn't feel the same way. It was the week of my birthday too. My friend (who I'd known for 12ish years) had offered to take me out for my birthday but I just was not in a good headspace. She texted me the night before we were supposed to get sushi together but I just felt broken. I didn't respond to her for 2 days.

I had decided to go the gym to try and feel better but one of my gym girlfriends saw how broken I looked and took me out for sushi. My other friend and I share locations and I guess she saw. She told me the next day that she isn't mad but is hurt. I apologized and explained that I was heartbroken and wouldn't want to celebrate my bday if I didn't feel like eating. I offered her some space which she said she needed.

About a month later (Sept) she responded to me, saying she's sorry she took so long to reply since she'd been working graveyard shift and was tired a lot and had family issues. She also said that she started feeling like our friendship wasn't as much of a priority to me than it was to her. I admit I was a bit upset she took so long to reply but I was also not feeling well so I didn't say anything.

-----A month later she sends me this:

I’ve been thinking a lot about this and I’ve made my decision. I think it’s best that we discontinue this friendship. I’ve realized that true friends make time for you, and those who aren’t true friends find time for you. You’ve often asked to hang out only at your convenience despite knowing I lived 20-30 miles away. And if those times didn’t work, there often wouldn’t be another time for a long while. Many of the times that we talked over the phone were also at your convenience, like when you were driving. I always looked forward to hanging out with you and I never had an issue driving to you but it’s not fair to me for it to be at your convenience only. 

What’s more is that you had the time and energy to drive to the gym but couldn’t spend a few seconds or even minutes responding to me. It’s selfish, frankly. You had no issue with another friend taking you out on the spot and spending multiple hours with them whereas you often weren’t okay with doing that with me. I had gotten you a birthday gift but I digress. You’ve said to me that you’ll work on improving communication and making me feel more seen and appreciated but honestly I really haven’t seen much difference especially after what happened. If anything, I’ve felt like less than a priority to you than ever. 

I’m at a point where I won’t have trouble leaving behind people who don’t choose me in the same way I choose them and people who don’t appreciate me in the same way I appreciate them. And I’m sorry but that’s how it’s feeling with you right now. 

I thank you for being my friend all these years but I think it’s best that we part ways. I wish you the best. Take care and goodbye.

AITB for thinking she overreacted? I'm upset of course but I'm not sure how to respond either.

I’m (22F), an international student from Southern Africa studying in Canada, and there’s this guy (21M), a Canadian with Southeast Asian background, who seems to be trying to get close to me. We’re both at the same university, so we run into each other a lot—especially in lectures and study spaces on campus.

At first, I thought he was just friendly, but he’s been acting in ways that seem a bit more intentional. He often sits next to me in class, tries to make small talk, and I’ve noticed him sneaking glances at me when he thinks I’m not looking. I have no idea why he’s paying me this much attention, and it honestly makes me a bit uncomfortable.

Here’s where my insecurity comes in: I watch a lot of Korean and Japanese dramas, and I’ve noticed that the women in these shows—who are often portrayed as “desirable”—usually have a certain look. They’re usually much thinner than me, with long, straight hair, and I just don’t look anything like that. I have a short afro, which doesn’t really match the typical beauty standard here, or in the Western or Asian media I consume. Because I don’t fit this “ideal,” it feels hard to believe someone like him would genuinely be interested in me.

I’ve also read a lot about PUA (Pick-Up Artist) tactics, where some guys flirt with women they aren’t actually interested in, especially with women they consider “easy targets” or “practice.” So, since I don’t match the “ideal look,” it feels suspicious and unlikely that he would actually be into me—I assume he’s probably using me for practice.

So, I’ve started ignoring him. When he sits near me, I’ll move away or avoid eye contact. My friend noticed and asked why I’m being so distant. I explained my reasoning, but she thinks I’m being too harsh and paranoid, especially since he hasn’t done anything actually suspicious or harmful. She even thinks he might genuinely like me, but I find that hard to believe.

Now I’m wondering, AITB for ignoring him? I feel like I’m just being cautious and protecting myself, but my friend seems to think I’m pushing away someone who could actually be kind and genuine.

So my (34M) best friend (33M) has been calling me LITERALLY every single day for months now. I’ve always taken his calls and called him back when I missed them. But honestly as of late it’s gotten to be a bit much. I’ll always be his best friend if he wants me to be, but sometimes I just want some space and be left alone and I don’t want to talk for over an hour with him about why his gf is getting on his nerves again, or sometimes talk about nothing. I texted our mutual friend (also 34m) and talked to my fiancé (35F) about it. They both said I was too harsh on him and that I shouldn’t have said what I said. For context here’s how the conversation went

Me: Hey bro, is everything ok? Him: Yeah, why? Me: Because you’ve been calling every single day for months on end, and while I don’t mind taking your calls, and I say this as kindly and respectfully as possible. But these phone calls every single day are starting to be a bit much bro, I’m really sorry Him: No it’s ok Me: You sure? Him: Yeah bro, we’re good. I appreciate you speaking your mind Me: We’re still friends right? Him: Yeah, we’re good.

And that was it. Tbh I felt like complete shit after saying that and now I’m eating myself up. My fiancé suggested I could just not always answer his calls as did our mutual friend. AITB?

My boyfriend broke up with me and I feel like it’s my fault. He blamed everything on me, and started listing the things that he thought I did wrong in the relationship. He said that he got tired of me not trusting him. It felt unfair that he blames me for not trusting him because he lied to me more than once. He lied about having sex with another girl a few days before we got into a relationship. At that time, we were very close and he had told me that he only had eyes for me. He also told me that he didn’t do anything with any other girls ever since he met me. When I found out I was devastated because even though he didn’t technically cheat on me, he had still lied to my face. I found out about this while we were in a relationship. I would sometimes get suspicious of him and he would get mad at me, but it felt unfair to me that he was angry that I didn’t trust him because my lack of trust was a result of his lies. However he didn’t understand. He also said that it bothered him when I spoke negatively of his mother. I did speak negatively of her because I felt like she was a bit controlling of him and also because she sometimes said things that bothered me. He also said that he didn’t go out with his friends as much as he wanted, but the only times I found a problem with him going out was when we would already have something planned. I often told him to plan outings with his friends in advance but he always ignored me and so sometimes I did argue with him when he would go out with his friends on short notice. Now I feel guilty about all of these things. I also feel guilty about the fact that I was usually the one who started arguments and I did over react about silly things. I am also in general a person who panics a lot when faced with problems, and I often cried to him about my problems and had difficult mood swings.

I tried to mention to him some things that in my opinion he did wrong, but he ignored me and kept blaming me. For starters, he sometimes yelled when we would argue, even in public. One time I told him I felt fat and he started yelling and threw the bread he was eating(not at me). He would also act differently around his friends and sometimes passed comments that made me feel uncomfortable in front of them, for example he would pass a comment saying that I never pay for our meals in front of them(his friends paid for their girlfriends when we were together so it made me feel uncomfortable that he would say this in front of them). One time he told me that his friend implied that I was ugly and apparently he didn’t really defend me. There was also a classmate who acted a bit flirtatiously towards him and even though he didn’t entertain it, and always told me what she did, he never told her to stop, even though he knew that it was bothering me. Another thing is that sometimes when we argued, even about something that was his fault, he would threaten to leave instead of apologizing and I would end up begging him to stay.

So I, had this friend, we'll call them Jimmy.
Jimmy and I were really good friends, until the last 2 weeks. They decided to play a series of games (single player).
At first I didnt care, they did something that made him happy and stuff, but They still came in VC to play with me when they had time.
That was short-timed, as he decided to rarely come to VC, and always played that said game.

One day, While in vc I told them I like another friend more, because they keep hanging up with me, and rarely talks bad about me. Another day they went to VC, and I told Them I was a little upset They never hanged up with us anymore. They straight up told me "Im sorry for having something better to do than to play with you, and having friends else where"
I left the VC, in shock, as a friend I had for a full year told me he doesnt care about me.

Soon, They started becoming more and more aggresive towards me, each time I said something, they'll always send Messages calling me a Liar, or just straight up mocking me for nothing.
Today, we had a conversation, They said I annoyed them (I used to spam them to come with us (the friend I prefered and I)
I blocked them today, as other friends battle them to stop all of this non sense.

Last week I had a nail appointment. The place where I get my nails done is a minute away from my house. I have my own car and license (I’m 17f turning 18 next month). My grandma wanted to take me and I got upset. She then called me ungrateful and “malcriada” all because I wanted to get there myself. She then said she wanted to take care of me but I’ve been overprotected my whole life. I want to become a bit more independent especially since I’m studying out of town next year. Am I wrong?

Let’s call my now ex roommate Carly and my former roommate (who Carly replaced) Kayla. I stated in my post that I was looking for a family unit, like a family-like environment.

I met Carly over the summer on Facebook and we got along right from the start and shared similar views on a lot of things. We FaceTimed, hung out in person a few times and she even housesat for me for a few hours once. She was also often sending me roomie night tik toks for stuff we could do when she moved in. She moved in officially 2 months later.

So about two weeks after she moved in, I decided to have a check in with her. Throughout that time I noticed she seemed depressed and stayed in her room a lot and seemed tired a lot. She had briefly explained to me that she moved out of her mom’s due to toxic family, which I understand since that was also why I moved out of state. But she said some stuff like how her grandpa chased her around the house which made me realize she had it way worse than me. Of course, I didn’t pressure her into saying more since she clearly didn’t want to.

But my thing is, it feels like she’s a completely different person from how she presented herself over the summer. She was very bubbly and I thought we were gonna have a lot of fun roommate nights together.

When I was living with Kayla (former roomie), it felt like a family unit even though she was home maybe once a week. I also noticed Carly had a lot more food in the fridge than Kayla did.

I never had to close my door when Kayla was here but I feel like I have to with Carly. I told her this and that I feel like I’m just coexisting when I asked for a family unit and that I have cocoon myself. I even asked my friend who is a therapist how I can help Carly and she said just to give her time. I said all this to Carly, I was nice about it of course but she got upset and said she did need time and that she didn’t think the move out would have such a toll on her.

AIW? I feel like I made valid points. I brought up Kayla too and I’m starting to wonder if Carly felt like she was being compared.

I’m 17f and diagnosed with autism, my brother is 20m and isn’t diagnosed with anything yet but is also suspected to have autism. We’re both high functioning and have practically the same needs. Since as long as I can remember my mum has always taken extra good care of my brother, she’s so sweet and so thoughtful but I think sometimes she’s too kind.

But as I’ve gotten older I’ve seemed to notice her doing more and more for him which are things I know he can do for himself. Like for example when he’s sick he makes my mum clean it up since he ‘doesn’t know how to’ even though when he’s sick and my mum isn’t home he suddenly remembers how to clean it up. I’d understand more if it was a sensory issue but it is not, I have sensory issues and I’m 15 weeks pregnant and still clean up my own sick so my poor mum doesn’t have to.

I tried explaining to her that he can do these things himself but she just said ‘let’s not turn this into a hating match on your brother’ which I’m not trying to, I’m just trying to show her that she’s being taken advantage of and it hurts to witness it but not being able to say anything. AITBF?

So I (25f) had plans to see this guy (26m) we’ll call G. G and I have been seeing eachother casually for about a month and a half, and we’re both not looking for anything more than a fwb. We had plans for today, I was gonna spend the night and then we were gonna do something together tomorrow. I message him this morning to confirm our plans and it’s now late afternoon and he hasn’t confirmed anything. I’m a bit annoyed because I shaved for no reason now.

However I’ve also been chatting with this other guy B (28m) for about 2 months platonically, he asked me on a date recently and we were still working on confirming plans. He’s super sweet.

Would I be the buttface for cancelling with G and instead organising plans with B for tomorrow? Him not confirming our plans has turned me off massively, I love spending time with him but I don’t want to waste my day off on my fwb who’s unorganised. Especially when I have B who is keen to see me and set up a date.

I hate juggling people so it’s got me feeling kinda icky.

Hello sanity checkers of Reddit. Apologies in advance that this will be long. The characters are me (Leia 41F), my friend of 30 years (Hank 40M) and my mother (Marie 66F). We are all from the US, although I moved to the other side of the country from the others 15 years ago.

Story time: To celebrate my mother’s retirement, I offered to take her on vacation wherever she would like and she chose Italy. There’s an event in Ireland that Hank and I have always wanted to go to, so I decided to combine all of this into an epic three week vacation.

I offered to share my hotel rooms with Hank, along with his plane tickets, as long as he covered all of his other expenses. Since some of the places we wanted to visit in Italy were outside of major cities, I bought some of our bus and train tickets in advance. Ever since we’ve been here, Hank has been mooching off of us both, complaining, and generally behaving disrespectfully.

Some of the mooching: -Italy has per person city taxes for hotel stays that he won’t cover, as he believes it’s part of the hotel bill -Raiding the mini fridges in the hotels and leaving me to cover it on checkout (even after I asked him to stop) -Tries to minimize paying for his own meals when restaurants won’t break up the check -Even when we get separate checks at restaurants, he won’t contribute to the tip, leaving us to cover the extra tip for his meal as well -Not contributing to gratuity for housekeeping staff (expected in Italy) -When my mother was charged for his meal, didn’t offer to reimburse her (or tip) -Paid for a single cab ride in 2 weeks

Also: -Hasn’t thanked me once for paying for/planning this vacation

• Complains about the food, what he’s missing at home, and everything else
• When I received news that a good friend of mine back home died in an accident yesterday, he said “That’s too bad”, as if I had lost a trinket, rather than I person I love
• If I ask him something or say something he doesn’t like, he’ll completely ignore me rather than respond
• has made sexist comments
• refused to wear a mask on the plane when I asked, because Marie is immune compromised (one of the times he ignored me completely rather than reply)
• many more small things that would be petty to list individually, but add up to a massive frustration

WIBTA if I changed his return flight and sent him home early? This would almost certainly end the friendship. I want to make sure that I’m not overreacting due to transference of grief over losing my other friend, as keep comparing them in my head and the friend who died was one of the kindest, most generous souls I’ve met.

I made a post yesterday asking if I am the buttface if I get refunded on the gift due to the fact that he is asking our other friends if it is okay on giving me the money back for the gift.

Recently, I just got dumped. So my feelings are going to be a little everywhere. As much as I do appreciate him doing it in person than over the phone I guess I didn’t get a good reason why besides are personalities being different and he didn’t see it best in the long run.Now I perfectly understand that being the reason for a relationship to end especially with how busy our lives are. The day after our break-up though, I found out why I got dumped by a mutual friend. It was over some silly things. OneIt was about how I have ‘childlike(?)’ behavior. Although I see where he is coming from, I work with children and sometimes tend to pick up their tendencies the same way someone adds the word slay or its giving into their vocabulary. I guess I was curious if I have the right to ask due to the fact he has done childish things (horrible boy humor) as well. I want to know what was the thing that shut him down and if it something I can remove from my life. If it bothered one person maybe it bothers a lot of other people as well. So, am I the buttface to ask what I did wrong?

Before picking my son up from an event, I asked my husband if he wanted food at the house or for me to pick up something on the way home. He said "whatever, I'm not really hungry." After getting home, he was still working (from home), so I got my son started on homework and then started making food at home. My son wanted a special meal he likes and I decided to make it because he just got accepted into the gifted/talented program. However, my husband doesn't like that dish. I left some hot dogs out of the dish and in the fridge for him to heat up later and made dinner for my son and I using the other hot dogs. While eating dinner I checked my phone really quick and saw a text from my husband asking about what we're eating. I had missed it because I had ended up taking the opportunity to teach my son to cook the dish. I told my husband that I had already made dinner for me and our son but he could heat up the hot dogs or another preheatable meal (that he likes) from the fridge. He never came to see us but instead just walked out the front door without saying anything. He ended up being gone for several hours and refused to answer texts asking where he was until two hours in he said he was taking the space he needs. Apparently he's angry that I made a meal that just my son and I like. I'm frustrated because I'm still recovering from a medical procedure last week but haven't even had time to truly rest because my son needs clean clothes, packed lunches, dinner, etc. Our dogs also need food and medication. My husband has made dinner for him him and our son before when we've had a fight, but in this case we hadn't been fighting (although he was upset with work).

Update: he came home at some point while I was asleep and slept in a different room. This morning he refused to speak to me or our son, although he did take our son (8/M) to school on the way to work (he works in person on certain days).

Update 2: I didn't think this would be relevant, but we do have location sharing and as far as I could see, he went to Taco Bell and sat in the parking lot for hours, then drove around for awhile after that. I couldn't pay full attention because I was taking care of the bedtime routine for our son, feeding the dogs, etc. If he was cheating, it was at Taco Bell or during the drive afterward

Update 3: We just got a letter in the mailbox today from our therapist stating that she can no longer continue working with us for ethical reasons.

AITB?

1(20 F) wanted to surprise my boyfriend 21(M) with a gift basket I worked really hard on it getting things that he personally enjoys such as cooking supplies, cologne I made from scratch, candles and clothes (that I know he would wear) to add to his closet since he had a small selection of clothes. He enjoyed the gift basket quite a lot. Two days later he broke up with me and offered to pay me back the gift. I denied, of course due to the amount of emotions I was feeling at the time after letting my emotions die down would it be bad to ask for it back?

Spouse and I were out with the kids for an appointment. I had to take off early because of a meeting for work. I had mentioned the meeting the day before and reminded prior to leaving for the kids' appointment. The meeting was supposed to be well after the appointment was done, but things took longer than expected, as they will, and so partway through I excused myself and stepped outside to join an online call.

Partway through the call, my spouse messages me that they're done, so I mute things on my end and return, keeping one eye on the kids while she's sorting out the admin stuff after the appointment. I'm still on my call, and she decides to take our oldest for a treat. I'm fine with this, and continue taking my meeting while the youngest cuddles up next to me.

The meeting ends, and I call her to let her know that I'm finished. The phone just keeps ringing.

I call about 5 more times, no answer. So I wait about 10 minutes, by which time she's been gone at least 30, and not seeing her by then I pack up our things to go check the restaurant where she was going to take our oldest. No sign of her there. I check the next nearest similar restaurant. No sign of her. I'm carrying all the kids' backpacks and things, plus my work things, plus our youngest at this point, so I rearrange everything and try calling again. I cycle through all of our messaging apps to see if I can reach her on anything. Nothing.

So at this point I head back to the station to ride home, calling and messaging as often as I can while carrying our youngest. No answer.

On the train, halfway home, I finally discover the reason why she didn't answer is because she'd left her phone in one of the kids' bags.

So I finish the trip home, take our exhausted youngest kid to bed, leave a note on the door for her to call me if she gets home first, put her phone on the charger, and head to the car to drive back and try to find them.

I'm 2 minutes away from home when I see them walking back. They don't seem to see me.

She gets home, and calls me furious for leaving. I point out that there was absolutely no reason not to bring her phone so that she could be notified when my meeting was over, or let me know if she was going to take her time coming back.

AITBF?